Ryan03:
Lol, you have to come up with a better point as to why she shouldn't get married/why you think the mans family have a say as to when she gets married after their sons death other than me being the "new lucky guy". Like i typed earlier, put sentiments aside

SocialJustice:
Dogs are loyal when it comes to sex? Please stick to the point. I never said anything about dogs loyalty to man.

Davash222:
Just 18 months after the death of her 'beloved' husband, she wa[s][/s]nts another dicck..



Women summarised!!

Skmoda:

Don't ever use dogs whether sex or being loyal so better face the fact you are talking about than tagging dogs in your opinion....

Logobenz1:
Look there is an undertone to everything bro.
Do you know what love is?if you love a person,moving on won't be that easy!
That's why the dead man's family is protesting because it kind of tells them the woman did not love their brother enough.
I remember 2008 when the first woman I ever loved left for France for studies.God I cried,did not date any other person till 2014 or so...
Love is not that easy to move on from.

Ryan03:
Let Her Go

I just want to write this short post hoping it will change someone's mentality base on the issue i'm about to discuss.

A lady at my place of work lost her husband almost 1yr 6months ago, now, she is about 3months pregnant and wants to get married but the backlash she is receiving eh? Her late husband's people have been frustrating her saying it is too early to get married (i thought marriage is till death do us part?), why are they trying to control her life simply because she was once married to their brother?

I want to believe the family members of this man have moved on with their lives since the death of their son, why then do you want to lock her up in mourning? The surprising part of it is that even women at the office are against her, some who have also lost their husbands are citing instances of how they watied 7years before re-marrying and so on.

I felt bad for her, all she do now is to cry, and mind her business. This is so wrong, free that young lady, she didnt do wrong in marrying your kinsman.

revolt:
my mum lost my dad at a tender age of 4. She raised four kids on her own. At some point we asked her to atleast go and date one of the numerous men that were coming for her. She warned us never to discuss that nonsense again. My mother knew what marriage is. Loyal woman.

Jfyzee:



@OP you are feeling pity for the said lady because the man involve is not your uncle or related to you in anyway. Assuming the man is your uncle, will you con dole this lady attitude towards him..?

Just a year and six months she's already pregnant for another man. Who does that by the way..? The in-laws have the right to act the way they are acting now.. unless you want to tell us the baby she's carrying is yours the reason you're defending her.

Kindly put sentiment and feelings aside and tell her she did wrong with her action. Her action is questionable already as to the death of her husband. Both she and her impregnator should be seriously questioned.

What a woman indeed

Useku:
For her to be three months pregnant for the new guy means she's been seeing the guy from at least three months before.. just nine months after the late husband death. Abegi no man should kill himself cuz of any body just do your best and ........

Logobenz1:
yes.because na widower work for em money na.its not rocket science,jeez
Women often kill their spouses to take his resources all to herself and Bleep who she wants

kazyhm:


I never said or support her in-law dictating how she live her life after what.........


However, you're covering up some very vital info.....how many kids has she with her late husband ?

She is a working class........what the hurry for dicck just few months after her husband demise ?

The husband died as a result of an accident........instantly or he made it to the hospital ?

What's her relationship with the new man when her husband was alive...?

For how long was she married to the late husband ?...etc


Nevertheless, a virtuous women as we're all made to believed are attached to their spouse even when he is no more......examples everywhere.

mrvitalis:

3 years minimum

Davash222:

Let the woman die first, then you can bring this question.

We now see why most husbands don’t Will their properties to their wives. The wife will now come and bring a wretched, broke man to come and be enjoying the man’s wealth while his family got nothing.

Men, wise up. These hoes ain’t loyal!!

Ryan03:
People grief differently. Because mrs A griefed for 10years doesn't mean mrs B must grief for same number of years. Why exactly do we monitor how long people grief? Are we happy seeing them in that state? I thought relatives and friends are to comfort them and help them move on?

kazyhm:



You said she is pregnant not sleeping around....

How long do you get over people you love ?

BlackPantherxXx:


I hate to break this to you bro....

You just gave yourself unnecessary KONGI for 6 good years ,

as soon as your back was turned, she started banging another guy.

I have learnt to not sacrifice myself in romantic relationships. Most partners are super selfish.

Who said she wasn't even cheating while she was around?

PS - @ the topic.... approx 2 years is reasonable, for BOTH SEXES.

Anything less, sorry you had no emotional connection to your spouse

kazyhm:


My signature has so much to do with my belief and orientation........... That why I could asked all the afore questions as she is a victim of what she does or doesn't believe.......why don't she work hard and give that handsome, brilliant and smart innocent boy a good life instead of moaning in ecstasy every night underneath a strange man ?

He died on the spot meaning no debt incurred as a result for hospital bill rather than the burial arrangement


Moreover, you didn't mentioned that the in-laws were dragging properties with her rather they are hugging her to stay and take care of the boy as oppose to her preference for sweet dicck


Perhaps she need a companion for the boy by subject him to complication of competing half brothers and sisters.......

Ryan03:
And you are using yourself as a yardstick for others? All these holier than thou, people dey when nor marry again after the death of their wife and they didnt set rules for other na ordinary 19months you dey make mouth

sagitariusbaby:
Even WF Kumuyi remarried three months just after is wife passed on and no one complained

kazyhm:



What are you reversing for.........
This is a peculiar case......... You said she is three months pregnant............18 - 3 - the number of months she has known the impregnator =.......is that how easy it is to found love again ?


Does she appear as a loyal wife to her late husband to you ?...... Besides, you didn't tell us how many kids she had with the late husband

theButterfly:
Many people take longer than that to move on if they so much loved their spouse. I've a friend in Nigeria whose mother refused to re-marry after the loss of her husband years ago and single-handely raised all 5 of her kids. I was watching Dr. Phil some weeks ago and this man who lost his wife 7 years ago is just starting to date again.

That said, people are different and grief differently. This lady shouldn't be faulted for wanting to re-marry now if she chooses. She already moved on months ago when she started dating the new man, lol. To be fair, if she were a man, people around him would be urging him to move on and find another wife asap.

missunknown:
My mum died 2 years ago and everyone is already asking me to find someone for my dad (he can remarry if he so wishes afterall i am married and our last is an Undergrad) however, if it were the other way I'm sure they'll want my mum to stay mourning forever. Please madam move, it is till death do u part. People saying only few months she wants prick like if the hubby killed horniness or left his prick for her to use.

Logobenz1:
Look there is an undertone to everything bro.
Do you know what love is?if you love a person,moving on won't be that easy!
That's why the dead man's family is protesting because it kind of tells them the woman did not love their brother enough.
I remember 2008 when the first woman I ever loved left for France for studies.God I cried,did not date any other person till 2014 or so...
Love is not that easy to move on from.

Ryan03:
Let Her Go

I just want to write this short post hoping it will change someone's mentality base on the issue i'm about to discuss.

A lady at my place of work lost her husband almost 1yr 6months ago, now, she is about 3months pregnant and wants to get married but the backlash she is receiving eh? Her late husband's people have been frustrating her saying it is too early to get married (i thought marriage is till death do us part?), why are they trying to control her life simply because she was once married to their brother?

I want to believe the family members of this man have moved on with their lives since the death of their son, why then do you want to lock her up in mourning? The surprising part of it is that even women at the office are against her, some who have also lost their husbands are citing instances of how they watied 7years before re-marrying and so on.

I felt bad for her, all she do now is to cry, and mind her business. This is so wrong, free that young lady, she didnt do wrong in marrying your kinsman.

Logobenz1:
Look there is an undertone to everything bro.
Do you know what love is?if you love a person,moving on won't be that easy!
That's why the dead man's family is protesting because it kind of tells them the woman did not love their brother enough.
I remember 2008 when the first woman I ever loved left for France for studies.God I cried,did not date any other person till 2014 or so...
Love is not that easy to move on from.