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Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by fergie001: 5:41am On Oct 31, 2019 |
okoroemeka:Virgin deh Owerri? Hahahahahahaha |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by bonetalk(m): 5:43am On Oct 31, 2019 |
kingxsamz:I disagree with that. He should fix a day for the white wedding soon, very soon without wasting time. Then we know the truth after that 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 5:43am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Being newly wedded. I think the best way would have been to pay the traditional rites and make the white wedding fall in the same week. Say trad on Friday and white on Saturday... No matter how lowkey the white would be...just to avoid these issues... Op should have trashed out the issue of premarital sex wella b4 agreeing to pay the bride price... As for the woman ehnn... She's funny oh... Why is she now living with him after the traditional wedding.. She should have stayed in her father's house.. That cookie had better be tight and hot last last or else everybody for nairaland go gather beat am.... 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by oscarhyno(m): 5:44am On Oct 31, 2019 |
My brother I suggest you do d white marriage as promised, but with conditions, go to court n inform them that this marriage is on a trial stage, if any unwanted issues arise that the court should nullify your marriage without benefits, because bro my friend is a victim of such, he went n got married to a man instead of a woman, now they're busy adopting n the adopted children refuse to live, think n act wisely, most women don't worth it |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by GoldPencil: 5:45am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Why do you guys even agree to set ups like this in the first place? what you reward is what will continue. dont you know that there are hundreds of equally or more beautiful women who will sleep with you without much money dropping? as long as you play your game well? but you guys will rather take the easy option because she is the only/first one wey gree for you, and so she makes the rules. The worst is that you may be angry at my response but it is somebody worse than me that is pounding your chastity mama wife-to-be like new yam, when you are at work. You have even done the needful sef, still nothing. Ok what happens if after white wedding she shift am go her birthday or tell u say only once per 2 months. What then? you go vex begin beat am then go pastor. Show leadership. Bible sef talk am. You are the head. You lead she follow. After all u don follow due process. Make dem no de shine ur girl tin for your back. Take what you want. Unless you believe say no be your own. Otherwise another bros go take am for you. igwegeorgiano: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by iPresh4s(m): 5:45am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Traditional Marriage is the Main Marriage. Anyway, we were not there when you approached her, so carry your cross |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Sumptylism: 5:48am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Op I honestly think you have a good woman that is rare to find...lose her at your peril...you watch another person praying for the privilege you take for granted grab her without letting go...while you keep searching and sampling...and may never find one like her again.... I think the mistake here is from poor planning ab initio...you would have fixed the "wine-carrying" and wedding same day or just one or two days apart...same day as in pay the bride price/ settle everything traditionally quite early in the morning...then go to church...the use the reception for the traditional celebration at the same time possibly.... ...being that as if may, you should bear in mind that whatever risk you think you bear by not "tasting"...she bears same...as she doesn't know if you too are upto the task ahead...I don't believe she is frigid...rather the question is can you really satisfy and meet her expectations when you have exposed her to the "deed"? ...meanwhile, I have seen women who true to their words had no sex before marriage...were virgins...only to find out the men in question have irreversible fertility issues...but leveraged on the naivety and inexperiences of these women to carry out their nefarious acts. ...in my opinion...respect her wish...and the agreement you had while dating...and take her to the hospital for "virginity test confirmation" if you don't believe her...or think that is the most important quality or reason for getting married to her...all in all...I wish you the best marriage...and pray God causes you to take the best decision without any form of regret.... ...all the best once again...and listen not to naysayers especially if they are "seemingly friends" and close...as they may not have your best interest at heart.... 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by shadeyinka(m): 5:50am On Oct 31, 2019 |
igwegeorgiano:Let me speak to you if you'll listen. Your fiancée is correct. If your final wedding rite is the traditional wedding, you'll be good to go on having sex and it is lawful for you However If you have not concluded your final wedding rite, it is still fornication. QED. Your fiancée seem to love Gods opinion more than you. Nevertheless, don't worry in a few months time you'll be married. If you can't hold it, fast-track your final wedding rite. If I were you, this is the time I'll make her promise to satisfy me with no reservation during your marriage 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Alfasalau(m): 5:52am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Mogambo123:If find out she not a virgin it allow you can divorce her |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by engrezenwa: 5:53am On Oct 31, 2019 |
You don’t have a wife until you are married! igwegeorgiano: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by lasheun: 5:53am On Oct 31, 2019 |
The marriage could fail if she's not a virgin after all the waiting... Trust would be bruised... |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by clems88(m): 5:57am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Eleyi gidi gan . Reason why its advisable after trad, do white the following day. Konji has no best friend . Op na die you dey konji go change your career 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by otegabbq: 5:58am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Bro, she's a woman of faith. U must see things from her view. No be fight. You have to make her see that traditional rites is more important and God approves even more than church or court wedding. Y'all have done d right thing. Let her speak to the pastor on it, dere sud'nt be an issue. Then if she's still adamant then u have a bigger problem looming you must fact-check sit , agree and talk to her about. 1. Her past (maybe trauma) 2. Blind Stubbornness, terrible for a woman. 3. Check if she's not all does holier than thou... I see more problems after sex. Very soon. U will say ur hungry, she wud say her soul is hungry for God so ur on own... Off she goes to church leaving u hungry @home.(no control) Think, pray and watch. No to Christian fanaticism. Problems go dey!!!! |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 6:05am On Oct 31, 2019 |
midnighter:where is church wedding written in the Bible? Church wedding is simply oyibo tradition copied by Africans. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by BlackCrainte: 6:06am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Drug her and fvck her well Then cancel the wedding the next day. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by anataala: 6:09am On Oct 31, 2019 |
And what's wrong with what she told you? igwegeorgiano: 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by ImaIma1(f): 6:14am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Chinapepe: More like stubborn. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by NiCurious: 6:14am On Oct 31, 2019 |
OP: If you can't respect your wife and her explicit wishes that you already agreed to, why should she marry you? What is the point of marrying a man who can't even keep his word until the wedding? Do you only hear what you want to hear, and ignore everything else? I don't understand guys who want a "virtuous woman", then complain about same, when they get one. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by LadyHeaven(f): 6:15am On Oct 31, 2019 |
BiggyB242: So standing on a principle she told the OP of before hand makes her headstrong? What do African men really want? You stay true to your words you are stubborn, you give in easily you are a cheap farm tool, she should stand her ground, I personally don't believe in sex before marriage and if its a convenant she has with God then op is free to take a walk someone else who better understands her resolutional belief would come along. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 6:18am On Oct 31, 2019 |
If that lady is not a virgin after all said and done baba just divorce her immediately, cos those kind girls can lie ehn. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by SirBrightoc(m): 6:20am On Oct 31, 2019 |
martowskin1: The issue is not on the propriety of church wedding. He accepts that they will do that. If the ONLY issue you see here is as you stated, then you too have problem. Mark this post, in years to come you will understand that this young man lacks principles needed for a successful marriage and he is not trustworthy. Someone needs to tell him that. Pray not learn from your own mistakes. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by dollarnaira: 6:20am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Why get married twice? It is either you do traditional wedding or white wedding. In directly you are married. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by blackbone989(m): 6:21am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Nothing good comes cheap |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by elitejosef: 6:22am On Oct 31, 2019 |
scaramucci: And what about the financial implication too |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by KingLennon(m): 6:24am On Oct 31, 2019 |
ImaIma1:There is nothinq to resolve here. You're telling your family and her family to talk to her or beg her to have sèx with you? C'mon.... 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by landforeast(m): 6:27am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Ha OP you no Sabi anything If I am the one see what I will do Shebi me and her will sleep on the same bed I will carefully massage her booby, I will hold the booby with one hand and use the other hand to push down to her center of execellency. I will careless her clits untill she began to call the names of her village people. I will suck the hell out of her boobs and then lower my mouth to wilsonise her p***y and you know at this time she must have agreed that Buhari is the best president in Nigeria. Her body system must have been charged that she must have started saying things like "Oh oh, ah ah baby, baby" at this point I will let out my bom boy which is already standing attention and began to dig the bottomless pit. Let me run away before they come for my head. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 6:30am On Oct 31, 2019 |
OKOATA:She may know she's not fertile. Add fertility test to the list as well 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by martowskin1(m): 6:30am On Oct 31, 2019 |
SirBrightoc: Trustworthy? Let's look this from another angle. From his post they are already living together after the traditional marriage. If she believed she is not married yet, why live with him.... This things are simple, u can't be living with him like a wife and said till wedding night. Is that not hypocrisy?.... 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Righteousness89(m): 6:31am On Oct 31, 2019 |
peepydelano: GOD BLESS YOU 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by iyke0280: 6:32am On Oct 31, 2019 |
This is not a big deal...but if not handled properly, it can become one...it's just a little misunderstanding. What i see... 1) You both discussed it and she told you no sex until tje wedding night (in her head that means white wedding). Your mistake was thinking she was joking...so all you have to do is do the needful... Afterall you've come this far. 2) she has a misconception about what "premarital sex" is... Right now you are both married...both traditionally and in the eyes of God... White wedding is just an embellishment of what has been done traditionally...that is why even in church weddings, some pastors will ask the girl's family... "has he done the traditional rights"? So church wedding is more of just A dedication of your marriage to God. FACT: You can have a traditional wedding without a church wedding... But you can't have a church wedding without a traditional one... At least in this part of the world. So that should tell anyone which is more important 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by YoungKeem(m): 6:34am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Ask her if she is a virgin, if she's not run (She might say she was raped lol, most times na wash. Ask for police or doctor's report ) If she say she is a virgin, tell her that after marriage and you find out that she ain't a virgin you will divorce her immediately then look at her reaction... lol wear helmet though before you say so Lol i don't know, don't listen to me, it's whatever! |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Righteousness89(m): 6:36am On Oct 31, 2019 |
[s] freethesheeple:[/s] your Matter has no Resemblance to the Matter on Board 2 Likes |
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