Ariza:
For me, it has always been Attraction over every other things. Even when I was young I only flowed with feelings, right or wrong I cared less. I see, love and explore and trying to win my love or attention has never worked for me.
I never had neither do I have standards up till now .My eyes do the feasting for me. Just have sense like Poco would say and be available (I like my men close )we are good to go.
Due to the economic situation and the fact that children may be coming in , I give little consideration to financial aspect, even at that the ready made man does not freak me rather I find it difficult to come in terms with them.

However of recent, events in my life has changed a lot and life is throwing at me something entirely different. Not the regular way of meeting, not the regular form of attraction, he's made, in another country and very ready to settle down. Honestly, I'm scared! And not sure if to go for it or not. He is a Nice guy no doubt but not sure if I'm ready to change the norm. I'm traditional, I believe in building things from friendship and all but this is just so different. Advise me Sisters.

TwoBottles:




I was looking forward to your submission on this thread. I'm not an engineer though and I'm not into IT either. I'm just a simple guy with a progressive mind.

DMerciful:
Sapiosexual ladies are interesting to be with if you're an intelligent guy.

Preshy561:
Nothing changed.
All what I asked for, God gave me.

I'm so blessed.

ibkayee:
I had this weird obsession with him having natural bags under his eyes like this lool, like this was the standard and there was absolutely no settling for less

Starlight10:
I need to find the book I wrote them down, i think I had he must look like Jesus in the list. No wonder I'm still single

mrpaedo:
Thread for evening newspapers

Ishilove:

Sapiosexuality is not a myth. There's something very sexy about a man who can hold his own in a conversation without boring you to tears. I once dated one very unintelligent fellow some years back before fleeing. When I talked about international politics he would stare at me blankly, forcing me to stutter to a stop. I can almost swear a couple of brain cells atrophied during my brief dalliance with the young man.

That was when I knew I couldn't compromise on the quality of grey matter. Very handsome fellow but dumb as fvck. What was i thinking??!

trutht828:


If physical appearance forms the fulcrum of your so-called standards, then you may find yourself being single at above 30 or ending up as a baby mama to a physically handsome man, who may not be mature enough to be a husband or may not be ready for commitment.

You've been on this forum for some time now, which means you are not a child anymore; don't you think it is high time you snapped out of those childish, unreal, nollywood-inspired expectations?

Munzy14:

True.

I don't even know how some people cope with dumb personalities.

UyaiIncomparabl:
I can't say yet. I'm still growing, but I know it will evolve in time to come. For better or for worse is what I'm not sure about.

What's very consequential to me right now is a man who's highly intelligent (I'm very sapiosexual). It trips me to my feet when a man can engage me in an intelligent discourse.

* Have a great sense of responsibility (this isn't dependent on how rich he is. A man could be rich and be disinterested in your affairs).

* Love God. He should have a good relationship with God. I can't stress on this too much.

* Homely. Down to earth. Humble. Spiritual (not religious). Teachable. Reserved.

Above all, he MUST be my best friend.

Asour:



Hahaha!

Are there really dumb personalities ? Or just people with whom you don't have shared interests.

It's funny how we Nigerians tend to reduce intelligence to being able to "hold conversations on International politics/economics".

What if that is not my Kettle of fish? I become dumb?
What if my interests are Deep sea exploration or Big data analytics or even recent developments in cancer research ? Can you also have meaningful conversations in those?

Some see International politics/economics are pretentious conjectures, where everyone is an expert — while the subject discussed is completely outside the control of the discussants.

It always seems nice being able to make "contributions" to public discussions on int'l politics but it shouldn't mean those who can't/don't are dumb.

Intelligence is not as effective as people imagine though. I would always prefer resourcefulness.


God help us.

Twoclans:
My list was Simple

Tall (90% of the men in my family are very tall,I did not want them to bully my guy with height )

Catholic ( ohhh I am a staunch Catholic girl )

Not a spirikoko church boy (I can't come and be doing vigil to vigil ,for what naaahhhh)

Intelligent and smart (that is the only way any guy can match up to me,I have always been street smart )

Dark (I have NEVER dated a light complexion guy,we can't be competing for freshness/creams when we step out)


The only thing that has changed from the above list is that I am not so keen about a tall guy anymore .Ask me what happened ? Hmmmmmmmm after enjoying standing sex with a guy about the same height with me dammmmmmm what the hell do I need a tall guy for .Standing sex is bea

Ishilove:

Sapiosexuality is not a myth. There's something very sexy about a man who can hold his own in a conversation without boring you to tears. I once dated one very unintelligent fellow some years back before fleeing. When I talked about international politics he would stare at me blankly, forcing me to stutter to a stop. I can almost swear a couple of brain cells atrophied during my brief dalliance with the young man.

That was when I knew I couldn't compromise on the quality of grey matter. Very handsome fellow but dumb as fvck. What was i thinking??!

So because he's not conversant about international politics, he's dumb.

Are you aware we're smart in some topics and dumb in others?

For your mind..

Mtcheww.

Ariza:

However of recent, events in my life has changed a lot and life is throwing at me something entirely different. Not the regular way of meeting, not the regular form of attraction, he's made, in another country and very ready to settle down. Honestly, I'm scared! And not sure if to go for it or not. He is a Nice guy no doubt but not sure if I'm ready to change the norm. I'm traditional, I believe in building things from friendship and all but this is just so different. Advise me Sisters.

stubbornman:
See as guys carry kitchen stool balance for this thread to see which of the women spec Dem fall into make Dem shoot their shot

All the ladies looking for very intelligent hope y'all are intelligent too No be say tomorrow una go come here come say "Over Sabi Sabi dey worry una husband"

what about the rich and influencial nairalander you said you were dating?
Una two no gel ni?

UyaiIncomparabl:
I can't say yet. I'm still growing, but I know it will evolve in time to come. For better or for worse is what I'm not sure about.

What's very consequential to me right now is a man who's highly intelligent (I'm very sapiosexual). It trips me to my feet when a man can engage me in an intelligent discourse.

* Have a great sense of responsibility (this isn't dependent on how rich he is. A man could be rich and be disinterested in your affairs).

* Love God. He should have a good relationship with God. I can't stress on this too much.

* Homely. Down to earth. Humble. Spiritual (not religious). Teachable. Reserved.

Above all, he MUST be my best friend.

lollybizzu:


.... Na true you talk.
You know say person no fit satisfy them

seunmohmoh:
Coming of age= I admired young cute athletic white man. Now = I want to get married to a very cute white guy and have kids.

That's what changed- KIDS

Munzy14:

It's not by contributing to a conversation.

there are people who are just dumb....lack ideas on general issues, very awkward in nature.