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Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Elliot2(m): 10:56pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Why don't the ladies raise the point of not allowing relatives into the home from the onset? Why not include it among ur numerous demands n criteria? 5 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Ezeanna: 10:56pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Hey guys, If you know you are not dropping at least ₦50k per month as cooking expenses for your household( of not more than 4 people), don't come here and start talking rubb.ish about your relatives living with you and your wife. Many wives have turned to book keepers; calculating, balancing, adjusting and rechecking household budgets just so there can be food on the table, month after month. When you want your relatives to visit or stay with you long term, make sure you have the financial capacity for such visit; don't just say my brother/sister will be coming to visit for 2 months; ask madam what the extra cost for those visitors for that time period will be, and provide it. We all are sentimental about the people that helped raise us to who we are currently, but it does not mean we should not try to build our own families, away from them. If you, as a married person, sincerely feel that your extended family has got your back more than your spouse, then I truly feel sorry for your situation. 32 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by pocohantas(f): 10:57pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
BRATISLAVA: This is not about mine, you think my dad and mum will leave the comfort of their home to come squeeze inside one apartment. Time they will use to enjoy their retirement, they rather go stay with a new couple? Godforbid! My parents are not hungry or looking for where to attach. 16 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Suremikky(m): 10:57pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
makydebbie: If you don't want to be quoted then close ur mouth and don't spew nonsense 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by BRATISLAVA: 10:58pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Mariangeles: People tend to see it as a competition. He's bringing his, I will bring mine. She's bringing here's, I will bring mine. It's all about understanding that the person you married didn't drop from Mars or Venus, but from an actual family, and that family is dear to them. If their family want to visit, let them. If they live with you due to college, live with it. One day they will move out. Family is about helping each other. I don't know why people think they live as an island just because they're married. They'll still share their spouse with the cheats out there. 5 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by makydebbie(f): 10:58pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
pocohantas: I find this funny, everyone makes a big fuss about family, in life you'll meet people who can cross bridges your family can't. 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 10:59pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
A lot of people on this thread dey smoke weed, you will marry and now pack all your family in your house, what kinda nonsense is that. Omo anything more than 2 weeks the person needs to bounce unless it's the parents. I'm not housing no jobless man or sister for more than 2 weeks not contributing to the rent. 13 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by pocohantas(f): 11:00pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
pcguru1: Burn!!! Walahi, na unfortunate people dey leave their house go dey disturb person o. Can you imagine Otedola going to Cuppy's matrimonial home. This is poor people's problem. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by BRATISLAVA: 11:00pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
pocohantas: Who is talking about the comfort/discomfort and "squeezing"? If people want to squeeze then they should consider upgrading their lives. Nothing wrong in a visit. People do that all the time. Some people have close relationships where they wouldn't mind spending a night or two with family. It isn't always about leeching and hunger. Not everyone grew up sharing rooms and hungry and so their family members don't have to "squeeze". Poor people tend to hate in-laws. Poverty breeds needless hatred. 5 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by correctyourself(m): 11:00pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
bigiyaro: And you deliberately refused to mentioned what happened about the soup. Let any body try that nonsense and put his dirty hand into the soup my wife is cooking, and pick meat and see if i will not drive that person away from my house. Indiscipline has no space in my house. 11 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by bukatyne(f): 11:01pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
pcguru1: @bold: So so funny! 3 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by engrchykae(m): 11:01pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Jokerman:you that is wise, playing by the woman's whims and caprices,watch how it fares for you. Your likes are the ones women hijack and turn your attention away. My junior bros was playing along,he thought the woman only hates us until the woman changed it for him,he ran for his life. 5 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by BecaciaBarbie(f): 11:01pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
benzzyno:As far as I am concerned, Christianity is the only true Religion in the world 7 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by pocohantas(f): 11:01pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
alexola20: Lol. What of that your grand aunt you always talk about. Hope I am not mixing up monikers? |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by graceama: 11:02pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
What worked for u might not work for another.... Some siblings derive pleasure in frustrating their brother's wife whereas they wish to have a happy home. I won't stop u from visiting if u want to,won't even mind if u dish food by yourself but don't cross boundaries. 5 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by makydebbie(f): 11:02pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Why is my life and opinion paining people like this. Ahan. 2 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Zackattack: 11:03pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
majestique:I won't even be wicked enough to pray for my enemies to have someone like you as a wife.
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Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by bukatyne(f): 11:03pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Ezeanna: @bold: 9 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by engrchykae(m): 11:03pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
JONNYSPUTE:good question,his type will train his wife's relatives while he will give excuses when his brother or sister demands for help 2 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by demarc001: 11:05pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
AshiraWealthy: Madam will you tell your sister who lives far/out of the state, low on budget and has a project of about a month in your vicinity to stay in hotel instead of squat with you? 1 Like |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by xty50(f): 11:05pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
bigiyaro:If she'll e just "one woman" to you please don't even bother marrying her.your points are valid but you ruined everything with that. |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by engrchykae(m): 11:05pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
AshiraWealthy:na Dem oh, Jezebel Dem gang 3 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by worworbabe: 11:07pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
BRATISLAVA: The reason men don't have a problem is the woman's family always respect their daughter's husband. They treat him with respect and all join hands in caring for his needs. But what do the men's relatives do to the woman? Complain about everything she does, disrespect her, compete unnecessarily with her and create issues for her where there is none. 20 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 11:08pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
bukatyne: I hate seeing too many people where I live. That's my own. My house my rules. Lol when I no be igbo man 1 Like |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by xty50(f): 11:08pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
I saw that thread earlier today and i immediately know someone will counter it.people are different what you find easy and accepting, maybe a deal breaker for someone. 2 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by BRATISLAVA: 11:09pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
GraGra247: it's African culture. But the culture doesn't make sense. How can people actions be dictated by such culture on eating food that's right in front of you? What if they are from a culture that permits that? And see this no pot culture as indecent? |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 11:11pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
U don't force people to see things ur own way and u definitely don't have to insult them to agree either. There are definitely more matured ways to go about it. Meeyankee: 1 Like |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by BRATISLAVA: 11:11pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
worworbabe:Possibly. 1 Like |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by GraGra247(m): 11:13pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
BRATISLAVA: Read my previous comment again and again till you begin to embrace reality. Goodnight!! |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by pocohantas(f): 11:13pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
BRATISLAVA: Oga na poor people problem be this. Every time such topics come up, what is the leading issue? FOOD! Did MamaP leave Aso Rock to go stay with that her daughter. Abegi! Poor people too dey disturb. Rich people stay in their houses. If they are looking for vacation spots, they travel out. Na the poor relatives dey find way to come to their own house. Na why I no wan marry poor man from a poor family. Once inlaws are unengaged, they will start looking for their employed brothers house to go! If I check my husband's pocket, I will check all his siblings own. The more comfortable they are, the more peace I have. They will face their homes and leave my husband for me! 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by NoToPile: 11:15pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
Na real wa Lots of immature comments, not surprised anyway a sizeable amount of Nigerian men dont believe their wives and children come first before their extended family afterall she's s just a wife. Relations visiting - yeah for a very short while Relations staying indefinitely - not advisable (it almost never ends well) especially with younger couples. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by engrchykae(m): 11:16pm On Feb 06, 2020 |
CosmicJames:not always true,the women blackmail their husbands threatening fire and brimstone to have their way. My wife once told me not to travel home during Xmas because she knew I would spend on my parents,I refused citing that Xmas is the only time I can spend with them due to the nature of my work,she started denying me sex from that day till she finally packed her things and left. This is what many men are trying to avoid not knowing that this type of women ruin men. My uncle's wife turned my father and his brother into enemies and last December she left to marry another young man after 8 kids,two of her children have married oh. My point is never try to patronize them. If they want to go,let them go. 7 Likes |
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