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Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Justpassingby45(m): 2:37am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Simran94:, As i built a large home of your own, and my back bone (my mother) come staying and you are saying she should go. I bet you 24 hrs is much for you to still remain in the family. |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by donsheddy1(m): 3:03am On Feb 07, 2020 |
According to my mother in-law "Your face no dey make me come your house" my response "Abi!" 4 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by adeyinkados(f): 3:04am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Hmmmmmm. When u eventually give them 10inches they take 10 miles. Some educated but act like illiterates. They believe they have to know everything happening in ur home. Some backstab u because they are never satisfied about when u try to please them. I think husband's should try as much as possible not to be a weakling in setting boundaries for his relations and wife. Respect begets respect. When they want to take over home and they keep discussing your matter. Ladies look before u leap |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Antichristus: 3:18am On Feb 07, 2020 |
In many cases, it is those family members who would seek to destroy you. You hand over your life into their hands and see what becomes of you. "B'iku ile o pani, t'ode o le p'ani," says the Yoruba people, implying that, without willing and conniving insiders, external forces can do but nothing." Many homes have been destroyed through unnecessary interventions of extended family members. 3 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by ChristineC: 3:59am On Feb 07, 2020 |
why would anybody desire to live in another person's house though? even when my mother goes for any "omugwo", she's barely patient for the time to leave that house 6 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by kayusely70(m): 4:12am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Better |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 4:14am On Feb 07, 2020 |
"if you won't allow"?? Excuse me, who decides what goes around in your house?? Your wife?? This generation is full of "polite and respectful" men 1 Like |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 4:19am On Feb 07, 2020 |
BecaciaBarbie:What if the man has 2 wives?? You guys are turning a wife to a god who has the final say The man decided who come to the house . Simple.. Unless he is splitting rent with his wife!!!! "Polite and respectful" men full this generation o |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by daclint(m): 4:25am On Feb 07, 2020 |
A woman I call my wife won't mention such sef, she dey mad ni, my family that has bn through thick and thin with me. If she mention am na automatic hatred she'll get from me. 1 Like |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 4:25am On Feb 07, 2020 |
This is the reason why Cristiano Ronaldo break up with Irina Shayk!!! Mother is gold Father is diamond Siblings and relations are blood/iron!!! They can come to my house, anytime they want.. My wife must bend her kidding mindset!!! If she doesn't want to end up like Irina Shayk!!!! Many Georgina full this life oooo.. Never allow any Irina Shayk separate you from your people!!! 3 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 4:31am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Sterope:That is the same thing Irina Shayk told Cristiano Ronaldo!!! Ronaldo dump him because of that!!!!! Georgina is different tho!! Homely and more accommodating!!! Men should resist mindsets of any Irina Shayk And glue to Georgina who is a real keeper!!! Family is everything!!!! 1 Like |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 4:35am On Feb 07, 2020 |
AshiraWealthy:You will beat your Mother in law one day |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Chommieblaq(f): 4:37am On Feb 07, 2020 |
pocohantas: It’s not poor people problem na troublesome people issues, I have seen rich people act that way too, though the rich do more of bullying. I came from humble home, lost my Dad at a very young age, I know how much we struggled together growing up, many sacrifices etc. Does that automatically means I will leave my job, pack my bags and start staying with my sisters and their family because we suffered together? First of all, nobody owe me or anyone shit, these entitlement character breeds other forms of things. How do people even feel comfortable staying in someone’s house? An adult staying with another adult? I can’t get my head around it. My mama no go leave her business come your house, even to do Omugwo for the complete duration is an uphill tasks, none of my sis will leave their job/business and family to come stay with you, neither will my brother leave his job and ego to come stay with you. I have been begging my sis, to visit me since 2 years now, I never see her brake light. I don’t have any problem with my husband family coming over, (visiting o) Aged parent coming to stay for medical reason and care is fine, but there should be boundaries and mutual respect, I’m in no competition with his family and if you are going to choose your family over me, forgetting that I left my own family, so we can form ours, abeg no marry me o, I won’t be a second class citizen in my matrimonial home Like Pcguru1 said, I’m fortunate enough to come from a family where everyone minds their business and respect boundaries! 11 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 4:37am On Feb 07, 2020 |
eni4real: For what na? |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 4:41am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Waterview:True love exist... And that is what you get from your Mother, Father and blood lines!!! Your wife has to be consistent for like 20 years in Marriage before you can say truly that she loves you unconditionally!!! And vice versa anyway!!! Never allow your spouse to separate you from your families.. NEVER!!! Not negotiable!! Don't mind Jokerman |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 4:46am On Feb 07, 2020 |
AshiraWealthy:You like Privacy too much!! As a married woman, you can't stop your husband's family from visiting!!! They will visit and you must appreciate that!!! Being homely as a wife is beyond playing love in Tokyo with your husband alone... In Africa, you marry your husband and his family and vice versa!!! |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 4:49am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Even my club chairman will come and stay |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Lilymax(f): 4:51am On Feb 07, 2020 |
AmTruth:Not just women, you should also learn to tolerate her family. 4 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 4:52am On Feb 07, 2020 |
eni4real: Go back and read my first comment again. I didn't say they can't visit, they can. but coming to live with us is what I'm against. As you are now, are you living with any of your relations? Why would you wish somebody to go and be living with their relatives instead of praying for them to be independent and comfortable on their own? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 5:00am On Feb 07, 2020 |
AshiraWealthy:They will visit and stay with you!!! You can kick against your family members if you are not cool with them or paranoid against their characters and conducts. That is between you and your family members.. You know them better!!! But you dare not tell your husband to prevent his people from staying... What is visiting without staying anyway?? |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by larryking540: 5:03am On Feb 07, 2020 |
bigiyaro: Na man they use e hand bring e family down , When u say trash about your siblings in front of your wife ,the wife does that too ,,, When u tell your wife ,my younger brother is a fool or an idiot Bro watch how your wife too will start insulting your younger ones because na we men use our hand take bring our family down 1 Like |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by TheArchangel(f): 5:06am On Feb 07, 2020 |
eni4real:Do you also marry your wife and her family Seem Africans are confused, indecisive and hypocritical in everything. One minute, you are quoting the religious books, next minutes you realised you are Africans We are two-faced in everything, we practice leaving our father and mother to cleave to our spouse tag, and at the same time practices marry your spouse and their families. So evident that we are confused hypocrites. 6 Likes |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by chiefolododo(m): 5:06am On Feb 07, 2020 |
Meeyankee:let's check VAR
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Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 5:09am On Feb 07, 2020 |
TheArchangel:Yes, you marry your wife and her family!!! Absolute yes!!! Who was quoting religious book?? I think you are the confused one here!!! You should be self motivated!!! 1 Like |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by desireoge(f): 5:11am On Feb 07, 2020 |
The one that pains me most is when a woman that has not contributed for the upkeep of the house complains that the husband's sibling enters her kitchen. Let's try and be accommodating. I have lived with my husband's sister for 3years and if she does what I don't like I'll tell her. She takes her food by herself. If I have big meat for Oga I will tell her not to touch the big meat o that it's for her brother. If after treating her nicely she goes behind me to gossip so be it afteral people will always talk behind one's back 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by TheArchangel(f): 5:15am On Feb 07, 2020 |
eni4real:your hypocritical goons up there. All this arguments are things that should be sorted out during courtship and to not accept what you cannot take. |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 5:15am On Feb 07, 2020 |
desireoge:You Sabi jare!!! Don't mind all the Chewing gum girls in Nairaland complaining over nothing!!! Wish you more success in your Marriage!!! 1 Like |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by TheArchangel(f): 5:17am On Feb 07, 2020 |
eni4real:i notice you added something sinister. Do not start or you won't like the expunge. |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 5:18am On Feb 07, 2020 |
TheArchangel:Goons?? Many ladies were quoting it too!!! Not only the guys !!! Religion is relevant in our lives but other factors play their roles too... We are Africans and we must never forget that!! Family is everything!!! |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 5:21am On Feb 07, 2020 |
TheArchangel:Is that a threat or something?? Nairaland can be outrageous... |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by TheArchangel(f): 5:24am On Feb 07, 2020 |
eni4real:It is what it is. Do not dish out what you cannot take. |
Re: Don't Marry Me If You Won't Allow My Relations To Stay Or Visit Me. by Nobody: 5:30am On Feb 07, 2020 |
TheArchangel:What are you talking about?? Dish what?? Why are you looking for a sparring partner?? |
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