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Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by crackkhaus: 5:21pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
EasternPrince:Bro, the red-pill thing is a fairly new concept in the sense that they only just gave a tag name to something that has been in existence for ages... As such, I only just watch it all for the fun of it. I've been in the game since the late 90's, way way before there was anything like a red-pill. 5 Likes |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Nobody: 5:23pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Martinez39s:no one is asking you to 'carry their baggage'. Just don't slutshame them. By the way, most single moms prefer mature and more experienced men, especially single dads and widowers. Not young men like yourself. Who wants another fvckboy added to the list. 1 Like |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Nobody: 5:23pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
crackkhaus: I don't know who is messing up their head and they will go to the real world with this. Tomorrow, they will marry and divorce and start crying up and down. Cool down and get the best man, they will not. I know of some past monikers here who ended up bad in relationship because of listening to the rubbish I see here everyday. They will want others to fail like them so they dish out the same useless advise that these ones follow and sure, in no time they end up like them. 8 Likes |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by EasternPrince: 5:24pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Martinez39s: No, you are just making it difficult for them to endure life. That recent thread of yours and the one before that can make a woman upset enough to commit suicide. |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Nobody: 5:29pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
crackkhaus:nope. Wrong person |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Martinez39s(m): 5:30pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
EasternPrince:Words hurt you if you let them. You can't shame the shameless and you can't verbally ruffle and pressurize those who don't give a śhit about your opinion. I never shamed, insulted, or tried to make anyone's life difficult. I only tell the truth. We can agree to disagree. Have a nice day. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Nobody: 5:32pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
EasternPrince:exactly. Someone is already carrying something that's stronger than her. Must you make it more difficult? |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Nobody: 5:33pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Blu03:I don't know why him and the airhead called crackkhaus assume this is wailing. The topic is "don't stigmatize",only those that stigmatize SM should be here defending themselves. Why is simple English hard for some people? Some people are sugar-coating stigmatization and justifying it. Others are forcing ladies to commit abortion to be spared their criticism. SMH Wisdom is indeed far from those that claim to be wise. 1 Like |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Nobody: 5:35pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
sassysure:you comment and my post don't tally... I'm not advising women but the men who slut shame single mothers. Most of whom are victims. Except the baby mamas who get pregnant for financial gain. What's your point? 1 Like |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Nobody: 5:35pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
EasternPrince:you think sane people take the words of kids to heart? I only have an issue with calling others names period. 1 Like |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by 4ckz: 5:37pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Fountainofyouth: Let me do as you want. - first point, if he is a single dad, living with his children. What does he have to offer? Good. A man living with his children already oozes of responsibilities, normally women are the ones who come as liabilities. Seeing a single dad who takes care of his children should tell you he has enough to take care of you. In this case, it's actually an advantage. - second point, what if you love the children like your own, and they turn towards their real mother oneday? Well, I wouldn't lie, this can be a real issue, but want thing I can say is that the tendency of children to leave their adopted dad for their biological one is way higher than that of them leaving the adopted mom for their biological mom, especially when you take them as your own. That said, this is still a very big problem to consider. - Finally, why did the former woman leave him? Realistically speaking, after a break up and the children remain with the dad, you won't even take time to fault the former woman because, children in most cases stay with their mothers after separation. Would he leave me for his ex? There is a tendency of this, but it becomes extremely minimal when the man already started a new family with you. Is he a LovePeddler? Any man can hoe around and the society would keep a blind eye. If he wants to start a family with you he is probably tired of the w'horing. The truth is most often, single dad's are not that bad of a choice, while it is the opposite for the ladies. I am not being sexist, I am being realistic. Peace once again. 3 Likes |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by crackkhaus: 5:37pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Blu03:So they, and by they, I mean that michellecardboard character already knows this, yet she's giving herself a wedgie over my statement that single mothers should only be with single fathers...lol You people should pick your problem, let's deal with it once and for all. 5 Likes |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Martinez39s(m): 5:38pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Blu03:Why then are you feeling like people are stigmatizing single mothers when they give logical reasons for avoiding single mothers in the dating market? I never said anyone wanted me to carry their baggage and I never slutshamed single mothers. You are just manufacturing my opinions and arguing with the figment of your imagination. I will no longer respond to you. Have a nice day. By the way, most single moms prefer mature and more experienced men, especially single dads and widowers. Not young men like yourself.Na so. 2 Likes
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Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by crackkhaus: 5:38pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Michellekabod2:You won't be able to ignore to save your own life What do you want from me exactly? 6 Likes |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by proclinician: 5:38pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
4ckz: Correct |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by AstroG: 5:39pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Blu03: The Worst thing A Full Fledged Man will ever do is to marry a single Mom. Like Wtf,u no see all these fresh girls roaming everywhere and u wan carry responsibility wea no be your own put on top ur matter[b] [b]TO THOSE THAT DO IT,TUALE !!!!! Please,if ur still a jam bite or not up to 20,don't ever try to quote or mention me. 2 Likes
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Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Nobody: 5:39pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Blu03:. |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by crackkhaus: 5:40pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Blu03:How would you know? 1 Like |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Nobody: 5:40pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Michellekabod2:if you ask why single moms are bad, a guy would say that they are liable to commit abortions which is a 'disgusting' act that no sane person should do... Exactly! I don't understand too.. Eye defects, perhaps. Some read the title and saw "MEN YOU MUST MARRY A SINGLE MOTHER" I laugh anytime i read that single moms aren't stigmatized. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Nobody: 5:42pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Blu03: I read what u wrote and corrected some abnormalies I found there. Any problem with that if I may ask |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by 4ckz: 5:42pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Blu03: I understand you now. The hate is bad, I actually in the real sense pity (not hate single mothers) but I pity their children more. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Nobody: 5:45pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Martinez39s:logical advice, sure! I wouldn't advise a young woman to marry a single dad But don't throw shades... Atleast we agree on that, right? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by crackkhaus: 5:46pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
sassysure:Victim mentality is strong amongst the brethren Don't stigmatise, don't stigmatise...as if anyone is holding a gun to their heads or stringing them up for the gallows. Anyone that doesn't have the self-esteem to withstand this so-called stigmatisation is on their own. The best thing a single parent can do for themselves is to hold themselves in high-esteem and not pay attention to whatever ridicule they claim is directed at them. Trying to make it seem like they are the best choice out there when common sense shows they are not, is just stvpid. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Nobody: 5:47pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
crackkhaus:we're going in circles. I'm dizzy and tired |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Martinez39s(m): 5:49pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Michellekabod2:I never said you have opened wailing threads or solicited for males to marry non-virgins and single moms. I said you I am sure that you, as a woman, will believe in those things when it suits you. Comprehension is really not your strong point. You aren't a man of logical and sound arguments. You are weak. I see your posts from a place a pain. I see an unfufilled man who has a passion to liberate men from their perceived enemies because you have been burnt by ladies before.Blah blah blah blah. Shaming tactics dead on arrival. what do you call calling people whor€s,losers etc if not stigmatization?[/quoto] Why do we call poor people broke if not stigmatization?Trying to insist I sound pained? Wanna ask who hurt me? Cut the crap and go ahead. 2 Likes |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Nobody: 5:50pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
AstroG:martinez would call this a logical advice. No valid points, but laced with sentiments. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Nobody: 5:50pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
4ckz:I admire your honesty,you were honest enough to admit this is from the lens of the society. You called this reality and not that you defended your stance as the right way of living. Kudos on that. There is reality,and there is the a logical way of doing things. There is a margin between the two. Sadly people like Martinez39 call reality the truth and a logical way of life(off course only when it suits him,when it deals with a man being the sole provider in a relationship,he hates that part of reality). He embraces realities that favor men but frowns at realities that favor women(financial dependency on men). He alongside the f00l called crackkhaus do this all the time. Shame though. Shame. But aren't we shapers of reality? Do we settle for what society lays out for us or change for the better? The op is trying to change reality for the better. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Nobody: 5:53pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Martinez39s:Nah I never shamed you for your pitiable state,I only felt sorry for you. You call this shaming yet you call tagging people LovePeddler£s,losers et Al as "truth" and not shaming? |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by AstroG: 5:54pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by 4ckz: 5:56pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Michellekabod2: I laughed hard when I saw this comment. In my comment I didn't include the possibility of the incoming spouse trying to mediate a better relationship btw the children and the estranged parent. Let me consider it now. Say you enter, initially try hard to mediate things between them and it doesn't work, you then proceed to take the children as your's, probably train them for like 18+ years, train them till they become people in the society, then one day, after so many years, they leave you for their real mom, how would you feel? The love for a child is much deeper than that for a spouse mind you, how will you cope? Or you think it's just by typing on Nairaland. I try my best to make you see things realistically, not with the eye of social media. Of course, it would be easy to deal with on social media, but in real life, how you wan take handle am? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by Martinez39s(m): 5:58pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Michellekabod2:Cunning creature. You deliberately avoided the remaining part of my post just to bring the emboldened statement know fully well that I responded to that. Have a nice day. 1 Like |
Re: The Stigmatization Of Single Mothers? Blu03's Opinion by crackkhaus: 5:59pm On Feb 20, 2020 |
Lol, this girl is just gonna keep typing my handle and giving me mentions I'm beside myself...can't believe I got so deep under your skin. 4 Likes 1 Share |
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