Proposal ain't bride price... You are still one of her boyfriends

darediamond:
She sees you as an OPTION not MAIN.

That is an indication of Lack of true Love.

Never Settle for less. Never Marry a Partner who sees you as "one of them" because your MATRIMONY will get shattered in the

Do you want that OP?

Yeah you have made a mistake of paying her Bills.
You can see yourself now that a woman's true LOVE for a Man is not defined by Money.

Infact, in this era of a minimum of 10 ladies to one Man, spending to woo is Nonsense let alone going by the Proper rule of No Music, No Dance.

O.P , find another REASONABLE LADY.

your stat isnt true...

divineuk:
I think she has someone she really wants which is not you so she just accepted yours just incase her ideal man don’t pop the question then she settles with you so she don’t get to loose out on both sides

The guy in question won't recognize the fact that this may be true... He's blinded by love. Don't come and cry here when she tells you her pastor says you guys are not compatible which may be lies. She could have found a better guy with better offer.

My bro.. it will end in tears

Bola146:
As for me, I can't wear it too if a man give me, yes. I'll just be faithful to him till he do the main thing. Ring is nothing but transparency and integrity are the main things. But a wedding ring is a must for me to wear

yes, it's not necessary to wear the ring but when the main thing is done, u can carry go. Most guys propose with ring and turn the ladies into Lord of the rings

Bro, go and do the necessary things and watch how she will be flaunting it.

Best way to propose to give belle una no they hear, let's see her she go remove belle put for house when she is going to work

[quote author=Hotzone post=89784328

Please, I need u to talk to me because I am about to “collect list” from her kinsmen.[/quote] Mi broda, I don't have a problem with her not wearing the engagement ring, but your probing exposed two things: one, the need to properly clarify what the spiritual issues arising from wearing a simple ring is, and the bigger need to come clean if she generally feels you're the one she'd have settled with but is being forced, by time and chance, to tag with you. If there are real spiritual issues, please run! And if she is managing to be with you, reconsider.

With regard to your assertion of being totally responsible for the both of you while she's your superior in a manner of speaking, .... You are about to walk into a mine Field!

In deciding to marry my wife, support was a key consideration and I have not been proven wrong after a little over three years now.

I may need to add that I don't wear my wedding ring, except to church or family functions and cares less if my wife keeps wearing hers or chooses to drop them like I did mine.

I wish you luck

Collect it back and sell it

Okeytus:


she is not staying with you, earns higher than you and you still taking care of her bills??
you are already making a fool of yourself

Didn't want to state it bluntly. In this time and age, nothing makes his actions acceptable.

He invests his money in running the home; she's saves hers and uses to take care of her family and capital projects, whose documents would be in her name judging by how they are relating presently.

We can't but wish the Op goodluck.

Sha, me I know say na 'this their cunning cunning love' go first take flight once storm hit their union, because this their foundation get as e be.

TheRealProphet:
She dey collect ice cream from another man...my guy, religion fanatic ladies are worse than olosho, fear them.

FTC

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Not all sir

Bola146:
As for me, I can't wear it too if a man give me, yes. I'll just be faithful to him till he do the main thing. Ring is nothing but transparency and integrity are the main things. But a wedding ring is a must for me to wear

. Some ladies have become lord of rings because of yeye proposal

chatinent:
Oga, go and marry her then complain as a husband; stop turning her to the lord of the rings. It's only an engagement -- it's never a guaranty.

He just proposed to her not up to two weeks, how has he turned her to Lord of the rings

Me, na when I give my babe belle I propose to her ooooo. As I confirm through scan say na baby boy I renew the proposal again.

Premiumwriter:
Bros don't mind those people up there o.


If I propose to my girl, I will want her to wear that ring 24/7 o.

Which kin spiritual problem wey your ring get wey she no fit wear am? Abi you de do winch sumtin?


Either she's still keeping her option open or she's not really excited about it or she's protective incase you fall her hand and people won't laff when she remove the ring then.

Whatever the case if na me, I go like make she wear my engagement ring all the time

u never jam deeper life girl

Ryocaj:
My bro.. it will end in tears

How do you know that? Are u a soothsayer abi an angel of doom more or less

Nmezor:
How do you know that? Are u a soothsayer abi an angel of doom more or less

Any relationship with a Nigerian babe will end in tears..

Hotzone:
Good morning to you. I don’t know if I am over reacting but I proposed to my girl a week ago and she was so excited about it and it was so romantic but I just noticed to my greatest chagrin that she doesn’t wear her engagement ring to work.

So I complained and she said she’s facing some spiritual challenges. We don’t live together as she claims her faith is against it. We work in the same organization and her position is a little higher than mine but I take care of bills concerning her but it seems I am getting tired with much terms and conditions. It’s draining my energy.

Please, I need u to talk to me because I am about to “collect list” from her kinsmen.

Maybe she's waiting for formal introduction first

OP. Ask yourself "If I were Cristiano Ronaldo or Dangote, would she have worn my ring or not?" Then you'll know whether she values you or not.

Never marry someone who doesn't value you as much as you value them.

frm my own perspective bro, you need to chill!!

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Hotzone:


I am really pleased with ur words

Hmmmm bros na the same story we share oo, only that urs didn't postpone the wedding till next year like mine did.
I engaged her on the 15 of February 2020 with the introduction schedule during the Easter time.
I couldn't go home for Easter/introduction cause of the covid 19 lockdown.
I noticed bae wasn't putting on the ring, but I keep my calm. I just visited her last week to talk things out. I decided to confront her as to why she isn't putting on d engagement ring.
She said the ring got lost at her place of work, I just laugh and told her, since the day I gave her the ring, she didn't treasure it cause few minutes of engaging her, she pull of the ring but I didn't say anything that day. But I told her I didn't believe that the ring is missing. We were chatting, she told actually the ring got missing but found it and did not want to missed it again was d reason she isn't putting it on.
I didn't say anything. But I'm sure my bae is weighing her plan or keeping her options open.
I have a strong feeling, she is cheating.
Bro, since it's didn't not postpone the wedding plans, keep on with the planning while it eyes open.

Tells u...
He's not even d Man in d relationship from d way he complained abt paying bills n so many terms n conditions.
You don't like a thing change it or quietly let it be. No drama

Hotzone:
Good morning to you. I don’t know if I am over reacting but I proposed to my girl a week ago and she was so excited about it and it was so romantic but I just noticed to my greatest chagrin that she doesn’t wear her engagement ring to work.

So I complained and she said she’s facing some spiritual challenges. We don’t live together as she claims her faith is against it. We work in the same organization and her position is a little higher than mine but I take care of bills concerning her but it seems I am getting tired with much terms and conditions. It’s draining my energy.

Please, I need u to talk to me because I am about to “collect list” from her kinsmen.

@bolded...Was that necessary

What spiritual challenges halts one from wearing a ring, abi she be ogbanje

All these half baked stories sef

Why do people quickly rush online for things like this?
People differ o!
Do you know my wife almost begged me for a ring. Heck she even bought the ring and I had to pay her back for it.
All these happened after we have gone for introduction and are preparing for our wedding.

I am not a ring person but she is. After so much debate that lingered for months, that’s when I finally succumbed for an “engagement ring”.

OP My point is, maybe your fiancée is not the ring type. If it’s the wedding ring, then I will say it’s ok to raise an alarm. You just have to really find out from her ( not in an accusatory or authoritative way though) why she doesn’t wear the ring.

Norman4real:
this here is my only concern from all your issues you stated. This woman is smart, she is saving and probably investing her money wisely while you are foolishly spending yours on her. Otherwise regarding the engagement, you have no claim to her yet and therefore she's not under any law compelled to wear that ring, but in any case that's what we call a "red flag". U better cancel the engagement and save yourself from this selfish woman.

Poster please don't listen to this man.

Many ladies don't wear their engagement rings, becuase some men will still abandon them after engaging them. Go and marry her first.

Waiting they do these one you know how many rings she done collect . I can't count how many rings I done buy for secondary School days we call it promise ring. Alaye go do the main thing

rosieflower2:
Seconded

Babe you harsh oooo

Ryocaj:


Any relationship with a Nigerian babe will end in tears..

That's a BIG lie plz

KomonSense:


Babe you harsh oooo

Is not a matter of being harsh, we've seen and heard cases.

Nmezor:
That's a BIG lie plz

I don't expect u to concur na.. m stating d obvious.. Nigerian ladies r not structured for love and marriage.. They can't b loyal.. The just need a man to take care of their financial n sexual needs.. that's all..