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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by victorjoe(m): 7:09pm On May 31, 2020 |
Squillaci: Yes he does! He was lucky to be born in the US. The least he can do is to help his brother to grow to a level where he can be said to be comfortable. It's all about mindset and what family means to you. If you are the only wealthy person in your family, and you cannot help someone else to grow then you are poor. Mind you this guy earns very well! Few years ago in lag. I met a guy that was struggling to survive with his siblings. Their parents had died earlier on. The house was theirs. This guy did "g" (if u know what I mean). When the guy "collected", the only thing he used the money for was to relocate to the US. He was lucky it worked out for him. Now this is the part I want you to get, in 2 years of being in the US the guy moved all his siblings out of naija and even friends. Not all went to US, but just travel out first. I mean, so many people benefitted from that one movement and it a good thing. So don't be stingy. Help people. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by primeson1(m): 7:09pm On May 31, 2020 |
wickyyolo: Another one....there is no where earned income will be 50%.....please get it right |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by rontolo(m): 7:09pm On May 31, 2020 |
Millenniumlady:I’ve concluded you funny |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by wickyyolo: 7:10pm On May 31, 2020 |
sunboy: You probably not paying for mortgage, student loans etc. And you don’t know your financial bank statement. |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Nobody: 7:10pm On May 31, 2020 |
Why do most nigerians or africans believes/thinks that migrating abroad is for financial reasons? it might be the case for some people but not for all, Anyway, i wouldn't know, i was born in east london. Most of my previous neighbours are Nigerians, from the way i saw how they live they are not struggling atall. they own the property they live in, they drive brand new top of the range cars. they may have bought the cars on HP but what da heck! they are living good lives. i don't know about them sending money home but they tell me it's not about money it is about peace of mind, working system and believe me, nigerians knows how to take advantage of the system. I visit my parents in nigeria since they relocated regularly and the things i saw in nigeria was baffling. bribery, extortion, lawlessness, intimidation, kidnapping, armed robbery, i mean how can a lorry fail break? and kill so many people, only in nigeria i heard lorries fail breaks, motorists driving the wrong way opposite no one is held responsible, no investigations, no arrests, no nothing. i am not saying accidents do not happen over here but when it does someone must pay! for people who believes migrating abroad is a bad idea, well... as i ve said, i wouldn't know. not every migrant is doing well but most are doing well... as i ve said again it might not be a financial issue for some. 15 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by omonnakoda: 7:11pm On May 31, 2020 |
victorjoe: another TOUCHING story Yinmu |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by wickyyolo: 7:13pm On May 31, 2020 |
primeson1: Then u don’t understand the whole point he is making. |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by omonnakoda: 7:13pm On May 31, 2020 |
wickyyolo:what has any of this got to do with tax? 1 Like |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by salford1: 7:14pm On May 31, 2020 |
pocohantas:Infact. I used a laptop for 10 years and had to wait for boxing day sales before I eventually got another one, but folks back home won't understand. 1 Like |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by sunboy(m): 7:14pm On May 31, 2020 |
wickyyolo: How is mortgage and student loan a tax Bro you have no idea about this topic so there’s no point contributing abeg 1 Like |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by primeson1(m): 7:14pm On May 31, 2020 |
wickyyolo: Why are you lying with confidence na....45 kor 85 ni 2 Likes |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by sunboy(m): 7:15pm On May 31, 2020 |
omonnakoda: He think say na beer parlor talk 2 Likes |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Nobody: 7:16pm On May 31, 2020 |
I quite enjoyed reading your comment. I want to use the experience I had while living abroad to answer your questions (highlighted below). 1) I had many friends while in Nigeria before relocating to the UK. After I relocated ALL of my so-called friends stopped communicating with me except when they needed some favour (mostly money) from me. I didn't realize it in time, not until one day I took an appraisal of our communications and I discovered it was I who initiated the contact every single time. None of them called or even flashed me just to find out how I was doing. So I stopped contacting all of them. So to answer your first question, I think most Nigerians in diaspora share my experience in that it's only Nigerians who need assistance from them who manage to keep in touch. This is probably why many shun their Nigerian connections because those abroad are only as useful to those in Nigeria as the money they send. It hurts to feel used. 2) Some Nigerians have this mentality that you can't make it until you relocate abroad. This is a big lie. The best place to make it financially is in Nigeria. Nigeria is one of the few countries I know that you can put N100,000 into your business on January 1 and by December 31st you have between N500,000 and N1,000,000 depending. I literally had to turn job offers abroad down to return to Nigeria. Foreign investors see this potentials in the Nigerian market but unfortunately many Nigerians don't. Many who leave Nigeria for greener pastures end up becoming me modern day slaves in those countries. Most of us forget that not many countries have pastures as 'green' as Nigeria. A population of over 200 million people is an asset that Nigerians haven't learned to exploit. The reason is because many parents raised their children with the idea of 'go to school, study hard, and get a good job'. This might have worked for most of our parents...heck yes, my Dad bought a brand new car during NYSC at the time. But that was a time when people like Chief Awolowo would literally go from village to village to compel people to go to school. Our population and economic dynamics have changed, unfortunately most people in my generation still believe in that dangerous advice of read-your-books-get-a-job-and-settle. The Nigerian system is perfect, but not for jobs. For business. I am yet to see a serious and successful Nigerian business man who is willing to relocate abroad. So you see my brother, we can't all listen to those who relocate abroad in search of better 'jobs', many of them only think in terms of jobs, while the wealth from Nigeria is mostly from investment and businesses. smeag0l: 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by wickyyolo: 7:16pm On May 31, 2020 |
sunboy: Stay with your knowledge since you know it all. One day when you begin to earn more you will understand. |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Nobody: 7:16pm On May 31, 2020 |
Millenniumlady:see you! so you are still here chasing after men? |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Nobody: 7:18pm On May 31, 2020 |
Unfortunately my voice is terrible. But then I believe some people have adequately responded to him. Houseofglam7: |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Mcslize: 7:18pm On May 31, 2020 |
Millenniumlady: The hustle is real. |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by wickyyolo: 7:21pm On May 31, 2020 |
primeson1: Mr know it all. Your opinion is very true. There are no taxes in Norway, Finland or USA. They are all tax free countries. |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by 4gunners(m): 7:21pm On May 31, 2020 |
I'm caught up in that point 5. I rather give than spend in myself. |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by xcabczyxabczzzz: 7:22pm On May 31, 2020 |
Millenniumlady:Lol, na person marry am comut. |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by salford1: 7:22pm On May 31, 2020 |
redsun:Yup. That number 5 is very true. We often wait for sales to buy some stuffs. Abroad makes people financially prudent. But when it comes to giving, you don't have the luxury of choosing a specific time to send money or items to Nigeria. |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by primeson1(m): 7:23pm On May 31, 2020 |
wickyyolo: 1 Like 1 Share
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Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Mcslize: 7:23pm On May 31, 2020 |
Millenniumlady: But this your abroad based hustle is not for love o or am I getting something wrong here. Hope it's for the paper so that when you get there you will unleash the beast in you as our ladies usually do once a guy take them abroad. Hope I am on point on this. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by soleexx(m): 7:24pm On May 31, 2020 |
You not there by luck Its God's favour If I don't assist my family or friends so why I con get money I will give and give as long as I remain on this planet... |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by Babaalajo(m): 7:25pm On May 31, 2020 |
But once you are broke and you don't have enough for yourself talkless of giving out, you won't see them calling for help or asking for anything... I don't know who always told them that money no dey again.. But from day1 I prefer giving than receiving 2 Likes |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by victorjoe(m): 7:25pm On May 31, 2020 |
omonnakoda: It is what it is. |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by omonnakoda: 7:25pm On May 31, 2020 |
Nigerians can be funny even those that have money. Someone lives in Nigeria and probably has more money than his friend or brother living in the US, He brings his family to "visit" every summer for 1 month eating your food and using you as taxi driver. When coming they won't bring ordinary Egusi. Never phones until it is one month to their annual pilgrimage which is spent shopping as if the world is going to end. Wont even phone to say thank you. All in the name of friend or family 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by SweetCunt97(f): 7:25pm On May 31, 2020 |
Squillaci:Don't be a self centered stingy man. Can't u imagine? Sibling you grew up with? |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by SweetCunt97(f): 7:27pm On May 31, 2020 |
omonnakoda:Yea people need to stop that. And the person over there should also ask. Say una dey abroad no mean say una no fit ask for what you need from us back home. |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by ODJ123(m): 7:27pm On May 31, 2020 |
xrayj:from FB |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by SweetCunt97(f): 7:28pm On May 31, 2020 |
Babaalajo:When money ko dey, na so so story. So they take a hint and bolt. |
Re: Why Your Diasporan Friends And Family Do Not Send You Money When You Ask. by easyflex: 7:29pm On May 31, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: You don't really understand how bills rack up in the U.S. This is a peak into what a monthly expenses in a middle class home with 2 kids may look like. Mortgage = $2100 Cable = $120 WiFi = $70 Phone bill = $80 Water/ sewage = $88 Electricity = $115 Gas(cooking ) = $28 Home insurance= $120 Healthcare insurance = $260 Car Insurance(2 cars) = $145 Home owners Association Dues = $85 Student Loans = $700 Feeding, Groceries, Gas (Petrol), Tolls and Miscellaneous = $400 Total = $4,300 That is approximately $52k yearly, without including taxes. It may be lower or even higher depending on income, neighborhood, state or lifestyle. I hope this helps you understand better. 8 Likes 1 Share |
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