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Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by genii96(m): 12:39pm On Aug 26, 2020

Friends with someone that wants to sleep with you? How would you feel if your bf is friends with a girl that keeps trying to seduce him?

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Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Sixfit: 12:43pm On Aug 26, 2020

Erica of BBN comes to mind.

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Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by alizma: 12:43pm On Aug 26, 2020

ItsTerah:
I know I'm going to get alot of insults from you guys and that's why I didn't use my original Nairaland account for this, but please hear me out and give me good advice.

I'm the kind of girl that doesn't love easily. I don't think I've ever fallen in love before. I have dated just one guy and I broke up with him when he tried to rape me. I'm still a virgin and the reason is because I have trust issues. I know that if I have sex with a guy I'll become very attached and my heart can easily be broken. So I'm waiting for a guy I can trust.

I recently just started dating someone. I'm not in love with him but we've been very good friends and when he asked me out I just had to say yes so that I wouldn't lose him. I've still not had sex with him and I like that he respects my wishes. My boyfriend loves me and although I don't love him equally I've opened up to him about how difficult it is for me to reciprocate love.

Then there is this other guy I just became friends with. I won't lie, I'm sexually attracted to this guy. My sexual attraction to him intensified when he opened up to me about his kinks which are similar to mine. He told me he has feelings for me and likes me alot and can't get me out of his mind. I admitted I am sexually attracted to him but that I don't have feelings for him. I know he is sexually attracted to me and has made advances at me and even asked for nude pictures all of which I refused. But I still talk to him. He knows about my boyfriend and is aware of my situation. Occasionally he flirts with me but I try not to flirt back. I've tried to bury my sexual attraction to him but he is just so physically appealing. I've made it clear that I want to be just friends and he seems okay with it. I know I'm principled enough to not allow him have sex with me I'm wondering if it's safe being just friends with him. I enjoy talking to him and don't want to end our friendship.

Considering that you are still a Virgin, it is normal for some to feel the way you are feeling now. Going by your post, I will say few things and leave you to decide.
1. You boyfriend loves you more than the new guy
2. No serious boyfriend will ask a lady with whom they have not seen each others unclothedness to send her nude pix. It is an insult on the lady and it is a way of giving himself an edge over the lady
3. You and the new guy are both leaving in a world of fantancy
4. The fact that your boyfriend has not discussed about his kink with you maybe because he knows your virginity status therefore trying not to expose you beyond what he thought you know.
5. It is better to lose your virginity to someone who value you than to lose it to some who sees nothing in what you have to offer because years later even if you path ways, the one who value you will always treat you specially whenever your paths cross but the other person will always look at you and see himself as a conqueror before you.
6. Many ladies with series of heart breaks will not need all these to choose right therefore, don't subject yourself to learning the right thing the hard way.
Finally, a world is enough for the wise

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Kaymaxine(m): 12:45pm On Aug 26, 2020

Onocho

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Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Mayalaya1: 12:46pm On Aug 26, 2020

ItsTerah:
I know I'm going to get alot of insults from you guys and that's why I didn't use my original Nairaland account for this, but please hear me out and give me good advice.

I'm the kind of girl that doesn't love easily. I don't think I've ever fallen in love before. I have dated just one guy and I broke up with him when he tried to rape me. I'm still a virgin and the reason is because I have trust issues. I know that if I have sex with a guy I'll become very attached and my heart can easily be broken. So I'm waiting for a guy I can trust.

I recently just started dating someone. I'm not in love with him but we've been very good friends and when he asked me out I just had to say yes so that I wouldn't lose him. I've still not had sex with him and I like that he respects my wishes. My boyfriend loves me and although I don't love him equally I've opened up to him about how difficult it is for me to reciprocate love.

Then there is this other guy I just became friends with. I won't lie, I'm sexually attracted to this guy. My sexual attraction to him intensified when he opened up to me about his kinks which are similar to mine. He told me he has feelings for me and likes me alot and can't get me out of his mind. I admitted I am sexually attracted to him but that I don't have feelings for him. I know he is sexually attracted to me and has made advances at me and even asked for nude pictures all of which I refused. But I still talk to him. He knows about my boyfriend and is aware of my situation. Occasionally he flirts with me but I try not to flirt back. I've tried to bury my sexual attraction to him but he is just so physically appealing. I've made it clear that I want to be just friends and he seems okay with it. I know I'm principled enough to not allow him have sex with me I'm wondering if it's safe being just friends with him. I enjoy talking to him and don't want to end our friendship.

I don't know why ladies will always have to behave like fools, especially when they see all this flashy things... It's saddening...

Girls will have for themselves guys who truly love, cherish, adore them and they will just blow it away just like that...

I don't know why they keep looking for what they didn't lost all around... It can be so saddening I swear... At the end all will end in premium tears because they will end up being disappointed...

With the way things are I may end up not marrying because I can't allow disappointment from any girl...

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Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Austineva(m): 12:46pm On Aug 26, 2020

Zzor:
shut up

e be like say u love that fine boy

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by jojothaiv(m): 12:56pm On Aug 26, 2020

OP, biko use your original moniker, nothing dey surprise Nairalanders for Seun's hand again...

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Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by VisibleDreamz: 1:07pm On Aug 26, 2020

ethicallyright:
Do not let anyone blackmail you for being a promiscuous young woman. That is the trend and is celebrated by thousands of Erica's fans across Nigeria. At least, you have your hymen intact and your vagina sealed for Commissioning . Many , if not 85% lost theirs to men without purpose and ambition. 1% were deflowered by rapists and 13.999% by healthy cucumbers ,after a thorough self-service exercise got out of control. It is a rare feat to be in the almost non-existent 0.1% class these days.

If you have ever seen a female dog or goat sex starved then you'll understand that nature created women to be inordinate sex cravers. A research conducted by my humble self revealed that 96% of women aged 16 -35 are not satisfied with their sexual relationships.

The only solution to your problem is difficult. I wouldn't even admonish my sister to take such advice. It is what makes the 21st century lady's body itch at the sight of a tall bearded man , Italian Fashion, Swiss watch or German Car. The antidote to your misery and indecision is circumcision , otherwise called , Female Genital Mutilation in the Feminists parlance.

In life you will always find someone aesthetically superior to your current partner . The choice to prove your discipline or indiscipline rests on your shoulders.

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by AsawanaDgreat: 1:14pm On Aug 26, 2020

Did I hear her say she is a virgin. Ashi

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Monday60655(m): 1:17pm On Aug 26, 2020

What kind of confused human being are you, if not that your story is just fabricated.

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by fairheart(m): 1:20pm On Aug 26, 2020

ItsTerah:
I know I'm going to get alot of insults from you guys and that's why I didn't use my original Nairaland account for this, but please hear me out and give me good advice.

I'm the kind of girl that doesn't love easily. I don't think I've ever fallen in love before. I have dated just one guy and I broke up with him when he tried to rape me. I'm still a virgin and the reason is because I have trust issues. I know that if I have sex with a guy I'll become very attached and my heart can easily be broken. So I'm waiting for a guy I can trust.

I recently just started dating someone. I'm not in love with him but we've been very good friends and when he asked me out I just had to say yes so that I wouldn't lose him. I've still not had sex with him and I like that he respects my wishes. My boyfriend loves me and although I don't love him equally I've opened up to him about how difficult it is for me to reciprocate love.

Then there is this other guy I just became friends with. I won't lie, I'm sexually attracted to this guy. My sexual attraction to him intensified when he opened up to me about his kinks which are similar to mine. He told me he has feelings for me and likes me alot and can't get me out of his mind. I admitted I am sexually attracted to him but that I don't have feelings for him. I know he is sexually attracted to me and has made advances at me and even asked for nude pictures all of which I refused. But I still talk to him. He knows about my boyfriend and is aware of my situation. Occasionally he flirts with me but I try not to flirt back. I've tried to bury my sexual attraction to him but he is just so physically appealing. I've made it clear that I want to be just friends and he seems okay with it. I know I'm principled enough to not allow him have sex with me I'm wondering if it's safe being just friends with him. I enjoy talking to him and don't want to end our friendship.

My dear, the bold sentence above is what makes some Nigerian ladies "Olosho", as they're so-called.
What is the difference between sexually attracted to a guy and having feelings for him? Are these two different thing like East and West? This is the first time I'm reading this. What is the difference between feelings and sexual attraction? If you don't know that sexual attraction to a man is an embedded part of having feelings for the same man, then how are you even going to know the right man for yourself? You don't sound like an enlightened young woman to me!! You need to look around you for women of substance and deep life experience and pick one as a mentor and role model. It appears you lack one right now. sad

Anyway, this is my advice for you:
1, You are naive and haven't experimented with self-control. You need to be very careful as keeping the guy who you said is physically appealing is going to cause you more trouble than you can handle. Guys like this damage ladies and I promise when he's done, he would have taken you out of your innocent and bright world to a dark world, where there's a likelihood to be lost forever. You'll become a sex machine, lose your original boyfriend and you'll be emotionally damaged (this is when a woman is unable to bond with just a partner; you find moving to the next guy for the sexual experiment a necessity to sustain your imbalanced sexual emotions). Stay away from him.

2, How do you want to live your life? Starting off like this will cost you more than you can pay for. As a young woman, humanity is calling you to stand for something, as a good force. If you are craving sex, give it to your original boyfriend and let him know you are here to stay. Develop reasons to love him. Good men are increasingly becoming scarce. By good men, I mean guys/men who are truly into their women and would stick to her no matter what. Most guys these days are fuvk boys, sleep with you, gift you with temporary things, and dump you like a rag. Is that what you want? Stay with one man and make bettering your life a priority. Whoring will damage the stable and beautiful emotional potentials still locked within you for your future husband.

3, Learn contentment. Most ladies these days are not contented. You guys have failed to emulate your mothers, who settle down and love your fathers wholeheartedly. Develop contentment. If your boyfriend doesn't have six-packs and you want him to because it appeals to you, then tell him to hit the gym. One of the reasons guys hit the gym is because they want to look appealing to a potential babe; I am doing it myself in addition to the health benefit. What do you like about the guy you are sexually attracted to? His beard? or na because he appears to have money? Encourage in the guy that truly loves you the qualities you admire in other guys you're sexually drawn to. Be content, or let go of this guy who has committed himself to you. Free him and don't suffer his heart.

4, Be different. At the end of the day, you'd choose between whoring and becoming a sex object that every sexually appealing guy you see can get laid OR become a woman of substance, education, virtuous, intelligence, mannered, and headed towards a life of honour and respect her children would be proud of years ahead. Which do you prefer?

5, Say NO to Oloshonism!!!

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Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by temi1290: 1:26pm On Aug 26, 2020

Before I say anything,I need to first of all confirm that you are truly a virgin

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Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by franugo(m): 1:30pm On Aug 26, 2020

ItsTerah:
I know I'm going to get alot of insults from you guys and that's why I didn't use my original Nairaland account for this, but please hear me out and give me good advice.

I'm the kind of girl that doesn't love easily. I don't think I've ever fallen in love before. I have dated just one guy and I broke up with him when he tried to rape me. I'm still a virgin and the reason is because I have trust issues. I know that if I have sex with a guy I'll become very attached and my heart can easily be broken. So I'm waiting for a guy I can trust.

I recently just started dating someone. I'm not in love with him but we've been very good friends and when he asked me out I just had to say yes so that I wouldn't lose him. I've still not had sex with him and I like that he respects my wishes. My boyfriend loves me and although I don't love him equally I've opened up to him about how difficult it is for me to reciprocate love.

Then there is this other guy I just became friends with. I won't lie, I'm sexually attracted to this guy. My sexual attraction to him intensified when he opened up to me about his kinks which are similar to mine. He told me he has feelings for me and likes me alot and can't get me out of his mind. I admitted I am sexually attracted to him but that I don't have feelings for him. I know he is sexually attracted to me and has made advances at me and even asked for nude pictures all of which I refused. But I still talk to him. He knows about my boyfriend and is aware of my situation. Occasionally he flirts with me but I try not to flirt back. I've tried to bury my sexual attraction to him but he is just so physically appealing. I've made it clear that I want to be just friends and he seems okay with it. I know I'm principled enough to not allow him have sex with me I'm wondering if it's safe being just friends with him. I enjoy talking to him and don't want to end our friendship.

I don't know why seunmomoh my Chelsea crush comes to mind...

@itsTerah, YOLO. Enjoy your life babe, don't be too anal. Do whatever and whoever you desire..

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Kingof2nations(m): 1:31pm On Aug 26, 2020

ItsTerah:
I know I'm going to get alot of insults from you guys and that's why I didn't use my original Nairaland account for this, but please hear me out and give me good advice.

I'm the kind of girl that doesn't love easily. I don't think I've ever fallen in love before. I have dated just one guy and I broke up with him when he tried to rape me. I'm still a virgin and the reason is because I have trust issues. I know that if I have sex with a guy I'll become very attached and my heart can easily be broken. So I'm waiting for a guy I can trust.

I recently just started dating someone. I'm not in love with him but we've been very good friends and when he asked me out I just had to say yes so that I wouldn't lose him. I've still not had sex with him and I like that he respects my wishes. My boyfriend loves me and although I don't love him equally I've opened up to him about how difficult it is for me to reciprocate love.

Then there is this other guy I just became friends with. I won't lie, I'm sexually attracted to this guy. My sexual attraction to him intensified when he opened up to me about his kinks which are similar to mine. He told me he has feelings for me and likes me alot and can't get me out of his mind. I admitted I am sexually attracted to him but that I don't have feelings for him. I know he is sexually attracted to me and has made advances at me and even asked for nude pictures all of which I refused. But I still talk to him. He knows about my boyfriend and is aware of my situation. Occasionally he flirts with me but I try not to flirt back. I've tried to bury my sexual attraction to him but he is just so physically appealing. I've made it clear that I want to be just friends and he seems okay with it. I know I'm principled enough to not allow him have sex with me I'm wondering if it's safe being just friends with him. I enjoy talking to him and don't want to end our friendship.

spirit of loss don enter U
go nd pray nd ask God for guidance

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by franugo(m): 1:32pm On Aug 26, 2020

Monday60655:
What kind of confused human being are you, if not that your story is just fabricated.

What's fabricated here

Story seems entirely plausible. Definitely has happened to most guys if not all. Don't be a hypocrite pls

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Caprison(m): 1:33pm On Aug 26, 2020

Las las it ll all ends in tears

My 2cent

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Creeza(m): 1:36pm On Aug 26, 2020

Lol.

today I'm just having cruise on nairaland i swear. I think i even know this itsTerah of a girl. she qualifies for three girls i know in real life, all 20, claim to be virgins and have a boyfriend yen yen yen. lol but attracted to someone else.

Personally, i have ethics but pity a potential hoe? That i cant.
Only my mother and daughters deserve my sympathy tbh. My sons and grandsons will do the same and the cycle continues.

but my wife and sisters? nah! LAI LAI!!

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Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Olichoke: 1:40pm On Aug 26, 2020

How do you think a man asking for your nude pictures is genuine and right for you?. Kindly stick to your first guy who is not after your body but respects your core values. One of my greatest joy in life is that I married my wife as a Virgin. Talk to your body to be calm. It works. You're suffering infatuation.

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Slimsly100(f): 1:43pm On Aug 26, 2020

Bola146:
You are not serious A lady saying this I just pray that you can stay in a marriage without flirting with another man, iranu

.......abasha grin

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Mitchsin(f): 1:48pm On Aug 26, 2020

Bola146:
You are not serious A lady saying this I just pray that you can stay in a marriage without flirting with another man, iranu

Honestly

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Gee64: 1:48pm On Aug 26, 2020

Since you are of age, you need servicing otherwise your 'engine' go knock

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Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by VirginSearcher(m): 1:53pm On Aug 26, 2020

ItsTerah:
I know I'm going to get alot of insults from you guys and that's why I didn't use my original Nairaland account for this, but please hear me out and give me good advice.

I'm the kind of girl that doesn't love easily. I don't think I've ever fallen in love before. I have dated just one guy and I broke up with him when he tried to rape me. I'm still a virgin and the reason is because I have trust issues. I know that if I have sex with a guy I'll become very attached and my heart can easily be broken. So I'm waiting for a guy I can trust.

I recently just started dating someone. I'm not in love with him but we've been very good friends and when he asked me out I just had to say yes so that I wouldn't lose him. I've still not had sex with him and I like that he respects my wishes. My boyfriend loves me and although I don't love him equally I've opened up to him about how difficult it is for me to reciprocate love.

Then there is this other guy I just became friends with. I won't lie, I'm sexually attracted to this guy. My sexual attraction to him intensified when he opened up to me about his kinks which are similar to mine. He told me he has feelings for me and likes me alot and can't get me out of his mind. I admitted I am sexually attracted to him but that I don't have feelings for him. I know he is sexually attracted to me and has made advances at me and even asked for nude pictures all of which I refused. But I still talk to him. He knows about my boyfriend and is aware of my situation. Occasionally he flirts with me but I try not to flirt back. I've tried to bury my sexual attraction to him but he is just so physically appealing. I've made it clear that I want to be just friends and he seems okay with it. I know I'm principled enough to not allow him have sex with me I'm wondering if it's safe being just friends with him. I enjoy talking to him and don't want to end our friendship.

If you are sure u are a virgin better don't waste that virginity on guys that will not marry u.. u will still be the one to regret.. remember its difficult to find a virgin in the country so be wise

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Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by 300wayne: 1:59pm On Aug 26, 2020

for the first time i like your comment....lol

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Confused beings
This is why they keep on cheating

Because they can't get all the qualities in one niggarrr.

Timothy is sexually attractive....
But i love Kevin....
Very confused people...

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Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by sisisioge: 2:02pm On Aug 26, 2020

Wow! You like the proverbial boy who isn't afraid to talk dirty, right? I understand...but why can't regular boys be bad occasionally too sef grin

.

Biko keep your cookies and stay away from this dude....he will just sccrew you and move on as usual...

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by drizzledav: 2:08pm On Aug 26, 2020

athaboi:
Na f**ck dey hungry you

Well…… I'll go straight to the point, you're beautiful and I'll like to get to know you better�

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Monday60655(m): 2:09pm On Aug 26, 2020

franugo:

What's fabricated here Story seems entirely plausible. Definitely has happened to most guys if not all. Don't be a hypocrite pls

You're entitled to your opinion. In your assertion, it has happened to many guys ryt. Do you know if I have come in contact of many who fabricated stories simply to seek attention.

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Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by eteba(m): 2:09pm On Aug 26, 2020

Now ok, the summary of all the presentations we`v had "for and against" is that you virgenne have been released by us to "go n get laid in peace".........shuo, price of beans have even increased sef!

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Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Monday60655(m): 2:11pm On Aug 26, 2020

franugo:

What's fabricated here Story seems entirely plausible. Definitely has happened to most guys if not all. Don't be a hypocrite pls

You're entitled to your opinion. In your assertion, it has happened to many guys. Do you know if I have come in contact of many who fabricated stories simply to seek attention.

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Timagex(m): 2:19pm On Aug 26, 2020

Zzor:
God forbids I ever tell any guy I'm sexually attracted to him,not in this life, I will do house chores and increase my busy schedule to quench the yeye attraction.Those feelings don't last long,its how a guy treats and value you that matters most

hmmmm.... you have sense. cool

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Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by xrisdgreat(m): 2:19pm On Aug 26, 2020

Bola146:
You are not serious A lady saying this I just pray that you can stay in a marriage without flirting with another man, iranu

Re: I Have A Boyfriend But I'm Sexually Attracted To Someone Else. by Lankaline(m): 2:45pm On Aug 26, 2020

Hmm

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