Bros, your life doesn't revolve around your dick. Keep that in mind

Back in jss3, I learnt masturbation, I got so addicted that I did it like 7-10 times daily. On weekends with my parents out, and me alone, I used to tear myself and cum to stupor. Yea I'm not ashamed.
But see I've noticed that it weighs you down faster when u feel guilty. I remember it Killing my self esteem, making me unproductive, like my life was totally useless, I didn't think of anything else than satisfying myself.

Getting to university I could not stay with a girl cause after hours of fu_ck, I'd still maturbate to cum. I seeked therapy and bro. It's the best decision I ever made. Bleep I embraced it. I totally stopped feeling guilty about it, instead excitement. At some point, I remembered that I had not masturbated for a week, then I quickly did it. See ba, the last time I did it was in 2019. Since then nothing, cause I suddenly stopped enjoying it. It's worse now cause when I'm Hot I have to find someone to Bleep and it's not easy. Sometimes I play with my dick yes but nothing happens. It's all in your mind bro.

But I noticed why. I didn't have a life. I promise you the moment that you engage yourself, probably sch, career development, volunteer, projects, parties, you'll be good. Always try to involve yourself in long term goals than short term. You don't need to pressure yourself to have friends or be an extrovert. You may even be gay. Just stop judging yourself and you'll be fine. I think the devil uses that as a whip of sort.

Only take advise from people who can relate. Don't try to take antitestestorone drugs. They'll give u boobs and ass. Say goodbye to abs and facial hairs and muscles. Work on your mindset. I see u blabbing sin and Satan. Bros. Your future doesn't revolve around your dick, neither does it revolve around sin or Satan or your pastors laid down rules to salvation. Wake the Bleep up

The first step to freedom is self realization.

I am so happy for you, masturbation has myriad of psychological, biological and emotional problems.

I don't want to go into details but its good you've known it is a silent killer.

What should you do: STOP PORNOGRAPHY, STOP PORNOGRAPHY, STOP PORNOGRAPHY!!!!!!

100% of wankers self-service with pornographic pictures, so to kill the urge, avoid the occasion and source of it

Ghost8889:
Many people are addicted to masturbating, I am addicted to it also...

The whole masturbation thing started when I was around 10, I felt like it's some kind of terrible sin or disease the first time that I did it — and I promised God to never repeat it again, but no matter how I try, It never worked ...

Now my problem is not only the masturbation stuff — but for the fact that I couldn't keep the promise I made to God...

I am so depressed now to the extent that if you are to give me a chance — I would choose to never been in existence

If you have stopped masturbating, please tell me how you did it , tell me what worked out for you please

I've stopped now for over 5 months

Blackurglyboi:
Please don't laugh at my English and I'm not a good writer.

Now I have come to realization that truely masturbation is the greatest addiction ever. I wouldn't like to disclose my name cause of some reaso loves my company.

I have lot of girls as my friends ..
One shared is a problem solved.

Locate and read from page 1, it will be a blessing to you. There is also a WhatsApp group to defeat this.

https://www.nairaland.com/5223408/masturbation-quitting-challenge-thread/400#93644967

Abouwaza:
26 years here bro

Espirit de corp

Get your self busy with a job and it will drive idle mind from you........try not to be all by your self frequently and that will make the thought of watching pornography flee from you......most importantly don't be idle because na idle mind be devil workshop oooooo



A word is enough for the wise

First of all your English isn't bad and your writing is cool.

Getting rid of Masturabtion is a different ball game when it becomes a habit that you can't stay without it. As someone that was in your shoe I tried everything possible but couldn't get rid of it.

I was so frustrated, I hated myself, I feel I'm not worthy enough to the point I stop going to church because the devil will always be there to constantly tell you how sinful you are.

It got to a point that I needed a change so badly but there was none. If I stop for one week I have tried.
Like you my phone browser was porn and I was one of the biggest consumer of pornhub, xnxx, and xvideos.

How did I reduce the urge?

At a point I zero my mind that anything that want to happen should happen I continue my masturabtion but this time I was fully conscious of it and I didn't feel any guilt again.
I start making friends and spending time outdoors. That help to reduce the time I masturbate.

After that I reduce the level of porn intake instead I channel it into something else like research about countries, career and I even started learning Spanish, that alone took my whole being.
Two days pass, week pass I didn't even have the urge to masturbate. That's how I gradually stop it.

If you don't have a girlfriend just get one if not for anything but to get engaged.

Before I drop my pen let me tell you this, it gonna take time so don't rush it.

You can't kill 9 years addiction in few days. If you see yourself masturbating don't be guilty try to do this if you stay for 2 days before you masturbate try extending it to 4 days then 8 days, by doing that you have control over it and it will leave naturally.

Anytime you found yourself masturbating don't hate it, enjoy the process. What you should do is to note what prompted you to do that and work on those weaknesses if you want to keep a journal please do because it will help you to track down your weaknesses and help you improve.

Be positive always and don't feel bad about it, the devil is playing with you also play with him.

If you see yourself masturbating say this words LORD I THANK YOU BECAUSE I SEE MYSELF STOPPING THIS. It's hard and unreal but believe me don't underestimate the power of Positive Words.

Don't stop to bless yourself that is another weapon to fight it.

I'm always here to share and help.

This is my story I don't guarantee that it will work for you but if you put it to consideration it will go along way.

BE POSITIVE, SOON IT WILL BE A THING OF THE PAST.

#graciacs

This The worst advise ever, is he Walking on The right path to progress as your signature implies?

madampresident:
The only reason you're struggling with masturbation is because you see it as a very big deal. You masturbate and the devil sells you guilt.

This is not God now. Take away the guilt. Enjoy your masturbation and watch yourself lose memory to masturbation.

Blackurglyboi:
I can't even talk to a girl anymore I feel I'm not man enough , its a big problem . I do pray I get out of it soon before I took late

challenge yourself

And most of them indulge in it, especially those ones that form hard to get.











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There is no side effect to female masturbation only that they would prefer masturbation to sex.[/quote]

Good one

properties4sale:


Not defeated yet, still battling it. I was able to at a time. Stayed some months without, but relapsed again.

I think it's just a mind thing; if u are determined, u can do it. But you have to be really very disciplined, and insist on being disciplined, try to keep urself busy always and try staying away from pornographic contents... if u can do all this, then it can be defeated.

Blackurglyboi:
Please don't laugh at my English and I'm not a good writer.

Now I have come to realization that truely masturbation is the greatest addiction ever. I wouldn't like to disclose my name cause of some reasons, I would like to keep my identity safe.

It all started far back In 2011 when I was in my jss3, I have been a pretty good boy who loves making friends, I was jovial. I interact with everyone around me and everybody loves my company.

I have lot of girls as my friends ..
One faithful Saturday morning I was having a stroll and I came across a pornography film pack and it has nudes content. It was lying by the road side, I'd picked it up and had a lot at it ..

My fellow nairalanders, that was how my journey started.

I started having the urge for sex. I felt so good giving myself self pleasure, I started masturbating once or twice a week, soon I started getting addicted, anytime I feel alone, the urge comes up and I must attend to it no matter where I am.

I started downloading phonography pictures on my phone. Fast forward to the time I finished my secondary school. It come to my observation I started pulling away from my female friends and I started keeping all to myself. I got some worst to the extent I can't talk to a woman. I started losing my friends. I only had mouth on social media .

Fast forward till today, masturbation have ruined my life totally now I have been so addicted that I get it done twice a day, sometimes I feel hurt and guilty, sometimes I asked myself i I would ever get married or if I can ever love a woman. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself. I do promise my self that I'm gonna leave it but the highest I could go was a week. I don't even have that urge of hitting a woman, in my area as low as 500 you can have sex with a LovePeddler, but even though it is cheap to that extent i Would rather satisfy my self.

Till this day I have been masturbating for 9 years and it's really tearing my life apart.
Now I keep all to myself .. The only two things you could find on my phone browser is narialand and different ponographic sites ...

It hurts me so much, sometimes my friends ask when would I have a girlfriend but I would reply (oboy leave that thing make we make money first woman go come ) but deep down I feel sorry for myself ...

For those who say masturbation isn't a sin, dear friends masturbation I'd a deep sin and when you're addicted to it is very difficult to overcome it .

Please I need your advice, a problem shared is a problem solved.

Hello bro, I understand how you feel. Please read this article here am sure it will help you.

https://theyouthblog.com/2020/09/16/is-masturbation-healthy/

When ever the urge comes, wisper to ur yourself "I will never masturbate" it is working for me, for the past 2 months I have not masturbated but I no longer last when having sex with my partner like before again

Ghost8889:
Many people are addicted to masturbating, I am addicted to it also...

The whole masturbation thing started when I was around 10, I felt like it's some kind of terrible sin or disease the first time that I did it — and I promised God to never repeat it again, but no matter how I try, It never worked ...

Now my problem is not only the masturbation stuff — but for the fact that I couldn't keep the promise I made to God...

I am so depressed now to the extent that if you are to give me a chance — I would choose to never been in existence

If you have stopped masturbating, please tell me how you did it , tell me what worked out for you please

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr

Masturbating is good....it is not a bad thing....

First of all....you need to stop thinking it is a bad thing....so you won't be feeling guilty after masturbating.....

You know the funny thing son.....
When you stop feeling guilty about masturbations and stop seeing it as a bad thing that is the time you start to limit it without you knowing....

A good one there.

MOST men do it. Most just love to pretend about it because of how the society sees it.

I'm married and I still do it. My wife knows, all my friends knows, and I have no shame about it.

Masturbation can save you from banging dirty puss*es and a lot of troubles. It clears the head and is a good relief from stress. Sex is a basic need of man just like food and clothing, so something must be Fu*ked.

Too much of anything is still a problem. That is what needs to be fixed and the OP needs serious help. Find happiness elsewhere, not your dick. Get a life.

It never gets in the way of my relationship with God.

Man wish we could talk more privately, been down this pit before and very well understand your fears and pain...
You need to stop counting the number of days you've been off masturbation cause it constantly keeps your mind on the act itself.
Your lack of erection/gf is caused by extreme self doubt, low self 'estimation', lack of confidence and low testorone due to jacking off often.
I could suggest some books that helped and some tricks I can't share here lol... But fact is, all this wouldn't work if you are not ready to take action.

Only nine years.

This year alone we've had this topic from 5 diffferent guys, dem swear for una? Carry your pipi go butcher shop, cut the thing off if it causes you to sin....GBAM Problem solved

Blackurglyboi:
....its a big sin...

According to?

Konji die-hards

Ghost8889:
First of all, your English isn't bad, and you are a good writer

Thirdly, your advice

Bro listen masturbation is very hard to stop.but for you to get rid of it, firstly, you must avoid been idle,two drop your Android phone for at least 3 months and look for a buttons phone.
Or if you can, avoid subscription of data. When you are lonely in an enclosure read something,if you are a Christian read and pray.
If it disturbs you at night bro knell down and pray while praying you wil fall asleep
Avoid sleeping with your prick touching the bed,
Avoid illicit picture, film, site and stop looking at girls sexy parts twice
Avoid staring at girls Indecent
Because it is the nude pics, videos. That you saw with your eyes will give you the desire to practice
May God deliver you Andn

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr

Masturbating is good....it is not a bad thing....

First of all....you need to stop thinking it is a bad thing....so you won't be feeling guilty after masturbating.....

You know the funny thing son.....
When you stop feeling guilty about masturbations and stop seeing it as a bad thing that is the time you start to limit it without you knowing....

Nairaland needs to sale or dash you out

prince985:
They keep talking about ruin life ruin life how did it ruin or destry anybodys life?

seriously, I want to know how masturbation ruined there life.
is masturbation the reason why you are poor?
is masturbation the reason why you are unemployed?
is masturbation the reason why you not posperous in life?

Special adviser to the president on hand cutting

motionarena:
If your right hand causes you to sin cut it off.

You get d jerk

chideodiba:
When ever the urge comes, wisper to ur yourself "I will never masturbate" it is working for me, for the past 2 months I have not masturbated but I no longer last when having sex with my partner like before again

But no sex nah

Vivian16:
quick cure for masturbation is carry Bible and Rosary in your hands any time you feel the urge and you won't find the hand to masturbate, it doesnt matter wether you are a religious person or not.

some guys dey use anointing oil self....so it depends...Lolz

Ghost8889:
Many people are addicted to masturbating, I am addicted to it also...

The whole masturbation thing started when I was around 10, I felt like it's some kind of terrible sin or disease the first time that I did it — and I promised God to never repeat it again, but no matter how I try, It never worked ...

Now my problem is not only the masturbation stuff — but for the fact that I couldn't keep the promise I made to God...

I am so depressed now to the extent that if you are to give me a chance — I would choose to never been in existence

If you have stopped masturbating, please tell me how you did it , tell me what worked out for you please

Get urself busy doing other things, Masturbation would die a natural death

Ghost8889:
Many people are addicted to masturbating, I am addicted to it also...

The whole masturbation thing started when I was around 10, I felt like it's some kind of terrible sin or disease the first time that I did it — and I promised God to never repeat it again, but no matter how I try, It never worked ...

Now my problem is not only the masturbation stuff — but for the fact that I couldn't keep the promise I made to God...

I am so depressed now to the extent that if you are to give me a chance — I would choose to never been in existence

If you have stopped masturbating, please tell me how you did it , tell me what worked out for you please

Jst get yourself busy ding other things, Masturbation wld die naturally

Blackurglyboi:
Please don't laugh at my English and I'm not a good writer.

Now I have come to realization that truely masturbation is the greatest addiction ever. I wouldn't like to disclose my name cause of some reasons, I would like to keep my identity safe.

It all started far back In 2011 when I was in my jss3, I have been a pretty good boy who loves making friends, I was jovial. I interact with everyone around me and everybody loves my company.

I have lot of girls as my friends ..
One faithful Saturday morning I was having a stroll and I came across a pornography film pack and it has nudes content. It was lying by the road side, I'd picked it up and had a lot at it ..

My fellow nairalanders, that was how my journey started.

I started having the urge for sex. I felt so good giving myself self pleasure, I started masturbating once or twice a week, soon I started getting addicted, anytime I feel alone, the urge comes up and I must attend to it no matter where I am.

I started downloading phonography pictures on my phone. Fast forward to the time I finished my secondary school. It come to my observation I started pulling away from my female friends and I started keeping all to myself. I got some worst to the extent I can't talk to a woman. I started losing my friends. I only had mouth on social media .

Fast forward till today, masturbation have ruined my life totally now I have been so addicted that I get it done twice a day, sometimes I feel hurt and guilty, sometimes I asked myself i I would ever get married or if I can ever love a woman. I feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself. I do promise my self that I'm gonna leave it but the highest I could go was a week. I don't even have that urge of hitting a woman, in my area as low as 500 you can have sex with a LovePeddler, but even though it is cheap to that extent i Would rather satisfy my self.

Till this day I have been masturbating for 9 years and it's really tearing my life apart.
Now I keep all to myself .. The only two things you could find on my phone browser is narialand and different ponographic sites ...

It hurts me so much, sometimes my friends ask when would I have a girlfriend but I would reply (oboy leave that thing make we make money first woman go come ) but deep down I feel sorry for myself ...

For those who say masturbation isn't a sin, dear friends masturbation I'd a deep sin and when you're addicted to it is very difficult to overcome it .

Please I need your advice, a problem shared is a problem solved.

Bros, see this. Very clear, straighforward and detailed. I hope you and others will find it useful. Good luck: https://www.nairaland.com/2077982/side-effects-porn-masturbation-how

Pls talk to your parents it’s okay that way

Blackurglyboi:

I'm desperate to get out of this soon ....I believe I would have to open up to my parents and let them know what I have been going through . cause this is getting me so depressed a lot , I'm still in my teenage age , I'm just 23 and I'm still young to face a this , is better I out a stop to it since I have come to realization.