cooooooks:
What is the difference between undeveloped countries, like our, and others? Grammar. Grammar and action.

Shebi somebody said that if you want to hide something from a Nigerian, put it in a book. We cannot continue to affirm that statement.

Next time someone annoys you, fight them. Even if they are bigger than you, even if they are police, fight them, let your nature reign supreme.

superlightning:


*....and the he jumps to another unwarranted logic*

cjeriia:

Chai..!! E pain you abi

Evolutionlove:


At least 70% of marriages are like this In Shiiithole. This Is the reality of today's marriages In Shiiithole. Forget about the deceptive Smile they both put on when they are In Public......

Martinez39s:
There is trouble for those who don't swallow the red pill and grow some spine. At this point, I will just sit and watch simps, who don't listen, cry.

Martinez39s:
GBAM. As simple as ABC. The OP is not here to think, hear the truth or do the right thing; he is here to seek "solutions" to the irredeemable. As long as he wants to keep kidding himself, he will be deceived by all the simp and foolish advices I am seeing here.

lefulefu:
seriously are u for real? guy tone down on the way u consume zee world movies.zee world is not real life
ABANGWABOI come see matter

Martinez39s:
@GLYCOLYSISS

What's the point of hitting the gym? The wife already sees him as a pathetic and emotional beta who she has ran over. There is no sexual attraction that can be negotiated or spurred in his case; in fact, sexual attraction can't be negotiated and a man who has show himself to be a pathetic beta and doormat to a woman can't be desirable to her again, hardly.

How can a beta to a woman play alpha moves in the other room on that woman? It's impossible. When a beta plays alpha moves, it's irritating, insulting and repulsive to a woman because her mindset will be "who dash monkey banana", her ego can't allow it. Even if the man (the beta) is no longer a beta and has taken the red pill in all its fullness, the same applies as she will still see him as beta trying to play alpha. But a man she had known to be alpha from the onset can make her wet and get away with alpha moves.

That's why you hear core redpillers say "a woman cannot see you as alpha if see has seen you as a beta." Even Ubunja once made a similar statement and advised to start afresh with a new relationship if one is in such position. The highest the OP can do is to stand and ground and make the rules, but the woman will resist strongly. She will only submit and give up the pùssy if she is completely dependent on the man financially and has no where to go, she will do them as a chore devoid of genuine desire and frustration will accumulate over the years. Even at that, if there is a business or inheritance that the woman can take after the death of the husband and that inheritance will settle her for life, the husband will be in danger of being poisoned and somehow killed by the wife.

Martinez39s:
@GLYCOLYSISS

What's the point of hitting the gym? The wife already sees him as a pathetic and emotional beta who she has ran over. There is no sexual attraction that can be negotiated or spurred in his case; in fact, sexual attraction can't be negotiated and a man who has show himself to be a pathetic beta and doormat to a woman can't be desirable to her again, hardly.

How can a beta to a woman play alpha moves in the other room on that woman? It's impossible. When a beta plays alpha moves, it's irritating, insulting and repulsive to a woman because her mindset will be "who dash monkey banana", her ego can't allow it. Even if the man (the beta) is no longer a beta and has taken the red pill in all its fullness, the same applies as she will still see him as beta trying to play alpha. But a man she had known to be alpha from the onset can make her wet and get away with alpha moves.

That's why you hear core redpillers say "a woman cannot see you as alpha if see has seen you as a beta." Even Ubunja once made a similar statement and advised to start afresh with a new relationship if one is in such position. The highest the OP can do is to stand and ground and make the rules, but the woman will resist strongly. She will only submit and give up the pùssy if she is completely dependent on the man financially and has no where to go, she will do them as a chore devoid of genuine desire and frustration will accumulate over the years. Even at that, if there is a business or inheritance that the woman can take after the death of the husband and that inheritance will settle her for life, the husband will be in danger of being poisoned and somehow killed by the wife.

ABANGWABOI:


My Gee...
That guy is Idiotic ..
Imagine all the rules and procedures a Man must pass thru routinely and consistently for his legally married wife to open leg for am..
Many Useless, low self esteem and IQ boys on parade called men..
I spit at this disgusting comment..
Well, the OP is a sissy and weakling like this fool, won't be surprised he considers such a good advice..
They are just a bunch of Assholes..
Can't believe what I just read..
If I have a son that thinks like this.. I would use the Fool for Ritual.. nonsense
.

jimmychang:




....Will you keep quiet ....mouth odour like Buhari's Administration

danilmo:


So because he must have broken someones heart means he must b denied of his marital right?? where is d correlation?? how u Virginia people think self is tiring .

dermmy:


The husband has tried as a man yet the wife remains adamant which is why he has to inform her parents. Mothers are good in handling issues like this. When her mother starts talking senses into her she would have a rethink, words like

"Where did you get this from, i never starved your father of sex i was even the one spoiling him with sex. Do you want a strange woman to take over your home? Do you want another woman to raise your kids? Please pity me i don't want any of my children to have marital problems"

Words like these coming from a loving mother should have effect on her. Do you understand?

Ezi1993:

You just finished taking weed as usual.

NobleDeSage001:
OP, you have not responded to any of the comments dropped for you. But let me assume that you are reading and assimilating all the comments as they drop. It is very heart-breaking and quite pathetic that a young married couple would be facing such challenge as this.

There are a few things we need to examine in this case. You did not give us all the details we need to help us make better inputs. Kindly answer the following questions:

* At what point did you notice your wife's aversion to sex? Before marriage, immediately after marriage, or after child birth?
* Did you ever engage in pre-marital sex with her? What was her attitude towards sex with you then? Was she very receptive of it? Did she crave for the moments to have sex with you then? Some red flags are usually given right before marriage but most people ignore it.
If you can provide answers to the above questions, it may help you get a clue as to where the problem started.

* Were you the first pesron that deflowered your wife or she had another boyfriend before you came along? If she had tasted sex with an ex and it felt better than what you offer her, it could be a possible cause for her attitude presently.
So, what is your game like in terms of sex? Top notch, average or wack? Rate yourself accordingly.
* Has she ever demanded that you perform some sex styles on her which you turned down? Do you even know her sexual fantasies? What turns her on? How does she want you to handle her? Did she at any point ask for head and some other stuffs and you declined?

You mentioned that she asked you to approach your maid and let your steam off with her. Was she serious about this recommendation or was it just something she did in passing? Since it has gotten to this point of she recommending your maid to you, don't you think that she may have lost every sexual attraction she once had for you?
Now this brings me to the point of how you even got married in the first place. Were you the one who found her or was it an arranged marriage? I mean to say if you guys were recommended to each other by family or friends. Did you date her at all and for how long? Dating here is not courtship. I mean did you have a relationship with her before marriage? Did you marry her under pressure? I mean, did her parents force her into marriage? Was she with another guy before her parents forced her to marry you or did you coerce her into marrying you when she had not fully made up her mind? Did she agree to marry you just because you were ready and willing to settle down? Some girls jump into marriage with any willing and ready man only to start resenting the man after the marriage. People should understand that it is not just about who you marry but it is also about the reason you got married. Do not get married if you are not mentally prepared for it.

You said that she no longer cooks for you. This one makes me think that the problem is deeper than what you expect. It is not just about denying you sex but she may no longer be interested in you as her husband. Tell me what a married woman is meant to be doing in her home as a wife if she won't give her husband sex and she won't cook for him. It all means that she has no more regard for the man.

On the other hand, you may have to approach this issue spiritually after you have examined all the above points I outlined carefully. You need to know that life is spirtual and that whatever we see physically is just a resultant manifestation of the things that have happened in the spirit.
I want to write more but let me stop here. If you need further discussions, I am always available.
Peace be with you.

147abbey:
Even during the lockdown,
she didn't consider you too?


Both of you need to consult marriage counseling

moneyshop:
From people's experiences, most marriages do pass through this stage. After first child, there's always this rejection by the woman in MANY marriages.

I don't want you to see this little challenge as if you're passing through hell... No!

It's a phase that will soon pass. Whatever you do or plan doing, don't cheat on her. That will cause the main problem that you think you have now, and then it'll rain brim stones and fire. Be patient.

Don't follow the advice of any unmarried little kid that will come here to shout "SIMP," overlook them, they'll understand when it gets to their turn.

Keep treating your wife well, don't take the car away from her, don't punish her in any way, so long as it's only sex that is the issue, it'll soon pass.

Try and control your sexual urge, whatever you do at this trying time, will decide how peaceful your home will be. Be cool and handle everything in a matured way, she'll change by herself.

Hear me again bro, this too shall pass. It only needs patience.

some50686:
We had fewer sex during lockdown than we had before the lock down. Same tired excuse.

then during lookdown once she wakes up, she bathes for our son and prepare a time table for his food and gives to our maid. After she prepares food for me other times she wont. she would just lock herself in another room and maybe only come out to drink water and take somethin from the fridge. This really annoyed me then to the point, I said going forward no locking of rooms doors. Every door must be left open. She would only come out around 8-9pm when she would make dinner.

Curvinus:


Who is this braindead mofo?

some50686:
To answer some of your questions.

sorry for the late response, been very busy with work.
For those bashing me for doing laundry, it not like i was physically washing clothes. I only put the cloth in the washing machine

one thing am sure of is she is nothing cheating, i just believe the problems are deeper than they seem. she had complained one time that she is beginning to see me as a roommate and not a lover, I told her I would try to be romantic. And i did try to become more romantic. During our honey moon she was the one always even asking for it, She always wanted it and was always in the mood. This issue of sex denial started let say 4 months after our wedding , initially it wasn't this way. I noticed she gradually began to withdraw sexually. When i try to tickle her at night, she would just push me aside and even go to another room to sleep. She didnt conceive immediately we got married and our inlaws were curious and were asking me question. I now use to blackmail her with pregnancy that how would she get pregnant if we dont have sex often. This made her ease off for a while as soon as she conceived. The whole sex denial grew worst in the last one year. I also noticed sometimes when ever we are having sex she refuses to kiss me even when i make attempt to kiss her, its like i disgust her. She also sometimes reminds me of things i do that annoy her when she finally allows me make love.

Well i dont knw if I am the first person to deflower her, she insisted she was a virgin, but i doubt this, what i can say for a fact is she isnt cheating on me. I would say my sex game is average. I tried to peform MouthAction with her ones and she refused and to be honest am not a fan of it, so i dint push further. And she does come most times we have sex.

I would say yes, the issue much be deeper than it looks, we are both working class couples. I know traffic stress can be stressing. But the truth is even the days i initiate sex are not days she goes to work. She earns pretty well,(300k) although i earn more than her. When we started our latest quarrel, she doesn't greet me any more or even cook for me. Although i noticed this morning she came to the room i now sleep in, and picked the bedsheet and clothes. The last time we had quarreled when she told me to go meet the maid she also said she earns well and i cant starve her financially. I just think she doesnt love me or respect me enough. Truth was i never tried to starve her then, i was totally shocked by that statement. She has said alot of shocking and hateful stuff to me which do hurt me, but i just controlled myself and push them aside . I believe a man is the driver of a home, if the marriage fails or works he is responsible, divorce is on the table but it is the last resort. I personally wont consider this, except my wife cheats on me. I believe a man should be wiser and be patient with as lady are always emotional. The issue now is am the one dying in silence. I have eating outside now for like a week.

She also has her good sides, in the sense that even though am the bread winner and provide for the house, whenever there is need for her to support financially she plays this role without hesitation. she is also a good mum to her son. There was a time i embarked on a project that held all my funds, I asked her to drop some money for a things she did without hesitation.



The spiritual side of things is the most confusing, we both come from spiritually strong backgrounds, although this my wife reads bible daily even pushes both of us to pray and night. [s]I normally remind her that why has she always disregarded that part of the bible that talks about sex between couples[/s]. She always stylishly avoids the discussion.[s] These days i have refused to go with her to church, it doesnt make any sense. Why should i be pretending to be happy when we are not obeying the scriptures. [/s]

No we did not have sex before marraige, she insisted on no sex before marriage, the best we did was smooch a couples of time nothing more.

Femzaremz:
wow! So u earn more than 300 grand and u are still being sex starved? Even me dat earns less than a quarter of dat amount dey fire more than 5 times in a month! With d numba of hungry girls in dis country sex should not be a problem for u! I think ur religious upbringing is binding u to accept this silly behavior unleashed upon u by ur wife! I will advise u to call her bluff and openly cheat on her afterall she caused it! This will open her eyes and might even redeem ur dilapidated image in her eyes!i implore u to carry out this advice without any form of guilt because she caused everythin tnxx!!

djon78:



Hmm this goes in very deep
I think she never loved you that much
Also you never knew each other much

As per Christianity
She may just be religious
Or maybe still a shallow Christian
Or she used Christianity for cover up
Because a true Christian
Follows the dictates of the Bible
Walks in love
And love involves ensuring the well being of our partners

Maybe you should consult a counselor, your pastor
Or the marriage committee that
Screened you guys

In addition or even first of all
Pray and ask God for wisdom on handling this issue
Because deep down it boils down to your wife's personality
Her make up as a person
Maybe even things she developed while growing up

Human beings are very deep and complex
You may say you know someone
But you never really knew that person
Some are fortunate
They end up with people that have got there ship.ts together
While some others are unfortunate
They end up with people that are extremely complex
This is the reason for many unstable homes today

May God help you in this cross you are carrying!!!!

some50686:
To answer some of your questions.

sorry for the late response, been very busy with work.
For those bashing me for doing laundry, it not like i was physically washing clothes. I only put the cloth in the washing machine

one thing am sure of is she is nothing cheating, i just believe the problems are deeper than they seem. she had complained one time that she is beginning to see me as a roommate and not a lover, I told her I would try to be romantic. And i did try to become more romantic. During our honey moon she was the one always even asking for it, She always wanted it and was always in the mood. This issue of sex denial started let say 4 months after our wedding, initially it wasn't this way. I noticed she gradually began to withdraw sexually. When i try to tickle her at night, she would just push me aside and even go to another room to sleep. She didnt conceive immediately we got married and our inlaws were curious and were asking me question. I now use to blackmail her with pregnancy that how would she get pregnant if we dont have sex often. This made her ease off for a while as soon as she conceived. The whole sex denial grew worst in the last one year. I also noticed sometimes when ever we are having sex she refuses to kiss me even when i make attempt to kiss her, its like i disgust her. She also sometimes reminds me of things i do that annoy her when she finally allows me make love.

Well i dont knw if I am the first person to deflower her, she insisted she was a virgin, but i doubt this, what i can say for a fact is she isnt cheating on me. I would say my sex game is average. I tried to peform MouthAction with her ones and she refused and to be honest am not a fan of it, so i dint push further. And she does come most times we have sex.

I would say yes, the issue much be deeper than it looks, we are both working class couples. I know traffic stress can be stressing. But the truth is even the days i initiate sex are not days she goes to work. She earns pretty well,(300k) although i earn more than her. When we started our latest quarrel, she doesn't greet me any more or even cook for me. Although i noticed this morning she came to the room i now sleep in, and picked the bedsheet and clothes. The last time we had quarreled when she told me to go meet the maid she also said she earns well and i cant starve her financially. I just think she doesnt love me or respect me enough. Truth was i never tried to starve her then, i was totally shocked by that statement. She has said alot of shocking and hateful stuff to me which do hurt me, but i just controlled myself and push them aside. I believe a man is the driver of a home, if the marriage fails or works he is responsible, divorce is on the table but it is the last resort. I personally wont consider this, except my wife cheats on me. I believe a man should be wiser and be patient with as lady are always emotional. The issue now is am the one dying in silence. I have eating outside now for like a week.

She also has her good sides, in the sense that even though am the bread winner and provide for the house, whenever there is need for her to support financially she plays this role without hesitation. she is also a good mum to her son. There was a time i embarked on a project that held all my funds, I asked her to drop some money for a things she did without hesitation.



The spiritual side of things is the most confusing, we both come from spiritually strong backgrounds, although this my wife reads bible daily even pushes both of us to pray and night. I normally remind her that why has she always disregarded that part of the bible that talks about sex between couples. She always stylishly avoids the discussion. These days i have refused to go with her to church, it doesnt make any sense. Why should i be pretending to be happy when we are not obeying the scriptures.

No we did not have sex before marraige, she insisted on no sex before marriage, the best we did was smooch a couples of time nothing more.

some50686:
We had fewer sex during lockdown than we had before the lock down. Same tired excuse.

then during lookdown once she wakes up, she bathes for our son and prepare a time table for his food and gives to our maid. After she prepares food for me other times she wont. she would just lock herself in another room and maybe only come out to drink water and take somethin from the fridge. This really annoyed me then to the point, I said going forward no locking of rooms doors. Every door must be left open. She would only come out around 8-9pm when she would make dinner.