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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Magnoliaa(f): 2:30pm On Jan 18
DrDax:


Armchair philosophers grin

Do as I say, Not as I do.

Human behaviour is too random and extraneous for your postulation.

Come back in 50 years to update us on how your "polygamy" went. grin

Aswear. grin Everything no pass online mateeria. I hope he's prepared for his numerous wives harming and killing their children to get his attention, as he obviously believe women do.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Magnoliaa(f): 2:35pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


With polygamy, there would be rivalry. Each woman would double up on her efforts to keep more of their mutual husband's attention. There will also always be a nagging feeling that another wife is getting more sex than her, and this will trigger the wife to try to get even more from the husband (keeping a greater share of the market so to speak). Finally, a woman always finds a man infinitely more attractive when he is not readily available to her beck and call; and it also triggers their possessiveness when other available females find him attractive. All these complexities will work in his favour.

A woman in a female herd does not think the same way as a woman with exclusive attention to a man. Polygamy is a woman leveller and destroys all their transactional techniques; that is why women hate it. It is like the difference between a customer's options in a monopoly and in a free market; the man being the customer in this case.

Cheating wives and DNA saga has proven this "faithfulness to a single providing man" thingy wrong, sha. Let's assume other men have wealth in abundance and are not married, instead of the women worrying their heads over the number of sex another wife gets and the attention the man gives them, they'd simply find a young lover/sugar daddy to give them the maximum comfort.

There. They get loads of sex and loads of provision from different men that are asking them out. Nobody loses.

Oh, and feminism is the sexes leveler. Relationships aren't buying and selling to every human.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 2:38pm On Jan 18
StacyO:


You watch porn a lot,don't you?

You think by having multiple sexual partners,you get to satisfy that urge. NO

Buying provision,attention and commitment, you ain't talking about real love.
For you to buy something means that it's value will only depreciate when the said amount has been exhausted and when it's no longer in use.

Don't deceive yourself and others,if you choose to go into polygamy,go into it.
Stop twisting narratives.



**Men buy sex with love and women buy love with sex** Lol
This is the funniest thing I've read so far on nairaland.

Lol. Don't answer a question with another question. It's polite to answer first before asking yours.

Actually, no. I truly despise porn. It doesn't arouse me in the least, and I don't like looking at men's private parts.

You do tend to get more sex and other benefits than when you marry only one.

That's because I haven't fallen for that myth called 'real love' since I was, like 15. It doesn't exist outside the pages of M&B or the fabricated narrations in Telemundo; which by the way, were specially created to excite female audiences.

And not everything depreciates, but you are right in one respect. The value of a husband and especially a wife, do depreciate over time. When the husband becomes unproductive (and the wife abandons him in favour of her children; currently acceptable to society) and when a wife is too old and unsexy (and the husband abandons her in favour of a second wife or a sugar daughter; none of which is currently acceptable to society). But the husband can mitigate his future lack of productivity through sensible investment. As for the wife, there's only so much plastic surgery and tummy tucks she can do. Ao while men may depreciate, women always certainly do.

I am not deceiving myself or others. If you have something proving that polygamy is a bad solution to the present day one-sided marital dynamics which favour women overwhelmingly, then out with it. If not, desist from making false assertions on the assumption that the audience is dumb and will see me as deceiving myself and them only on your mere say-so.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Mutaultope(m): 2:55pm On Jan 18
Hassanmaye:
How many children do you have

3kids

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by luminouz(m): 2:57pm On Jan 18
Magnoliaa:


Cheating wives and DNA saga has proven this "faithfulness to a single providing man" thingy wrong, sha. Let's assume other men have wealth in abundance and are not married, instead of the women worrying their heads over the number of sex another wife gets and the attention the man gives them, they'd simply find a young lover/sugar daddy to give them the maximum comfort.

There. They get loads of sex and loads of provision from different men that are asking them out. Nobody loses.

Oh, and feminism is the sexes leveler. Relationships aren't buying and selling to every human.

Leave him alone. He ain't marrying his two wives with your money

Aunty feminist, Magnolia Leveler the First!!! grin

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by IGoComotYaTeeth: 3:00pm On Jan 18
When it comes to sex I trust Nigerians, they will flood the thread ehnnn mtttcheww

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by IGoComotYaTeeth: 3:01pm On Jan 18
This thing has gotten to 19 pages nawao

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by PoeticMind: 3:05pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


That is only because you have been exposed to a barrage of misinformation from all sides; Hollywood, Nollywood, relationship advice, etc. If you had voiced out your doubts about polygamy to your grandfather, he would have probably laughed out loud in your face and told you stories about the advantages. That is when men were men and knew that they were all cut out for polygamy (or they were considered effeminate).

Communicate away bro, communicate away. You asked for solutions and I told you what works. But you are free to try out what you like for as long as you want to. Just remember the only working solution; for when you have to get back to it at last.

I will keep my thoughts on the solutions you preferred and rather commend the strength of your deductive reasoning as well as the relative ease with which you communicate your ideas. You have a well cultivated mind!
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 3:09pm On Jan 18
PoeticMind:


I will keep my thoughts on the solutions you preferred and rather commend the strength of your deductive reasoning as well as the relative ease with which you communicate your ideas. You have a well cultivated mind!

Thank you.

Would be interested in hearing some intelligent thoughts on my proffered solutions though. It will probably be a change from all the snide abuse that people; especially females; generally respond with.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by nineone(m): 3:14pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


Women enjoy sex, but it is more valuable to them as currency to buy commitment. And the fact that sex reduces drastically post marriage; except in very rare cases, and practically always because the wife doesn't want it as often; proves that they may not like it as often as men do. Most husbands are willing to have sex everyday. It would be a rare wife who would accommodate that for any prolonged period of time.
who did the research to arrive at statistics that women stop craving for sex after marriage? In the real world, we see more women going for sugar boys and having issues with their husbands because they're not getting bleeped enough by their husbands.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 3:17pm On Jan 18
nineone:
who did the research to arrive at statistics that women stop craving for sex after marriage? In the real world, we see more women going for sugar boys and having issues with their husbands because they're not getting bleeped enough by their husbands.

At the bolded. Who said such a thing?

If you think I said it, please cite the exact statement. I believe you might have misunderstood something.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Zionman24: 3:21pm On Jan 18
A very interesting topic. The nonchalant way of life is very applicable to both parties. However, Serval women became very complacent the moment they completes the process of marriage. By so doing , sex becomes secondary's to their agenda knowing this was one of the very essential commodities to their husband. You wonder why so many marriage have failed and many more on the rocks. And it's rampant the moment children starts coming. They always have one excuse or the other as why they can't have sex, by so doing the man becomes very agitated and threatening to leave. The funny part is, most of these women knew exactly what they're doing because the moment that marriage fails, regardless of how many children they have, they're back to their normal self, going out and having sex as regular because they want to win another man. Our minds and hearts are very funny.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by litaninja(m): 3:28pm On Jan 18
Solution?
Ilekokonit:
Most black women lose interest in sex after 2 kids.

It could be because some were circumcised and so do not have the most sensitive part of their Instruments intact anymore. Their clitoris may have been chopped off. The clitoris is meant to be like a mini penis that gets engorged with blood when aroused and it has a cap like the penis and so just like a man whose penile cap has been chopped off may never reach orgasm, likewise a woman whose entire clitoris has been hacked off may never achieve orgasm ans so sex to such damaged women is like a chore as they don't enjoy it and only engage in it to trap a man for marriage and kids.

Also, one of the major causes why black women lose interest in sex after 2 kids is because after each child birth, black women damage the lining of their vaginas by steaming it with boiling water when they sit on potties filled with boiling water, herbs and Dettol all in the name of healing the insides of their reproductive tract. This has the effect of cooking the insides of their vagina to a point where they no longer have much feeling in their vagina as the sensitive nerves in their vagina has been damaged beyond repair and because they can not feel anything in their vagina (barring a horse dick), they shy away from sex which they no longer enjoy because they have with their own hands damaged their own vagina.

This is before factoring in that after 2 kids, their vaginas has been stretched / widened and at times torn by a difficult child birth and so with them now boiling their vaginas by sitting of a potty filled with boiling water, the result is that their vaginas are no longer fit for purpose as they can no longer feel their husbands dick and they then start using sex as a weapon by denying the man sex and so the man has no choice and decides to satisfy his natural urges outside with a woman who gives him sexual healing and also treats him better than his wife who by now is only interested in the kids and loves neglecting her husbands needs.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by nineone(m): 3:32pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


At the bolded. Who said such a thing?
you did. Read your previous comment. That's the claim you based your argument on
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 3:34pm On Jan 18
nineone:
you did. Read your previous comment. That's the claim you based your argument on

Please cite the exact statement I made. I think you might have misunderstood something else.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 3:35pm On Jan 18
DrDax:


Armchair philosophers grin

Do as I say, Not as I do.

Human behaviour is too random and extraneous for your postulation.

Come back in 50 years to update us on how your "polygamy" went. grin


I must confess that it is armchair, since my conclusion is based only on observation of my grandparents and a few friends. However, observation is a scientifically valid means of obtaining data.

Human behaviour is more homogenous than we care to admit. If it wasn't, sciences like psychology and psychiatry would be useless. Clearly, they aren't.

I will, by the end of this year, all things being equal. Remind me to update you. I would never preach something that I'm not ready to practise.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 3:41pm On Jan 18
Magnoliaa:


Between Christ and Solomon, who is worthy of more emulation? The person wey give wisdom, abi the person wey dem give? The pure one redeeming the sinner - or the other way round?

If any Christian should emulate anybody, Christ tops. Died a virgin, focused on purpose, SIMP, because yeah, if we are to analyze his behaviors, he'd pass for the person y'all call simps. And finally, he respected and elevated women.

Again, stop yarning okoto meow meow.

could u cite one example when Jesus acted simp like?
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Munzy14(m): 3:45pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


With polygamy, there would be rivalry. Each woman would double up on her efforts to keep more of their mutual husband's attention. There will also always be a nagging feeling that another wife is getting more sex than her, and this will trigger the wife to try to get even more from the husband (keeping a greater share of the market so to speak). Finally, a woman always finds a man infinitely more attractive when he is not readily available to her beck and call; and it also triggers their possessiveness when other available females find him attractive. All these complexities will work in his favour.

A woman in a female herd does not think the same way as a woman with exclusive attention to a man. Polygamy is a woman leveller and destroys all their transactional techniques; that is why women hate it. It is like the difference between a customer's options in a monopoly and in a free market; the man being the customer in this case.
On point....
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Munzy14(m): 3:47pm On Jan 18
mariahAngel:


This has crackhaus written all over it!
Detective...grin

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by mariahAngel: 4:06pm On Jan 18
Munzy14:

Detective...grin


Well, judging by the almost 30 likes that comment got, I wasn't the only one who thought so... cheesy

Ihe m jus wu wu onu n'ekwutere oha grin
Na aka n'edetere oha kwa.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 4:08pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


Lol. Don't answer a question with another question. It's polite to answer first before asking yours.

Actually, no. I truly despise porn. It doesn't arouse me in the least, and I don't like looking at men's private parts.

You do tend to get more sex and other benefits than when you marry only one.

That's because I haven't fallen for that myth called 'real love' since I was, like 15. It doesn't exist outside the pages of M&B or the fabricated narrations in Telemundo; which by the way, were specially created to excite female audiences.

And not everything depreciates, but you are right in one respect. The value of a husband and especially a wife, do depreciate over time. When the husband becomes unproductive (and the wife abandons him in favour of her children; currently acceptable to society) and when a wife is too old and unsexy (and the husband abandons her in favour of a second wife or a sugar daughter; none of which is currently acceptable to society). But the husband can mitigate his future lack of productivity through sensible investment. As for the wife, there's only so much plastic surgery and tummy tucks she can do. Ao while men may depreciate, women always certainly do.

I am not deceiving myself or others. If you have something proving that polygamy is a bad solution to the present day one-sided marital dynamics which favour women overwhelmingly, then out with it. If not, desist from making false assertions on the assumption that the audience is dumb and will see me as deceiving myself and them only on your mere say-so.

I'm not a fan of telemundo or zee world either.

@last paragraph, any man who cannot deal with having one wife,how then can he deal with having more than two wives?

Polygamy on it's own has so many disadvantages of which conflict is one of em.
Our forefathers never thought of marrying more than one wife and only took another wife if in any case the first wife wasn't able to birth a child.

Solomon himself took more than one wife and you know the outcome of it.

Moreover,you don't need a soothsayer to tell you the consequences of marrying more than one wife nowadays.

If you can't be able to proved solutions in your marriage with one woman,trust me when I say you won't be able to do so when you have more than one wife to deal with.


Read up the link below anyway,it might be of help.

https://www.nairaland.com/6307247/when-say-lady-loose-vagina

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 4:18pm On Jan 18
StacyO:


I'm not a fan of telemundo or zee world either.

Good. Then stop using their talking points.


StacyO:

@last paragraph, any man who cannot deal with having one wife,how then can he deal with having more than two wives?

Polygamy on it's own has so many disadvantages of which conflict is one of em.
Our forefathers never thought of marrying more than one wife and only took another wife if in any case the first wife wasn't able to birth a child.

Solomon himself took more than one wife and you new the outcome of it.

Moreover,you don't need a soothsayer to tell you the consequences of marrying more than one wife nowadays.

Of course, polygamy is not for every man. Some men are too weak to control conflict. Some also create the conflict by housing the whole family in one house...recipe for disaster. I aim to keep mine as far apart as possible. Aside from family conflicts, you have not presented any tangible opposition to polygamy. I don't personally believe in the veracity of the Bible, but going by the narrative, Solomon failed to keep his spirituality from his marital life. He only failed because he became servile to one or more of his wives and tried to please them. He failed because he simped, not because he married many.

StacyO:

If you can't be able to proved solutions in your marriage with one woman,trust me when I say you won't be able to do so when you have more than one wife to deal with.

Different problems come with different solutions. In the case of getting insufficient sex, there are no other solutions except going outside and polygamy. I cannot endorse the former, hence the latter.


StacyO:

Read up the link below anyway,it might be of help.

https://www.nairaland.com/6307247/when-say-lady-loose-vagina

It didn't change my mind if that's what you're thinking.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Jazzman01: 4:23pm On Jan 18
bizme:
Better pass food sef. :-D


Forget that woman @ CalliDora1 she is one of those genitally mutilated (circumcised) women who do NOT and can NOT enjoy sex. They can't understand the pleasure men derive from it.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Magnoliaa(f): 4:23pm On Jan 18
luminouz:


Leave him alone. He ain't marrying his two wives with your money

Aunty feminist, Magnolia Leveler the First!!! grin

That boy(yes, boy!) too dey yarn dust. So much for priding himself on objectivity and "reality."

And he should leave women's bodies and decisions and emotions alone. How e take affect him? Online wealthy patriarch.


Richandcuteguy:


could u cite one example when Jesus acted simp like?

Who you?
Taleleyi?
Kileleyi? undecided

Where did you cut and come from? Dapcity, abi blurdysperm?? I know you're the only guy on this forum that's been spoiling for "an argument" with me.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Babanah: 4:36pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


Women use sex to buy love. Men use love to buy sex. Like any economic transaction each party is looking to find a bargain, i.e. spend the minimum amount of their currency to purchase the maximum amount of the service they need. So once women have gotten the man's commitment, they will thereafter spend as little sex as is necessary to keep him from straying to another market. Whereas, once a man has acquired the woman's sexual favours, he will spend the minimum amount of love and commitment to keep her from withholding them. The best solution is to marry more than one wife. Thereafter, they can share the sexual burden among themselves, and the man can pretend to love all of them equally and share a little of his attention among each of them; satisfying all parties involved.

Factoid of life. Free of charge for you.

You are indeed a genius.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by adadike(f): 4:40pm On Jan 18
ArcFresky:


You mean can she stay faithful to me?
can a man ever stay faithful ,even with a nymph
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by luminouz(m): 5:02pm On Jan 18
Magnoliaa:


That boy(yes, boy!) too dey yarn dust. So much for priding himself on objectivity and "reality."

And he should leave women's bodies and decisions and emotions alone. How e take affect him? Online wealthy patriarch.




Who you?
Taleleyi?
Kileleyi? undecided

Where did you cut and come from? Dapcity, abi blurdysperm?? I know you're the only guy on this forum that's been spoiling for "an argument" with me.

Na only you Dem attack like this?

Make I run leave you with them o

.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by luminouz(m): 5:08pm On Jan 18
StacyO:


I'm not a fan of telemundo or zee world either.

@last paragraph, any man who cannot deal with having one wife,how then can he deal with having more than two wives?

Polygamy on it's own has so many disadvantages of which conflict is one of em.
Our forefathers never thought of marrying more than one wife and only took another wife if in any case the first wife wasn't able to birth a child.

Solomon himself took more than one wife and you new the outcome of it.

Moreover,you don't need a soothsayer to tell you the consequences of marrying more than one wife nowadays.

If you can't be able to proved solutions in your marriage with one woman,trust me when I say you won't be able to do so when you have more than one wife to deal with.


Read up the link below anyway,it might be of help.

https://www.nairaland.com/6307247/when-say-lady-loose-vagina

That paragraph of 'our forefathers n very thought of marrying....bla bla bla' is very wrong.

Where did you get that stuff from? They married as they wanted,not only due to childbirth but na symbol of affluence
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by niyidenrele: 5:16pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


Women use sex to buy love. Men use love to buy sex. Like any economic transaction each party is looking to find a bargain, i.e. spend the minimum amount of their currency to purchase the maximum amount of the service they need. So once women have gotten the man's commitment, they will thereafter spend as little sex as is necessary to keep him from straying to another market. Whereas, once a man has acquired the woman's sexual favours, he will spend the minimum amount of love and commitment to keep her from withholding them. The best solution is to marry more than one wife. Thereafter, they can share the sexual burden among themselves, and the man can pretend to love all of them equally and share a little of his attention among each of them; satisfying all parties involved.

Factoid of life. Free of charge for you.
You made me to remember one of the online site I burged into at a time I found it very difficult to approach and woo a girl , I have forgotten the name of the site now , and the editor, a very intelligent one among many . He approached this above issues by saying, the best way is to keep a woman on her toes , in fact there are many ways you can try this , don't ask me ,... I can tell you have tested it and it works like magic
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Udokamadi(f): 5:16pm On Jan 18
Kingosytex:


I think you meant cheats.

We share same belief, I detest cheats with passion, I have absolutely no second chance to give them.
Cheats is correct in British English, cheaters is correct in American and Australian English, my guy English is English, if it weren't correct, a phone's dictionary wouldn't bring it up the minute you type Chea...
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Hndrrxxx(m): 5:23pm On Jan 18
Oh tryna diss Hendrix that will prolly get you killed??
bizme:
A little punctuation might have helped the point you were trying to make.

Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by mariahAngel: 5:23pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


With polygamy, there would be rivalry. Each woman would double up on her efforts to keep more of their mutual husband's attention. There will also always be a nagging feeling that another wife is getting more sex than her, and this will trigger the wife to try to get even more from the husband (keeping a greater share of the market so to speak). Finally, a woman always finds a man infinitely more attractive when he is not readily available to her beck and call; and it also triggers their possessiveness when other available females find him attractive. All these complexities will work in his favour.

A woman in a female herd does not think the same way as a woman with exclusive attention to a man. Polygamy is a woman leveller and destroys all their transactional techniques; that is why women hate it. It is like the difference between a customer's options in a monopoly and in a free market; the man being the customer in this case.

These are just fantasies and wishful thinking which might work only if the woman is emotionally attached to you. Certainly would not just work on any emotionally intelligent woman.
What do men take women for? Puppets?
Why would I want to waste my emotional energy on a man who does not give back the same emotional energy? Why would I want to keel myself over to please him?
If I dedicate myself to cater to you, I expect that you do same, otherwise it's a waste of my emotional energy.
God Almighty who created the institution of marriage only recognizes one wife for every man, otherwise, it is anything but a marriage.
As long as men would want to create their own rules, they should also always be prepared for whatever outcome they encounter.

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