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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Kalatium(m): 12:56pm On Jan 18
kiddkash:

you're 70% right
I am satisfied you said 70% cos other factors add to it.

The question that should be asked is have you noticed that when a woman then suddenly starts cheating she tend to start having constant sex with her new lover despite having kids already.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 12:57pm On Jan 18
Magnoliaa:


Lmaoooo. Who gave Solomon wisdom na? No be the God wey give up his son? Christ followed what God wanted - Someone wiser than Solomon is.

This is in a Christian context and you were addressing Christians... Christ OBVIOUSLY knows, etc., better than Solomon. And Christ was pure till the end.

Whatever pastas do ain't none of my biz. Who is the model we should emulate? Christ, Daddy GOs, Abraham, Solomon, Paul?

Marrying ain't requirement in the Bible. So yeah, dying as a virgin or an eunuch ain't wrong.

Christ knew, yet he gave Solomon the wisdom to marry many wives. By Christian belief, Christ is not a man, so his standard can never be attainable. But he imbued Solomon; a man like us; with the wisdom to practise hyper polygamy.

Pastors are supposedly inspired by the holy spirit who is also a god according to Christian theology.

I didn't say it was a requirement. I said that the wisest man in the Bible practised polygamy. Therefore, there must be something good going for it.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Arsenate(m): 12:58pm On Jan 18
yeman1:
Honestly ,it's only God can save us in this marriage. I remembered my neighbor fights almost everyday , wife do complain body pains every time cos of house chores which made her to reject her husband every time. So husband decided to be doing all the house chores but she still denied him of sex, then the man employ house help to do everything at home, but she refused the man still. She said she doesn't have urge , then the man said sometimes she gives her head , romance her and all sorts just to let her calm but she refused oh. So the man said he wants to divorce her with 2 children. So what do you think about this one ?
But I was told here by the relationship gurus in the family section, notably Hathor5, that women just need someone to help out with the chores and watch them never reject sexual advances from their men. cheesy
So much for their love for sex they cook up all sorts of excuses to never have it with the men who commit to them.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Kalatium(m): 12:59pm On Jan 18
CalliDora1:
undecided
Na food?

On a more serious note though, I think what usually causes it is, the woman is most times overwhelmed with the wifely duties at the homefront. in the process she's expended therefore sex will be the last thing on her mind as the passion for it will have died from exaustion from doing chores. If you observed, it usually happens after the kids have started coming and the workload has increased.

If the man can make arrangements for a house help ( not necessarily a live-in help) to assist with the
chores, the woman will be more relaxed to reason sex as it's only a relaxed mind that can get a woman in the mood tongue.



While i agree with what you said this only about 50% of the case.


There is more to that, there are other factors.

Have you noticed that when a woman suddenly starts cheating (for whatever reasons) she tends to start having constant sex with her new lover despite having kids already. While preventing the Husband from having sex with her?

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by trilobite: 1:00pm On Jan 18
Hathor5:


Women should avoid these men and be confident about their sexuality to find men who actually match their needs. Many men out there appreciate it when their wives have a healthy sexual appetite and it's only those men women can be at ease and explore their sexuality freely with, which is a beautiful thing and keeps the marriage strong.

Problem is that "These men" are in the majority. Many African bachelors would have sex with a sexually exposed woman, and marry the village virgin.

Slut shaming reigns supreme on the African continent.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by ebby9z(m): 1:01pm On Jan 18
Marriage is the ultimate validation for women. Once they have it, they stop making efforts to please you. Everything comes before you: the kids, her job, her family. Everything. Women aren't as sexual as men, despite their repeated claim that it is so.

I'm not married yet but I'm already facing this in my relationship. Before, my girlfriend to be very eager about sex. She used to initiate and was always very enthusiastic. That was when she was wary of me having other girls. I'm comfortable, good looking and find it easy to get girls.

But I allowed her come around too often and now she feels she has had me 100% because she now has clothes here. Naturally, her sex drive has dipped. She no longer feels she needs to 'try' anymore. She's now too comfortable.

Lol.

She has no idea.

We aren't even married yet, sex is already suffering because of small closeness. Now imagine I give in to her pressure of marriage and marry her. And they wonder why men cheat in marriage.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Hathor5(f): 1:05pm On Jan 18
trilobite:


Problem is that "These men" are in the majority. Many African bachelors would have sex with a sexually exposed woman, and marry the village virgin.

Slut shaming reigns supreme on the African continent.

I am not so sure about the majority part but it's possible to find a good match. What makes it impossible though is to pretend to be what you are not.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Magnoliaa(f): 1:10pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


Christ knew, yet he gave Solomon the wisdom to marry many wives. By Christian belief, Christ is not a man, so his standard can never be attainable. But he imbued Solomon; a man like us; with the wisdom to practise hyper polygamy.

Pastors are supposedly inspired by the holy spirit who is also a god according to Christian theology.

I didn't say it was a requirement. I said that the wisest man in the Bible practised polygamy. Therefore, there must be something good going for it.

Good. God knows. And he didn't give Christ the "wisdom" to do any how.

What God gave Solomon was his to do anything with. So, God also gave him the wisdom to build temples to other gods as he departed from Him and ruined Isreal?

Lmaoo. What exactly are the human attributes Christ possess that are unattainable? Singleness? Compassion? Dedicated life in service to God?

Okay... At least you know the Holy Spirit gives us the ability to do anything... so there we can very much emulate Him to the highest standards as born agains.

Supposedly? Okay. Not addressing that.

And I said the son of the Person who gave Solomon wisdom didn't practice polygamy.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by luminouz(m): 1:10pm On Jan 18
yeman1:


he he he ! it should be on her term, if not na rape she go shout oh grin

Peace or what did you say ? only God can give you peace my dear. sometimes I dont wanna come home he he

U dey try Bros!!!


I no fit do am
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by yeman1(m): 1:11pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


I understand your position, though I don't really support extra marital affairs. I think it's far better to make it official and give the outside lady all her full right to recognition. What if she gets pregnant for example? I don't really endorse this exploitation of women for sex without marrying them.

use protection .. but come think of it,, why women denied their husband sex all the time despite provided all she needed ? Sometimes we can reach an agreement maybe 4 times a month is still a problem said by my neighbor but she would complain. Some women saw sex as procreation and nothing more. This is bad. After chasing their husband out then to get him back won't be easy.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by yeman1(m): 1:13pm On Jan 18
luminouz:


U dey try Bros!!!


I no fit do am

grin grin grin you go do am for your kids. at least for sometimes , then if there was no any changes then you can follow your mind
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Hathor5(f): 1:13pm On Jan 18
Arsenate:

But I was told here by the relationship gurus in the family section, notably Hathor5, that women just need someone to help out with the chores and watch them never reject sexual advances from their men. cheesy
So much for their love for sex they cook up all sorts of excuses to never have it with the men who commit to them.

Something tells me you are neither married nor have you ever had a long-term committed relationship.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 1:14pm On Jan 18
Magnoliaa:


Good. God knows. And he didn't give Christ the "wisdom" to do any how.

What God gave Solomon was his to do anything with. So, God also gave him the wisdom to build temples to other gods as he departed from Him and ruined Isreal?

Lmaoo. What exactly are the human attributes Christ possess that are unattainable? Singleness? Compassion? Dedicated life in service to God?

Okay... At least you know the Holy Spirit gives us the ability to do anything... so there we can very much emulate Him to the highest standards as born agains.

Supposedly? Okay. Not addressing that.

And I said the son of the Person who gave Solomon wisdom didn't practice polygamy.

You are confusing yourself and I. Christ = God no? So God didn't give Christ anything. Wisdom includes an ability to discern between right and wrong, no?

Then either the Bible lied when it stated that God/Christ gave Solomon the greatest of wisdom, or the greatest wisdom God/Christ bestowed upon Solomon was terribly flawed.

Divine power to control his sexual libido.

Emulate god? So when are you going to start creating your own universe in 6/7 days?
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 1:18pm On Jan 18
yeman1:


use protection .. but come think of it,, why women denied their husband sex all the time despite provided all she needed ? Sometimes we can reach an agreement maybe 4 times a month is still a problem said by my neighbor but she would complain. Some women saw sex as procreation and nothing more. This is bad. After chasing their husband out then to get him back won't be easy.

Read my first comment. Women use the promise of regular sex to attract a mate. Once the mate is attracted and hooked through a marriage contract, there is no need to keep up the pretence. Marrying a second, third wife will give you all the sex you want. 4 times monthly × 3 wives = 12 times monthly; a manageable figure.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Magnoliaa(f): 1:20pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


You watch Mexican and Turkish love dramas a lot don't you?

By love, I obviously wasn't referring to the romantic hocus pocus that women read about in chick flits and which doesn't exist. I was talking about real love; which is attention, commitment and provision. Yes, you can absolutely use sex to buy that. Men don't want your 'love' either. They want sex, respect and deference/submission. Yes, they can use money to buy that too.

Polygamous homes can be joyful ones if you keep to the rules, and if the man is emotionally and financially capable. Ask Ned Nwoko's wives.

And what will you make of friends with benefits? Or in a case where the guy is "playing" or deceiving the girl and she kept hoping the sex will keep him? Prostituted women do not get attention, commitment and provision (whatever those mean) from the men that use their bodies

Second bolded: so it's all just a big probability, dependent on certain factors then? IF.

Also, I remember, didn't you say one time that emotions aren't the forte of a man? undecided

Maybe you should go ask the numbers that came from polygamous homes how their lives are and the people in monogamous marriages how successful they are before projecting polygamy as the ideal and perfect type.

As if you're in Ned's marriages.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by yeman1(m): 1:23pm On Jan 18
Arsenate:

But I was told here by the relationship gurus in the family section, notably Hathor5, that women just need someone to help out with the chores and watch them never reject sexual advances from their men. cheesy
So much for their love for sex they cook up all sorts of excuses to never have it with the men who commit to them.

Is it proper for a family man doing hand job all the time cos his wife denied him of sex?
despite the fact that this woman didnt lack anything...

MY QUESTION IS ...

WHAT DOES A WOMAN NEED TO ACCEPT HER HUSBAND ANY TIME?
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 1:27pm On Jan 18
Magnoliaa:
[s]

Confidently and everlastingly spitting thrash.

Now I know why someone said there are some women on NL that he'll never exchange words with. Some just can't express themselves in a civil manner, it seems.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by DeRay98(m): 1:28pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


With polygamy, there would be rivalry. Each woman would double up on her efforts to keep more of their mutual husband's attention. There will also always be a nagging feeling that another wife is getting more sex than her, and this will trigger the wife to try to get even more from the husband (keeping a greater share of the market so to speak). Finally, a woman always finds a man infinitely more attractive when he is not readily available to her beck and call; and it also triggers their possessiveness when other available females find him attractive. All these complexities will work in his favour.

A woman in a female herd does not think the same way as a woman with exclusive attention to a man. Polygamy is a woman leveller and destroys all their transactional techniques; that is why women hate it. It is like the difference between a customer's options in a monopoly and in a free market; the man being the customer in this case.

Gbam! This is one of the reasons our fathers were polygamous and it kept their wives on the toes.
Monopoly of romance in monogamy gives too much power in the hands of wives and they abuse it definitely.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 1:29pm On Jan 18
DeRay98:


Gbam! This is one of the reasons our fathers were polygamous and it kept their wives on the toes.
Monopoly of romance in monogamy gives too much power in the hands of wives and they abuse it definitely.

Tell 'em bro, tell 'em.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by yeman1(m): 1:33pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


Read my first comment. Women use the promise of regular sex to attract a mate. Once the mate is attracted and hooked through a marriage contract, there is no need to keep up the pretence. Marrying a second, third wife will give you all the sex you want. 4 times monthly × 3 wives = 12 times monthly; a manageable figure.


HA HA HA HA !! In this Nigeria's economy ?side chick is OK for me,, though I don't have yet but would still get if changes has not occurred yet.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Magnoliaa(f): 1:33pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


You are confusing yourself and I. Christ = God no? So God didn't give Christ anything. Wisdom includes an ability to discern between right and wrong, no?

Then either the Bible lied when it stated that God/Christ gave Solomon the greatest of wisdom, or the greatest wisdom God/Christ bestowed upon Solomon was terribly flawed.

Divine power to control his sexual libido.

Emulate god? So when are you going to start creating your own universe in 6/7 days?

What is confusing about what I'm saying?

Christ is the son of God. He lived according to how God WISHED. Solomon did as HE wished with his wisdom. I'm saying, there are standards greater than Solomon's decisions. Come. The same Solomon that wrote Proverbs and on being contented with one's own cistern (wife's bosoms), enjoying life with the WIFE of one's youth, and steering clear of the path of the seductress? Obviously, he KNOWS the right thing. As he spoke on prudence, vanity and all. Marrying thousands of women was an hypocritical act on his part. He perfectly captured humans' fondness for proclaiming and failing to follow up on them. Who knows if you practice everything you TYPE? (Of course, it applies to me, too). And because a person is considered wise, that one mean say dem no go dey fuvk up from time to time, abi?

Solomon flawed in many ways. Are those the acts of God, too? Cunning people are smart. So? Wisdom can be applied in any way.

Oh. When I'll create my own universe? Pray tell, when will you start building your own pagan temples to goddesses of sex and child sacrifice, and will surpass Elon Musk, and acquire thousands of gardens, maids, and pleasures of life as the wisest man on NL? Queen of Sheba don visit you?

RisenPhoenix1:


It's not malice. Some people; mostly women; on NL seem to be unable to reason without resorting to juvenile behaviour. It makes sense to not waste time answering them. I think I need to make a list myself.


grin grin grin grin Shey you will keep a list of all trolls on romansce session that push women into deactivating over time? Which man here don deactivate 'cos of a band of 'malicious' women?

One was even accusing another of love that isn't there and threatening to blackmail with info from the lady's CV in his possession.

Meanwhile, na guys dey come release nudes every time relationship go sour. Ati offline and online.

Nonsense.

Make sure to include my name oh. I'll like to be the other malicious woman that is a feminist - if a space for that exists. Tekns.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Magnoliaa(f): 1:34pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


Now I know why someone said there are some women on NL that he'll never exchange words with. Some just can't express themselves in a civil manner, it seems.

Sorry o. As you're just finding out.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by yeman1(m): 1:34pm On Jan 18
DeRay98:


Gbam! This is one of the reasons our fathers were polygamous and it kept their wives on the toes.
Monopoly of romance in monogamy gives too much power in the hands of wives and they abuse it definitely.

True talk

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 1:38pm On Jan 18
Kalatium:

While i agree with what you said this only about 50% of the case.


There is more to that, there are other factors.

Have you noticed that when a woman suddenly starts cheating (for whatever reasons) she tends to start having constant sex with her new lover despite having kids already. While preventing the Husband from having sex with her?


I don't know about that though.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 1:41pm On Jan 18
JovialJune:




Wait, people dey keep malice online ni? Abi wetin this one mean again? This one too go stand up with big broad chest when them dey call out men, characters dey this forum sha

It's not malice. Some people; mostly women; on NL seem to be unable to reason without resorting to juvenile behaviour. It makes sense to not waste time answering them. I think I need to make a list myself.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by harmony75: 1:57pm On Jan 18
bizme:
Your thinking is sound, but I doubt that polygamy is the perfect solution. It's not all men that are cut out for polygamy.

Oftentimes the couple is counseled to communicate more, but I personally am not certain how effective that is.


you then ask why men die before woman.. useless w
way of rez

reason
rezzonibx
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Magnoliaa(f): 2:11pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


I think it's a she, and I did.
Our grandfathers didn't have two heads. The reason why they were able to cater for many wives was that they controlled the spending. They didn't permit their wives into guilt tripping them into making unnecessary trips to Dubai or buying unnecessary SUVs to go to church in. Feminists have turned a real man to one who is weak and servile to his wife in return for her financial contributions (most of which is spent financing a lifestyle of her own choosing). On the contrary, a real man is one who is strong and can cater for his wives; keeping them within the limits of what he can afford, not striving to keep up with what they want.

Admittedly, polygamy is not for every man. Many men are weak and feminine.

This minute you want to emulate Solomon in the Bible, the next one you're discarding the monogamous system God instituted. You have no business seeing Solomon as a role model since you're an atheist.

Your forefathers dropped money for the luxuries of those times like cows and chickens and family oracles.

Yeah. You know what feminists do because you live with them. At least, you admitted the real influence of real feminists here -- they are in marriages.

What are the reasons why more men are dying from suicides, please? If a rEaL man should marry more women and provide for them, it makes sense for him to take up more than one job, abi? And if he died at his workplace for trying to shoulder the responsibility of his families — it is feminism's fault shey??

RisenPhoenix1:


Very wrong. Just don't marry a feminist. My present wife is educated and a professional, and she's absolutely ok with my marrying a second. They are even friends. Don't believe that NL women are the standard for how women think. Most of the ones on NL are over exposed to Western thought, and even so, I think if the time comes, quite a number of them will accept polygamy for their husbands; despite their arguments here.

Besides, a woman is only what her husband trains her to be.

Nonsense and ingredients. Guy, your double-talk no dey slam you for face? Our arguments and rants here are invalid, but you want people to think YOU are actually the lord of your own house?

Okay, then. I na think mouth you just dey make, too.
You dey bow to your wife at home and you dey pound yam and wash her clothes wella when you log offline.

Dictating that people shouldn't marry feminists, but assuming every woman should be comfortable with sharing preek in polygamy.

Ori e ti........... undecided Is beta you juss keep ignoring my mentions.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 2:14pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


You watch Mexican and Turkish love dramas a lot don't you?

By love, I obviously wasn't referring to the romantic hocus pocus that women read about in chick flits and which doesn't exist. I was talking about real love; which is attention, commitment and provision. Yes, you can absolutely use sex to buy that. Men don't want your 'love' either. They want sex, respect and deference/submission. Yes, they can use money to buy that too.

Polygamous homes can be joyful ones if you keep to the rules, and if the man is emotionally and financially capable. Ask Ned Nwoko's wives.

You watch porn a lot,don't you?

You think by having multiple sexual partners,you get to satisfy that urge. NO

Buying provision,attention and commitment, you ain't talking about real love.
For you to buy something means that it's value will only depreciate when the said amount has been exhausted and when it's no longer in use.

Don't deceive yourself and others,if you choose to go into polygamy,go into it.
Stop twisting narratives.



**Men buy sex with love and women buy love with sex** Lol
This is the funniest thing I've read so far on nairaland.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 2:19pm On Jan 18
luminouz:

Maybe...but that's what women use grin
What??
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 2:22pm On Jan 18
luminouz:

One look at ya profile shows say you go gimme big stress... grin

See all those long ass Epistles you wrote na undecided
grin
Not at all. I would love to marry a badass man. Not the Nigerian or African based mentality kindda man.
Someone far odd,different and crazy.
When people choose yellow,we choose red grin
Abeg I no wan laugh grin

I hope I don't end with one normal olumide or chukwudi grin
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by luminouz(m): 2:24pm On Jan 18
StacyO:


grin

Not at all.
I would love to marry a badass man.
Not the Nigerian or African based mentality kindda man.

Someone far odd,different and crazy.

When people choose yellow,we choose red grin

Abeg I no wan laugh grin


I hope I don't end with one normal olumide or chukwudi grin

Then I give you the abnormal luminouz...

Oya grab am grin
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by mariahAngel: 2:28pm On Jan 18
jacoik:
guy, over sense just dey worry u my guy. abeg if u never marry ehhhh I get two sisters wey just grad. from unilag last year, I can give u the two to marry because u too dey make sense

E no matter if him don marry na, sheybi na polygamist. Just dash am those you two sisters!

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