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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 11:47am On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


Women use sex to buy love. Men use love to buy sex. Like any economic transaction each party is looking to find a bargain, i.e. spend the minimum amount of their currency to purchase the maximum amount of the service they need. So once women have gotten the man's commitment, they will thereafter spend as little sex as is necessary to keep him from straying to another market. Whereas, once a man has acquired the woman's sexual favours, he will spend the minimum amount of love and commitment to keep her from withholding them. The best solution is to marry more than one wife. Thereafter, they can share the sexual burden among themselves, and the man can pretend to love all of them equally and share a little of his attention among each of them; satisfying all parties involved.

Factoid of life. Free of charge for you.

Everything wrong in this your write up is the fact that you can never buy love.

That is where you got it all totally wrong.

Neither sex nor money can ever buy love.

Marrying more than one wife is good when it comes to satisfying the sexual urge but,it is a major chaos on its own.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by luminouz(m): 11:47am On Jan 18
yeman1:
Honestly ,it's only God can save us in this marriage. I remembered my neighbor fights almost everyday , wife do complain body pains every time cos of house chores which made her to reject her husband every time. So husband decided to be doing all the house chores but she still denied him of sex, then the man employ house help to do everything at home, but she refused the man still. She said she doesn't have urge , then the man said sometimes she gives her head , romance her and all sorts just to let her calm but she refused oh. So the man said he wants to divorce her with 2 children. So what do you think about this one ?

Wasn't this what I was telling some NL gehs here? They complained of tiredness all the time but you get house help, do house chores and all that and they will still not agree.

Get a second wife or kuku get a concubine. When a man is readily available for sex,women weaponise it.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by tarantino1: 11:47am On Jan 18
Hotbutt:



You point is sooo invalid.

Majority of Women get fat because of Childbearing. When they get Pregnant, there is General Hormone increase. This hormone increases the secretion of Fat and distributes it round the whole body.
They get fat becos they are carrying children for their said "Husbands".

But as for the Husbands,
1) Are they getting Pregnant....NO.
2) Are they carrying children in their bodies for 9 months.....NO.
3) Are their Hormones spiking during the period of Child bearing or during Pregnancy leading to distribution of FAT....NO..NO...NO...NO....NO.

So why getting FAT and developing BEER BELLY all your life thereby making them look SO UGLY, UNATTRACTIVE AND DISGUSTING.

Most even develop beer belly and u will think they are heavily pregnant or the ones into child bearing.

All because of BEER...BEER...BEER...BEER...BEER....BEER...BEER.
Enriching Nigerian Bottling Company.

It's so Disheartening angry

After they will start complaining that the wives don't want to sleep with them. I laugh in French cheesy



All I see is excuses as to why they are fat. It doesn't change the fact that they are. Anybody serious about fitness pregnancy or not will get back in shape after.

When you can't be bothered to try´╝îdont expect your husband to care cool

Oh, and by the way men's testosterone gradually reduces every year from the age of 40 which means it gets frigging harder to build muscle and lose fat as they age. We can all blame the goddamn hormones cry

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by luminouz(m): 11:48am On Jan 18
yeman1:




My woman will never and never accept that, one day I told her, she said she would leave for life and never come back
Does she give you a ex anytime you want it?

Does she give you peace?


These will determine what I will say
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by oluwatooni(f): 11:48am On Jan 18
luminouz:

Lies wink
I hear you
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by luminouz(m): 11:52am On Jan 18
StacyO:


Everything wrong in this your write up is the fact that you can never buy love.

That is where you got it all totally wrong.

Neither sex nor money can ever buy love.

Marrying more than one wife is good when it comes to satisfying the sexual urge but,it is a major chaos on its own.

Maybe...but that's what women use grin
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 11:52am On Jan 18
StacyO:


Everything wrong in this your write up is the fact that you can never buy love.

That is where you got it all totally wrong.

Neither sex nor money can ever buy love.

Marrying more than one wife is good when it comes to satisfying the sexual urge but,it is a major chaos on its own.

You watch Mexican and Turkish love dramas a lot don't you?

By love, I obviously wasn't referring to the romantic hocus pocus that women read about in chick flits and which doesn't exist. I was talking about real love; which is attention, commitment and provision. Yes, you can absolutely use sex to buy that. Men don't want your 'love' either. They want sex, respect and deference/submission. Yes, they can use money to buy that too.

Polygamous homes can be joyful ones if you keep to the rules, and if the man is emotionally and financially capable. Ask Ned Nwoko's wives.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by luminouz(m): 11:53am On Jan 18
oluwatooni:

I hear you


See her mouth... grin
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by SweetDipBenny(m): 11:54am On Jan 18
ArcFresky:
Personally, this is my worst fear...I detest cheaters. I need to marry a nymph.
A nymph? She will fvck all ur frnds nd neighbours
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by tarantino1: 11:56am On Jan 18
innovestor:


LOL. He deserves some medal from you for holding that long. grin


If no be say my uncle na small mumu, that marriage no suppose last two weeks.

Na when there admit am for hospital because she break e hand with Pistle plus hbp na people for outside kon know wetin dey sup
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 11:59am On Jan 18
concept65:


I'm kind of not surprised that your wife agreed to this polygamy, you seem be the kind of man similar to the men I was raised by and grew up around. Very manly, not like these squirrels running around calling themselves "alpha males" here on this forum. Refreshing to have engaged someone like you on this topic.

I too would have almost agreed if I had a husband your type, but almost.

I'm glad to see that some women still accept that the traditional system is the best...especially on NL.

I was influenced by my grandmothers. Both my grandfathers were polygamists. I saw how much my grandmothers idolised them even after their deaths. They had none of the romantic worries that plague modern man.

By the way, I sense that your 'almost' is just an attempt to hold on tenaciously to past beliefs.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by bizme: 11:59am On Jan 18
Except my wife wouldn't be able to step into my own shoes and perform my roles for even one day. You see, everyone has his/her roles in the scheme of things. :-)

Sterope:
Switch roles with your wife.

Do the house chores she does before going to work, prepare the children, go to work, come back, and continue where you stopped, including letting your children direct all their complaints and issues to you. Do that for a week and please report to us.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by bizme: 12:01pm On Jan 18
A little punctuation might have helped the point you were trying to make.

Hndrrxxx:
Bro use your head and you dy blow grammar upandan like a Prof. grin ;DWhat dude is saying is that once the woman get married to you she lose all the will to compete so she doesnt use sex to entice you anymore but with polygamy other girls to compete with they start the competition and sex offering among themselves
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Akasammyoka(m): 12:07pm On Jan 18
Hassanmaye:

Man you have understood that species
dont know we are just negative about polygamy, it was really helpful then

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by tarantino1: 12:09pm On Jan 18
oluwatooni:
No be me ooo, biko... after my first child. I'm still very active... na husband dey tire...
I think women should try to reduce the stress they go through, if one is always stressed out, the person will lose interest in sex... Cox having sex is a huge task itself...

Mama d mama grin
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by lillyontop(m): 12:09pm On Jan 18
Good day house I just finished reading 16 charters on the above topic and I just want to say something about it and mine is going to be a long note but just don't mind the typo... Thanks to everyone who contributed to it I see reasons to every point mentioned but I will say these polygamous is a bad idea, might be good for the father as a tools to control his wives and sexual desires it now goes down to the kids I am a product of polygamous and wish I never come out of there because every mother has an advise to tell each other kids like for example cos a child is from same father different mother when one child has the opportunity to help his sibling from another mother the mother will tell you haven't finish helping your siblings you want to go out to help another one that's one 2 the children only love them selves when the father is alive but when the father is gone separation sets in before you say some do stay together forever on rear cases maybe 3 out of 10... God bless the male and female gender but I will tell you guys something, there nothing that's really perfect on earth.... Do the best you can do and leave the rest for God.
When growing up with my dad due to the numbers of wives he had, made me not to like women at all, cos I have these sense of believe that every female gender is a gold digger either young or old but I am still in the process of changing that behaviour before the females here attack me oh.... My dad's last wife was my junior in secondary school and there's nothing I can do about that also when growing up I understand something the older kids looks expired and the younger ones looks trending so most times when I ask for stuff from dad he will like say wait let me settle your younger ones first and the remaining I will give you that's bad but if it one wife the man will definitely know how to settle the mother down and talk to her and trash what issue that needs to be settled so the older one will still understand whats happening....
Am going to be 34 these year I have no girlfriend or someone I am looking up to get married soon why my mentality is till very coined from the home I came from it's not like I don't have what it take to get married oh, I am self employed, have 3 houses to my name and other stuff, so before you call your self a man learn to control your urges for sex and always draw a line down to the kids you are giving birth to that's the main objective as a man and for the female gender it's not easy taking care of grown men and little kids at the same time but atleast put in for more effort and for the guy Na una get most of issue, since when you marry your wife and she start having kids when have you tell her today is a cook free day let me take you out or when have you toasted her all over again to make I few special, men are moved by what they see but for women they are moved by what they hear and also feeling abeg make them feel special chat up your wife for no reason, kiss her for no reason.. communicate with her and tell her what will make her smile 24 /7 and look weather the door to Jerusalem go close for one day....lol it's not my hand writing oh

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by bizme: 12:13pm On Jan 18
You are kind. Thanks a lot. I am your fan too now. :-)

ziondaughter247:


I do not know you but you are highly intelligent! I've always had problems with dumbos and junkies on this platform, but this is one of the most intelligent and well articulated posts/responses I've seen. Very apt, very factual, very well written.
I am your new fan!

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Emperorlanky: 12:13pm On Jan 18
Hotbutt:
The reality is this.
For most women, their husbands become very Ugly and unattractive in their eyes.
The husbands sef would not help matters. Most of them will now develop one kind big "Beer" Belly all in the name of "Enjoying good life". They won't workout or go to do the gym.
They will now be as fat as what I can't say.
If I'm lying, look at your daddy and tell me how he looks.

Do u know what it means to keep seeing just one particular face everyday all the days of their lives it's not easy. You will just get bored.

As for the Sex part, they are already exhausted and tired of the Sex sef. They can even stay one full year without craving for it especially when kids have started coming.

Everything just changes.

Assignment:
1) Look at your Daddy. Then ask your mummy when last she had good SEX with your Daddy.
You would be shocked at her response. I know what I'm saying.

Just laughing at you. Is this not the same reason men who cheats give?
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by bizme: 12:17pm On Jan 18
Ahahaha.
Okay on a serious note the physique degeneration you alluded to affects women more than men. Most Nigerian women, even before marriage, have already developed a large stomach. As a pharmacist I can tell you for free that so many Nigerian ladies and women actively patronize drug stores for drugs to fatten them up... Most of these drugs eventually render them shapeless. Some Nigerian women associate fat/big size with respect.


Hotbutt:
The reality is this.
For most women, their husbands become very Ugly and unattractive in their eyes.
The husbands sef would not help matters. Most of them will now develop one kind big "Beer" Belly all in the name of "Enjoying good life". They won't workout or go to do the gym.
They will now be as fat as what I can't say.
If I'm lying, look at your daddy and tell me how he looks.

Do u know what it means to keep seeing just one particular face everyday all the days of their lives it's not easy. You will just get bored.

As for the Sex part, they are already exhausted and tired of the Sex sef. They can even stay one full year without craving for it especially when kids have started coming.

Everything just changes.

Assignment:
1) Look at your Daddy. Then ask your mummy when last she had good SEX with your Daddy.
You would be shocked at her response. I know what I'm saying.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by yeman1(m): 12:29pm On Jan 18
luminouz:

Does she give you a ex anytime you want it?

Does she give you peace?


These will determine what I will say

he he he ! it should be on her term, if not na rape she go shout oh grin

Peace or what did you say ? only God can give you peace my dear. sometimes I dont wanna come home he he

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Sterope(f): 12:31pm On Jan 18
I am curious. Let's see


bizme:
Except my wife wouldn't be able to step into my own shoes and perform my roles for even one day. You see, everyone has his/her roles in the scheme of things. :-)

Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Sterope(f): 12:32pm On Jan 18
The bolded is also very true.

Hotbutt:
The reality is this.
For most women, their husbands become very Ugly and unattractive in their eyes.
The husbands sef would not help matters. Most of them will now develop one kind big "Beer" Belly all in the name of "Enjoying good life". They won't workout or go to do the gym.
They will now be as fat as what I can't say.
If I'm lying, look at your daddy and tell me how he looks.

Do u know what it means to keep seeing just one particular face everyday all the days of their lives it's not easy. You will just get bored.

As for the Sex part, they are already exhausted and tired of the Sex sef. They can even stay one full year without craving for it especially when kids have started coming.

Everything just changes.

Assignment:
1) Look at your Daddy. Then ask your mummy when last she had good SEX with your Daddy.
You would be shocked at her response. I know what I'm saying.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by ArcFresky(m): 12:33pm On Jan 18
adadike:
can you really stay faithful to a nymph?

You mean can she stay faithful to me?

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by yeman1(m): 12:40pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


It depends on the dynamics in your home. If you are the full provider for the home, she won't mind, as long as you continue to provide for her at the same standard. That is really all that women want from a marriage. In fact, the reason why they hate rivalry is because it breaks their monopoly on the man and increases the risk of their man's wealth being shared among others.

And she's probably fake threatening you. Women do engage in hysterics a lot. Of course, if you value her presence in your home more than having a happier married life including a more vibrant sex life, you could give in to her threat. Otherwise, I'd call her bluff. Ten to one, she'll probably just frown face for a month or two, and when she sees nothing has changed in her life, she'll cool back down. Don't home them together though if you want peace. A woman doesn't share her palace with another woman. That is non negotiable. Build or rent another home for second wife.


of course i am, even if she buys something from outside she would still collect the money money.

In fact is good to have a beautiful chick outside to cool you down especially when husband is active. I stayed for 8 months without it when she was pregnant , she said doctor said .and agreed and after birth she believes it would continue like this,, you wan kill me ? body no be fire wood oh! grin
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Magnoliaa(f): 12:41pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


Very wrong. Just don't marry a feminist. My present wife is educated and a professional, and she's absolutely ok with my marrying a second. They are even friends. Don't believe that NL women are the standard for how women think. Most of the ones on NL are over exposed to Western thought, and even so, I think if the time comes, quite a number of them will accept polygamy for their husbands; despite their arguments here.

Besides, a woman is only what her husband trains her to be.

Confidently and everlastingly spitting thrash.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by concept65: 12:43pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


I'm glad to see that some women still accept that the traditional system is the best...especially on NL.

I was influenced by my grandmothers. Both my grandfathers were polygamists. I saw how much my grandmothers idolised them even after their deaths. They had none of the romantic worries that plague modern man.

By the way, I sense that your 'almost' is just an attempt to hold on tenaciously to past beliefs.

No it has nothing to do with past beliefs. I wouldn't share my husband because I love him a lot and I perform my wifely duties wholeheartedly. If I lack somewhere I would rather like him to let me know and I will do my best to improve in that area, same as I let him know when Im not satisfied or unhappy and I give him an opportunity to correct it or improve. I love having sex with him still after all these years and he never has to beg for it, and I know attraction and romance fizzles out after sometime between a couple, we just both need to work together to always re-candle our love and romance. No need to bring outsiders.

Most importantly, my peace of mind is right up there at the top of my priority list. I wouldn't have peace of mind in a polygamous marriage, I would be lying to myself and the man.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by yeman1(m): 12:44pm On Jan 18
luminouz:


Wasn't this what I was telling some NL gehs here? They complained of tiredness all the time but you get house help, do house chores and all that and they will still not agree.

Get a second wife or kuku get a concubine. When a man is readily available for sex,women weaponise it.

In my own opinion, if not side chick, some would have died of konji oh.

Despite provided for home but still complained. my own sef dey do am. me just dey look ni oh.. tilld time will come grin
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Magnoliaa(f): 12:45pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


You know, you just made me think of something. I wonder why Christianity does not accept polygamy. If Christian scripture is to be believed, Christians recognize king Solomon as the wisest man in the world, and in his wisdom, he was also the most polygamous. Therefore it is wise to marry many. Shouldn't one emulate wise men in all things?

Between Christ and Solomon, who is worthy of more emulation? The person wey give wisdom, abi the person wey dem give? The pure one redeeming the sinner - or the other way round?

If any Christian should emulate anybody, Christ tops. Died a virgin, focused on purpose, SIMP, because yeah, if we are to analyze his behaviors, he'd pass for the person y'all call simps. And finally, he respected and elevated women.

Again, stop yarning okoto meow meow.

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 12:45pm On Jan 18
yeman1:



of course i am, even if she buys something from outside she would still collect the money money.

In fact is good to have a beautiful chick outside to cool you down especially when husband is active. I stayed for 8 months without it when she was pregnant , she said doctor said .and agreed and after birth she believes it would continue like this,, you wan kill me ? body no be fire wood oh! grin

I understand your position, though I don't really support extra marital affairs. I think it's far better to make it official and give the outside lady all her full right to recognition. What if she gets pregnant for example? I don't really endorse this exploitation of women for sex without marrying them.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 12:48pm On Jan 18
Magnoliaa:


Between Christ and Solomon, who is worthy of more emulation? The person wey give wisdom, abi the person wey dem give? The pure one redeeming the sinner - or the other way round?

If any Christian should emulate anybody, Christ tops. Died a virgin, focused on purpose, SIMP, because yeah, if we are to analyze his behaviors, he'd pass for the person y'all call simps. And finally, he respected and elevated women.

Again, stop yarning okoto.

Christ wasn't renowned for his wisdom, Solomon was. And if you know it's better to die as a virgin, why do your pastors hold matchmaking events?

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Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 12:50pm On Jan 18
concept65:


No it has nothing to do with past beliefs. I wouldn't share my husband because I love him a lot and I perform my wifely duties wholeheartedly. If I lack somewhere I would rather like him to let me know and I will do my best to improve in that area, same as I let him know when Im not satisfied or unhappy and I give him an opportunity to correct it or improve. I love having sex with him still after all these years and he never has to beg for it, and I know attraction and romance fizzles out after sometime between a couple, we just both need to work together to always re-candle our love and romance. No need to bring outsiders.

Most importantly, my peace of mind is right up there at the top of my priority list. I wouldn't have peace of mind in a polygamous marriage, I would be lying to myself and the man.

I hope that works out for you.
Re: Why Do Women Lose Interest In Sex After Marriage? by Magnoliaa(f): 12:53pm On Jan 18
RisenPhoenix1:


Christ wasn't renowned for his wisdom, Solomon was. And if you know it's better to die as a virgin, why do your pastors hold matchmaking events?

Lmaoooo. Who gave Solomon wisdom na? No be the God wey give up his Son? Christ followed what God wanted - A Being wiser than Solomon is.

This is in a Christian context and you were addressing Christians... Christ OBVIOUSLY knows, etc., better than Solomon. And Christ was pure till the end.

Whatever pastas do ain't none of my biz. Who is the model we should emulate? Christ, Daddy GOs, Abraham, Solomon, or Paul?

Marrying ain't required in the Bible. So yeah, dying as a virgin or an eunuch ain't wrong.

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