sleekman:

Women and power. Na wa O! Anyways as long as the women out populate the men in Nigeria it will definitely be a man's world.

MeGaStReEt:

Some women dey find husband with all body, them never see, even if its just to answer their surname, common shoe maker dem never see. Now some 22 years olds are talking rub-ish about changing or not changing their name, claiming what they are not,lol. When time reach we go know who suppose change name and who no go change name.  Some gurls worship their bf, not to talk of husband, but they will come here, (becuase we no dey see them) and start deceiving their fellow weak minded NL's. Very soon breeze go blow . . .

i am actually engaged to be married 
my father passed in '09 and my partner and I discussed I will be keeping my dad's name.

MeGaStReEt:

Some women dey find husband with all body, them never see, even if its just to answer their surname, common shoe maker dem never see. Now some 22 years olds are talking rub-ish about changing or not changing their name, claiming what they are not,lol. When time reach we go know who suppose change name and who no go change name.  Some gurls worship their bf, not to talk of husband, but they will come here, (becuase we no dey see them) and start deceiving their fellow weak minded NL's. Very soon breeze go blow . . .

Mrs.Chima:

Too many men need to focuses on getting a job and supporting themselves beside worrying about a name change cos a sensible chick wouldn't dare say I do a broke arse nigga who can't even afford chips. 

abadeee abadee beh deeeeeeh ah dats all folks!

it's a WRAP. 

*singing G-Whizz "mi go on and on and on and on and on and on and on! no time fi linga no time fi con, even tru di storm!"

chima, im gonna try for American Idol!

BABE!:

Very soon breeze go blow-- 190's wig will fall off-----lmao----

@190, I'm here o! Wetin you want?

Nothing i know say u no read megastreet post
Nor worry i go allow you keep all your names

English, german, spanish, surname even native name, keep all

190:


Nothing i know say u no read megastreet post    
Nor worry i go allow you keep all your names

English, german, spanish, surname even native name, keep all    

BABE!:

190, you've started using binoculars to read your bible abi?  

I read Megastreet-- He wasn't referring to me,so -- and if he was then I don't know what the 4uck he's chatting about----

ROTFLMFAO!! you are damn funny

Anyway we chat later swerry

MzDarkSkin:

Look, i made my decision and it's final.

9jaHokie:

I have only read 2 pages of these thread, but i catch the drift. this reply however goes out to 2 ladies specifically. Mrs Chima and MzDarkSkin. I will be remiss if i dont mention how surprised i am an both of you's level of ignorance, but culturally and spiritually. but then again, you are feminists, so thats not much of a surprise. The idea of a woman taking up a man's last name wasn't created by chauvinists, as u feminists like to claim every time. but once again, im not surprised that you call any man willing to be a true man a chauvinist, its literally the 1st rule of feminism.

in any case, to address the topic at hand. The institution of marriage was created to bring a man and a woman together to become one. singular. not hyphenated or 2. this idea was transferred symbolically into the changing of the last name. so why on earth was it the man's name that stayed? well lets see, who's house does the woman move into? who initiates the marriage proposal? well im sure u probably dont agree with either of those points mainly because, well thanks to western civilization, women have now taken up even those aspects of dating and relationships. but thats wateva.

now to the religious. I personally believe you made the greatest mistake by bringing God into this because i have never seen a book more direct on the role of men and women than the Bible. the Bible is completely against everything you, as a feminist, stands for. First of all,  Matt 19: 4-7 clearly explains the union between a man and a woman as coming together to become one. I dont see any better way to show this than having the same lastname. but im sure u have a better idea.
Also, 1 corinthians 11 states in full detail how the creation of the woman was for the man, and the head of the woman is the man. so why shudnt she change her last name to that of her head?
well thats up to you to discuss.
last but not least, that your father's last name that you want to keep, didnt your mother have to give up hers to take his? why not go take you mothers last name then?

and please, dont emphasize your ignorance by pointing out some grammatical flaws in my post. thanx

Mrs.Chima:

It is funny how you claim you are a Christian and man bitching like you got two mammalias, a clit, and on your period at the strip club during worship service.  You need some midol and some tampax nigga?  You never seen me ask for any respect from YOU or your ho arse brothers.  I said if you want respect you better act like it you want it from me. 

Alternate accounts creating ho arse nigga. 

Princek12:

It's funny how many women on this thread claim they want to be treated like ladies:

they want their husbands to be chivalrous and open doors for them, wine and dine them, wash their car, spend money on them, and blah blah blah. If their husbands refuse to do those things they claim that he is not a real man, because historically men have done those things.

When men now demand for women to do the same things (such as changing their last name upon marriage) that women have historically done these same women claim it is not OK. Women here only want to cherry pick when to be treated like ladies. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Either you want to be treated like a lady or wife or you don't. You are either in or out.

9jaHokie:

hey Mrs Chima, just to correct something im a completely different person from Princek12 oh. just making sure u get that right. no one is creating an alternate account to address your ignorance. a friend was nice enough to show me this thread and lamented the degradation of mentality of some nigerian women.

ogugua88:

Who said that? What I've read from most women is that the woman involved should have a choice and be comfortable/happy with such choice. Who said it's not ok?

Changing a name has nothing to do with being treated like a lady/wife lol. Love, respect, understand, etc. That's what being treated like a lady/wife involves, and vice versa.

190:

@Princek12

You still dey on this issue,

Make you go sleep ooh!!

U really have strength to do yama yama!!

Princek12:

I aim to educate. For every lady I educate I am sure the good Lord will reward me.

Ehhen did u say EDUCATION!!

Damnniit direct your teaching to Ogugua!!

Not all that Glitters are gold!!

Not all women that wear skirt and carry wig are WOMEN OOH!!

rite now stones don spoil our rice 

as u see me so, I jele jele dey one side dey watch from one corner

cos  i nor get strength take follow person drag ( after all nor be money we dey share 4 here  )

wizsultan:

na wa o!!!!
women are growing wings,
if u see changing your last name as a part of freedom or something,
una dey suffer from low-self esteem,
or last name as to sexy, y not marry your last name,
or look for a guy wit same last  name,
i no blame una,
na guys cause am, we too foolish nowadays, and na backside dey cause am
imagine my grandma then saying she wont change her last name cos she no want bear the name jantofull or voge,
eh ehn, i see now, no wonder una dey marry urself,
i neva see the babe wey no go gree change her surname to mine,
then the marriage is void,
nonsense!!!

^{[sup]ladies go start to dey vex now o cos i don talk true}[/sup]

190:

Ehhen did u say EDUCATION!!

Damnniit direct your teaching to Ogugua!!

Not all that Glitters are gold!!

Not all women that wear skirt and carry wig are WOMEN OOH!!

rite now stones don spoil our rice 

as u see me so, I jele jele dey one side dey watch from one corner

cos  i nor get strength take follow person drag ( after all nor be money we dey share 4 here  )




Spoken like the true warrior of a KING!!

Princek12:
Historically women have changed their names upon marriage. If you look at many marriages, which I am sure you know many married ladies, those women have changed their name.

Understandably, changing your name is a sacrifice, but if these "modern day" women want to let go of that sacrifice, then they should also be willing to let go of the benefits that women have traditionally enjoyed upon marriage. My point is that you can't keep the "stereotypical benefits" while let go of the "stereotypical sacrifice."

I am sure your mother changes her last name upon marrying your father

Ndipe:

Seun, lock this thread.

Princek12:

lmao. Me too I am not here to drag with someone, which is why I did not bother to even respond to her. I will just let Ms Chima drag herself in the mud all by herself. She seems to enjoy the back and forth personal attacks, which I refuse to do tonight unless I get paid for doing so.

ogugua88:

Why didn't you answer the question? Lol.

It depends on which tradition or history you read. Mexicans/Spaniards have two last names. [Child's first name] [Mother's Surname] [Father's Surname]. The children usually go by both with legal documents and go by whichever name they choose to with no complications. My ex was Mexican-Honduran. He took on his mother's surname because his father was, in kinder terms, bad lol. I really don't see the issue with that.

This issue, however, is one of worth and possession. It's just a name, quite frankly. It's a big deal to men because women want to think about taking it. It's a big deal to women because men are taking this issue so seriously lol. I was reading a story of a man that took his wife's name. I forgot where I found the article. Anyway, he did it to break tradition and to prove that a name is nothing more than a name. If any of you are asked to take your wife's surname, you'll all shout "NO!" "HOLY GHOST FIRE!" "TUFIAKWA!" A name won't make a woman or a family any more competent, loving, faithful, etc. Surnames have no influence on marriages. If they did, then women would stop changing their names considering most marriages end in divorce and most marriages involve the woman changing her name

I'll speak for myself on this issue because I don't know the minds of others. I don't have my cake and eat it too. When it comes to the surname issue, I will make that decision when the time comes. I have no problem paying for dinner, mine and/or his, I can open doors myself, I can work, etc. My parents raised me that way. I don't need the benefits and I don't need to make the sacrifice to become a successful wife.

I'm going to dig in one of the old family threads and find the post I put there. For some women, this is an identity issue. Will man ever give birth? No. Will majority of man ever change his surname to that of his wife's? No. So, just like I wouldn't expect men to understand birthing, I wouldn't expect men to fully comprehend the identity issue some women have.