femi4:
Pure lie

In 2yrs, you can achieve what your mates struggle to put together here in 10yrs. Don't ask me how I know

GofuckYourself:
As you judged your parents so will you be judged but more severely. As you belittle them with this ridiculous attention seeking post so will you be belittled but more severely. As you think evil thoughts spurred by pride and arrogance towards they who cared for you when you were vulnerable so will you be disregarded and tossed aside even worse when your time comes .

It is not me who curses you with this but your very own deeds and thoughts, for the laws of karma are absolute. You have laid a terrible fate for yourself and for all who this ridiculous post influences to think wrongly so will you to chained in the afterlife until they come to recognition of their misdeeds

I wish you strength for what is coming your way

Cheers

cococandy:


I believe this is why many ladies are skeptical about joint ventures with their husbands in Nigeria. There’s no guarantee (except love and trust) that they won’t be left with the short end of the stick.
Even if the parents or relatives don’t move in, down the line, if he decides she’s no longer attractive and he wants another woman, his “culture” allows him to marry someone else and her sweat becomes the property of another Mrs John.

But in the beginning stages, if she refused, she might come across as mistrustful or not a team player.
Even though I support 50/50 because I don’t believe in strict dynamics, I don’t judge women who decide not to do that.

VULCAN:



The Bible says a good man leaves an inheritance for his children

Kehindeaj78:
I live outside the country but I entrusted my house development with my parents in Nigeria, but they leave in a rented apartment. They're are due for new rent payment at their rented apartment which i sent them the money, only for them to call me that they don't want to rent another apartment again and have moved into my ongoing house and used the money to do somethings in the ongoinghouse. What do I do?

dopechoks:


why is no one talking about this?

BouquiLake:
Did they ask for your consent before sending you to school and training you? Your consent before clothing and buying shoes for you? Your consent before sheltering you ?

Will they be there forever?

Kehindeaj78:
I live outside the country but I entrusted my house development with my parents in Nigeria, but they leave in a rented apartment. They're are due for new rent payment at their rented apartment which i sent them the money, only for them to call me that they don't want to rent another apartment again and have moved into my ongoing house and used the money to do somethings in the ongoinghouse. What do I do?

Kehindeaj78:
I live outside the country but I entrusted my house development with my parents in Nigeria, but they leave in a rented apartment. They're are due for new rent payment at their rented apartment which i sent them the money, only for them to call me that they don't want to rent another apartment again and have moved into my ongoing house and used the money to do somethings in the ongoinghouse. What do I do?

Acidosis:


Sorry, my parents are the most appreciative people on earth. As old as I am, they are still willing to do more than they've ever done in the past. You obviously don't understand the idea of parenting.

Acidosis:


If the wife's parents ever try such, the same men on this forum will blame the OP for marrying a woman from a poor background.

Some of them don't ever pray to marry from a poor home but here they are condoling lack of respect, disregarding the wife's contributions like they don't matter.

With this crop of men all over this forum, more homes may crumble in years to come at an unprecedented rate.

OfficialAPCNig:

Which kind stupid advise is this?

This entitled mentality is what is killing Nigerian parents. So he has to build house for his parents before building his?

Don't cage the man with your emotional blackmail.

OP, don't listen to this dude.

Kehindeaj78:
I live outside the country but I entrusted my house development with my parents in Nigeria, but they leave in a rented apartment. They're are due for new rent payment at their rented apartment which i sent them the money, only for them to call me that they don't want to rent another apartment again and have moved into my ongoing house and used the money to do somethings in the ongoinghouse. What do I do?

Kehindeaj78:
I live outside the country but I entrusted my house development with my parents in Nigeria, but they leave in a rented apartment. They're are due for new rent payment at their rented apartment which i sent them the money, only for them to call me that they don't want to rent another apartment again and have moved into my ongoing house and used the money to do somethings in the ongoinghouse. What do I do?

Shokoloko:


Are you opposed to the teachings of the bible?
1. OP is not furious he is confused.
2. There is this pervasive entitlement mentality in Nigeria that is wrong. If OPs parents had told him before the rent expired that they were going to move into his home and spend the rent money on something, that would have been a different scenario. They would have discussed it. If Ops parents consulted him I will know that they are the type that respects his decision and when the time comes to move they will move, but they moved in and make arrangements and told him after they had finished. I am sure they are lovely people but they do not seem to have a lot of regard for what their son thinks
3. Dont assume that kids born in the diaspora do not want to return. The only thing keeping a flood of Nigerians in diaspora is the security situation in the country which by the grace of God will be resolved.
4. Even if I put down my pen and remain quiet till tomorrow the bible remains unchanged: inheritance is not for parents.
This position remains except OP states that he is not a Christian then we can look to advice from another perspective

VULCAN:
This could only have been written by someone who plans to leech off his children.

There is no rich or powerful person in this world who plans to be financially dependent on their children.

It is always those who refused to prepare for old age.

Those who were busy attending every owambe and spending all their money on consumable without a plan for when they will no longer work.

That is the description of the poster below.

The Bible says a good man leaves an inheritance for his children.

None of the patriarchs depended on their children for rent and feeding in old age.

It is a sign of a stubborn and disobedient personality.

We all owe it to our children to stick to receiving gifts and surprises from them and not to feast off them like vampires.

cococandy:


Do you have 5-10 million?
If yes can you lend me some?

SUCKCESSFUL:
And so what?

DWJOBScom:


While am grateful you saw the foolishness but the curse was not necessary friend.

I am in agreement with you and just think most people commenting are just full of emotions.

I am an advocate of taking care of one's parents but not living with them unless one of them is deceased or incapable of physically taking of themselves.

A man has to build his fort and made it strong for his marriage.

Thankfully he can afford rent for them

Kehindeaj78:
I live outside the country but I entrusted my house development with my parents in Nigeria, but they leave in a rented apartment. They're are due for new rent payment at their rented apartment which i sent them the money, only for them to call me that they don't want to rent another apartment again and have moved into my ongoing house and used the money to do somethings in the ongoinghouse. What do I do?

chrisj2:
Nja mentality! Parenthood is something that is a choice; kids do not veg to be born and it is the duty of the parent to provide for the children... It is not special and not something that the children owe them for. However, one can show gratitude far beyond what is normal and the guy is sending them rent money. Is he even the only one in the family to take care of the parents?

What are the other children doing that people are saying he should just simply build another house - as if, money is picked from the floor abroad and everyone abroad has limitless funds to build houses and spend on family.

It is hard to trust anyone in Nigeria, and that also includes parents and siblings... This kind of story is very common - at least they have built the house - some just chop the money and share amongst themselves.

The funds belong to the man and his wife. So they think he should just compensate the wife and that is the end - No! The wife will have lost respect for his parents and family and it is wasted time, resources and potential earning opportunities for the wife (and their nuclear family and those of the wife too). Also, where is he going to easily find money to pay the wife - if he could, he would have built the house on his own (as per Nja misogynistic mentality).

The parents messed up and it is not ok just because they are parents. Sad really. The man and wife might even be renting abroad and looking to that house as an investment - believe me, investment returns are so much better in Nja...

Kehindeaj78:
I'm married and the development of the house is from the purse of me and my wife

Emarvel:

What makes you think he is coming back to live in the house?? How many persons for yankee dey come back come live for 9ja?
Why would a house be somewhere and his parents will be living in rentage.

skyoboy:
This sounds funny... I guess your parents were expecting you to build them a house first considering maybe they catered for you and sent you abroad with their last savings (This may not be true)...
Bro, I'd advise you move on and plan to build another house for your self but this time, DON'T INVOLVE THEM.
It won't be a healthy battle sending them out of the house...

chrisj2:
Nja mentality! Parenthood is something that is a choice; kids do not veg to be born and it is the duty of the parent to provide for the children... It is not special and not something that the children owe them for. However, one can show gratitude far beyond what is normal and the guy is sending them rent money. Is he even the only one in the family to take care of the parents?

What are the other children doing that people are saying he should just simply build another house - as if, money is picked from the floor abroad and everyone abroad has limitless funds to build houses and spend on family.

It is hard to trust anyone in Nigeria, and that also includes parents and siblings... This kind of story is very common - at least they have built the house - some just chop the money and share amongst themselves.

The funds belong to the man and his wife. So they think he should just compensate the wife and that is the end - No! The wife will have lost respect for his parents and family and it is wasted time, resources and potential earning opportunities for the wife (and their nuclear family and those of the wife too). Also, where is he going to easily find money to pay the wife - if he could, he would have built the house on his own (as per Nja misogynistic mentality).

The parents messed up and it is not ok just because they are parents. Sad really. The man and wife might even be renting abroad and looking to that house as an investment - believe me, investment returns are so much better in Nja...

Emperorsirmi:



I am sincerely sorry for the insult mate…. Hope you can accept my apology
Some shits just pisses me off

I had a case were a father and his younger son kill his older son , simply because he is in abroad sending them money to build his house
To cut the long story short
On his arrival from �� (UK) They killed him on their way to show him a house they never built
You can imagine �