JONNYSPUTE:
....Lol. Your approach in tackling it can work but how about bringing both your wife and your siblings together and actually find out the remote cause of the animosity?

Like I said,your approach is ok because I have used the exact means and it work but only for a short term.

pocohantas:
No devil entered them. It is who they are. The signs are always there. Some people are not family oriented or accommodating.

I generally have a problem with people that do not respect my space or rules, given that I have chronic OCD. That is my problem with guests. But if you give me my way, mind your business and help in your own little way to take care of the home, we have no problem.

Truth is, Nigerians are very bad guests and they don’t know. The ones from the man’s side tend to be the worst. No disrespect intended.

Timekeeper:


I can't even say.. I hardly go to any of my Married siblings house.... Infact it's been long I saw them, no time for anybody...

But for one, my brother's wife... She encourages my brother to spend money on her family than us.. It ended terrible for him as marriage turned sour.. My brother does as if he just won a jackpot anytime his wife family are around but for we, long thing..

Long story but we push him aside.. We don't even communicate with him again...

Timekeeper:


Ur approach is right but the truth is, if u call both of them.... Ur wife may have no reason.... I m telling u.... It is jsut inhibited in most ladies, they can't even explain

joyandfaith:


It is only stupid men that marry or being controlled by wicked women.
My principles!!!!
1.My wife earning is for herself, her children, her parents and siblings. If she wants to assist me, fine. Law of financial independence
2.My earning is for myself, my wife, my children, my parents, my siblings . If i want to assist her parents and siblings, it depend on how she and her people relate with my siblings and parents. Law of reciprocity.
3. My people have access to my personal room while her people have access to her personal room and kitchen. Law of privacy.

Timekeeper:
I think there is a evil that reside in a lady once she gets married... As in, some married women are so selfish and wicked... S

Let me give these instances;

1. Their own brothers and sisters come to her husband home and there is no issue.. He/she (wife siblings) has unrestricted access to everything in the house since it's her sister's husband house.. But when the husband siblings come, they have restricted access to some things in the house.. Any attempt to go futher, the wife start bringing up attitude towards them..

2. The wife mother comes and she is free to stay as long as she wants but if the husband mother comes, the selfish wife is already asking the husband when will mama leave for her place....

3. The husband sends money to her family, no problem, the husband sends to his family, then there is need for him to be accountable for the money sent to his own parents oooo..

4. Husband sponsors wife siblings to school and all is fine.. Husband sponsors his own siblings and the wife develops hatred automatically towards the sibling bcox she thinks they are draining her husband resources..


Some married women are wicked soul in disguise. Bad enough, you wunt see these attitudes in them until they are married.

I still wonder and ask; why are some married woman so selfish and demonic in nature?

Timekeeper:
I think there is a evil that reside in a lady once she gets married... As in, some married women are so selfish and wicked... S

Let me give these instances;

1. Their own brothers and sisters come to her husband home and there is no issue.. He/she (wife siblings) has unrestricted access to everything in the house since it's her sister's husband house.. But when the husband siblings come, they have restricted access to some things in the house.. Any attempt to go futher, the wife start bringing up attitude towards them..

2. The wife mother comes and she is free to stay as long as she wants but if the husband mother comes, the selfish wife is already asking the husband when will mama leave for her place....

3. The husband sends money to her family, no problem, the husband sends to his family, then there is need for him to be accountable for the money sent to his own parents oooo..

4. Husband sponsors wife siblings to school and all is fine.. Husband sponsors his own siblings and the wife develops hatred automatically towards the sibling bcox she thinks they are draining her husband resources..


Some married women are wicked soul in disguise. Bad enough, you wunt see these attitudes in them until they are married.

I still wonder and ask; why are some married woman so selfish and demonic in nature?

joyandfaith:


It is only stupid men that marry or being controlled by wicked women.
My principles!!!!
1.My wife earning is for herself, her children, her parents and siblings. If she wants to assist me, fine. Law of financial independence
2.My earning is for myself, my wife, my children, my parents, my siblings . If i want to assist her parents and siblings, it depend on how she and her people relate with my siblings and parents. Law of reciprocity.
3. My people have access to my personal room while her people have access to her personal room and kitchen. Law of privacy.

Iyaebe:
kikikiki you don't like truth abi?Well,I already know my future husband's people will not like me so I'm prepared and patiently waiting. As for me I'll always be alert so that I will not be caught unawares

JONNYSPUTE:
....Lol. Your approach in tackling it can work but how about bringing both your wife and your siblings together and actually find out the remote cause of the animosity?

Like I said,your approach is ok because I have used the exact means and it work but only for a short term.

Iyaebe:
kikikiki you don't like truth abi?Well,I already know my future husband's people will not like me so I'm prepared and patiently waiting. As for me I'll always be alert so that I will not be caught unawares

Origin:
when you consider the attitude of some families you will realize that its not because it is a side of the family, rather it is the mentality.

i grew up taking my brother's and uncle's wives as my sister and aunties.

but where a small girl or boy will be calling a grown up - my wife and will want to treat are as a slave.....


you do the maths there will always be problem....

they will never help out, eat and leave the dishes and housework for "our wife" no matter the age gap. Open your eyes and see the real problem.


Same goes to bosses who call their employees "my boy" or colleagues that say "my dear" to show superiority. You all need to calm down and know that the future no certain for anybody.

Mutual respect is key.

ImaIma1:
This inlaw and wife thing will always be that way, especially when the man's family sees the wife as an outsider that came to interrupt their family.

You can't come to my house with your nose raised and with obvious lack of love for me and you expect me to be free with you. It can't happen. I will just avoid you for peace sake.

It's not about being an inlaw or not. It is more about the character and attitude of people involved. I know people that are close to their MILs than their own mums.

I have an inlaw who goes straight to the pot when she's around. We are so close that she will help herself with any food she sees. Na beg I dey beg her. . But some inlaws won't even be able to try it because of their wicked hearts.

But here, you guys expect the women to treat their inlaws like their family, when the family doesn't treat her like their daughter. If they see her as a family member, they won't try to find wrong when they visit. They would rather cover up.

This topic set don dey tire person.

pocohantas:


Because contrary to popular opinion, men are not smart. They DO NOT have sense.

Mstick:
Hi Alpha men! when are we going to talk about cultism and drugs ravaging the present generation of Nigerian men? Haven't you seen the news of the 12 years old that was killed because he refused to join cult? When are we going to talk about the increasing crime rate amongst men?

pocohantas:


You are missing the fact that if you go to your sister’s house and she tells you she is tired to cook, you will go into the kitchen and cook for her sef.

If you go to your brother’s house and his wife tells you the same thing, you will enter night bus direct to Enugu. Once you get to Enugu, you'll call the whole umunna. They need to know the Owerri woman your brother married is starving him. Lil wonder his head is now bigger than his body.

Only 0.002% would act differently.

Tadeus:


You single or married?

Mstick:
Hi Alpha men! when are we going to talk about cultism and drugs ravaging the present generation of Nigerian men? Haven't you seen the news of the 12 years old that was killed because he refused to join cult? When are we going to talk about the increasing crime rate amongst men?

Tallesty1:
Way to go.

Nah men dey allow that rubbish. I remember sitting down with my two brothers, younger one and immediate elder one that just got married. We were to discuss a family project but oga said that it's got nothing to do with him because he's a married man now and his family and the wife's family come first.

We shock.

But I and my younger one played him two aside in everything. It was like he stopped to exist.

Last last when the pepper in his wife ripped, no be person tell am to find us.

Tallesty1:
Way to go.

Nah men dey allow that rubbish. I remember sitting down with my two brothers, younger one and immediate elder one that just got married. We were to discuss a family project but oga said that it's got nothing to do with him because he's a married man now and his family and the wife's family come first.

We shock.

But I and my younger one played him two aside in everything. It was like he stopped to exist.

Last last when the pepper in his wife ripped, no be person tell am to find us.

pocohantas:


You are missing the fact that if you go to your sister’s house and she tells you she is tired to cook, you will go into the kitchen and cook for her sef.

If you go to your brother’s house and his wife tells you the same thing, you will enter night bus direct to Enugu. Once you get to Enugu, you'll call the whole umunna. They need to know the Owerri woman your brother married is starving him. Lil wonder his head is now bigger than his body.

Only 0.002% would act differently.

Timekeeper:


Man's side? Probably yes bcox they aren't really familiar wth the woman unlike the wife siblings Dt knows her in & out...

But ladies shud accomodate their in laws