MummyD2020:


Send more to her husband's family, why abeg?

ImaIma1:


Especially a woman that makes her own money. She should send her money to her own family if they need help.

I don't really subscribe to a husband taking up his wife's family's responsibilities, except he decided to do so on his own accord.

And in a case like the comment you quoted, it makes the husband know that she also cares about his family.

lorhema:


This is, I believe, the crux of the matter. The wife, having been treated as as outsider or unwanted guest, feels no need to care or look out for her in-laws.

Meanwhile, some in-laws believe that they have full rights in their brother's
home and disregard the iyawo's rights in her own home.

The situation the OP posted is created.
Dealing with it will require walking back to the beginning and righting the wrongs.

Sterope:
In a culture that mandates submission, it is expected he takes care of her family.

ImaIma1:


Which culture exactly? Is it submission of the wife or submission of her whole family?

joyandfaith:


It is only stupid men that marry or being controlled by wicked women.
My principles!!!!
1.My wife earning is for herself, her children, her parents and siblings. If she wants to assist me, fine. Law of financial independence
2.My earning is for myself, my wife, my children, my parents, my siblings . If i want to assist her parents and siblings, it depend on how she and her people relate with my siblings and parents. Law of reciprocity.
3. My people have access to my personal room while her people have access to her personal room and kitchen. Law of privacy.

pocohantas:


Thank you for that. I’ll correct it.



I am not even being biased here, we see it everyday. Also I hope I get to understand why you guys only visit the brother working in Shell. The one that is down with a stroke and has just his wife taking care of him, you never visit those ones. Why?


OCD = Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

Timekeeper:
I think there is a evil that reside in a lady once she gets married... As in, some married women are so selfish and wicked... S

Let me give these instances;

1. Their own brothers and sisters come to her husband home and there is no issue.. He/she (wife siblings) has unrestricted access to everything in the house since it's her sister's husband house.. But when the husband siblings come, they have restricted access to some things in the house.. Any attempt to go futher, the wife start bringing up attitude towards them..

2. The wife mother comes and she is free to stay as long as she wants but if the husband mother comes, the selfish wife is already asking the husband when will mama leave for her place....

3. The husband sends money to her family, no problem, the husband sends to his family, then there is need for him to be accountable for the money sent to his own parents oooo..

4. Husband sponsors wife siblings to school and all is fine.. Husband sponsors his own siblings and the wife develops hatred automatically towards the sibling bcox she thinks they are draining her husband resources..


Some married women are wicked soul in disguise. Bad enough, you wunt see these attitudes in them until they are married.

I still wonder and ask; why are some married woman so selfish and demonic in nature?

ednut1:
I noticed this too. Evil creatures

pocohantas:


Lmao. I hope this notice is not playing out in your house gaangaan.

Sterope:
In a culture that mandates submission, it is expected he takes care of her family.

Timekeeper:


I can't even say.. I hardly go to any of my Married siblings house.... Infact it's been long I saw them, no time for anybody...

But for one, my brother's wife... She encourages my brother to spend money on her family than us.. It ended terrible for him as marriage turned sour.. My brother does as if he just won a jackpot anytime his wife family are around but for we, long thing..

Long story but we push him aside.. We don't even communicate with him again...

OvertheTop:



Forgive Him o.....He needs you Guys(his Family)

Its Wife Manipulation.....that Caused it...(He complied to get Rest of Mind)

Are They Apart now?

pocohantas:


Lol. If you see him, they did not born you well to say this to his face, because you won’t like where you’ll sleep that day, maybe week sef.

pocohantas:


Lmao. I hope this notice is not playing out in your house gaangaan.

Sterope:
Submission of the wife. Her husband can stop her from doing so many things including taking up jobs. She is naturally expected to give up working hours for the family.

The man that expects that must be ready to bear the cost of her parents welfare as well.

ednut1:
i never marry na. Even for my parents time my dad sent 2 of my mums brothers abroad and helped many of them. But from his own side he no send any of them abroad, some later went on their own . I kuku know my self. My wife no fit try any nonsense. I take care of any relatives from my side with my money, she will do same with her own money

Timekeeper:


How did u know he commented on this post.. U dey follow the guy àbi

Timekeeper:

Be doing good man there.. No be only need his family, na fami lick
We don't give a fvck...... We are not offended but we got notin to do together again.....

Apart since years ago... Infact na my mama dey cater for him kids... Very rubbish brother..

Over 2 or 3 years I saw him last and I don't even care.. Bro

pocohantas:
No devil entered them. It is who they are. The signs are always there. Some people are not family oriented or accommodating.

I generally have a problem with people that do not respect my space or rules, given that I have chronic OCD. That is my problem with guests. But if you give me my way, mind your business and help in your own little way to take care of the home, we have no problem.

Truth is, Nigerians are very bad guests and they don’t know. The ones from the man’s side tend to be the worst. No disrespect intended.

OvertheTop:


These are the Signs The OP is Referring to....

She will have No issues Accommodating her own Siblings/Family BUT already has a Terrible Mindset of the Husband's Siblings/Family.

The Truth is that: You will be served your own POISON if you happen to have a SON married in the Future.

The Wife of Your SON will Use you to play Badminton.

No Disrespect intended.

Myexdisturbs:

But it is your sister not an in-law who treated u this way.i hope you understood the op

Mstick:
Hi Alpha men! when are we going to talk about cultism and drugs ravaging the present generation of Nigerian men? Haven't you seen the news of the 12 years old that was killed because he refused to join cult? When are we going to talk about the increasing crime rate amongst men?

Arsenate:

It's literally being talked about in multiple threads on the front page at the moment and you aren't even in any to air your view.
You don't care about cultism or any of those things you listed. You are just trying to deflect from a topic that makes you uncomfortable.

Mariangeles:


So, you're saying it's OK to be treated that way by a sister, but when a sister in-law does it, she's "selfish and wicked"?

pocohantas:
No devil entered them. It is who they are. The signs are always there. Some people are not family oriented or accommodating.

I generally have a problem with people that do not respect my space or rules, given that I have chronic OCD. That is my problem with guests. But if you give me my way, mind your business and help in your own little way to take care of the home, we have no problem.

Truth is, Nigerians are very bad guests and they don’t know. The ones from the man’s side tend to be the worst. No disrespect intended.