pocohantas:


Your guy is 37, then it is Nigerian ladies that should work on themselves and upgrade at an early age? Are you listening to yourself?

How many young men are very established at 30 and below?

I give it to women. They are way more realistic than men. If you want financial security, then a woman knows she has to target older men. If it is looks and Instagram love, then younger guys can come into play.

Of course you would see young women in various organizations earning the standard-6-digit, but we are not going to act like the bulk of Nigerians are that stable.

It is either this or that. Except you go into certain circles that have had it soft from birth.

franchasofficia:
Lolz.


He is not looking for a rich lady per se, just a cool headed chick from a responsible family that isn't a leech.

He just want a chick between 27 to 31 who is matured, reasonable, focused, attractive, youthful, not a financial baggage which many seems to be according to complaints we read and hear daily.

pocohantas:


Your post sounded otherwise. You can send this thread to your friend. I believe the tips here would guide him.

It is nice to know men are looking for wives actively. I thought Nigerian men have stopped marrying (NIGERIAN) WOMEN.

bigpicture001:
Thannks climbing above average is really very tough... And time is not on my side anymore.. am mid 30...

See this one. *yinmu* Awon advanced bachelors that women have used and dumped. They will now come online to be pouring their vitriol on innocent women.

Guy, you are just in your mid-30s and you say time is running out for you? Shuoooo. You no be man? You no be Nigerian man? How time go dey catch up to you naaa? That is impossican't!

tensazangetsu20:
Quality women in Nigeria . What an oxymoron . There are no quality women in Africa. It's why African ladies struggle to date or get married once they leave here. You have to deal with what is available or stay single.

If I know say you get small vawulence for your head, I for mention you too.

Oh. Your own is that it is ONLY Nigerian (African) women that are not quality enough? Eheh! I laugh in Mandarin.

So you think women of other races are slightly better than us? You don't know that those ones are our senior colleagues in wokism, liberalism and independence? You no know say we dey learn from them? People that don't have culture? Women that don't submit? Women that live in a highly gynocentric society? If you think we show you people pepper, go and try them.

See, see, the earlier you realise every kind of woman get her own comma, and that it is not by race or age, the better for you o. I have sayed my own.

begoniaa:


If I no say you get vawulence for your trail, I for mention you too.

Oh. Your own is that it is ONLY Nigerian women that are not quality enough? Eheh! I laugh in Mandarin.

So you think women of other races are slightly better than us? You don't know that those ones are our senior colleagues in wokism, liberalism and independence? You no know say we dey learn from them? People that don't have culture? Women that submit? Women that live in a highly gynocentric society? If you think we show you people pepper, go and try them.

See, see, the earlier you realise every kind of woman get her own comma, and that it is not by race or age, the better for you o. I have sayed my own.

pocohantas:


Your post sounded otherwise. You can send this thread to your friend. I believe the tips here would guide him.

It is nice to know men are looking for wives actively. I thought Nigerian men have stopped marrying (NIGERIAN) WOMEN.

pocohantas:


Twist it the right way, THEY WOULD AGREE WITH YOU.

SeaTrade:
When I dey talk am ,una dey say I dey craze or I'm not modern.
Na experience with a lot of them make me kill that idea.
I need space,I want freedom....na their mantra.


One tell me say she's a full grown woman and i should not restrict her movements or tell her what to do,
That she is free to go to any country of her choice for vacation and if I'm not coming she'll still go,
Or I can't hold her from having girls night out with her friends if they come town(clubbing sef follow),she say make she make those points clear before marriage.
Funny thing is I'm way more richer than this person,the gap is so obvious.
Sometimes when she starts to cap,dey form levels,i go remind am say I be odogwu, she go stay quiet.
Now imagine if she was richer?Suicide!


Anything independent woman,my hand no dey.
When I ready to marry,I will look for a 22 year old out of university girl,if she must work,there's plenty of room in my business.


Carry your so called independence go meet men weh no fit hustle,no carry am come hustler side.
You can date them, have casual fun with them but try not to marry them for your sanity's sake and to prevent yourself from emasculation and emotional/verbal torture.
There may be good,submissive ones out there but very few and they'll pretend a lot,it takes a very smart man to see beyond their smoke screen.

Dbestkilishi:
I once told a friend of mine that looking for [b][/b]a wife [b][/b]is now more difficult than looking for money. I guess the thread portrays my point.

Gerrard59:


A post by SeaTrade few days ago:




You people want SeaTrade to run courses at Lagos business school or Covenant School in a bid to find a marriageable woman yet he espouses views as the bold?

Also, SeaTrade aka Logobenz has a history of criticising women, bodyshaming and age-shaming them on this forum. Is that the kind of man y'all think an Igbo lady working in Dangote or Seplat or PwC or UBA will gladly marry? Big fat no! The Igbo ladies I know who work in such firms will rather remain single till they die than marry someone with such a mentality. If Nigeria tire them, they apply for MBA or MSc programs and japa. UK, Canada, US, Australia, Ireland, Germany, Norway etc dey available for women to japa to. If SeaTrade marries such a woman, I will bet on this account that they'd divorce within the first two years. If they don't, I'll deactivate this account.

Dude, you cannot give what you don't have. You can't aspire to marry ladies from CU or Babcock who work in reputable firms when you believe every woman out there is doing hook-up or Ndi feminism. You need to choose a struggle.

In summary, your wife is somewhere in IMSU or Federal Polytechnic Oko.

begoniaa:


See this one. *yinmu* Awon advanced bachelors that women have used and dumped. They will now come online to be pouring their vitriol on innocent women.

Guy, you are just in your mid-30s and you say time is running out for you? Shuoooo. You no be man? You no be Nigerian man? How time go dey catch up to you naaa? That is impossican't!

Raalsalghul:


So this is how marriage dey shark una.

You've been hyperventilating up and down this thread like a random molecule.

Person wey know know go think say you win lotto.

Lol!

begoniaa:

The under 25s of today that are in their hoeing phase will be the evening newspapers of tomorrow with sexual baggage... so watin una go come do like this? Can't move forward, can't move backward. Warra pity. Mtchew.

Gerrard59:
A post by SeaTrade few days ago:


You people want SeaTrade to run courses at Lagos business school or Covenant School in a bid to find a marriageable woman yet he espouses views as the bold?

This comrade is serving it hot! Abeg, abeg, temper justice with mercy and pity our bro naw.

This "analytical" verdict is fire, by the way!

Raalsalghul:


And I'm sure that thought alone will sweeten this weekend for you.

tensazangetsu20:
Quality women in Nigeria . What an oxymoron . There are no quality women in Africa. It's why African ladies struggle to date or get married once they leave here. You have to deal with what is available or stay single.

Op the kind of women you want are very rare in Nigeria. I am sure your spec will probably be an under 25 who has a good career going for her maybe works in banking, investment banking, financial services, oil and gas and maybe tech lol. This one hard o. Let's take KPMG or McKinsey. Total female employees at both firms fit no reach 2000 and we have over 100 million women in Nigeria. How many multinationals do we have. Nigerian women working at good companies with good career are probably less than 100000 out of over 100 million Nigerian women and that's me being generous with numbers. In real life it's much less like much much less. The Best thing for you to find the kind of woman you want is probably to go to Europe where everyone is extremely educated and has good paying jobs and careers or you stick with what you can see in Nigeria.


Another thing too is your profession I know you have money but a lot of this girls are looking for way more than money many of them are looking to leave Nigeria and they would best be doing it with someone on their own calibre. Professional and educational experience. A lot of them won't bring themselves to marry a trader despite how rich he is. I have a very wealthy friend I used to know in ladipo wealthy and young snd I tried to introduce him to some of my female colleagues but they outrightly rejected him even though he has money. Most of those girls they love money but money isn't all that is to them. They want guys who are also earning big working in very promising careers too. It's not easy.

Gerrard59:


A post by Sea.Trade few days ago:




You people want Sea.Trade to run courses at Lagos business school or Covenant School in a bid to find a marriageable woman yet he espouses views as the bold?

Also, Sea.Trade aka Logobenz has a history of criticising women, bodyshaming and age-shaming them on this forum. Is that the kind of man y'all think an Igbo lady working in Dangote or Seplat or PwC or UBA will gladly marry? Big fat no! The Igbo ladies I know who work in such firms will rather remain single till they die than marry someone with such a mentality. If Nigeria tire them, they apply for MBA or MSc programs and japa. UK, Canada, US, Australia, Ireland, Germany, Norway etc dey available for women to japa to. If Sea.Trade marries such a woman, I will bet on this account that they'd divorce within the first two years. If they don't, I'll deactivate this account.

Dude, you cannot give what you don't have. You can't aspire to marry ladies from CU or Babcock who work in reputable firms when you believe every woman out there is doing hook-up or Ndi feminism. You need to choose a struggle.

In summary, your wife is somewhere in IMSU or Federal Polytechnic Oko.

begoniaa:
But this has been a huge comic relief of a thread sha.

See two-weeks-old newspapers and advanced bachelors gather dem dey talk about how to foist the so-called 'troublesome and useless' gender on their heads.

Una dey find... good and worthy women for marriage?

Hahahahahahaha!

Wait fess. Is it kaikai or a kasapreko-induced delusion? Abi it is japata-inspired hallucinations making you think the kinda women you hope to get will be interested in men like y'all? Men will your characters and beliefs?

So you stuff your mind with negativities and generalities about women, after conditioning your minds to always expecting some form of women and a kind of behaviour from them, and now that
you are ready to settle down, you are expecting a miracle from heaven? You think you can suddenly spot a good woman? Pray tell, by what standards?

Aren't all women master game players? So why you gon' find a "genuine" good woman anywhere?

pocohantas:
The problem is his mentality/attitude. Until he fixes it, no lady from a reputable home would follow him. Even if she has hit the wall. I have told him this before and I am telling him again - as a “good friend”.

But, was it not late last year abi when... when he was always bragging in his comments about getting a young chick that works in some multinational company and has a car? No blame me o. Why I know be say na him dey always come update we online in-laws in all of his dealings with the opposite sex. If them break him heart, we go know. If he get babe, we go know. If he sleep with banny, we go know. The one wey tell am say make him buy ice-cream for am at supermarket, he con tell us. Like, everything I know about him on this NL is against my will.

Now again, he's back in the same circle, obviously looking for a new catch and he has come to update us.

tensazangetsu20:


I know what OP wants. Chances of getting it in Nigeria are less than 0.5 percent. Under 25 woman with a good career. Very hard.

Raalsalghul:


You, you kukuma get bad mouth from the beginning of time albeit with a friendly tone.

Quick question: what is your definition of a quality woman and why do you think majority of Nigerian/African women are not?

I personally think that is an unfair assertion.

And that "japa" factor wey you add na another thing ladies consider these days.

tensazangetsu20:


This is the koko now especially in corporate Nigeria. Most working class ladies like working class with good careers o not salesgirl kind of job drop a guy working at KPMG or McKinsey and a millionaire trader at ladipo and aspanda. They will choose the KPMG guy over and over again before those guys at ladipo and aspanda. The KPMG guy has a very high potential of japa and once he can japa to a good country you know what he will be earning. Also getting into KPMG takes a lot intellectually which is something people take into consideration especially with how intelligent they might want their kids to be. It's not all about money nowadays especially with really quality women that have a lot going on for them. Even in other parts of the world it's the same. You can expect a lady working at Goldman Sachs in new york to frolick and marry a welder from an oil field in north Dakota. Even If the welder has money it will rarely happen.

begoniaa:


But, was it not late last year abi when... when he was always bragging in his comments about getting a young chick that works in some multinational company and has a car? .

JBriel:




You're as misinformed as them then. It takes more than average iQ to own an run am enterprise. Even bill gates admitted.not profiting from a billion dollars after investing in Nigeria

tensazangetsu20:


Definitely you are talking of an enterprise and not a 2 by 2 corner shop. There's a lot of startup founders and consulting business owners that have absolutely no problem dating and meeting and marrying quality women too.

tensazangetsu20:


Definitely you are talking of an enterprise and not a 2 by 2 corner shop. There's a lot of startup founders and consulting business owners that have absolutely no problem dating and meeting and marrying quality women too.

tensazangetsu20:
I know what OP wants. Chances of getting it in Nigeria are less than 0.5 percent. Under 25 woman with a good career. Very hard.

Ayinke93:
See!!!! I want to buy you a drink.

I’ve been reading the thread and having the time of my life. Funny lots. With Just a little more introspection, they won’t be making a joke of themselves on the internet. People that the kind of women they are describing won’t look at twice forming spec. Mostly unattractive, arrogant and delusional.

Nairaland men won’t kill me

And the question is; did OP himself have a good career at 25? How many men are okay at under 30? Be stressing women with you people’s unrealistic standards that you can’t even meet.

Ayinke93:


And the question is; did OP himself have a good career at 25? How many men are okay at under 30? Be stressing women with you people’s unrealistic standards that you can’t even meet.

Raalsalghul:
You, you kukuma get bad mouth from the beginning of time albeit with a friendly tone.

Quick question: what is your definition of a quality woman and why do you think majority of Nigerian/African women are not?

I personally think that is an unfair assertion.

And that "japa" factor wey you add na another thing ladies consider these days.

This one touch me. Rosco is defending ME, as a Nigerian/African woman. OMG, I'm gonna cry.