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Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by Sweetvie: 8:59am On Aug 25, 2023 |
Samantha124:True. But she's doesn't have to make silly excuses everytime. Her relatives are always sick. Com'on she just don't wanna go out with the kids. She should take care of the kids and let the husband make money. If the husband keep coming home to look after the kids, they are going to end up living in the street. |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by LINSAR: 9:29am On Aug 25, 2023 |
Samantha124: 1. In that case, op and his wife are also ignorant because they also don't see it as a risk. So why is the wife not wanting to take the kids along since she sees nothing risky in it? Now, the OP didn't complain of children issues alone. But you're only particular about his flaws as regards the children. Why did you not talk about his wife's flaws too: My wife lacks respect for me as a husband. Sometimes, the way she talks to me is as if I'm her boy or her mate. This woman called my wife is also very ungrateful. She never appreciate anything. I can't correct her when she's wrong without her getting angry. Most times when i send her to buy something, her mood changes or she starts complaining. I can't tell her to cook what my appetite yearns for without her complaining, especially swallow. |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by Nobody: 10:01am On Aug 25, 2023 |
At the bolded, if she saw nothing risky, she'd have been taking the children, but she values her children's health by leaving them behind... Children can also be easily traumatized from seeing sick people. Those other minor issues can be easily resolved and don't require a third intervention... All marriages have ups and downs. It's not every time that when married couples have issues, they should run to others for help, that alone would show that they were never ready to get married in the first place. As long as there's no extramarital affair or physical abuse, then everything can be resolved... They made a vow that they'll be together for better and for worse.[quote author=LINSAR post=125345933] 1. In that case, op and his wife are also ignorant because they also don't see it as a risk. So why is the wife not wanting to take the kids along since she sees nothing risky in it? Now, the OP didn't complain of children issues alone. But you're only particular about his flaws as regards the children. Why did you not talk about his wife's flaws too: [/quote] |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by LINSAR: 12:57pm On Aug 25, 2023 |
Samantha124: I noticed you're ignoring some issues I raised just to be biased towards the wife. You never blamed his wife for referring their kids to him to poo while she is idle. You never blamed her for being disrespectful to him. You never blamed her for being ungrateful and unappreciative to her husband. You never blamed her for refusing to take corrections. You never blamed her for always refusing to assist her husband when he asks. You never blamed her for refusing to cook his favourite meals when he asks. But you blame the man because his wife is using kids to disturb his work for his daily bread. You even accused him of not wanting to be involved in his kids lives. The hardworking and responsible man is the bad guy while the idle woman who does nothing other than visit ever sick relatives is the good lady. Speaks volume about the kind of wife you will be. Shalom! |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by Nobody: 1:07pm On Aug 25, 2023 |
I said those other issues can be easily resolved, but since you've already made up your mind that I'm biased, then okay. LINSAR: |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by maak400: 3:17pm On Aug 25, 2023 |
Let darkness walk with darkness, and light walk with light. Never wife up a wicked woman. Let her rot in her wickedness alone. - Pansophist, 2023. Tuale Baba. pansophist: |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 2:24am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Yugoslavia247:OP, be wary of stupid advice. |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by Yugoslavia247(m): 7:18am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 8:06am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Yugoslavia247:We're doing great. OP, If what she is doing doesn't go down well with you then stamp your foot and insist she does right. Don't waste time reporting to her mother since it is obvious she will side with her. You are the sole provider of your family so she absolutely has no right to treat you that way.
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Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by Yugoslavia247(m): 8:08am On Aug 26, 2023 |
ADAMUdaCOWBOY: Patriarchy is vague. Understand this and know peace. |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 8:18am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Yugoslavia247:If she was the breadwinner of the family, you are the same people that will drag the poor dude and label him lazy, now he goes out, works his fingers to the bones, comes back home to rest only for the wife to push her baby with poo poo on the bum for him to wash while she sits and watch and you are here giving me a silly "patriarchy is vague" quote, whatever that nonsense means. Mstchew 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by Rtk4: 8:46am On Aug 26, 2023 |
ADAMUdaCOWBOY:do you know what she did just yesterday again? She told me that her aunty wants to see her, then she left around 5pm. Guess what time she came back? Past 11pm. Till now I refused to say anything. She kept on saying sorry for not calling to tell me that they took the aunty to hospital |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by Rtk4: 8:47am On Aug 26, 2023 |
ADAMUdaCOWBOY:She told me that her aunty wants to see her just yesterday, then she left around 5pm. Guess what time she came back? Past 11pm. Till now I refused to say anything. She kept on saying sorry for not calling to tell me that they took the aunty to hospital |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by Rtk4: 8:48am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Samantha124:She told me that her aunty wants to see her just yesterday, then she left around 5pm. Guess what time she came back? Past 11pm. Till now I refused to say anything. She kept on saying sorry for not calling to tell me that they took the aunty to hospital. |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by Rtk4: 8:50am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Sweetvie:She told me that her aunty wants to see her just yesterday, then she left around 5pm. Guess what time she came back? Past 11pm. Till now I refused to say anything. She kept on saying sorry for not calling to tell me that they took the aunty to hospital |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by ADAMUdaCOWBOY: 10:04am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Rtk4:I don't recommend divorce, but you must refuse to accept what you can't live with, a woman will give you only the kind of treatment you show her you can accommodate. So far you provide for your home, she dare not treat you that way. As you see her, if she should be the breadwinner for just one week, you will be a total slave. Never pray to see that day brother, it will be bad. 1 Like |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by DND069: 11:12am On Aug 26, 2023 |
Complains from married men these days is becoming worrisome. From the look of things, this institution called marriage could go instinct in years to come, because peace of mind is getting scarce from it. It is from one problem to another. 1 Like |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by Nobody: 3:52pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
Sir, sit down with your wife and have a heart to heart talk with her... Tell her your likes and dislikes in a polite way to avoid fighting with her... Remind her how much she means to you and how you don't want the good relationship that you have to be destroyed by minor things that could easily be resolved. Call her aunt to check on her, in that way, you'll be able to know if she's there with her. And stop trying to involve third parties into your marriage, especially nairalanders because they'll only tell you negative things that'll get you suspecting your wife for nothing. Rtk4: 1 Like |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by Sweetvie: 9:29pm On Aug 26, 2023 |
Rtk4:I think you guys really need to talk, like real talk. If it ain't gonna work anymore you just need to cut your losses and let go. You need to be a man and talk to your wife, if you can't even talk to your wife and let her listen, how are you gonna train your kids? I alws tell people, marriage is never a do or die affair. |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by pansophist(m): 12:26am On Aug 27, 2023 |
wwwtortoise: Wow, I didn't know there was a verse in Ecclesiastes that explained it so clearly. Also, a lot of modern philosophical works can be traced to the bible. There was a time (a few years ago) when I was linking modern philosophical and scientific works to passages in the bible, and I linked at least a hundred. And I lost the file. I will try to do it again and post it here. The Bible is deeply philosophical and scientific, and if one removes their bias (e.g. being non-religious), they could see lots of material wisdom in its teachings. Lemme list some that I can remember. 1. What redpillers called the 80/20 rule is known scientifically as the Pareto principle, and biblically as the Mattew principle (Matthew 25;29). 2. The Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung always talks about the shadow, and that every person should recognize, accept, and integrate their dark sides to become whole. So biblically as you wrote, it would be Ecclesiastes 7:16-17. I will be updating this page as I remember them, or probably just create a new topic. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by Rtk4: 2:47am On Aug 27, 2023 |
Sweetvie:but to her marriage is a do or die or..... Once i talk about separation she becomes so violent about it. |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by Sweetvie: 7:28am On Aug 27, 2023 |
Rtk4:That's why you guys need to talk. If she want healthy marriage, she should learn to behave. |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by maak400: 1:21pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
@wwwtortoise that Bible passage is really eye opening. @Pansophist pls do well to look for the file. The Bible is filled with wisdom especially Ecclesiaste. Ecclesiastes 7:15-17 (MSG Version) I’ve seen it all in my brief and pointless life—here a good person cut down in the middle of doing good, there a bad person living a long life of sheer evil. So don’t knock yourself out being good, and don’t go overboard being wise. Believe me, you won’t get anything out of it. But don’t press your luck by being bad, either. And don’t be reckless. Why die needlessly? pansophist: |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by Exceed15: 5:00pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
Calm down bro. There's still room for adjustable especially for the sake of the children. Is her father still alive ? |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by pansophist(m): 6:29pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
maak400: I'll look for it. It's probably hidden in some. Filders deep in my hard drive |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by wwwtortoise(m): 7:20pm On Aug 27, 2023 |
pansophist:As you rightly said there’s more to the Bible than meets the eyes. I see it as a coded book with snippets of life nuggets. Please do well to create a thread for this (when time permits) so we can run minds and share ideas. Cheers ! |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by KingClown(m): 10:29pm On Aug 31, 2023 |
pansophist: I no dey read bible like that but I don read the book of ecclesiastes more than 5 times |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by GraciousWords: 8:56pm On Nov 10, 2023 |
pansophist: Pansophist, abeg, how far with that your file, you don see am? Would be very interesting to read. Thanks for mentioning Jordan Peterson in one of your posts...His EXODUS series has been an eye opener for me. |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by cooooooks(m): 9:32pm On Nov 10, 2023 |
How did the relationship and marriage start? That is probably where the problem started. As for your wife who doesn't want to to care for her kids, there isn't much you can do. You have married her, gotten her pregnant and she has given birth 3 times. There isn't much info in your post. You either pour everything out completely or go for counseling. |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by cooooooks(m): 9:35pm On Nov 10, 2023 |
The excuses you put in shows that she is stepping out on you. She has shown you that there is no love in her heart again. Maybe she feels that the mere fact that she gave you children is enough. She no wan do again. I promise you that your wife wont feel bad if you divorce. At least not at first. It will give her the freedom to do all her extra-curriculars in peace. Rtk4: |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by cooooooks(m): 9:45pm On Nov 10, 2023 |
A bad mother or bad father is worse than no mother/father. Samantha124: 1 Like |
Re: Please Guys I Seriously Need Your Input On This by pansophist(m): 11:00pm On Nov 10, 2023 |
GraciousWords: Which file be that? remind me abeg |
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