Sonnobax15:

Some will come here and say what the man did was wrong but every sensible man knows that the demerits of a married woman being on social media platforms exceeds it's merits by far...


Abi no be the same social media wey I take disguise just to ask my most trusted banny if she get BF...But to my greatest surprise,the kind heart break wey the NO wey she take reply me give me still get foot prints for my kidney till today..

that’s what you get when you personalize public property

Samantha124:
If I want to join social media and my man tells me this, I'll agree with him without arguing and secretly buy another phone and join with a different name and not use my pictures, or I'll disguise my looks just to confuse him a bit in case he ever comes across any of my accounts...

Then I would arrest you in Real-Life for impersonating my Wife.

How would I be impersonating your wife when I'd be using a different identity?

And in this world, it's believe that every person has at least 4 lookalikes.

nairamaniac:


Then I would arrest you in Real-Life for impersonating my Wife.

Samantha124:
How would I be impersonating your wife when I'd be using a different identity?

And in this world, it's believe that every person has at least 4 lookalikes.

If you were my wife and pretend with another identity on social media.


If I find out, I would arrest you and pretent I feel it's the person that impersonating you I'm arresting.



If you pretend to be dead, I would pretend to bury you

Samantha124:
Three paragraphs on a Saturday evening? Come on comrade, have mercy on me...

Immediately a read the first sentence, I started getting filled with regrets..😂😂😂

It seems like you're spiritually gifted to be feeling your partners emotionally and psychologically, or perhaps they deliberately gave you signs just so you can find out what they're up to and break things off with them.

I'm not easily moved by material things and ever since I heard about some of the things these ladies do in Dubai, I can't help but be disgusted by that name... Now whenever we hear a young and fine looking lady saying she's going to Dubai, we're already suspecting her of doing unimaginable things there.

If I was a millionaire, I don't think I'd visit that city, even if I do, it'd be after some years because right now I'm still traumatized by the things I heard... The way some ladies are willing to do anything for money, it's scary.

it was after posting I saw it was long.

Naaaa, they were not doing it deliberately. All the girls I broke up with end up getting shattered....like really heartbroken.. they still call till today talking about chance and all...but I don't go back to a broken relationship.

I'm glad you are not interested in all that Dubai nonsense. It is very difficult to find people that respect themselves these days both boys and girls. I was raised in a Conservative home where marriage and honor is upheld. Nothing irritates me like how relationships and marriages have been defiled in the name of "Socialisation ". People have lost their value.
There's nothing honorable in doing the wrong things for money... money is overrated, peace is underrated. We are not lazy but we are not desperate. Honorable wealth will come our way, the kind that will last generations.

I'm glad you have honor and you have respect for yourself and family. Its worth it completely.


Hope this one is not long

Kobojunkie:
Which saner clime una dey talk of? A man dare not even mention such stupid nonsense to his spouse in a sane clime.

Lol🤣🤣🤣

Samantha124:
If I want to join social media and my man tells me this, I'll agree with him without arguing and secretly buy another phone and join with a different name and not use my pictures, or I'll disguise my looks just to confuse him a bit in case he ever comes across any of my accounts...

Coconut head 😂

Testiebobo:
It is true that some elderly couples are more concerned about their partners even than the younger ones.
" I dont want to see you on social media! But why? Dont you know that when you are on social media you get more exposed to the world, and your privacy might be tampered with by the public. But you can only join whatsapp, so that i can get in touch with you whenever i am absent from home." hmm i laugh in spanish!

Your dad is a great man.

MS247:



That's just a man protecting his family the best way he can

There is one foolish Ibo Boy here on Nairaland who copied my Facebook page from my profile, went to search for my mum and started trolling here on Nairaland

Funny enough both my Parents are here on Nairaland and see his foolishness and we all laugh about it


In his foolishness he thinks he can troll a Retired Police Officer in her 70s🤣🤣




.

If you are not telling lies, expose him here.

Samantha124:
If I want to join social media and my man tells me this, I'll agree with him without arguing and secretly buy another phone and join with a different name and not use my pictures, or I'll disguise my looks just to confuse him a bit in case he ever comes across any of my accounts...

And the day he catches you nko...

Some women and this their believe that this small deceit here and there is sustainable

MS247:



That's just a man protecting his family the best way he can

There is one foolish Ibo Boy here on Nairaland who copied my Facebook page from my profile, went to search for my mum and started trolling here on Nairaland

Funny enough both my Parents are here on Nairaland and see his foolishness and we all laugh about it


In his foolishness he thinks he can troll a Retired Police Officer in her 70s🤣🤣




.

Your father was a police officer ? No wonder. The trait is clearly manifesting

Samantha124:
He's a Sotho from Free State province, but his father is originally from Lesotho.

He and his family came to Limpopo when he was still a teenager for work purposes... I have no issues with guys from my tribe, I just never got a chance to date one before... Sometimes I wish I did, in that way, I wouldn't have to move too far away from my family because I really can't stay away from them for too long... I get home sick... Even now I'm at home, I traveled yesterday because I really missed my parents and cats.

But I'm sure your first child is an adult now...

Ah! A Sotho... That 's cool. The Basotho's extend right into Lesotho but the largest number are citizens of South Africa. His father must have worked in the mines back in the day. A

The day he catches me I'll own up to everything and tell him that I wouldn't have joined social media secretly only if he didn't forbid it.

I'll turn the tables and blame him for it...

tunjilana:


And the day he catches you nko...

Some women and this their believe that this small deceit here and there is sustainable

Samantha124:
If I want to join social media and my man tells me this, I'll agree with him without arguing and secretly buy another phone and join with a different name and not use my pictures, or I'll disguise my looks just to confuse him a bit in case he ever comes across any of my accounts...

It's a gradual process.... Before we know we are loss. Disobey your good husband protective advice, I know one day it will backfire.

But you could be right because I've also noticed that nowadays it's as if my man always knows when I'm up to no good... If I easily agree to something that I normally wouldn't, he'd make sure to keep a close eye on me, even when I'm just being genuine...

But on the other hand, maybe I'm just saying all these things about Dubai because my family always made sure that I was well taken cared of and I never found myself in a situation where I'd be looking for financial assistance outside... Because desperation can sometimes push a person to the limits.

But I'm not gonna lie, right now the name Dubai still traumatizes me, it's a beautiful city, no doubt, but the stories that I've heard are still stuck in my head.

YourGFsnatcher:

it was after posting I saw it was long.

Naaaa, they were not doing it deliberately. All the girls I broke up with end up getting shattered....like really heartbroken.. they still call till today talking about chance and all...but I don't go back to a broken relationship.

I'm glad you are not interested in all that Dubai nonsense. It is very difficult to find people that respect themselves these days both boys and girls. I was raised in a Conservative home where marriage and honor is upheld. Nothing irritates me like how relationships and marriages have been defiled in the name of "Socialisation ". People have lost their value.
There's nothing honorable in doing the wrong things for money... money is overrated, peace is underrated. We are not lazy but we are not desperate. Honorable wealth will come our way, the kind that will last generations.

I'm glad you have honor and you have respect for yourself and family. Its worth it completely.


Hope this one is not long

The funny thing about the whole thing is that you're the one who's still going to suffer the consequences of getting me arrested.

You'll still come and pay for my bail and if you don't have a family legal aid, then you'll have to pay a lawyer from your own pocket because I'll be stuck in a police cell at that time...

Unless you eventually decide to drop the charges after feeling that I've learned my lesson...

nairamaniac:

If you were my wife and pretend with another identity on social media.


If I find out, I would arrest you and pretent I feel it's the person that impersonating you I'm arresting.



If you pretend to be dead, I would pretend to bury you

Ah! Comrade, out of everything you just had to suspect that his father was a Zama Zama?😂😂😂

This got me laughing...

Swiftgrp:
Ah! A Sotho... That 's cool. The Basotho's extend right into Lesotho but the largest number are citizens of South Africa. His father must have worked in the mines back in the day. A

Samantha124:
But you could be right because I've also noticed that nowadays it's as if my man always knows when I'm up to no good... If I easily agree to something that I normally wouldn't, he'd make sure to keep a close eye on me, even when I'm just being genuine...

But on the other hand, maybe I'm just saying all these things about Dubai because my family always made sure that I was well taken cared of and I never found myself in a situation where I'd be looking for financial assistance outside... Because desperation can sometimes push a person to the limits.

But I'm not gonna lie, right now the name Dubai still traumatizes me, it's a beautiful city, no doubt, but the stories that I've heard are still stuck in my head.

You see your man is a great man. We can feel it. Not because you want to leave, but that's how it is. Tue connection is real. That's why breakups hurt.

Your family is a dope one. Growing up, if my dad catch us begging? All these primary school begging during break,...you will know how far... he said that's how it starts...when you are always putting eye on someone's things...u ll not learn to be contented with what you have. And praise the Lord, we have never lacked anything till now. Things are just moving well for us with just little effort. I don't even know how I got to the UN with no stress and without anybody.

That Dubai get question mark...and stereotype exists for a reason...stay cool

Few times he has advised me, I didn't listen and it backfired... I'd still go to him for help...

He'd scold me, but still come to my rescue anyways and we'll late have some makeup sex afterwards...

Kanixt:

It's a gradual process.... Before we know we are loss. Disobey your good husband protective advice, I know one day it will backfire.

GreatAchiever1:


I mentioned cheating because you mentioned cheating, cheating was never included in why he wanted her not to join social media, it reasons best known to him, it was never stated. Which means it's you adding to the text.
And for people changing after getting married, the signs will be there, except ignorant due to being engrossed in the emotional feelings.

You actually brought up the cheating dynamic first with your original comment and based on the comment section, it's what everyone alluded it to

GloriousGbola:


Wayward woman. Who gave you permission to post here?i am reporting you to your husband so he can seize your phone. Wasted generation of irresponsible women. No wonder all of your are raising shoulder and divorcing. You are all learning bad thing from social media. Allowing the frustrated evening newspapers to mislead you from the love and guidance of your husbands.

Ema binu sir.

pocohantas:


They are not. That is their thought process.
The anonymity brings out their true nature. Goodluck to Nigerian women!

It is well with them and their women.

Samantha124:
If I want to join social media and my man tells me this, I'll agree with him without arguing and secretly buy another phone and join with a different name and not use my pictures, or I'll disguise my looks just to confuse him a bit in case he ever comes across any of my accounts...

Samantha
Samantha
Samantha, so gbọ mí...

I hope it won't turn out like that basket ballers wife that trended recently

What did she do?

BalogunIdowu:


Samantha
Samantha
Samantha, so gbọ mí...

I hope it won't turn out like that basket ballers wife that trended recently

Testiebobo:
It is true that some elderly couples are more concerned about their partners even than the younger ones.
" I dont want to see you on social media! But why? Dont you know that when you are on social media you get more exposed to the world, and your privacy might be tampered with by the public. But you can only join whatsapp, so that i can get in touch with you whenever i am absent from home." hmm i laugh in spanish!

Your dad is a wise man

Samantha124:
The day he catches me I'll own up to everything and tell him that I wouldn't have joined social media secretly only if he didn't forbid it.

I'll turn the tables and blame him for it...

Well, You now the man u marry or want to marry....but it doesnt work that way for all men. And even if he is lie that, after 2 or 3 emotional blackmail, the marriage wont be same again, he will begin to care less about genuine concerns from you, cos to him, it will all b blackmail
then u go say, he has changed

Well, it would still be his fault either way.

And I wouldn't be emotionally blackmailing him, but I'd be telling him the bitter truth, had he not forbid me from having social media, I wouldn't have to join it in secret and if he ends the relationship because of a mere social media, It'd only shows that he never loved and cared about my feelings.. I would've escaped a potential control freak... If he's gonna starts acting like a victim, then that's his problem... And if he starts caring less about me, that's fine, I'll also mind my business and act like he's not around.

If there's one thing I'm good at, it's giving silent treatment and acting like the person doesn't exist even if we're under the same roof...

tunjilana:



Well, You now the man u marry or want to marry....but it doesnt work that way for all men. And even if he is lie that, after 2 or 3 emotional blackmail, the marriage wont be same again, he will begin to care less about genuine concerns from you, cos to him, it will all b blackmail
then u go say, he has changed

Samantha124:
The funny thing about the whole thing is that you're the one who's still going to suffer the consequences of getting me arrested.

You'll still come and pay for my bail and if you don't have a family legal aid, then you'll have to pay a lawyer from your own pocket because I'll be stuck in a police cell at that time...

Unless you eventually decide to drop the charges after feeling that I've learned my lesson...

But on a real; if my wife adjusts her identity on social media without notification, I wd perceive cheating-tendencies and intentions all over it.

I mean, why wd she go that far?


Also there are some fair reasons due to need for privacies why some spouses wdnt subject themselves to social media.
It may come with their kind of jobs, personalities and past experiences.

I'd also be suspecting some cheating tendencies from you by forbidding me from joining social media when you're on that same social media.

The only thing most of you men know is playing victims by falsely accusing your wives of cheating after you started something you can't finish... You can't dig a hole for yourself and start blaming me when fall inside of it.

And if we're gonna talk about privacy, then I'd also expect him to delete his social media accounts and live a private life.

nairamaniac:




But on a real; if my wife adjusts her identity on social media without notification, I wd perceive cheating-tendencies and intentions all over it.

I mean, why wd she go that far?


Also there are some fair reasons due to need for privacies why some spouses wdnt subject themselves to social media.
It may come with their kind of jobs, personalities and past experiences.

Samantha124:
I'd also be suspecting some cheating tendencies from you by forbidding me from joining social media when you're on that same social media.

The only thing most of you men know is playing victims by falsely accusing your wives of cheating after you started something you can't finish... You can't dig a hole for yourself and start blaming me when fall inside of it.

And if we're gonna talk about privacy, then I'd also expect him to delete his social media accounts and live a private life.

That why I added "if there are fair reasons". However such measures shouldn't be instilled forcefully.

Naturally, a spouse has an independent freedom towards social media.

But if a fair reason come on board, for a general greater good, one party can advice both partners to abstain from social media.

Linda Ikeji and her baby daddy comes to mind.
From her story back then, one of the reasons the baby daddy didn't go ahead with the marriage is due to his kind of job having a requirement for him to be completely descreet and dark.

That he handles the business dealings of some powerful oil magnates.
She being a social media house would expose him and at the end expose his clients.

Marriage is about weighing plus and minus.

But if it's for a shallow reason that wants to seem like bullying/oppression I wdnt overblame the wife for going rogue. But 2 wrongs don't make a right.

I can't stand bullies.

BalogunIdowu:


Samantha
Samantha
Samantha, so gbọ mí...

I hope it won't turn out like that basket ballers wife that trended recently

Pls what basketball player are you referring to?

Larsa Pippen?
Or which one?

That man just didn't love Linda.

I mean you can still get married to a celebrity and choose to stay off the spotlight and not even attend any public events with your spouse.

Some celebrities have been married for years, but no one knows their spouses... Only their families and close friends do.

nairamaniac:


That why I added "if there are fair reasons". However such measures shouldn't be instilled forcefully.

Naturally, a spouse has an independent freedom towards social media.

But if a fair reason come on board, for a general greater good, one party can advice both partners to abstain from social media.

Linda Ikeji and her baby daddy comes to mind.
From her story back then, one of the reasons the baby daddy didn't go ahead with the marriage is due to his kind of job having a requirement for him to be completely descreet and dark.

That he handles the business dealings of some powerful oil magnates.
She being a social media house would expose him and at the end expose his clients.

Marriage is about weighing plus and minus.

But if it's for a shallow reason that wants to seem like bullying/oppression I wdnt overblame the wife for going rogue. But 2 wrongs don't make a right.

I can't stand bullies.