Fountainofyouth:



Ni baba e.

Lol, baba kan ko lobiwa na,

You comparing my father to urs is the high of absurdity

Uptheante:

There are pple who stayed in their parents house till that same 37 but they were hustling & building their businesses & personal house within that period, they weren't idle ;Dor depending on their parents for food or other basic necessities.
They contributed & provided for their parents needs before moving into their own houses upon completion.

You don't call such pple useless or irresponsible

Ehn no problem na. So shall it be for you and your kids. At 37 your children will be waiting for your wife’s food without clue about rent, taxes or other responsibilities adults face. Say Amen

Empresa:

@36, you can try. Things look normal in real life even when they have been manipulated spiritually.

Na person wey fall look back get sense no be person wey fall look front

The world is bigger than you, don't always view through your own prism, that gentleman can go rent a place and might find it difficult to keep up with rent, feeding even maintaining a relationship. the dynamics of surely doing well outside comfort isn't like before any longer reason rich kids pick up very fast because alot of schocks have been cushion for them. Mind you am not condoning laziness, am just saying the pattern of breaking through through getting a decent job, businesses, importation , online trading has shifted....

Don't give a damn about what people say . It is your life and decision. Use it well to your advantage.

Meaning you don't pay rent omoh your own better oo especially if you are working...

Fountainofyouth:



Check out most threads here on inheritance and fighting for properties, it is always created by men which is embarrassing and disgraceful, Op for instance is proud of living in his father's house, if he has any atom of shame, he wouldn't come here to boost about it

My point is, if men are able to toil and make a name for themselves through various achievements, inheriting parents properties will only be seen as an added advantage, not something to fight and scream over.

FoutainOfIdiocy, what have you built and achieved for yourself, are you forbidden from toiling and making name for yourself through various achievements. Dumb airheaded bitter clown 🤡

Bliss52:




Number one reason most Nigerians live away from their parents is fornication...

Indians , Pakistani, Arabs all stay with their parents till they get footings

My area brother, stayed comfortably with his parents even with wife and kids, till he built a small bungalow on one of his dads land



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Birds of same feather,alainitiju

Many Nigerian ladies are worst. Don’t let anybody pressurized you. You owe nobody explanation how you live your life.

I have a friend that we graduated together, he got married and still continue to live with his parents at Ibadan, after sometimes he traveled to Canada and his wife was still living with them, after exactly 1.5yrs the traveled to Canada too and be with her husband.

I stayed at my dad’s place for long time, after I quit my job at Lagos. I was still in his house beforeI met my wife how is a citizen of a country in abroad and I traveled out of the country.

Don’t let anyone force you to do things. Rent are expensive now due to bad naija economy situation. Never be in a competition with anybody. As I am don’t
Fancy cars neither I know the latest. I’m just an old-fashioned minded. Peace of mind is the best. Living in your parents house is not for long is just a short period of time.

Go to Lagos, some people are living in hell there, you will see all these beautiful ladies coming out from trenches houses or areas. Is not their fault but we have a failed leaders.

Live your life the way you want it. You don’t owe anybody explanation

allthingsgood:



This trend is actually disgusting. Who told you your parents need you to warm their bench for them. If you want them to be happy, build your own and carry them with you. You can always sell or let their own. Hustle your own in life and don’t be a leech to aged parents. Na wa o

Seems you lack comprehension. Read again.

iReddington:

My mother the idiot, what has my mother built and achieved for herself, is my mother forbidden from toiling and making name for herself through various achievements. Dumb airheaded bitter clown is my mother 🤡

Fixed.

Bro, nothing to feel bad about, even the prodigal son saw bills wey dey outside, Em run back go em papa house

CSTRR:

I felt very angry at the time.
But I now understand.

If he got too comfortable in my house, despite having a job, yes I would too.

Did it affect your relationship with him at first?
How is your relationship with him now?
No offense, but your dad went about it the wrong way.


The best way would be to guide him (your son) early (on how to earn and be independent)
That is where most parents get it wrong.

Fountainofyouth:








You quoted me 3 times yet lack basic comprehension and understanding of my comments

What has riches got to do with dragging
and having disputes over inheritances? It's a mentality, a crass mentality

Poor people don't kill family members for properties? I hate repeating myself but are there not countless cases of men killing themselves over fathers properties from the rich to the poor? Countless threads on here by men over disputes on properties? Why drag and create enemies or kill each other over land and house when you can make something for yourselves? And they are mostly by men, very disgusting behaviour, even Op couldn't reply a comment that asked if he's an only child which means he isn't, so there will be a property and inheritance issue between him and his siblings in the nearest future

So many slow people on nairaland, very annoying, since you lack understanding, resist the urge to quote me, I can't be repeating myself countless times.

I understood you perfectly well. You don't need to be angry at folks airing their opinions on this forum.

You only based your assumption on many cases you have witnessed.
You sensed complacency in the guy altitude; thinking enjoying the parents luxury would impede him from pursuing his own dreams and ambitions. But that may not be the reason. The Op may still be trying to get his footings.
When he is financially stable, he may find his way out, possibly, that may help him to save more and build his own house.
It may not be what you are thinking.
Know for sure that women also fight and kill over properties.

PastorFire:

The unmistakable words of a weak man!

Weak you said? I wish you know me in real life.
Life is too short to take everything as do or die. 70, 80 years, you're either forgotten or you're history.

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maasoap:

What is there to be "tiju" about?
I was living in our family house during bachelor hood, I got married while still living there. I only moved out after 7 years of marriage when I felt that I could comfortably rent a 3 bedroom flat. I lived in a rented apartment for another 5 years until last week Saturday when I moved to my own apartment.
During those 7 years of marriage in our family house, I used the opportunity to build and expand my business.
It is not always about unseriousness when men make decisions like this, it's about walking at your own pace.


You described me, friend.
Finished university education at 33. Married at 34. Moved out of family house 40. Moved onto my own house at 45. It's my life, my plan.

That's impressive bro, one thing in life is to move at your own pace & do what's best for you not minding external pressure from folks who have no idea what is best for you.
No mind that foool, he's too emotional like a woman

Uptheante:

That's impressive bro, one thing in life is to move at your own pace & do what's best for you not minding external pressure from folks who have no idea what is best for you.
No mind that foool, he's too emotional like a woman

I don't understand why men like to put themselves under unnecessary pressure. They would rather do things based on what people would say instead of what is comfortable for them

mariahAngel:


Did it affect your relationship with him at first?
How is your relationship with him now?
No offense, but your dad went about it the wrong way.


The best way would be to guide him (your son) early (on how to earn and be independent)
That is where most parents get it wrong.

Yeah, it did.

I didn't call him for four months.

Though To be fair, I was already working 9 to 5 job and earning, while still living in my parents house.
He saw no reason why I was still in his house

[You are very wrong. Nigerian is one of the country. When a man start earning good money the first thing he want to do is build is own house. quote author=Fountainofyouth post=127570380]90% Nigerian men are always entitled to their parents property, they never want to build or have theirs, smh.[/quote]

maasoap:

What is there to be "tiju" about?
I was living in our family house during bachelor hood, I got married while still living there. I only moved out after 7 years of marriage when I felt that I could comfortably rent a 3 bedroom flat. I lived in a rented apartment for another 5 years until last week Saturday when I moved to my own apartment.
During those 7 years of marriage in our family house, I used the opportunity to build and expand my business.
It is not always about unseriousness when men make decisions like this, it's about walking at your own pace.


You described me, friend.
Finished university education at 33. Married at 34. Moved out of family house at 40. Moved into my own house at 45. It's my life, my plan.


You are not listening to anyone, looks to me like you're full of yourself.

Just say Amen. Leave story

Apus:


Seems you lack comprehension. Read again.

You seethe one that appears slow
Stay there and be eating mummy food

mariahAngel:


How did you feel at the time, being given an ultimatum by your father to leave?
Would you do that to your own son?

My friend's dad is late. Infact he committed suicide due to the maltreatment from his wife (my friend's mom). The woman rubbed it on his face that she own the house, truly she does. It's out of the frustration the man packed out and later on committed suicide.
My friend told me his mom has given him and his second brother an ultimatum to leave the house. They are grown up, he's 29 while the brother is 27. They have a lil bro of about 10 or 12.
The woman is in her mid or late 40. I heard people saying she wants to remarry.... Still plump and beautiful...

I guess the commenter quoted may b experiencing same with his dad. The dad may no longer be with his mom Nd gave him an altimatum to leave so he can get himself a new woman . I'm just guessing due to what I av experienced...

It's pretty bad if u ask me....

Sammy5413:
Bro, nothing to feel bad about, even the prodigal son saw bills wey dey outside, Em run back go em papa house