dkidd:

Na so problems dey start oo but my people nor wan gree. She must marry him by fire by force. Money can do a lot of good YES but it doesn't guarantee a happy and fulfilled home. Most girls today will jump at the opportunity and try to kill two birds with one stone later on in the marriage only for the matter to cast anyhow then we hear married woman found with her ex lover or DNA wahala. And people will start blaming her because she's well taken care of by the husband. Even if eventually she doesn't even cheat on him everyone deserves to be happy na... No be her fault say the guy fall for her but it will be her fault if she frustrates the guy in future because of pent up frustration and sadness over the course of time. No one deserves to live like that abeg. Life short oo

Animegirl:
So, there's a man who wants me to be his wife. Honestly, he possesses the qualities of a good husband, but I can't deny that I don't find him attractive. Despite my efforts, I can't seem to develop feelings for him. Seeing his face makes me angry, even though he treats me well and spends generously. His height and face are a deal-breaker for me. If I accept his proposal, I know it will cause pain, but no matter how rude I've been, he won't let go. I'm considering running away from my community altogether. I don't want him to know my parents; otherwise, I'm done.

Animegirl:
So, there's a man who wants me to be his wife. Honestly, he possesses the qualities of a good husband, but I can't deny that I don't find him attractive. Despite my efforts, I can't seem to develop feelings for him. Seeing his face makes me angry, even though he treats me well and spends generously. His height and face are a deal-breaker for me. If I accept his proposal, I know it will cause pain, but no matter how rude I've been, he won't let go. I'm considering running away from my community altogether. I don't want him to know my parents; otherwise, I'm done.

osayuwamwen:
One thing I will advise you as a married man from experience is if he does not smoke and doesn't drink, and he's not a dwaf asin like akin and pawpaw and he has a good source of income to carter for you and you sure his intentions are genuine my sister don't think twice accept him, na money they run marriage forget all this your heart fantasy that will disappear within 1year in marriage, marry peace of mind not fine face and height, people wen they better and more beautiful than you they go shilo they pray for watin u they regect so

Fahvvy:
A man possesses the qualities of a good husband and you disqualified him all because of his looks? ...
He provides for your wants...
He treats you well...
He puts up with your excesses...
And yet his only issue is that he's not tall enough or fine enough?
When have you ever heard anyone saying that it's a man's height that makes the marriage work? Or it's his fine face that makes the marriage work? ...
This is how y'all women will pass on, on men that truly care for you for irresponsible men, simply because these men don't meet some ridiculous physical standards that you have in your heads ...
Truth is that the things that make marriages work are not physically based, they're majorly character-based ...
But it's your call ....
Since this is a deal breaker for you, then tell him off ...
My most sincere prayer for you is that you know what you're doing ...
If you're a believer, you should seek the face of God on this matter ...

wis3:
Refund everything he has ever spent on you

akube34:
I don’t understand. Should she marry who she is not attracted to? See the first is attraction. Others comes second

Animegirl:
So, there's a man who wants me to be his wife. Honestly, he possesses the qualities of a good husband, but I can't deny that I don't find him attractive. Despite my efforts, I can't seem to develop feelings for him. Seeing his face makes me angry, even though he treats me well and spends generously. His height and face are a deal-breaker for me. If I accept his proposal, I know it will cause pain, but no matter how rude I've been, he won't let go. I'm considering running away from my community altogether. I don't want him to know my parents; otherwise, I'm done.

Shugavee:
we’ll i had genuine intentions to give it a try but Couldnt do it

Animegirl:
So, there's a man who wants me to be his wife. Honestly, he possesses the qualities of a good husband, but I can't deny that I don't find him attractive. Despite my efforts, I can't seem to develop feelings for him. Seeing his face makes me angry, even though he treats me well and spends generously. His height and face are a deal-breaker for me. If I accept his proposal, I know it will cause pain, but no matter how rude I've been, he won't let go. I'm considering running away from my community altogether. I don't want him to know my parents; otherwise, I'm done.

Animegirl:
So, there's a man who wants me to be his wife. Honestly, he possesses the qualities of a good husband, but I can't deny that I don't find him attractive. Despite my efforts, I can't seem to develop feelings for him. Seeing his face makes me angry, even though he treats me well and spends generously. His height and face are a deal-breaker for me. If I accept his proposal, I know it will cause pain, but no matter how rude I've been, he won't let go. I'm considering running away from my community altogether. I don't want him to know my parents; otherwise, I'm done.

duduade:


Leave her oooo
Na her type dey end up with fine man nothing for pockets... They also end up feeding and taking care of such men....
Attraction is her main focus...
We have so many ladies and men who belong to her group....
Everyone's priorities differs...


Please OP be quick about telling him honestly how you feel about him and let another lady who will appreciate his kind and generosity nature in addition to his face and quirky height quickly find him

Vinnie2000:

OP Animegirl, don't Date or Marry out of Pity.

Tell that Man to his Face, that you are NOT interested.

A Girl has told me before 'I really love your Personality but I am not catching Feelings as I like more Religious Guys'.

I did NOT die, and he will not!

Men handle Rejection very well, unlike Ladies.

So Tell him off and Date ur Spec!

blahc007:



How do we start educating men that you don't use money to buy love....

Mayplays:
So bleeping what? Is all you wrote what keeps a marriage together? Attraction is very important, that’s a no brainer
He’s attracted to her, that’s why he’s doing that
She’s not attracted to him so she won’t reciprocate the care and attention
Leaving him to find who loves him like he loves her is the best thing she can do for him, she is literally disgusted with him and you want her to pretend and reap the benefits his real life partner is supposed to

I don’t pray for any male in my family to meet a person with this kind of mentality, no offense but you sound like a user, Abeg advise her to let him go so he can find the love of his life

But IT'S YOUR CALL ....

Since this is a deal breaker for you, then TELL HIM OFF ...

If you're a believer, you should SEEK THE FACE OF GOD ON THIS MATTER ...

malvisguy212:
she made it clear, she did not love him. of tomorrow she cheat on her husband, you'll be the first to cast a stone on her.

Kloenboi:


Hmm!
I just hope you don't regret rejecting the man later.

It's always good you seek God's direction first before this your taste of the kind of man you want

superintendents:
madam nothing like he can't let go, tell him the bitter truth,the earlier the better,stop wasting his time and his spendings

Pharaoh4rin:


You seems to be talking out of experience.

My remaining 3 girlfriends are something else: two are
One of them is extremely beautiful but she smokes
The 2nd person is equally as beautiful as Ini edo but she's dirty,
The third one from the north is not as beautiful but has the best shape in the world. She has the character, respect for herself and a thoroughbred but she's not as beautiful as d other two. With what you said, I may have to rethink, cus I'm a cruisechamp and I don't know... I don't know...

beauty as compared to character, doesn't hold so much water ...

why pay attention to something that can easily fade away in favor of something that is likely to last almost a life time? ...

So ask yourself, is it beauty that will raise my kids or is it character? ...

Animegirl:
So, there's a man who wants me to be his wife. Honestly, he possesses the qualities of a good husband, but I can't deny that I don't find him attractive. Despite my efforts, I can't seem to develop feelings for him. Seeing his face makes me angry, even though he treats me well and spends generously. His height and face are a deal-breaker for me. If I accept his proposal, I know it will cause pain, but no matter how rude I've been, he won't let go. I'm considering running away from my community altogether. I don't want him to know my parents; otherwise, I'm done.

Fahvvy:


I don't take offense to what very "bright" people have to say tbh ...

And if you had taken time to read and understand before you came crying on my mention like a crazed goat on heat, you would've seen the place where I wrote the following ...

But IT'S YOUR CALL ....
Since this is a deal breaker for you, then TELL HIM OFF ...
If you're a believer, you should SEEK THE FACE OF GOD ON THIS MATTER ...

But I guess this flew past your head ...
You must really have a "high" IQ ...

jossymekoos:



It's so sad that you think feelings has a role in marriage.

Normally, someone should desire to be with a partner with right qualities but this generation put emphasis on physical appearance forgetting that physical beauty will vanish in few years

akube34:
I don’t understand. Should she marry who she is not attracted to? See the first is attraction. Others comes second

Shugavee:
my dear don't go for what you don't like, no matter what , make sure anyman you date or give your body to is a man you like, money and care is important but he should be someone you like. I don't take this for granted.

There was a man who wanted to marry me also , very single , very generous and rich tho he had matured kids cause he's an advanced man, many women would be so happy to have him considering how rich he was but i didn't just find him attractive , i tried my best but i just couldn't have sex with this man , he literally feed me, gave me weekly allowance and other things I needed, i tried but i just couldn't . Now we don't talk like we use to but I'm so happy I made that decision upon all the pressure inside me. Don't force yourself

Fahvvy:


A lot of folks quoting me don't get my point...
I'm not saying beauty and looks aren't important, all I'm saying is, beauty as compared to character, doesn't hold so much water ...

And besides, beauty can fade in a heartbeat (skin infection, accident etc), but character usually won't fade way just like that ...

So why pay attention to something that can easily fade away in favor of something that is likely to last almost a life time? ...


Also, children spend more time with their mum's than with their dads. Which means children are more easily influenced by their mum's than their dads (remember the law of association?) ...

So ask yourself, is it beauty that will raise my kids or is it character? ...

Putting it into perspective
If I don't want my kids to be smokers, I don't marry a smoker for a wife or be a smoker myself ...
If I don't want my kids twerking online and showing their bodies, I don't marry a woman who sees nothing wrong in twerking and showing her nu.des online ...

I know kids can go astray and all, but I think you get the point ...

reddingtonblack:




If the man decides to flaunt his money in her face you can't blame the woman, sometimes we Men can be so foolish when it comes to pussy matter ... even when red flags is as obvious as traffic light at maryland round about

A gurl that is angry just seeing his face will definitely put up rash behaviours that should trigger a rethink in the man's head but some men think "Money" supercedes everything

Men that ignore red flags deserves whatever heartbreak they see, as long as the lady made it clearly she is not interested chop his money naa god sent father xmas