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Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Afonjacrusder(f): 12:48pm On Jan 20 |
1TrippleCee: You sound like a bitter divorcee. 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Dennisochampa: 12:49pm On Jan 20 |
BareFacedLies:..... I never said everyone is poor on 9ja......all I'm saying is that... If she can't guarantee him a good life with the right resources here but his father can.... She should let him go... It's for the greater good |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by dfrost: 12:49pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell: Madam you are actually being paranoid. Honestly. This is your son. He's not denying you. Leave him to secure a better future, albeit not a guarantee but it is still better than Nigeria. If you have established a good relationship with your son, the you are good. Please allow him to go. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by ZUBY77(m): 12:50pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell: He is not insulting you. He is being plain and truthful. Of course we know there is sentimental attachment to your son but look at his future. He will hate you with passion if you ever do this to him. Your closest link to that man ever again is that you let that boy go to him. The way I see things, it's same fools telling you not to release him that deceived you in the first place. At 10 years old, that boy knows you are the mother and will never allow anybody to cut communication with you. 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Fiscus105(m): 12:50pm On Jan 20 |
Orlu13: Not even a child that's more than 6 years. I'm seeing this boy becomes something else in nearer future, owing to lack of father figure and over pamper from his mother. In Nigeria's constitution, a child of 6 can stay with his dad. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by segunoluomoofte(m): 12:50pm On Jan 20 |
Don’t be afraid let him go get his papers he can always go back and forth men don’t kidnap their kids if the mother is good 4 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by lakefist(m): 12:50pm On Jan 20 |
Intergrated: You Dey mind all these baby mamas with entitlement mentality. Na the guy get time, he for just leave the boy and the mama make Dey continue their life. In the future the boy go hate the mother for such a selfish decision in the name of trying to get back at his father. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by dfrost: 12:51pm On Jan 20 |
Dennisochampa: This right here: Greater good it is. |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Truvelisback(m): 12:51pm On Jan 20 |
1TrippleCee:What do you mean by lawyers are not as expensive as people assume? |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by flexyrule(m): 12:53pm On Jan 20 |
Dennisochampa:When I read your response, I had to go back to my initial post to see where I said "the man wants to expose him to harsh treatments from his new wife... " Well. I didn't |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Anguldi(m): 12:54pm On Jan 20 |
flexyrule: Your mind dey there. Am not married, just came out from a messy breakup. I do think about this too. The kids are the love . Maybe that's why gates of hell is opened when issues come up |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by lakefist(m): 12:54pm On Jan 20 |
ChybuzzDD: It seriously need to stop. |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by koning: 12:54pm On Jan 20 |
He is a boy. Let him join his father in Europe and become a citizen too. Consider yourself lucky that the father is still interested in bringing HIS son over. Some men will cut you and your son totally off. Besides, you have more chance of joining them if your son becomes a citizen too. Put the welfare of the boy first. If it was a girl, your daughter, i would have reservations. But this is the best for the boy. LET HIM GO. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by UrgentNeeds(m): 12:54pm On Jan 20 |
Mindlog: With Everything Being Written Here; I think This Opinion is Valid. But, You Getting A Lawyer To Readdress The Clause of His Travel Can Be of Good Help To You. He's Grown Up To This Extent With You. He Knows His Mother Loves Him Too Well. With Love; Call Your Boy And Ask Him Exactly What He Wants. Let Him Know That You'll Love Him Regardless of Whatever Decision He Makes And You'll Be There To Support Him. If He is Going; Let The Lawyer Ensure That You Speak To Your Son On Video Call Atleast Once In A Week; Else You Can File A Case Against The Father. I hope this helps. |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by dfrost: 12:54pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell: I know how you feel, but trust me, sons never forgets those who love them especially their mother. Please for the sake of his future, allow him to go. This is something people are looking for NGN30m+ to get run out but you son has it on a platter of gold. Please and please, let him go. |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by advanceDNA: 12:54pm On Jan 20 |
Timoleon: Children always suffer their parents fight.... Some mum would even poison the heart of their child to make the child hate the father |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by tollyboy5(m): 12:57pm On Jan 20 |
1TrippleCee:Just keep shut! 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by lakefist(m): 12:57pm On Jan 20 |
Pecoleee345: Source of income will stop forever if na this kind selfish baby mama I am dealing with. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Martinez39s(m): 12:57pm On Jan 20 |
See this one. Women should stop projecting themselves on men. The fact that you are capable of such alienation and you will readily resort to such doesn't mean the father is trying to do such. The father is simply trying to do what is in his son's best interest. Simply drop your insecurity. Consenting for your son to reunite with his father simply means you are in support of him going to meet his father. If you care about your son's future, allow him develop abroad under his father's care. But if your insecurity and need for silly power play are more important than his future, refuse the father's request. Remember, if he does well for himself, he will surely remember you. Men hardly play alienation games that women readily and effortlessly play. Finally, when you are writing a post involving you, your son, and his father, start practicing the use of "our son," not "my son." 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by flexyrule(m): 12:58pm On Jan 20 |
Anguldi:May God help you to heal. I wish you the very best. |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by advanceDNA: 12:58pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell: Which deciet are u talking about?? The application is the right one?? If he doesn't use the reunite with family application... he won't be offered permanent residence status..... Fill his head and make him resent you? Sounds like something u women do... 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Dizzyyish: 12:58pm On Jan 20 |
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Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Codes151(m): 12:59pm On Jan 20 |
OP take this advise.. that visa should cover you or them forget 1TrippleCee: 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by lakefist(m): 1:00pm On Jan 20 |
BlackfyreRebell: Sorry to say, u no get sense. Me and my wife still wrote consent letter to travel with our kids. Na the practice. If you like no give consent, the boy go forever hate you. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by DWJOBScom(m): 1:00pm On Jan 20 |
Namaster: You really sound so poor So going to Europe is a guarantee to bright future ? So many kids are here with terrible habits because single parents are busy and cannot instil basic discipline. The man can't even keep a home and now he wants to be a great Dad because he is now in Europe - you so so poor 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by flexyrule(m): 1:00pm On Jan 20 |
DestinedForGrea:If nairalanders talk like this, will they die? Simple, intelligent with no insults! |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by DWJOBScom(m): 1:01pm On Jan 20 |
Codes151: Great advice 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by lanocfoods: 1:01pm On Jan 20 |
Trust your guts, a mothers instincts are never wrong. involve a lawyer, there should be a clause protecting you from losing him. or more still let him wait till the boys finishes university or at least secondary school. children adapt easily and at that age it is easier for the boy to forget you |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by tuzle(m): 1:01pm On Jan 20 |
BareFacedLies:Nigeria isn't also some form of paradise too. Most European countries are far better than Nigeria in almost everything and if u are the serious type who stay focused going there at an early age is a very big advantage. She is just being paranoid. People who think like that are just projecting an image of what they would have done if they were in that shoe. As a father if I am in Europe and I have a child in Nigeria, it is only normal for me to try and bring him over at an early stage so it won't look like I don't care about the child. For those of u saying he should take her along, they are divorced and that isn't even an option because she won't do the same if she was in his shoes. And what u read there is just normal thing to confirm that the mother truly left the child for the father. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Enskynelson(m): 1:02pm On Jan 20 |
Timoleon: Here the deceit: He told me our son will need to come over there to finish the process of his citizenship. But when I went to submit the "application" what I saw on it is different from what he told me. The paper read that I am consenting to my son to go and reunite with his father. Deceit is not in words but in intent. He said wants the son to get a European citizenshjp- true but what is his intention with that? Has he told the mother that this boy will be coming to be living with him? I am not saying the mother should not agree, neither am I saying he has no right to his son. What I am saying is that, the mother need to know his sincere intention and both of them should work on agreeing what is best. |
Re: Am I Being Paranoid? Please Help Me by Alibuking001: 1:03pm On Jan 20 |
[quote author=Zonefree post=128021039][b][/b] Stop using "my child" when his father is still alive. [/quote Her only child like na she give herself belle. |
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