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The problem wit ladies is they tink they can just walk into a guy's life.....hmmm, if na so d tin easy, why do u tink we guys normally hav to spend time, energy, money and other resources to woo u gals b4 even toastin our way into ur hearts?

Whether we xchange text mssgs, gifts or phone calls, it doesn't mean that a guy is in luv wit u, guys are open people unlike gals, most times, b4 a guy dates a gal, he wud like to hear "yes" or "no" or "let's see how it goes...." Anything, a guys don't just assume that he is datin a gal, (except a guy that just wants to bleep a gal)

Gals, pls be open, if u are attracted to a guy, open up and hear wat he has to say, that is why u ladies most times normally loose the guys that u really adore and have to settle for 2nd or 3rd best most times. Open up, send enough green lights, if it doesn't work, try direct romantic text messages, show him real care, call at romantic times....and if everytin doesn't work out, write directly to him abt ur feelins like we normally do back in secondry skuls, worst case scenario, talk to him abt how u feel, face-to-face, what is d worst that can happen..? Will he bite u...? NOPE


Guys are direct, they are not too patient for long, they like to know where they belong and they like to free gals that they don't adore, (but it shud be done maturedly sha).

Go to any govt hospital nearby and collect free drugs for d treatment of HIV.

Just wait and hav one more sex wit her, when u guys are finished, then get up and swallow d HIV drug, she will notice and ask u wat drug did u take. Tell her straight to d face that u are HIV +ive but couldn't tell her all dis while, show her d remainin drug and tell her u just discovered 2weeks ago.

Am sure she will run to a clinic for test and wudnt come back again.

And please, stop deceivin ursef that u re too handsome or a superman wen it comes to gals, u are just a normal guy.

Lastly, start dating ladies and not "gals", trust me, there is a difference.

I pity ur sister, she is directly sendin her husband right now to go and stay wit his mistress since she is denyin him food and am sure, sex, right now.

Some ladies shud use their head atimes, wat she tinks is punoishment is exactly wat she will regret 2moro. How can starvin ur husband of food stop him from sleepin outside wit other ladies, or does she tink those other ladies won't be veri happy to wellcome him wit opened arms, legs, food, jobs etc..?

She shud better feed her husband properly o b4 he decides to park out of d house for good, who knows, maybe it is even d food that may bring him back to luving only her again, u neva can tell!!

@op, abeg wetin concern u? Did d woman complain to u? U just said it just now that d woman jst had d man's baby and she is goin around happily becos of that, I tink d lady knows wat is goin on bt still, she is happy.


That is how some people "fall" in luv and refuse to "stand" up again even wen it matters.

But still, leave them alone, e no concern u and d woman is happy with d situation.

Hmmm......dis ur gal, I dont know whether to believ if it is rape or wit consent, d story line just sounds fishy

But she is ur gal, u shud know better than us whether she is lyin or tellin d truth

Just ask google

It is veri much ok, bt don't tink it will be easy for u wen u re through with her and want to date another gal in that same dept o, cos u know gals naaa, them no go wan gree that one o.......bt if u've really got class and cash, na small thing na, u can go round, bt stil, not round everygal sha.

If u like d babe, then date her.

@op.....u said u will prefer ur mother in-law to be visitin maybe some days of d week, what is bad if she stays? What are u scared of? That she will treat u bad? Or u re scared that u will do sometin wrong?

No man will want to travel abroad for a year and leave his wife and 6months old baby alone without puttin them under d care of someone close, in dis case, of which d man sees his mum as d person he can trust.

Why do u tink stayin wit ur mother-in-law is going to spoil u guy's relationship? Cos u tink she may start pickin up little tins abt u? That she will start blamin u for everytin? Not all mother-in-laws are like that, have fAith na....

Na wa o, I wonder wat kind of marriage people do nowadays o, wat is wrong wit ur mother-in-law comin to stay wit u for a year? What are u scared of? Has d woman ever been wicked to u before? If she has, pls just tell us becos it seems to me that u re d one that has a problem here afterall u neva told us that she has been harsh to u b4......!!

So, u mean I can't call my mum to com and spend like a year wit my wife and 6months old baby? U women must be silly atimes o....except u and d mum have issues or always quarell, then u can be scared, bt right now, I tink u re d one who doesn't like d woman, infact I tink d woman should be d one here complainin here to us on NL that her son wants her to stay wit u and she is scared of u...!!

If u hav a real reason why u dnt want to stay wit ur mother-in-law, tell us let us know, as far as am concerned, my wife and my mother are goin to be d most special women in my life and they must always spend time together and my wife must always learn to respect, cherish and accomodate my mother, afterall, dis is my mother we re talkin about.

And if my mother is treatin my wife bad, no matter what, I will see to it that I handle d matter.

But I won't stand and hear my wife tell me that she won't spend time wit my mumsy wen am away for a year and we hav a 6month old baby

Ladies, mothers are veri important to men, and just becos we marry u doesn't mean we wudnt go to them wen we need them or that we shud cut off our ties wit them. They re always d number 1 lady in our life except wen they f**k up big time, deal wit it.

This gal is hot, I won't deny that sha bt my problem wit her is that she has only one hairstyle.........

Guys, pls don't deceive ursef thinkin that a gal is no longer a teenager, maybe becos she is around 25yrs of age, then becos of that u don't expect to waste time in wooing her. If u really luv or like a gal, then it is wortht spendin ur time tellin her how u feel but if u just want to sleep wit her, then u can do wat these fellows here are talkin abt; "toasting a gal straight and direct on d 1st or 2nd meetin all for d purpose of bleepin without even showin real care"

But understand this pls, no matter how much u sleep wit every gal u meet, I promis u, u will be tired one day. And wen u get tired, pls just look by ur side, who will u find there? Nobody except ur family members and ur guys them or maybe even a female fruiend, but d truth is ur womanizing behaviour would have driven away all d gals that were ready to love u for who u are. That is when u will know that "though u have bleeped up to a hundred gals but u stil really don't hav anybody by ur side, u re still alone"

For u guys that all u care abt is bleepin, aaaaah! I don't deny how gud and sweet bleepin can be but I also know that bleepin is not d most important tin in life. No matter how gud u are in bleepin, if I give u 200 gals to bleep continuously, u will still get tired one day without going round all of them so why don't u search for a gal that u value, not for bleepin alone but to share ur gud and hard times with?

It is so funny wen guys start talkin abt not wastin time wen they want to woo a woman, hahahaha....nothin gud comes easy, if u want a lady u can just talk to then go and bleep, then I think u should visit ashawo joint but if u really like a lady and want to date her for real and not just for bleepin sake, why don't u just take ur time and woo her, what will it take away from u?

U may be suprised that u will find all wat u ve been missin in ur life with her.

Nigerian girls always act like that, they can stare at u for so long and even show u enuf greenlight bt wen u make ur real move, they may fall ur hand big time. Most times, even wen she tells u sorry, she can't date u and all that stuff, u will stil see it in her eyes that she likes u bt just can't turn down d chance to turn u down.

Naija gals are mostly confused on whether to say yes or no becos they wud only tell u a "yes" if their friends hav approved u bt if their friends haven't really approved of u, they are likely to tell u a "no" even if they are in luv with u.

Also, many gals hav pride a lot, they form hard to get and also find it hard to say "yes" to a guy. @op u shudnt always wait for "yes" all d time, atimes, just go ahead and treat her wit care as if she is ur gal, trust me that tecnique normally works well wit gals.


If the gal has pride and is materialistic, then u shud only expect a "yes" frm her if u hav a big pocket wit enough cash and class.

But d best way to really woo a gal is to make her admire u and notice u first without even talkin to her, then gradually, u shud get talkin to her, get to be friendly wit her friends, start showin her care and search for d most romantic and best time to tell her ur feelins.

Remember, don't always rush things up and don't be too slow, no time in particular is the right or wrong time, it depends on how u make use of the time. Wish u luck.

Women always luv it wen we chase them, they really luv the chase and the person wit the sexiest race mostly come out the winner of d race. But the word "sexy" has different meaning to different girls; it may be money, game, looks, affection, care, family background, cars, intelligence, etc....

Young man, she is still ur galfriend and not yet ur wife, if u want her to do exactly as u want, then marry her first......don't be too bossy, u want to tell her wat to always wear, wen to wear them and am sure even how to wear them. If she wears it once in a while, it is ok, but not everytime and besides she said she is not comfortable in them, dnt force her more.

Why are most of u here saying that d OP did not really bleeped his gal well and she has been bleeped in a better way by another person? Why do u guys think it is just becos of sex that she is cheatin on him...? Pls don't confuse sex and cheating, they are 2 different things although related, but most people that cheat on their partner is not always becos of sex, rather it is infatuation.


So all of u that are blaming the Op for not properly bleeping his gal well should just shut up, wat are u guys feeling like, the best bleepers? Champions of bleeping? Sex machines? Are u guys trying to say that no gal has ever left u before wit all dis ur "sex skills"? U guys are really childish......if u like, be the best in bleepin in this world, if a gal wants to cheat on u, she will still do it so forget abt ur stupid self beliefs!!!

OP, I know how u feel bt trust me on one thing, ur gal has cheated on u and is still cheatin on u bt don't worry, it happens all d time, life goes on, ask her face to face, tel it to her face, accuse her of it, and wen she has notin to say, just leave her standin there and walk out of her life.

Don't worry, u re not d first to be cheated on, its nothin too big, just move on wit life, cos one day, she wil still come back to beg u for wat she has done, that is d problem wit gals, once dat new guy finish using her and dumps her, that is wen she will remember how faithful u were to her!!!!

So, u guys broke up becos of ur refusal for sex as per virgin gal, and now that u re back, u ve gone to do it outside and u expect him to be happy wit u wen u tell him? Well u still hav to tell him sha

Guy, Bone d chick, she is not worth u hustlin to bleep her again, bt if she bring d tin free of charge, then bleep her bt right now, u shudnt be tinkin abt how to hurt her back in one way or d other.....tell her to continue goin round ur area messin around

Why she dey complain, afterall she is not a virgin, d simple tin is she lost controll and was charmed by d "moves" of that prince charming and I dnt see that as a crime or even if it is a crime, then she has comitted it b4 since it is nt her 1st time..........make she cool down jare, it is called "wooing".......abi is she a learner??

I doubt if that guy is a player....how can a player spend more than a month always starin at u in church without even havin d courage to walk up to u and spill his heart out or without callin u since he has ur number all dis while.......well, he is a player bt not too gud a player and u must know dis, even if he just maybe wants to bleep u, I tink he is genuinely attracted to u....so u hav to make up ur mind babygal, either u try all ur possible best to ignore him or u just give him a chance in ur life and expect "anything" after u guys finish bleepin.....these are ur 2 choices, make up ur mind but know one thing for now; don't kid urself my dear, as at right now, u re already trippin for d guy so u must be bold and careful in whatever u decide to do.

Gals are funny o, after rapin u, wat did u tink, that he wud leave u alone....? Neva u joke or give a rapist an opportunity. So the gal has been giving d rapist to be "doing" it all dis while...hmmm!!! And now, am sure she may even be fallin in luv wit dis rapist sef! How gals fall in luv atimez is funny o!! BOTTOMLINE: she should go and confess everytin to her guy cos she is also guilty here

Even btw boyfriend and galfriend, it is important......especially when there is sex in d relationship.

Op......why are u like other naija gals? U admired a guy, d guy also admired u back, he even pretended to be doin exercise, just to come to where u were, he took his time to gist wit u, to get to know u, and wen he was abt to leave, he decided that he wud veri much want to see u again and askd for ur number bt u didn't giv him....he came back again d 2nd time, stil, u turned him down....and after all u hav done, u come here to tell us not becos d story is too sweet but becos u were suprised at urself cos u admired him even more than he admired u.....babe, wat u did is called "FORMING". Am sure ladies always do it so I won't be harsh or insult u bt I want u to ask urself this moment, "wud it have been bad if u had actually given d guy ur number?".....NO.....infact u wud hav been even sittin down now and asking ursef d normal question of "when will dis guy call me...." ......LESSON: pls babe, give luv a chance. Peace.

Normal tin wit ladies, they can blow hot and cold winds atimes. Just wait for d wind that hits u and pray its a gud wind.

God!!!....how can NFF be calling up Anichebe!! This is a striker that has neva scored up to 10 goals all-in-all in a season and has had an injury-filled carreer. Besides, is Anichebe even that good a striker...? What are his technical abililties as a striker? How good is his finishing? Howabout his complete passes? His dribbling abilities? how about his shots on target inside and outside the eighteen yard?....as far as am concerned, he is just an average player (that's becos I just dnt want to admit he is below average) but I tink we have far more better strikers even at home here than nigeria, NFF should open their eyes o, the world has changed o!! Do u think if it was anichebe that striked for us during this last AFCON, we would have won it...? NO....a good striker is not judged by muscles, speed and physical football alone, only one thing is important in judgin a striker...."GOALs"

I feel d guy shud not be disturbed abt d number of guys d gal has slept wit b4......the real problem is that she said that she is a "yes" gal, as in, she can not say NO to any huy that comes knockin on her door, I tink that is d real problem d guy has to solve becos does it mean if they are married, d gal will still be sayin "YES" to every dick and harry that comes knoeckin......?

I also served in aba and finishd my nysc service there just dis february......safe my ass!! Abia state is one of d roughest and most unsafe state in dis country, even d other igbos from d other eastern states are scared of stayin in aba talkless of us core members then.......op, TAKE TIME O

Somethin is wrong wit d woman's understandin of luv...I tink d guy shud start showin her his ugly sides too so that she wud start to understand that he is only human just like her and he also has flaws. The earlier she starts to like d guy as a human and not as a God, d better for their marriage .