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Kobojunkie:
Your so-called real-life scenarios obviously won't make sense when processed by someone who don't see or view these things as you do.
Hence the reason for the questions.Why is the husband "head of home"? Shouldn't the wife's point of view be accorded the same level of respect? Why is the husband the leader?

Well, you're not that person. When I meet a married woman who's the head of her home, I will respond accordingly based on the individual's real life situation.

If you know any woman in that situation on Nairaland, kindly tag..

Kobojunkie:
1. I don't recall mentioning anything about western women so I don't know where you are attempting to shift this conversation to.

2. Why?

3. Why is the husband "head of home"? Shouldn't the wife's point of view be accorded the same level of respect? Why is the husband the leader?

4. Doesn't the wife also care for the husband? Why do you prescribe this treatment for these submissive women??

1. Your words "In western and more advanced societies, women are..."

2. ...because submission for a woman is a by-product of love.

3. I have given you a real life scenario to drive my point. Don't bother me with "why" or "how" questions. If you want to contest that view, give real life situations that apply to you.

4. How does an unsubmissive woman care for her husband? Don't tell me unsubmissive women do dishes and laundry. That's "slavery", according to you.

Kobojunkie:
Interesting claims you make!

"Women submit naturally and willingly to a man they consider deserving and responsible", so why do women who don't conform to the above exist then? Are these women abnormal in the spectrum or what?,

You regard it a "natural phenomenon" yet nature reveals it is not of her at all, this since there are equally women who fall outside of that pattern you claim. In western and more advanced society for instance, women are rarely found engaging in such unions for obvious reasons revealing that what you attach to nature probably has more to do with societal factors than nature.

When you talk about western women, please make it clear. You can't speak for all western women. We have seen some that fell in love and foolishly sent their life's savings all the way from the U.S. to Nigeria, Congo, etc. Some left their families behind to be with the one they love. Many have done despicable things for love. Submission is the least any reasonable woman can give a responsible man.

Submission is respecting your husband's point of view, it's affirming and respecting your husband's leadership and acknowledging him as the head of the home. E.g., when someone is to represent or speak for the family in a public gathering, a submissive wife would not go ahead and grab the microphone to speak for the husband or the entire family. On the other hand, the head would not have to seek the consent of his wife to speak in this situation. That's the difference. He's the head and presumably knows all.

Submission is allowing your husband care for you (even when you can take care of yourself as all adults should). You're not a tree. You need someone to spoil you and treat you like a baby. This treatment is not for slaves but submissive women who have come to the realization that love is everything and the basis of humanity.

Kobojunkie:
Submission - a Master/Slave bond - does not apply in my life so the obvious answer to all questions regarding it is NO.

Another type of bond is that born of a partnership where both partners are either "equally yoked" or otherwise, depending on their agreement. I favor this type of bonding instead.

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Why can't a man submit too?

Why must it be a woman submitting and not a man submitting?

Why do you teach your sons that submission only applies to your women? Why do you raise them to believe women are to be relegated to slave status while men sit as masters over them?

P.S. - Submission in a union defines a Master/Slave relationship

That is your personal definition not the reality.

Kobojunkie:
Why do you raise them to believe women are to be relegated to slave status while men sit as masters over them?

P.S. - Submission in a union defines a Master/Slave relationship

All these theories don't work with a woman in love. Women "submit" naturally and willingly to a man they consider deserving and responsible.

The question is why are you hell-bent on changing this natural phenomenon with an idea you haven't practised yourself in your home?

Kobojunkie:
Why can't a man submit too?

Why must it be a woman submitting and not a man submitting?

Why do you teach your sons that submission only applies to your women?

You haven't answered my questions. Why should I answer yours?

What's the arrangement in your home? Who's submitting to who? Who's got the final say on "critical" and most important issues that affect the family? Who is the head of your home? Who initiated the idea of marriage between you two?

Let's know the arrangement in your home? Is it working for you?

Kobojunkie:
So in your view, a woman simply doesn't submit in love or marriage, she submits to most every man she respects, regardless of the nature of the relationship between them?

Anyways, within the confines of marriage, why again is submission by the man expressed differently from that of the woman?

Does your husband submits to you? Are you currently teaching your sons to submit to their wives?

LuvsBeautifl:
@Acidosis
He doesn't care. He offered to even give her the VCs phone number when she threatened to go to his uni. There is a friend of his he respects very much, a lecturer too that asked him to be giving her at least about 60k every month to run the house. When they left the man's presence he told her nobody can tell him what to do. Books for the children's school, she is the one that pays after selling garri and cassava. So many unspeakable things I cannot say here.

Threats don't work. Actions do. Get the VC's number or tell her to visit his office/lecture room to cause trouble or dump the kids in his lecture hall.

Draslo:
Something's definitely off with this story.

What's off about the story?

Rexymania:
Wicked people, someone would have seen them and acted like he did not see them. Hmmm such is life

Who are the wicked people here? Some of you sef. That's a residential estate, not Ojota market.

What a tragedy. The oldest child may have drowned while trying to rescue her siblings. The right thing in that situation would have been to call for help but what does a child knows?

4 kids? That's too much to have with an irresponsible man in 8 years.

Start by reporting him to his employer.

No coalition between Labour Party and NNPP means automatic and easy victory for BAT.

Old junk

LoveNbeloved:
Someone gave birth to you. Try and give birth to another person.

Ridiculous.

NoToPile:
You have time to be explaining to the OP

Lol

Sinach released one of her best songs ever after her wedding. She also had her largest stage performance (at Joel Osteen's church) while still married.

With or without marriage, Simi's name won't be everywhere forever. People's tastes and expectations in music change overtime. It appears she's losing it but she's not. You all have only just decided to move on to new trends and artistes like Tems and Ayra Starr. When was the last time you listened to a Yemi Alade's song? Shey na single-hood affect that one too?

Competition is the issue not Adekunle Gold. The same competitive forces working against a married Simi is also affecting the single ones like Teni, Yemi Alade, Niniola, and Tiwa.

Meanwhile, Mercy Chinwo is like the only gospel artiste in Nigeria that is still single. 99.9% are married and thriving. Most of the artistes under her label (EeZee concepts) are all married, from Minister GUC to Judikay, Chris Morgan, etc..

God. I really want this man to fail in 2023. Your stolen wealth won't save you this time.

Lonewolf2010:
Mr Peter obi is above VP slot pleased, telling him to be vice president will amounts to deformation of character.
When you know your worth you don't accept anything and everything. Mr Peter Obi is either the first or no deal. He's got it .
Since kwankwanso is delaying the process, he should pick Professor Jega or Ahmed Isa of berekete family ,they are good candidates also.
For me Peter Will have a case to answer if he steps down and become a vice to anyone,it’s better to fail the election as a president candidate, than to be anyone’s vice. I will still be proud of him �and I will still remain #OBIDIENT.

Which of the Ahmed Isa? The aggressive woman beater?

lastgenious:
The ego of these politicians will not allow them to help this country. We all know that to allow fairness this time, the presidency should go to the south so why won't kwankwaso just accept to be the vice. In fact the vice will in the long run enjoy it most because he will most likely be a vice president for 8 years and still be the president for another 8 years.

Atiku is still in the race. Remember? Atiku being the main flagbearer of the PDP is the issue here.

TooNoisy:
Kwankwaso that is already talking to Wike.

Wike will bring huge votes from Rivers State and some votes in Bayelsa. Fayose who is very close to Wike was also in the meeting. If Fayose aligns, then there will be some votes coming from Ekiti.

Kwankwaso is bigger than Peter Obi His party has more structure and certainly better funded. There will be no merger between NNPP and LP.

Fayose has no political value in Ekiti

Idiotseverywher:
There is a law that guarantee a donor through out the whole world , the particular case is not exceptional just that this one turned out sour because the donor want to play smart Africa man sense

Okay. Ike and his family will face that law on July 7th.

Idiotseverywher:
. He is saying the Truth will come out, no matter how some miscreants want twist it, I have even learnt that the family and friends of the guy man who was to the kidney have their documented witness papers to the agreement to donate kidney to the ikes , so the guy man should calm down, the UK police will dictate the truth either way

Any written or printed agreement that contradicts the law is a useless piece of paper.

The Sen obviously knew what he was getting into. He only tried to outsmart the law, as always.

plaindealer:
Rubbish, the only facts that matter are the facts gathered by the UK Metro Police through investigation, not your meaningless facts and fabricated opinion in Nigeria.

Paid annoying people are already peddling rubbish on the internet, I'm so glad that this case is not being pursued in Nigeria.

He would have called the senate President, DSS chiefs, and even the presidency to intervene.

Chinjo2:
There is nothing to worry about. If the reasons for going with the boy was actually documented, the british high commissioner would be called upon when the case starts so no cause for alarm.
I pray that may we never be faced with this kind of situation

What situation? His daughter's organ failure or harvesting the organ of another man's child?

Please be clear when you make this kind of prayer points to your god or deity. Harvesting the organ of a living soul illegally is not a "situation". It is wickedness and a serious crime. Criminal acts are not situations, they're intentional and wicked acts.

onumadu:
To help prove this your point with recent data.
Igbo CONSISTENTLY voted against Buhari in 2003, 2007, 2011, 2015 and 2019.
Igbo voted against Buhari even when he ran with Igbo VPs.
Is Buhari not a proven national disaster today?
Case closed!

And all these years, you gave your votes to Pee Dee Pee abi?

TruthDefender:
The other side of the story. We wait to see what is true or not:
This is another possibility below:

Ikem Okuhu write!
Facts on the Ekweremadu matter
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1. Ike Ekweremadu wasn't involved in any organ trafficking
2. He has a daughter who needs a transplant.
3. A willing donor was seen in Nigeria and travel preparations were made.
4. Ike Ekweremadu did write to the British High Commission, explaining the situation
5. The donor travelled to the UK with the patient.
6. The donor is a 21 year old man and not a girl as many are writing.
7. He is not a minor.
8. As it happened, the organ did not even match.
8. Not wanting to return to Nigeria, the donor went to report that he was trafficked to London for possible organ harvest, believing same would guarantee him asylum.

That's the other perspective

Source?

At least 15 years in jail...


I hope the victim is still alive?

UyaiIncomparabl:
Ameeebo.

elantraceey:
You people will just open your mouth waaaaa. Sha be preparing to be forced into the army and be eating agbado and cassava.

Agbado Cracks me up each time