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Killz.:
[color=#000030]I still dey try circumnavigate the yarn. . . E be like say dem do the guy strong thing. . .[/color]

Can Seun come fast to help drag this Luna*tic off my post.

Freaking punk, I have read enough of your stupid post on people's thread. A word of advice, stay clear off mine because I will so much expose and disgrace you, you will feel sorry why you started what you couldn't continue.

I have not one of those people that you will insult and get away with it.


Trust me, you don't know what I have in stock for you to make your permanently shot that leaking hole in your face you call a mouth (or scarey fingers of yours typing those crap).


A word is enough for you if you are so wise.




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antartica: I learnt nigerians always give way to oyinbos in queues at supermarkets as if oyinbos are gods in nigeria.

Animals,that is why they are religious,they don't know what it is to be humans.

This is also very correct.
Go to Goodies Supermarket, Pack and Shop, the Palms and even the Interbational airport. You will be irritated at the way even koreans, chinese and pakistans are given preferential treatment at the detriment of fellow Nigerians. I see it though that its all inferiority complex playing out.

Jakumo: Nigerians are generally at their most uncouth when aboard international flights, or in foreign airports. They hiss like serpents, or purse their lips and make squealing noises to attract the attention of cabin crew, NEVER say "please" or "thank you" for anything, and leave the entire cabin looking like the aftermath of a food fight by the end of each flight.

Bellowing at deafening volume on their cell phones as they try and barge into the front of long orderly passenger lines in airport terminals, Nigerians are also hard to miss between flights, where their presence is usually marked by enormous floor-to-ceiling mountains of "hand luggage", most of which is unceremoniously taken off the loudly protesting travelers and tossed in the hold where it belonged in the first place.

Other than these minor quibbles, Nigerians are very cultured and urbane ha ha.

You are 100% on point.

Even if there are a millions blacks, you can depict the ones that are Nigerians amongst them

Amaka G29: I was on a date with a guy I really liked. He kept picking up his phone. After the third time, I politely took it from him, turned it off, and continued a lovely evening. It was bold, but it worked.

That's extremely matured of you.

He will respect you for that single act.

Guess you are a lady above mid 20s 'cus if most of these other small girls are to do same, they could go as far as tossing his phone into the glass of drink in front of him.






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Arise o fellow Nigerian men.

If we want to put to count the total number of threads on nairaland land accusing Nigerian women of being selfish, self centred and gold diggers, we will sure count over of such threads here on nairaland.

Nigerian men it is time to have a real statistics to backup our claims that Most Nigerian Women (not all) have only their body to offer we guys and nothibg else.

Here's the test we should put them through without them knowing.

Pretend and act like you aren't loaded this period because of some unforseen expences you needed to solve urgent. Demand for any of the following from your girlfriend, fiance or wife.

Don't give them the slightest clue you are putting them to a test.

*Recharge card - call or text her that your phone is low on credit and you can't go outside to recharge 'cus you are fagged out or low on cash so she should send you call card.

*A Treat at a Fast Food - insist you want a change of meal and recommend a fast food where you usually take her to. Let her know should should be nice enough to foot the bill.

*Pay for your hair cut or cosmetics - Mind you, if you are a guy that has never paid for your woman's hair do or beauty product please stay off this so you don't get insulted or disgraced by her.

*A Gift - ask her to buy you a wrist watch, perfume, shirt, of cufflings. Make her believe you sure wouldn't have bothered her for you need the item so badly.


Nigerian men, you know the financial strength of your woman, so don't ask her for what you know she can never afford.


Asking for a call card as low as N200 from any girl isn't to much to ask.

If your woman fails any of this and you have always provided for her then it simply shows you are with an A Grade Gold digger who can't be of help even during the time of emergency.

Laila Ikeji: lol. come on guysss. nigerians are not that bad naaa. we are improving oo.

Shooooor!!! Getting better or getting worse.

Go to eateries like Tastee Fried Chicken where there's always a long queue, see Nigerians rushing like they are begging for the food which will be given to them free of charge. Whereas they are paying their hard earned cash.


An average Nigerian is just impatient.

It is a norm no Nigerians to always jump queues and be in a hurry in everthing they do.

An avearage Nigerian feels he/she is wiser and smarter when they avoid queuing up at the Banking Hall, Eatery, Gas Station, ATM points, Event/show, Cinemas e.t.c

Nigerians where do you get most irritated when people do not want to obey simple rules and morals, mine regulalrly happens at the Banking Hall and Eatery were I have to correct people to behave civilized irrespective of their age and status.



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Tedpgrass: Depends on the characters involved.
And maturity or lack-of exhibited by all parties.

Very true.

But a female colleague once told me that she will prefer her mother inlaw dead or not resident in the same country with her son.
She doesn't even want to see the woman on Holidays or long vacations (I.e Christmas, Easter, Sallah)
She said no matter how nice and supportive her mother inlaw might want to turn out to be, she will feel more secured and happy if the woman wasn't around.

It was at one point in a man or woman's life a hidden prayer that the mother (especially) of the husband or wife won't be alive so that they don't come controlling the family.

I ones had a family friend in who she used to pray that any man her daughters will marry, shouldn't have a mother.

This was a woman that was so troublesome and wicked that a son of hers got married 3 good times under 5 years because of his mother's dominering attitude. Her first daughter was kicked out of her husband's house because of the woman's over bearing influence in her daughter's matrimonial home.


We know it is a personal problem. But if we are to ask, who possess a bigger problem, the Husband's mother or the wife's mother?

lacasa: Normally money shouldn't matter bt the burden go 2much na

Even nt being able to buy their marriage attires??haba

It was just that bad.
People don't know the extent of the poverty in the picture here.

Just before wedding he (the groom) had started footing the hospital bills of his mother inlaw.

Little amounts Up to N500 to pay for minor domestic needs were brought to the guy to pay for.

Nairaland has been in inception for 7 years now and counting.

I can remeber the very year I joined nairaland (that very same year) we were barely 300 members but now with well over 840,000 members and still counting.

People spend endless times at the cafe, on their Office Computers, Phones, tablets just surfing through nairaland day and night.

Some people have gotten so addicted to it that that have also invited practically everyone they know.

All through this 7 years Suen Osawe the Grand Commander and Moderator General have Only treated nairaland like a forum and not like a (community which is is).

He has totally ignored the business and Brand side of nairaland aside just being comfortable with the "heavy check" Google adsense sends monthly.

Seun my little take on this is that start to compensate posters in little ways, even if its by just sending them N200 recharge card (Not All Members just a little few ones who have succeded in keeping your forum lively).

Giving only less than 10 members phones (not necessarilt expensive ones, LCD tv, Designer perfumes, e.t.c) will only help you achieve the famour and position you crave for nairaland faster than expected.




This has other business advantages.





I have lots of other ideas I will like to share with you if you are interested.

Don't want to post it in the open so competitors won't use it ahead of you. And like they say good idea is Power.

Abagworo: There is difference between "was" and "is". Arthur Nzeribe who happens to be my kinsman was once the richest man in Nigeria. Same as Fenandez but change is the only permanent thing on earth.

Believe it or not,Fenandez might not be making noise like this small boys of today, he is far richer than them all.

ogbeche77: My last relationship of 3 years ended today... Like 30 min ago to be precise
The full jist below
My ex schools outside Lagos, Often visit me when she's back from sch, just som/e weeks back I met an old classmate of mine on face book, I added her den asked for her number on her wall, she posted it there.. Like 10 min later, I got a text frm my gf dat am a Arrow I just added a gal then askin 4 her num.. I was dumbfounded... She kept sendin me insulting messages calling me a cheat.. I ignored them... 4 days later.. She called to apologized that she only did such out of jealousy, I accepted after much appeal frm her.. The rtp continued.. Thursday last week she called she ll be comin 2 lag 4 Easter break & we ll meet on Monday(today) @ my place
Out of curiosity I logged into her fb account and u guys ll be shocked to wat I saw... She has been hitting on a guy 4 like 3 weeks now...Going through D history of there conversation I was shocked...
For a guy she has not even met.. They ve both bin calling each other honey & using the 'love u' word... How she ll satisfy him on bed.. They chat almost 12 hrs in a day.. When d guy asked of her bf.. She said I was a cheat & Neva want 2 av anytin 2 do wit me again.. I was like WTF
For a lady that can even withstand me lookin @ anoda chick in her presence
I saved d whole page on my phone & mapped out my plan... She already sheduled a date with d guy on Easter Monday... So this morning she came visiting... I pretended as I no nothing... We eat... Drank....Ban.ged her as if there is no 2mrw... Then I told her I bought her a BB... Which she ll collect @ d bus stop but under one condition dat I ll collect her prev fone which I bought 4 her...
She accepted... I collected d fone.. Kept it @ home, then escorted her to d bus stop.. She was like where's d fone.. I told her 2 a plaza...Then opened d saved conversation on my fone.. (NB.. She deleted them dis morning b4 comin
g to my place)

She was shell shocked... Felt like entering d floor..

Omo c as d chick dey beg..Henn ag not met d guy now.. Told her silence will help her in dis situation... But me don make up my mind.. I told her she shuld go & experiment wit d guy.. Ladies don't appreciate wat they av until dey loose it... Make d guy buy am fone if he won follow her talk.. Abi wetin una feel? I was kind enough 2 give her T.Fare
Let bye gones be bye gones

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You did the best thing.
.i dont buy things like phone anymore for any girl oh!
Na only food

ogbeche77: My last relationship of 3 years ended today... Like 30 min ago to be precise
The full jist below
My ex schools outside Lagos, Often visit me when she's back from sch, just som/e weeks back I met an old classmate of mine on face book, I added her den asked for her number on her wall, she posted it there.. Like 10 min later, I got a text frm my gf dat am a Arrow I just added a gal then askin 4 her num.. I was dumbfounded... She kept sendin me insulting messages calling me a cheat.. I ignored them... 4 days later.. She called to apologized that she only did such out of jealousy, I accepted after much appeal frm her.. The rtp continued.. Thursday last week she called she ll be comin 2 lag 4 Easter break & we ll meet on Monday(today) @ my place
Out of curiosity I logged into her fb account and u guys ll be shocked to wat I saw... She has been hitting on a guy 4 like 3 weeks now...Going through D history of there conversation I was shocked...
For a guy she has not even met.. They ve both bin calling each other honey & using the 'love u' word... How she ll satisfy him on bed.. They chat almost 12 hrs in a day.. When d guy asked of her bf.. She said I was a cheat & Neva want 2 av anytin 2 do wit me again.. I was like WTF
For a lady that can even withstand me lookin @ anoda chick in her presence
I saved d whole page on my phone & mapped out my plan... She already sheduled a date with d guy on Easter Monday... So this morning she came visiting... I pretended as I no nothing... We eat... Drank....Ban.ged her as if there is no 2mrw... Then I told her I bought her a BB... Which she ll collect @ d bus stop but under one condition dat I ll collect her prev fone which I bought 4 her...
She accepted... I collected d fone.. Kept it @ home, then escorted her to d bus stop.. She was like where's d fone.. I told her 2 a plaza...Then opened d saved conversation on my fone.. (NB.. She deleted them dis morning b4 comin
g to my place)

She was shell shocked... Felt like entering d floor..

Omo c as d chick dey beg..Henn ag not met d guy now.. Told her silence will help her in dis situation... But me don make up my mind.. I told her she shuld go & experiment wit d guy.. Ladies don't appreciate wat they av until dey loose it... Make d guy buy am fone if he won follow her talk.. Abi wetin una feel? I was kind enough 2 give her T.Fare
Let bye gones be bye gones

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You did the best thing.
.i dont buy things like phone anymore for any girl oh!
Na only food

cugresources: @OP, why are u surprised, is that not the usual way in Nigeria? Ladies marrying not just for love, but to escape from generational family POVERTY! Which makes marriage in Nigeria very SCARY!! Agreeing to live and co-habit forever with someone u never knew from childhood just because of MONEY & MATERIAL GAINS? Scares men to the feet!

The boy sef just dey start life
But seems he just made a great mistake.

[quote author=omega25red]hmm just because a family is poor doesn't mean they dont have pride. Then again his family can also be right because before he knows it her your brother and sister would be living with them and then he would have to provide for their school fees or her father needs an operation or something else.

For me sha i wont consider her family's financial status as long as the woman im marrying is an independent hard working person who would contribute to our household and take care of her family as she see fit. [/quote

This ones really lack pride.
Where is it permitted that the groom should buy the clothes for his father and mother inlaw and all their childrn?
The sad thing is that this dude doesn't have a regular paying job or business, na just regular omo boy.

This man rocked the Nigerian Super rich club and was rumored to be the Head of the "ogboni confeternity group" all over the world. Meaning is was too rich and influential to be ignored.

He was believed to be amongst those who single handedly nomited Royal fathers, Chieves, Policians and even governors at a point in Nigeria.

When the likes of Adenuga, Dangote and Otedola were still hustling on the streets on Nigeri, Otunba Chief Oladeinde Fenandez had a private Yatch, A Private jet, Mansions scattered all over the cities of the world, and was believed to even own a private Island in Brazil.

He was a close ally to so many western and African Presidents. And that so him having multi billion contracts from various countries such as Minning and drilling licenses, Construction ostrictly government structures amongst many others.

People still believe even though Dangote is rated as Forbes Africa's Richest man, he is no where close being near rich as Oladeinde Fenandez.


A man who paid over a €100,000,000 in settlement to his estranged wife after their divorce suit and a mansion worth over €50,000,000.

The question is "Where on Earth is Chief Oladeinde Fenandez"? Nigerian's truly richest man.

I know finances shouldn't be a criteria for getting married into a family, but what's the limit of financial status you will consider before getting married.

I have a friend who got married in less than 3 weeks ago and believe me his wife's family contributed ABSOLUTELY NOTHING.

The whole burden was placed on this young dude from the Event venue, refreshment, rentals, entertainment and up to the wife's fathers cufflings, my friend bought them all (clothes for her parents and sibblings).


This is no exergeration.


His family kicked against the marriage because of the "extremely poor" status of her family, but the dude was adarmant on the marriage and as such his family didn't contribute a dime to the marriage claiming he is just going to carry another family's heavy burden when he is yet to fully sort out his.




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Since we are no longer in contact, I dont know whether she now hates me or not , but I believe in the long run, she would either appreciate this decision I made or regret ever putting on the feminist garment. All relationships are not meant to lead to marriage.

So for me, falling in love is for the gullible ones. I cant be blinded by love, especially when any girl talks about marriage near my auditory nerve . .
I only seek casual friendship.


_{For the dumb feminists who always think that all men are after their punny, sex wasn't involved in the relationship mentioned above.}[/quote]She definitely now hates you, but who cares?

The best of guys are those that can stand their ground irrespective of who is involved or what is going to happen.

One feminist whose onlt asset is her beauty and body will now one to take control of a man's life? Hell freaking NO!

You made a wonderful decision.

My only problem is that you didn't taste the 'honey pot'

One day! Just one day!! This tribal nonsense will end in Nigeria.

From your I'd, I can depict you are igbo. And it isn't a new thing for people from that region to be very choosy and tribalistic when it comes to choosing a partner (even amongst the very same south east).

Ask yourself the following questions;

Will your parents be the ones to live with you when you are married? So why should they chose your partner for you?

What is most important to you, true love or place of origin?

Will you want to spend the rest of your life wishing you had married who you really loved rather than being with who is from you region and merely love.


This kind or stories to me are childish, archaic, babaric and high level ignorance and illiteracy driven.


No wonder the high devorce rate in Nigeria today.




















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dabrake: Just like one who was chatting and smiling while I was talking only for her to pop up with the question while still facing her bb: can you please come again? I acted as though I wanted to ease myself, went to pay for my meal and I left her there stylishly to pay for hers.. About 80mins later, I got a 4-page sms from her . . .

I RESPECT DUDES LIKE YOU.
What you can't take on the 2nd date don't dare pretend it is okay on the first.

Though she will be upset but one thing is for sure, she WILL NEVER try same behavior with another guy.

shadshadyz: Though we aint up to a year yet. When i met him ,i asked him what he wants and he said he needs a companion, some1 who likes things similar to him, som1 to keep him company, we started for about 5months.
I noticed he is always asking 4 esx at least whenever we meet.Though we have not done it much like that.
A rich guy, workaholic,matured.He never tells me his feelings,
Has never really bought me anytin big, does not spend so much on me, though i dont mind am not a gold digger,dont believe in extortion, am hardworking.
Taken me out on different occasions,but rarely does that now.
Anytime i complain about the sex matter,has told me that he is not playing with me,wont hurt me,am wrong about him wit me for just sex(just words, which could be lies) and with simple terms, no elaboration.
I also suspect he may have another,cos he once told me he has normal urges and he likes esx alot.
The question is, does he really love me, and even if he doesnt how can i win his heart?
Or should i simply move on or be patient for awhile,cos i like him even if he was broke i would still like him.
Please i need alot of advice. NO INSULTS. THIS IS A SERIOUS ISSUE.I will answer any other question if you have any for clarification.Thank u
Thank you.

Question No 1
What have you given him aside the s*x?

Lots of ladies make a mistake believing they are doing the guy a favour by accepting to make love to him. You complain of his loving sex too much and also complained he doesn't take you out that much again.

Which guy in his right senses will be denied what he loves ('cus you stated that he opend up to you his high urge for se*x) and then you expect him to keep spending for you.

The moment you started denying him his favourite ice cream flavour, the man scouted and found another ice cream machine that makes his flavour just the way he wants it. Believe it or not, that where he is spending his money, time and heart to.

It is a common sight today seeing people chatting away with their phones (especially BlackBerry phones) while on a date.

You can't but imagine what went wrong with the old notion that "First Impression last long". Courtsy demands that while on dates (first time or one milliont time) one should respect and treat the other partner special and make them believe they are the only one existing in that environment at that moment.

Making use of your phone makes the other partner feel they are boring and aren't wanted at that particular moment.

Nairalanders, who is more guilty in this scenerio, the Ladies or the Guys?

jedisco: All of you criticising coldfeet are hypocrites.
Someone comes up with a sincere regret and you're all shouting as if you are any better.


@Coldfeet good to know you've picked yourself up from that trash and turned your back to it.

This is the exact reason why Nairalanders don't come out anymore to share their real life experience. Because they will get so bashed and condemned,even behind that unknown username, they will feel ashames and dissapointed.


That why the forum is now filled with kids who have no real experience to learn from.

It is absolutely recommended that the husbands works very hard to pay for the mortgage.

In a society like Nigeria were men are polygamist by nature it wont be easy taking in a second wife in a situation were you and the first both contributed in getting the house.