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deturla:
She is always claiming that i look like the Oil Magnate and DJ Cuppy's father, Please Nairalanders. Is this true?

The Twist to this whole ish is that i bear Femi Adetola and he is Femi Otedola. Wierd, you say??









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Ahahahahahahahahahahahahah. Femochy!!!!!!!!

Yeah. The resemblance is somewhat close.

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newsarena:
Ladies what will you do when you see this in your new guy house.

http://www.9janewsarena.com/2015/12/ladies-what-will-be-your-reaction-when-you-see-this.html

I would walk away....

Tallesty1:
I am not writing this to bash women or speak ill of them, rather I am writing this to understand the rationale behind it and maybe give a piece of advice or two.

This is common among Christians and some working class women. I have noticed that majority of them respect their pastor/boss more than their husband.

The level of Respect some of them often accord these spiritual leaders mostly can actually be said to be awesome.

The respect is so much that whatever they instruct them(women) to do they obey without any second thoughts or arguements but the case is always different if the instruction is from the husband.

Its actually good though but isn't charity supposed to begin from home?

Some women even go as far as kneeling for them in public just to show respect. Does it make sense to go about kneeling for your Pastor, Imam, Boss and atimes even for your Landlord whereas you can't remember the last time you bent half a knee or even squat for your husband at home?

That's hypocrisy if you ask me and God frowns at it.

Does it makes sense to you when you go out there, respecting your spiritual leaders, (who happens to be another woman's husband) whereas you can't show any iota of Respect for your husband at home?

Just incase you don't know, your husband is your first Boss and leader in all ramifications of Life.

Since you have no problem whatsoever, taking instructions from your Boss or spiritual leader and carrying out their instructions to the latter 24/7 then why should you argue with your husband over a few things he asks of you?

Before you go out there to display how respectful you are, please ensure you start with your husband at home.

Accord him his due respect. Let all Godly virtues you want to disply to the world at large, start from your home.

Kindly respect your husband, give him his rightful place. Asides from God, Put your husband first in all you do. It does'nt hurt or make you a lesser person.

I have to first if all be sure that the men they have at homes are men who are worthy to be respected. I am not in support of those who adore their pastors at the expense of their own sense, but then men should first of all be worthy of respect before the demand it from their wives.

ThenIf a man is worthy of respect, kneeling down to greet him isn't one of such signs. Asking for his opinion in matters arising us a good sign of respect. Regrading his opinion and giving reference to him as of the home is another. Treating him with courtesy and not talking down in him are signs of respect men see and appreciate not necessarily kneeling down to greet him even if he were 59 years older.

Men correct me if I am wrong.

bamac:
It is a long one, please bare with me..

Through conceptual clarification i could deduce that "relationship is the way in which two or more people, groups, countries, etc., talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other.
It is also a romantic or sexual friendship between two people: the way in which two or more people or things are connected".

Sex on the other hand is the "physical activities in which people touch each other's bodies, kiss each other, etc. :physical activities that is related to and often and often includes sexual intercourse".

Many youths of today have likened relationship to be sex which shouldn't be so.

Relationship and sex might work hand-in-hand but it shouldn't be incorporated at the wrong time.

The opportunity for courtship is being abused on a daily basis just because we try to make relationship work through sex.

So many young girls have involved themselves in premarital sex which has led to unwanted pregnancy which some will abort while some will be forced to give birth at a tender age.

Everything in life is by stage. Yes, it is not possible you wake up one day and conclude that you want to get married without having someone you are dating that you have known for some months.

But the fact is that relationship and sex are two different things that should only be linked at the appropriate time.

So many men made their lady believe that if the lady did not have sex with them then she doesn't love them.

See, if you want to love, nobody will stop you from loving anybody, but don't pretend to love when your ultimate goal is to get under her.

Don't make her believe that sex makes relationship stronger.

Premarital sex doesn't make any relationship stronger, it kills the relationship especially when the intention is not for marriage.

Even at a stage, couples that didn't involve in premarital sex get tired of having sex with each other, then if that is the case, are you not making it a bit faster to lose thirst for sex?

I think ladies of this generation should have become wiser enough to decide about their life earlier than 18years.

Some men will only have sex with a lady ones and that's all. You should be able to keep your precious self away from the beast in men.

Many men out their are no more interested in staying with a woman for so long, they will tell you they don't like eating a particular food twice but love to eat different kinds of food.

They will come to you and give you all the sweet words and you will gladly accept them and even release your body to them like sheep without Shepherd.

You are the only one that can destroy yourself. You only go into wrong hands if you did not say yes to the right person.

During courtship you are free to decide if you can cope with each other or not, and you can choose to continue or discontinue your relationship.

But now a days, ladies find it difficult to leave the beast they are into relationship with simply because they have engaged in sex which has made her emotionally attached with the man.

That way, it will not be easy for her to say no when she should have said it.

Some men change immediately they have sex with their lady. The sex will automatically be an eye opener for them, they will want to explore more, thereby exposing them to any other things in skirt.

I am not saying it is not good to introduce sex in your relationship, but it is necessary to introduce it at the appropriate time to avoid the series of disadvantages associated with it.

It makes relationship stronger but this is for the couple and perhaps serious minded couple-to-be. Biblically it is not for those who are not married, in fact, it is a sin.

Some men are only interested in getting under a lady, but how will you decipher the true man from the fake? You can be safe if you keep your precious part till the right time.

Those that are even married can get divorced anytime let alone those that are not.

Though, some ladies are the cause of their own fall. They cannot do without sex, and so many reasons got them so attracted to that which we might not blame them for some, while some are due to covetousness and love of money.

Sex in courtship can mar your marital life more than it can make it.
Be wise and never give yourself room to regret your impatient.


Please your comments, criticism, likes and share will only encourage me, i will be so glad to see them coming...

http://bamisepeters.com/2015/08/sex-will-make-your-relationship.html

I would not have said anything but for the last paet that read that said you would love to see comment and likes.

Its a lovely peice you wrote. It couldn't have be written a better way.

I would add... there would be urges, real ones. There would be times when you really want to kiss him and just close your eyes to the consequences of whatever could happen. But then self control puts a check on you. Understanding that what you really desire now would be at your finger tips if you'd just wait a while is also key.

I think it's easier when both parties run with on the same charity goals. The guy understands that fulfilling his sexual urges now puts the woman in greater danger hence he exercises self control. He knows that sleeping will ruin both her and the relationship. The lady understands that get body is percious and should not just be given to anyone.

Its also good of both parties talk about their sexual urges and work at ways to minimise the effect. Expressing your feelings also helps. Saying something like "I really do feel like kissing you" rather than engaging in sexual acts also helps. It helps me.

Finally, we should also remember that as much as we preach chastity for women we should preach same to the men. As much as we preach chastity to women we don't wanna be foolish virgins hence is important that a woman’s mind is cultivated and she is taught to achieve all that God has created her to be.

I have never written a broadcast neither have I propagated one, but I witnessed a case of RAPE this evening around 6.45pm in Surulere, Lagos Nigeria.

I got to my family house and was going to pick my charger from the car when PHCN I saw a tattered looking late twenties or early thirties guy being questioned by another man with a girl aged about 6/7.

The other guy was asking the girl where she had been that her mom and everyone had been looking for her. I looked then got closer, at this point the young girl had started crying. I was praying it wasn't what I was thinking at all!!! As I got closer the man had started questioning the tattered looking guy, saying where did you take her too? where are you both coming from? He was just babbling, I had tune out, I turned to the girl immediately saying, what happened? where are you coming from, what happened? She had started crying profusely at this point and she shared her ordeal, one she had been put into by this PERVERT! She said he called me to go and buy pure water for him, he gave me N10, I didn't know him, but because he's an older person, I went...he then said I should enter his room, I started to cry that my mom will beat me, he then pulled me, closed the door and said if I shout, he will use knife to cut my neck, he was now 'toasting'me (I'm sure she meant sex, but because she doesn't know it's called that).

I was shaking with rage already at the thought of this! She continued, he now started doing that thing, touching her private part area.... Hahahaha, as I type this, I have tears in my eyes... He now did it and did it and did it, and remember I said her mom had been looking for her for hours.

Only God knows how long he went on with this inhumane act. Me, I slapped and beat the guy ooo, I swear, I couldn't hold myself.. He had been taken to the police station.

PLS WATCH OUT FOR PERVERTS, THEY'RE OUT THERE. GUARD YOUR KIDS. TEACH THEM TO BE FREE WITH YOU. GIVE THEM THE PREMISE WHERE THEY COULD TELL YOU EVERYTHING. ABOVE ALL, ALWAYS PRAY FOR THEM.

A.Robinson

Emmatdayo:
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She never ever exposes her body! Always decently dressed and very classy!

keni315:
Wow,very nice........just love that lady regardless of her scandals

That's true. She never exposes her body as well!

[quote author=tosyne2much post=31991046] Are you implying you are a _____ ? [/

lol

tosyne2much:
Not even your bf ?

NONE... WHATSOEVER! NOT EVEN HIM!

I know you would wanna know this part ... not even him... and I mean it.

[quote author=tosyne2much post=31990066] Not even your bf ?

You are something else

tosyne2much:
It's no news that many dudes (and so are the ladies) become chronically embarrassed and shy about being seen unclothed, especially by a lady who is not your girlfriend

No matter how you pretend, there would definitely be a feeling of shyness when that neighbour bump into your room and sees you unclad

I'm just that type of guy that is over-cautious when peeing or getting dressed.. Even if you use a microscope, you will never see it

The very first time a lady bumped into my room and saw my unclothedness, I was so embarrassed and I felt the ground should open and swallow me up

Over to you guys

I am a lady Though.
No guy had ever seen me unclad... I am really always extra careful. But if anyone does, I would feel really shy and get the thought off my mind... Life goes on, doesn't it?

Platnum1:
I have been married for 5 months now.I lost my virginity to my husband but he doesn't blv cos I didn't bleed. I was use to pleasuring myself with my fingers before now,maybe that's why I didnt bleed,I don't knw. D fact that i kept myself for my husband all these yrs and he doesnt even blv me hurts so bad. How do I get over this and not let it hurt me so much?

I am forced to talk because there is a misconception going on.
First of all, the hymen is a thin membrane surrounding the virGina, it's really thin. It doesn't cover the virginal otherwise there would be no passage for our menstrual flow.

Two, all women have different types of Hymen. For some, the hymen covers the whole virgina, for some, it covers around the walls in a perforated format of the virgina and for some others, its covers a half part of the virgina etc. (Please Google to see pictures and specific names).
2) For those whose hymen covers their whole vegee, surgical operation has to be done to remove it so that menstrual flow can flow and stuffs.

3, Depending on the size of the penis, if the penis were to be really big, and there would be lots of friction between the walls of the virgina, the hymen breaks or bleeds, hence blood comes out. If the penis is just the actual size of the veegee, and there is no friction, nothing happens to the hymen because it's afree entrance and the lady may not bleed at all. Sometimes, she may just give in to few drops of blood, sometimes no blood at all.

4, You have to educate your hubby. Well, maybe not you yourself but he has to undersrtand that it is not all women who bleed as virgins. Its a MYTH that's ALL VIRGINS bleed as virgins and its also unnecessary pressure to expect your wife to bleed as a virgin especially if you were not even a virgin yourself and so how does she even test yours? Please let him get some good godly sex books to read or google 'types of hymen' and he would see and understand properly.


5) You don't loose your virginirty or break your hymen while mastubating which is what you call self servicing. Except you dipped a sharp object into your hole.Mastubating makes you become a tLastly, I'd advise you stop this act. Harmless you think but if you wanna enjoy the real pleasures of sex with your hubby, then its wrong and its a sin to mastubate! I don't wanna go into details because this is not the koko of your post.

Please make sure you read well, google about the types of hymen. Its necessary if you'd need to educate your hubby. Remember it' be difficult to convince hinm of what you have no knowedge about. Please ensure you know. Then you both can come together and explore and enjoy the wonders of your body.Technical virgin' Techincal virgings are those who have all sorts of sex styles or mental pictures of sex In their head but not physically had sex that is, not the actual penetration if a penis. They also service themselves to give them the pleasure that meeting with a man would give them.

6) Lastly, I'd advise you stop this act! Harmless you think but if you wanna enjoy the real pleasures of sex with your hubby, then its wrong and its a sin to mastubate! I don't wanna go into details because this is not the koko of your post.

Please make sure you read well, google about the types of hymen. Its necessary if you'd need to educate your hubby. Remember it' be difficult to convince him of what you have no knowedge about. Please ensure you know. Then you both can come together and explore and enjoy the wonders of your body.

I hope this helps.

Kachisbarbie:
They look cute.
But 5kids? Mmehn

That's much for me o. I love small families...maybe because I was brought up in one.

Yeah. I Share your thoughts. Just two kids!

omokugbor4real:
Any Quantity Surveying student online, should pls tell me the numbers of year their course of study takes in minna. Its very important pls

5 years. Am courses in a federal uni are 5 years!

bidex:
Please I need your candid advise and assistance on this baffling issue that bothers me since.

There was this girl that helps me in the office to buy things here and there on daily basis just like an office assistant.

One thing led to another and we did adult things that ends up with pregnancy.

I'm confused here and don't know what to do.

Please help me out.

Haa, pardon me. I'd be a bit harsh!
What were you thinking when you were sleeping with her? Did you think you could ea your cake and have it?
Wu'd have to bear responsibilities for this your action, there is no two way about it!

How do you tell your wife? Better start begging and pleading with her before you start...to get her mind prepared.
Hmmmmm...ask for her sincere forgiveness before you start your story. If she's someone like me, I'd wanna know what I am forgiving you for before I do anyway...Tell her you are willing to take responsibility for your action and that you regret all that you have done.

What's her love labguage of apology? Tell her you are willing to restitute and make amends infact remain accountable to her for the rest of your life.

But then, after facing the 'battle' with your wife, what of the new baby and mother? What are your plans? I hope you have plans for both of them? Or what are you intending to do? Marry the new mother? Financially take care of the new baby until she's old enough? Pay off the new mother? Have this settled o.

I wish you had thought deep and long enough to consider al the future consequences of your act before doing what you did.

Just know however, that things may never remain the same again...trust is built, it would take time for her to forgive you! Also know that forgiveness doesn't automatically build trust. She'd need to rekindle and build the trust she has for you again. Don't expect her to instantly fogive and ttrust you again. Women are not wired this way.

Lastly, I pray for you that God would help you find around this mess. Even though you'd have to bear the consequences of your action, I pray for the strenght for you to go through this...and I pray for your wife, that she'd be given the grace to forgive and trust you again.

As for the new mother, I don't know what her intentios were when you both slept with eachother, but I pray that she would receive God's mercies and grace from God.

Don't give up bro, if you truly repent and turn away from your sins, God's more than willing to forgive you.
I'd be praying for you.

~Omoby.
My message is to bring hope to the hopeless.

100Cents:
Excellent !

Are you a counsellor ?

Thank you! Please pardon my errors. I tried to edit.

Thank God for the gift to counsel, Yeah I am a counselor. #smiles

100Cents:
Since 2011, I should have settled down, which was truncated by my people based on tribal grounds, I have been unable to love a woman like my Ex.

The only girl I seem to love is messing up. Really I can't say what's up her sleeves. I currently have many beautiful admirers o. But i dont see any of them via the window of a wife. Some of them dress so skimpy when visiting to impress me.

Nothing has ever challenged me like this since birth.

O Lord God of Jacob, I am tired..

Hmmmm...I feel compelled to write you a personal message.

Please don't allow such issues weigh you down. We all have one thing or the other that's pinching our shoes. Yours is no different. I know its peculiar to you and you are the only one who knows how much it pinches you, but please take it easy...you know why? Because God makes everything in His time, not in ours...

For us women, One acts of love is never enough for us. We need lots and lots of doses. Please get to know what's her love language. Speak it and watch her bloom and love you without any effort of yours.

You say the only girl you seem to love is messing up? May I ask what's the mess is about? Could it be something you could correct? Could it be something adjustable? If yes, speak to her and let her know how much you love her. We ladies need lots of assurance.

You say you can't tell what's up her sleeves? Then I'd suggest you communicate. Ask her questions. Get to know what's on her mind.
Speak to people who could help unravel the mystery in her mind.

Or could it be that she's not interested in you? Then I'd suggest you please move on. Hard but you can do it...One saying says that 'we don't know how strong we are unti been strong is our last option'
Do you know that we can't force people to love us even though we feel the world for them? Eventually, it would all tell on us because you'd realise that your love alone can sustain a relationship/Marriage.
I don't know why she's messing up...I am just guessing and offering advices.

I commend your efforts on knowing what you want. I commend your effort on knowing what's good for you. Please don't give in for anything less than God's best for you.

I can reassure you, not because I am soothsayer or because I wanna patronize you, but because I believe in God and His word that says that everything works together for our good. He'd make everything beautiful for you. He knows you, he knows what's best for you. He'd bring her to you in His time and not in yours. Please don't give up...the battle is lost when we give up! You are another day close.

Please cheer up, nothing is ever too big to consume you or weigh you down.switch your thoughts to thoughts of good, celebrate life, go out and have fun, make friends: females. Go where you think prospective godly women could be. Don't just stay and nurse your wound. Life is beautiful, explore it!

I'd be praying for you.

I hope my message brings hope and confort to you.

Victorakats:
Here i am frustrated that as an engineer i am still at home watching BBA hotshots without even securing a teaching offer...in lagos
infact i resolved to even volunteer for free only if i can leave my house and gain some experience in the oil and gas industry which is the course i studied

And i read this and for a moment i paused to ask myself if i really want this kind of offer.
To be candid with you dear,i do not compromise my happiness in anything i do.
The reason is because over time an unhappy,unfulfilled heart will degenerate to depression and that will be catastrophic both to yourself and to those around you.

My views may not be the best, as i write i dont even have 1k in my account but i will tell you this, dont remain in any firm where you are abused in the name of job offer.
Money isnt what you should pursue, self development and self improvement should rank topmost.

It maybe crazy but until you step out you wont get a better offer.


Another route to this is to build relationship with some of the staff and seek avenue to be promoted to your desired department.
This second option will mean that you'll have to forget your degree and focus on serving them and expect a favourable outcome in the end.

Sorry for the frustration...
I hope you take it easy on yourself please.
Your life is worth more than any amount any company can offer.
Preserve your life!

I wish I could like you comments more.
You have did it all! Need I say more?

kkkp: www.nairaland.com/attachments/1351394_lar_jpga6350c595d0f8bcf5e88f61d6efe5ab0

The Plateau state government has announced the death of Solomon Lar, the first civilian governor of the state.

Mr. Lar died at the age of 80 in a U.S. hospital, after a protracted illness.

The Plateau state governor, Jonah Jang, announced his death on Wednesday in Jos.

“He died at about 3.00 a.m. American time (about 9.00 a.m. Nigerian time),” the governor told reporters on Wednesday evening.

He was the first chairman of the Peoples Democratic Party, PDP.


http://premiumtimesng.com/news/146312-breaking-news-solomon-lar-dead-plateau-govt.html

awwwwww, sorry ooo...so the guy has finally died?! God forgive me o, but if he didnt die he would not have given way for the young generations to occupy leadership positions! Haba at 80 or 80 something? Still was the PDP Chairman! Well, may his sould rest in peace ooo...

omusiliyu: F U T A... Technology for self-reliance! Where I belong. Any class '11...esp BCH'11

Yels ke!! Class 11! Class of Champions!!! QSV!!!

omoikhefue: Im hurting so much on the inside and decided to write who knows I just might heal …

It was a wet Thursday 11th July and I was excited so much so that i couldn't wait to leave the office and most importantly rock my asoebi (it was my first velvet ever and i loved the combination) Deborah Lawson Event place omole was the venue and my beautiful friend from camp was the bride. she's a rare one I must say, down to earth and extremely cheerful you can almost refer to her as a razz yoruba girl so you imagine the shock when I discovered she was actually a foreign student: made me appreciate her even more.

I got to the venue at about 3pm and was settled in no time. My bride was all smiles, everything was going perfectly well Lolo 1 from Wazobia fm was cranking us up, for the first time in a very long time I snapped the finest pix ever without much gloss and editing... everything going smoothly till it was time for single ladies and the bouquet catching. I honestly do not partake in the whole single ladies and bouquet campaign but lolo won’t let us be, at some point the bride had to call us out. Purse on my chair and my offfice bag wedging it, off we went dragging ourselves along the whole episode didn’t last upto 2mins.

I got back to my seat and my office bag was on the floor with my purse nowhere in sight. The purse was specially made by my mum so there’s no replica of it out there. At first I thought it was some kinda expensive joke but it the reality of it dawned on me in no time. I was raged. I have never being so confused I pulled the table cloth hoping to finding it under the table no sight of it; I asked everyone around me rather they answered me with even more questios. it was just too good to be true... I was sure I was gonna faint so I off my shoes to get a grip of myself (I had my ipad3 in that purse, in my wallet were 3atm card, my driver's licence, my HMO cards, my Unilag ID card I refused submitting in exchange for my certificate, my passports photos(right from when I cut my hair, did dreads, dyed my hair you name it, my money!! I made a withdrawal of 10k with intent to cab home, the beautiful pix I snapped at the reception hoping to give my mum, my mobile phone...) everyone's talking at the same time "who could have done this? Where did you leave this bag? Are you sure you didn’t drop it somewhere? what was inside? on and on

Words fail to describe the trauma I went through, I felt so much pain, anger, bitterness and resentment all at once and finally the tears came flooding down my cheeks (last I cried so hard was when I lost a close friend at Unilag). All at once, everybody became a suspect. I suddenly became stranded and desperate for help
In all it’s a bitter pill I had to swallow and I learnt my lesson the hard way, its so unfortunate you no longer know who truly is an invited guest. I suspect and still suspect the caterers and cameramen but the deeds been done already. I love attending weddings but I can certainly tell you that crave just died a most painful death … That’s how they began making donations for my transport I cried all the way to festac could not deal with the situation at all.

Experience is not the best teacher so learn from mine; let me not bore you with the whole police report that’s another ache on its own. In all Im grateful and expectant for even better things.

Cheers!

Sorry dear, but you made a very big mistake...leaving your bag and going to catch the bonquet without taking it with you...It was quite silly and a stupid mistake on your part! In weddings, even if you are bending down to pick something on the floor, you hold your bad tight around your arms...So sorry, and I really mean that I feel your loss!

sexymoma: The Most Romantic Gift have ever received was Kisses.... Like 2hrs Kisses
Oya Nairalanders let get started.

All gifts are romantic as I can not categorically tell you which is more or less.

LesbianBoy: Like this comment if you wore 'kito' sandals back in the days!

hmmmmm....like if you wore 'aerosoft' too...

ogugua88: [size=13pt]What I'm getting from this is that you once believed cheating was wrong, but because you're now a cheat yourself, your perspective has changed? Give me a break.

As far as I'm concerned, cheating is one of the worst forms of disrespect to a partner or spouse, and people who cheat are discontented and highly undisciplined human beings. There is such a thing as self-control. In your case, it's not that you lost control, but that you know what's right and wrong and have chosen to do wrong on more than one occasion. You are giving yourself to another woman's husband. What does marriage even mean to you, if anything at all? I'm assuming you want to get married one day. Isn't marriage a sacred union that people are supposed to hold at high regard? If you're disrespecting and desecrating another woman's union, what makes you think yours should even be average, let alone sweet?

How on earth could you even take a break with your boyfriend? If you loved him at all, you wouldn't even consider leaving him for another woman's husband. You told him you need a break as if you're the one that's being hurt. Add the word "selfish" along with discontented and highly undisciplined please.

You are not just wrong, but double wrong. If you have any ounce of morality left in you, come clean with your boyfriend and let him go. I wonder what he's done to deserve having an adulterer as a girlfriend.

And we wonder why STDs are rampant. Shey na 2013? Smh.[/size]

I wanna like your comments a hundred times! You were able to see beneath the lines...! I am impressed!
To the poster, remember: "God is not mocked, whatever a man sows, same he shall reap"
She could not even come to tell her bobo plainly that she cheated on him, rather she choose to say she needed a break Gosh! You disgust me!

Hey dearie! You seem to be too hard on your self and only focusing on the negatives side of life!
U have a very good job, you are very comfortable and can afford to travel to the UK anytime, mehn, some people envy you oooo, do you know that?
The Yoruba's say that it is only those that wear the shoe that knows where the shoe pinches...Do you know some married folks wanna be single like you too? They want to be able to decide what to do by themselves and not be under the control of any man. Not that I am saying that getting married is not a good idea, but think of those who aren't enjoying their marriages and realize how privileged you are.
I understand the pressure you may be going through, but I do not want you to give in to the pressures. Remember, if you allow your self to be pressure, you would be the one to live with whomsoever you choose for the rest of your life.
The mind is really very tricky, it starts to put doubts in your mind (am sure you had that) and tells you perhaps you can never get married, from there, it makes you believe your doubts, because afterall at 31, you are seeing the clear signs...from there, it goes on to play out the result of such signs, U begin to see your self not getting married early, not having kids early and been a mother at a very late age...All this are very false...It the devil playing tricks with your mind, He is a liar and always would be. Such thoughts are not from God at all...
You do not have to allow your mind play all the scenes, you own the remote control, change the channel! Fix your mind on God's good plan for your life.
If you are a Christain, you would know that God has good plans for you and makes everything beautiful in His own time. What of if you got married early, say 23 and by 31, u are regretting such marriage? What of if you got married years ago and today your husband is no more? Perhaps this is what God is preventing from happening to you!This are things I want you to think about. Everyone would say God forbid, but we cannot see beyond our noses!!
Thirdly, please understand that no matter how much worry you do, there is little or nothing you can do about it by worrying! Worrying does not change anything. Its makes life worse that it appears to be...It makes you see life from a very blurred view. It put fears in your mind and remember the common definition of FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) However, is there any thing you think that makes men repel you?? Are there character flaws you need to work on? If yes, this are the things you can control..Please work on them.
On the other hand, if there is nothing of such and you are striving to be your best at all times, then do not worry( I know it is easy to say because am not in your shoes) but then you still make the choice to believe God for the best and believe that he has your best interest at heart or believe the lies of the devil)...Keep been your best and someday a man would come your way.
In conclusion, I wanna encourage you with this words. "Everybody's race in life is different. Even siblings do no have the same race with each other, same with twins too. Yours is not an exception too...Your time would definitely come and when it comes, it would not tarry. God makes all things beautiful in His own time and the right man would come wherever you are"
Be complete in who you are, secure in who you are, marriage or not, keep been your best, see each day as a day nearer to your miracle, keep loving God, and don't let internal pressures (the devil through your mind) and external pressures (friends, family and well wishes) make you make the wrong choice!
I pray for you today! I pray that your blessing would not tarry and your heart desires would be granted...Please don't forget to invite me for your wedding oooo...Regards!
NB: Am sorry it is a long epistle, I hope you have been able to get my point!

Happyness_Chima: I'm 31 And Nobody Is Asking My Hand In Marriage

Good day nairaland. I'm 31 years old female, single and unmarried. I want to get married by the end of this year by Gods grace. All the men that approach me either are unsettled yet or one problem or the other. At first I wasn't desperate, but I don't know what im doing wrong. I have a good job and travel to the UK often but still haven't met any man that's prepared for marriage. When I go out to have fun, my siblings start complaining that im attending parties and staying out late too much. Is it in our parlour a man will marry me? I'm trying to enjoy life by looking on to the bright side but still feel empty inside of me. What else can I do to get married at least by the end of the year? Any others I my shoes can input as well.

Hey dearie! You seem to be too hard on your self and only focusing on the negatives side of life!
U have a very good job, you are very comfortable and can afford to travel to the UK anytime, mehn, some people envy you oooo, do you know that?
The Yoruba's say that it is only those that wear the shoe that knows where the shoe pinches...Do you know some married folks wanna be single like you too? They want to be able to decide what to do by themselves and not be under the control of any man. Not that I am saying that getting married is not a good idea, but think of those who aren't enjoying their marriages and realize how privileged you are.
I understand the pressure you may be going through, but I do not want you to give in to the pressures. Remember, if you allow your self to be pressure, you would be the one to live with whomsoever you choose for the rest of your life.
The mind is really very tricky, it starts to put doubts in your mind (am sure you had that) and tells you perhaps you can never get married, from there, it makes you believe your doubts, because afterall at 31, you are seeing the clear signs...from there, it goes on to play out the result of such signs, U begin to see your self not getting married early, not having kids early and been a mother at a very late age...All this are very false...It the devil playing tricks with your mind, He is a liar and always would be. Such thoughts are not from God at all...
You do not have to allow your mind play all the scenes, you own the remote control, change the channel! Fix your mind on God's good plan for your life.
If you are a Christain, you would know that God has good plans for you and makes everything beautiful in His own time. What of if you got married early, say 23 and by 31, u are regretting such marriage? What of if you got married years ago and today your husband is no more? Perhaps this is what God is preventing from happening to you!This are things I want you to think about. Everyone would say God forbid, but we cannot see beyond our noses!!
Thirdly, please understand that no matter how much worry you do, there is little or nothing you can do about it by worrying! Worrying does not change anything. Its makes life worse that it appears to be...It makes you see life from a very blurred view. It put fears in your mind and remember the common definition of FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real) However, is there any thing you think that makes men repel you?? Are there character flaws you need to work on? If yes, this are the things you can control..Please work on them.
On the other hand, if there is nothing of such and you are striving to be your best at all times, then do not worry( I know it is easy to say because am not in your shoes) but then you still make the choice to believe God for the best and believe that he has your best interest at heart or believe the lies of the devil)...Keep been your best and someday a man would come your way.
In conclusion, I wanna encourage you with this words. "Everybody's race in life is different. Even siblings do no have the same race with each other, same with twins too. Yours is not an exception too...Your time would definitely come and when it comes, it would not tarry. God makes all things beautiful in His own time and the right man would come wherever you are"
Be complete in who you are, secure in who you are, marriage or not, keep been your best, see each day as a day nearer to your miracle, keep loving God, and don't let internal pressures (the devil through your mind) and external pressures (friends, family and well wishes) make you make the wrong choice!
I pray for you today! I pray that your blessing would not tarry and your heart desires would be granted...Please don't forget to invite me for your wedding oooo...Regards!

NB: Am sorry it is a long epistle, I hope you have been able to get my point!

sagytarius™:
I think the first one of the yr was for the Anglicans; 2nd one was for Cath's; this third one is probably for Cherubim's; then there will be RCCG's and Winners' as the 4th and 5th respectively for the year as you guessed.

The United Kingdom's Mother's Day falls on the 10th of March 2013 which we celebrated in Nigeria weeks ago.
Today is for the United States of America (USA)...Just like different countries have their various independence Days.
In the United Kingdom, Mothers Day is not a fixed date but it always falls on the fourth Sunday of Lent which varies on when Easter is.
So for subsequent years, Mother's Day (UK) would fall on March 30, 2014; March 15 (2015); March 6 (2016).
In the USA on the Other hand, Mothers's Day falls on the second Sunday of May and which is as follows May 12, 2013 (which is today), May 11 (2014), May 10 (2015) May 8 (2016).
Take note of this dates and don't forget that traditionally Nigeria celebrates Mothers Day same day with the United Kingdom (because we were colonized under them) so when USA celebrates theirs, do not let it get you confused!

Burger01: Ol boy! I tire o o.

Mothers day pass fathers day for nairaland.

The United Kingdom's Mother's Day falls on the 10th of March 2013 which we celebrated in Nigeria weeks ago.
Today is for the United States of America (USA)...Just like different countries have their various independence Days.
In the United Kingdom, Mothers Day is not a fixed date but it always falls on the fourth Sunday of Lent which varies on when Easter is.
So for subsequent years, Mother's Day (UK) would fall on March 30, 2014; March 15 (2015); March 6 (2016).
In the USA on the Other hand, Mothers's Day falls on the second Sunday of May and which is as follows May 12, 2013 (which is today), May 11 (2014), May 10 (2015) May 8 (2016).
Take note of this dates and don't forget that traditionally Nigeria celebrates Mothers Day same day with the United Kingdom (because we were colonized under them) so when USA celebrates theirs, do not let it get you confused!

caesaraba: How many mothers day do we have in a damn year?!

The United Kingdom's Mother's Day falls on the 10th of March 2013 which we celebrated in Nigeria weeks ago.
Today is for the United States of America (USA)...Just like different countries have their various independence Days.
In the United Kingdom, Mothers Day is not a fixed date but it always falls on the fourth Sunday of Lent which varies on when Easter is.
So for subsequent years, Mother's Day (UK) would fall on March 30, 2014; March 15 (2015); March 6 (2016).
In the USA on the Other hand, Mothers's Day falls on the second Sunday of May and which is as follows May 12, 2013 (which is today), May 11 (2014), May 10 (2015) May 8 (2016).
Take note of this dates and don't forget that traditionally Nigeria celebrates Mothers Day same day with the United Kingdom (because we were colonized under them) so when USA celebrates theirs, do not let it get you confused...

Jus4c: I am about concluding my B.Eng programme, having gained admission via DE into 300L about two years ago.I had my HND certificate in Electrical-Electronics Engineering and went for the NYSC in 2009 but decided to go back to the university to obtain B.eng in order to be free from the "barriers" associated with HND certificate in Nigeria.
Now,I am considering going for mobilization again after my B.Eng programme.The reason for this action is to fit into any job advert that may be available.In some job advert for fresh graduate,it will be stated that'not more than two years post NYSC experience.'Meanwhile I have completed my NYSC four years back.In order to save myself of being constantly asked during the course of any interview that how come I took part in the NYSC scheme before graduating,I think I should go for the scheme again.It is also good to intimate you that I am currently working in a multinational,though as a junior staff.I was able to combine the service with my work in 2009 because I influenced my posting to the same state of residence and to a firm that showed understanding as regards my 'status'.So, I didn't I have any problemm or underwent any stress combining service with work.In fact the whole year passed as if nothing had happened.So,going for another service is not going to be a problem as I know how to go about it.
The major area I need an enlightenment on is the implication of doing this: whether it is written any where either in the NYSC act or constitution that it is not allowed.Personally,I have not seen it written anywhere but I need your advice on this.Once again the decision to do this again,not minding the associated stress,is to fit into any employment advert.I am waiting for your meaningful reply.Thanks.

I doubt if there is any need for you to serve. You say you are already working Are you looking for higher career prospects?? Or you wanna change jobs? Even when been asked why you served before graduating, it is always good to always explain to prospective employers. If you dont get the job, dust your self and move on...I think there is danger is serving twice. I am not sure where it is documented but it could pose serious problems for you in the future!
All be well! Regards!

Mfonbah: Thank God for those that still loves and obey His Word cos they can never be a victim of such. This should be a lesson to those that still indulging in the sin of fornication. REPENT and ask GOD for MERCY!

Sex before Marriage brings so much havoc than people could imagine...If only everyone would hold on to God's word, they would realise that God was actually loving them rather than hating them...