smallsmall:


Dont mind him, he is trying to brain-wash us into marrying all the "Nigerian Rejects" wey dey coast for America! Let them keep advertising for African Husbands, we nor want.
(That does not mean they are not academically successful, but that is a different ball game)

A woman that cannot cook or wash dishes and has to compete with the husband over cooking and washing dishes, IS NOT WORTHY to be called A WIFE.
Just like a man that cannot pay house rent or pay his children school fees IS NOT a Husband.
Wife or Husband get each own duties, within a family setup.

Honestly, l dont need a wife that earns $500,000 and l dont want to earn that either, l just want to live a simple happy life, with enough money to buy the simple things that makes me happy and can provide for the needs of my wife and children.

Over to you @ Poster.....go and marry them, l "giffup".

Hahaha- you harsh oo. But it's true, which naija man go get time table to share chores with who? Lol. Make 1 million go siddon joor. If somebody wants to be a wife, let them be a wife. No be all these I can't cook and co

abbey621:


9ja 9ja, needed someone that would share my vision of investing back home and relocating when we get older, I could have easily married American naija but fate said otherwise, either way na grace of God o cos even naija naija women can be devilish as well .

Lol - yes bro. Women will be women. But at least, from your write up, I can see it's net positive for you, so that's good.

Twenty8:
honestly, this people will be heart broken if Nigeria were to split like most nairaland tribalist would want.

But I have 2 problems with them though

(1)it is very easy to be patriotic since they aren't feeling the heat, not that am saying it is bad they are being patriots of the nation, but if we the ones living in this current Nigeria are feeling unpatriotic, we have our reasons not to.

(2)Why marry a woman who would want to be dragging power and sharing chores with me unless she wants to share and drag the dowry with me.

So I agree with your point number 2. My point exactly. If she like make she be CEO of Goldman Sachs. I no do

Mouth Gig:
WE HEAR U



U PEOPLE SHOULD FOLLOW UR KIND,ALSO BORN THERE.


AND LEAVE US ALONE HERE.

WHEN YOU SHOULD BE TALKING OF HOW U PUNKS,CAN COME HELP IN ONE WAY OR THE OTHER,TALKING ABOUT,HOW YOU PUNKS ARE BETTER THAN OTHERS,BECAUSE U ARE 2ND CLASS CITIZENS OF TRUMP'S STRIP CLUB CALLED AMERICA .SMH

You sound sad and pained.

Do you know how many things some Diaporean Nigerians are doing? Some of us even hire people back home, contributing in our small ways to lowering unemployment. Can we do more, sure we can...But rudely implying Nigerians outside are not helping, that is a weak position to take.

abbey621:
I'll give you my own experience having lived and worked in the USA for over a decade now. THEY ARE THE WORST! The write up that they visit 9ja every six month is pure fantasy....Many don't even know what the airport in Lagos is called. Many don't even have a Nigerian passport or know how to get a Nigerian visa. Forget about the celebs you mentioned and focus on the majority, the average Nnkechi or Kemi held down with student loans and entry level jobs, these ones will gladly eat eba or jollof but will never give up their Red Lobster or other American delicacies.

Furthermore, I've discovered that most of them only like to be Nigerian by name but when it comes to actually doing things that encompasses the Nigerian female such as respecting elders/in-laws, taking care of the home, investing back in 9ja for the future they FAIL astonishingly.

Last but not least, whether it is a Nigerian girl picked from 9ja or one who came here as a child or was born here, individuality matters. There's no general consensus, just like we have many mad people that are whites or black Americans, same goes for Nigerian females. Sometimes it is like rolling dices, you might roll double six and hit the jackpot but most times you end up with numbers closer to 1

Interesting points. Which one did you marry? American naija or naija naija?

AniOmaa:
Academic success/achievements aside (which was never in dispute for the Nigerian-American girls, even though it applies to every Nigerian including the ones that just immigrated), I've lived long enough in the US, as well as dated lots of Naija-American girls through my college years to know they are massively overrated. I have my reasons for saying that, but for now I'll just say I'm more likely to either go to Naija and find me a wife... or at most marry a Ghanaian or any other African girl born here in the United States than settle with a Nigerian girl out here.

Bros, please why you say this?? Enlighten us oo, fellow brothers. Spill the beans, spill the ewa. Say why you are careful with them, abeg.

Or if you wanna talk on phone, let's do private message. I would like to hear your views. Me too am a pure Naija guy and my nature won't tolerate certain things.

So spill the beans like ewa and help your fellow brothers

Thanks

EmekaBlue:
Those spoilt children with their sharp american accent mouth...especially d yoruba descendants

they r mostly ugly sef

NEXT

I know this is an anonymous site, but your generalization doesn't sound sharp. There are very good ones here too and not mostly ugly as you put it

martowskin1:


Cooks or slave indeed. How this generation now term cooking to slavery baffles me

Yes, it surprises me.

In England then, one said she can't be cooking. At least she was factual and will attract people that are OK with that.

punisha:
OP u also missed out the part where these people can fight. Even the weakest of them here in Nigeria becomes a wrestler once in America.
They become slightly violent and can be impatient.

Really? Nice one. This is a good thread. These are things any self-respecting guy MUST watch out for, just as any self respecting lady must watch out for longer lasting traits of a good man. I no say make dem no find tall, dress sense, handsome and ambitious oo. These are good, but surely not the lasting traits that nourish a good marriage.

Crispels:

No one should bash Naija-based girls or guys. Life is a process.
But the reality is: within the larger American fabric, most of these Nigerian-Americans identify as NIGERIANS within America because people know there is no way their roots are in America - not when your names give you away as someone of Nigerian descent.

If you watch video interviews of famous Nigerian-Americans like Tomi Adeyemi or Nneka Ogwumike, they usually introduce themselves as Nigerians even though they are Americans by birth and upbringing. Some of my cousins were born in North America and they’ve lived here for over 25years now and some days ago: I saw how one of my cousins introduced herself to a Zoom meeting as ”a Nigerian who grew up in the US”. Being Nigerian or African is not as simple as most people think. Our ancestral roots are really strong.

In essence, when we use terms like ”Nigerian girls or Nigerian guys”, we cannot limit it to only Nigerians who live in Nigeria - to a very large extent - from the prism of the global community: such terms describe Nigerians in the diaspora as well.

You're correct - although I only first left Nigeria 11 years ago, wherever I am, I identify fully as Nigerian (taking the shame and glory that come with this) and don't do that rubbish accent thingy (I kukuma don't have foreign accent). So yes, our roots are strong. I plan for my future kids to have such outlook too. And I will return to Nigeria in a few decades from now..

Crispels:
Nigerian-Americans to a very large extent, are Nigerians who were born and/or raised by Nigerian parents in the United States. Most of them were born to Nigerian immigrant families - many of whom migrated to Yankee during the ”visa lottery and green card regime”. Some prominent Nigerian American girls are Tomi Adeyemi, Chineye Ogwumike, Nneka Ogwumike, Arike Ogunbowale, Oyinye Iweala and many more.

In the course of my experience studying and living in America, I’ve interacted with so many Nigerian-Americans and these are some of my observations.

This thread is a response to previous threads on dating African Americans and immigrant Nigerian women(those who migrated to the US from Naija as adults - some in their late 20s and some in their early 30s, 40s etc) in the USA. This particular thread could help guide prospective Nigerian foreign students or immigrants in America - who hope to end up with one of their sisters or brothers that were born and raised in the diaspora.

(1). Most of them(Nigerian-Americans) are more Nigerian than you think.

There is an erroneous belief among many Nigerians back home who feel once people leave Nigeria - they stop being a Nigerian. To be honest, I'm more Nigerian right now than I was while growing up in Naija. For many Nigerian-Americans, the story is the same. Most(not all) of the Nigerian-Americans I’ve met here are so deeply rooted in the Nigerian culture that I'm sometimes left in awe. Many of them have Nigerian flags in their apartments and if you check their Instagram profiles - you are very likely to see the smiley of a Nigerian flag there. And please: don't think ”patriotism is sweet from the abroad”.

There are many Nigerian-Americans who go home every 6months - they know how difficult things could be in Naija but the reality is: once you have a Nigerian ancestry - you and your descendants are forever Nigerians. Thus, you can never disassociate yourself from your roots. Unless you just want to foo.l yourself. I know of Nigerian immigrants (with a US green card) who left the US(sold their properties) and returned to Naija to hustle because living abroad does not feel like home to many Nigerians.

In states like Texas, Maryland, New York, Georgia, California, Illinois, and others with tens of thousands of Nigerians, it is common to meet Nigerian-American girls who eat only Nigerian food(they don't like American food despite being born and raised there). They also know the songs of Davido, Wiz Kid, Burna Boy, Tiwa, Falz, Zlatan, Naira Marley and the likes in manners typical of a Lagos babe. That explains why whenever these Naija artistes come to the US - their concerts are usually sold out. Nigerian -Americans no dey joke with Afrobeat music oo.

(2). Nigerian -American girls are super ambitious and successful

Wait! If you are a Naija guy hoping to date a Naija-Americana, you better up your game now! These girls are not joking mehn. 99% of the Nigerian-American girls around me are all pursuing careers that pay at least 6-figures annually. There was a Nigerian-American girl I met in New York. She had her first degree from Harvard. An MPH(Master of Public Health) from Yale and she's about resuming medical school at another ivy league school. In a system like America, with the field she plans to work in, such a fellow is likely to end up earning at least $500,000 pay in a few years. Her story is similar to that of most Nigerian-American girls here. I have never met a Naija-Americana who is not interested in higher degrees or high paying careers in America like medicine, nursing, tech, finance, pharmacy, sports, business/investment/investment banking, trade, engineering, consulting, etc.

So, if you plan to date/marry a Naija-Americana, you must be ambitious, honest, and hardworking. Otherwise, you go play second fiddle tire.

(3). Their parents and family are heavily involved in their lives.

One of the major reasons why they are super successful is because of their parents. Most Nigerian-Americans live in America but they were raised in Nigerian homes. Thus, many of their parents raised them like Naija kids - read your books. Work hard. Be excellent and always aim for the top. Pursue high-paying careers. All of these coupled with the enabling environment and opportunities that America provides make them who they are. Many of their parents give them the specs of the husbands/wives they want them to have. I’ve seen cases where Nigerian-American girls refused to date guys because they were not ambitious and successful enough. In fact, within the Nigerian community here, there is ”elitism”(if you are a young Nigerian chap and you are not well educated or you don't have a good-paying career job, many Nigerian-Americans won't even roll with you. This is a story for another day).

(4). They don't really need your money.

They want you to be successful. Be well educated and have a great career but they don't plan to leech off you. To the basics. Whenever I go out with Nigerian-American girls here, they always want to pay for their own food and drinks. In fact, some of them have offered to pay for mine - even though I invited them for lunch/dinner. I’ve had arguments with a few of them for always wanting to split bills when I was the one who planned the treat. Hence, don't expect them to disturb you for money related to makeup, hair, accessories, and the likes. Although, it is always good to surprise them with gifts and flowers - if you plan to date or marry any of them.

(5).Many of them place a premium on physical features(being tall is a big deal to them)

Especially when they are young(let's say below the age of 25), many Nigerian-American girls love guys with certain physical features like height(6’7 tall), muscles, beards and the likes. They love guys that are athletic and super clean. So, apart from being career-driven, be prepared to hit the gym to grow some mass if you wan see them date.
Although, as they grow older, they tend to care less about these physical features. Regardless, they always love and prefer tall and clean guys who have great careers. Their ideal man is a guy who is physically appealing, clean, intelligent, career-driven and has a great taste of fashion.

(6). They are not your cooks or slaves

This is the American part of them. If you know you want a wife that will constantly cook for you, clean the house and do other numerous chores. Sorry. Most Nigerian-American girls are not for you. You, as a man must learn how to cook as well. Clean the bathroom. Wash dishes and other ways you could be of assistance to her. They are not your typical ”villa girls”. If you plan to date/marry a Nigerian-American babe, be prepared to split the cookings/chores - the same way you will always split many of your bills.

(7). They can be sometimes arrogant and snobby

Many of them can ghost guys for Africa sha especially when they find you socially awkward or not possessing the physical features they desire in their man or you don't look like what they prefer. I find this to be somewhat childish tho. It's part of the unnecessary ”growing class division” within the Nigerian community here.

(. Treat them right. Take good care of them and support them. They are our sisters and brothers!

CAVEAT: These points were made based on my own personal experience. Another person may have a slightly different experience. ONE LOVE NAIJA ❤️.

It's good that you stated 6 & 7, at least so that some of us can be aware. Me, I plan a full Nigerian family and don't care whether anyone thinks I'm a typical 1970s naija baba. So, I actually don't care about any one's success if it will compromise my "full naija ideal". So, for instance, arrogance, shoddy and the other rubbish doesn't work with me...And I don't care if the person's GPA was 4/4 at Harvard or 5/5 at MIT. Also, the lady must cook and clean..I know how to do these things and can help out, but splitting chores with me - no way. I would rather go for just an OK somebody who meets my own ideals and I too meet their ideals than go for some "overly successful" person whose outlook compromises my ideals. Meanwhile, I agree with points 1 - 8 minus 6 & 7.

Ko le work...I understand oyinbo guys don't mind such, so maybe they can go for them.

Anyway, to each his own.

Good points overall - just wanted to add that there are many Nigerian girls here doing well and who do not fall into 6 & 7. But many tend to come her for work or study rather than being born here. I also hear that many of the ones you described, they avoid and snob Naija guys who are looking for "green card" marriage. And many do this, sometimes to their detriment. One guy told me a Texas Naija lady, after he approached her, just assumed he was interested in her because of wanted green card. lol. A guy that already got H1B to green card from his company. The lady later got to know the bobo no need green card oo and was trying to right wrongs, but bobo has moved on. Successful naija guys have principles and values. They too won't compromise.

Notwithstanding sha, if I see naija girl that fits your 1 - 8 minus 6&7, and meets my other personality test, omo I will try to know her "more better".

But Ada went to Kellogg now I think after her studies at Warwick or so and a few years at AFDB.

Congrats to her. I think she is a great girl. She came across as pleasant when we met at an event some time ago.

Hope many of our young girls will try to aspire for greatness in whatever genuine and nonshady stuff they do

TheBlessedHero:


3.97 here, Quantity Surveying. What are my chances?

Same idea too - although you may need to speak to this guy, http://cacp.utsa.edu/faculty-and-staff/ibukun-awolusi-ph.d

RemiAbdulSamad:
Thank you very much sir. But I've got some questions sir. 1. I haven't go for masters yet, how them can I possibly get admitted for one of the top 100 PhD programs you mentioned earlier? 2. Is econometric at the post graduate levels good choice?

The training you received in your undergrad may not be enough to specialize yet. The problem with the econ training at undergrad is that it is not mathematically rigorous enough. However, I feel someone who has tried in Nigeria can put up a big fight in a competitive graduate program and scale through. But going straight to econometrics, you can't with your current background. Unless you're talking "applied microeconomics" which is essentially regression-style econometrics. That you can do.

Yes, if your GRE is around the range I stated and you have the >4.0 you said you have, and you're smart and extremely hardworking, then you indeed can get into a PhD, top 100. I told you, I will place you there. In addition to the requirements I stated, you would need strong letters from your professors praising you heavily, not just that you can get A in courses but that you have the potential to be a good researcher. If you can do boy boy work for your lecturers doing research, this is called research assistant, this will help.

In one word - you can get into a PhD econ in the US with your BSc plus other things stated

Alphaman007:
3.77�..

This is nice. If you're not many years out of BSc, you should prepare harrrrrrrrrrrd and smmmmmmmmmaaaaaaart for the GRE, master-blast it, and then you can reach out to us by email. Check the website I posted above.

Futuragetty:


Damn, you have got an excellent CGPA. There are jobs in your field, though very competitive. I'm sure you will be fine. How about you sit and ace GRE test. trust me, you will get GA's position.

This is good advice.

His GPA is very good - and he can get something if he has someone to guide him wella.

If he is roasting in Naija, I think it's time for him to gather money, prepare hard, and master-blast the GRE

Resees:

The countries that you people are running to live in the citizens of that country fought and made it possible to be liveable like that.So yll just want to enjoy without suffering.

People are free to choose where they wish to live. It's their God given right, and I am serious about this.

You have power to alter your decisions, i.e. remain in Nigeria and refuse to live abroad. That's great and it's respectable. But it is also respectable if others decide to follow a different path

Alphaman007:

I finished with a BSc in psychology. Which stem field would you recommend that i switch to?

What's your GPA? If above 4.0, you should follow the same idea I gave the econ guy.

I think I can help

tensazangetsu20:

Don't mind them. God knows I hate Nigerians above 40 with a very strong passion. These guys came in enjoyed the best Nigeria had to offer and then practically wrecked and destroyed everything and left nothing for the young generation.

They had full meals in the university, full chicken and milk. Posh jobs once they graduated. Our generation Chale E no easy. We are way poorer than our predecessors. Graduated into a recession and when you think things couldn't get bad coronavirus came.

Let them stay and build the Nigeria they destroyed.

You don't know what you are saying. Maybe you will make sense with your "hate with passion" if you increase your age range or threshold, though it's never advisable to hate.

Nigeria started getting destroyed in the late 80's and early 90's onward, and those people who suffered the destruction of the country are Nigerians who are now in the age range > 40 and <55. These people were victims. Strike, lack of opportunities, cultism and all those negative stuff were at the peak then. They destroyed many people, very smart people. This was also the time when Nigeria started losing their best brains in LARGE AMOUNTS.

And no, these guys didn't have free meals, university full chicken, yadayadayada, just lool. They also did not have internet and some amenities to cry to the world, voice their opinions and take advantage of opportunities as we have today. I agree that things seem to be more challenging these days for the regular people, which are the majority, but things were not a "cake walk" for the age range I listed above - which interestingly belongs to the set of people you claim to hate.

So, you should adjust your hate threshold - though it is not advisable in any way to "hate Nigerians above 40". And desist from intersecting God and hate. Both don't mix. That's heresy.

And before someone shouts old man, I'm less than 40 but saw what happened to many people in the late 80's and early 90's to date, including to family members.

RemiAbdulSamad:
finished with 4.24 bro in economics, what would you recommend

Yes, your GPA is good.

Take the GRE and score quant > 165, verbal >155 and AWA > 4.0, then send me an email. I will place you in a top 100 US PhD program in Economics.

Visit our website - http://baumtenpers.com/

mostblessedman:
Goodmorning house, Please is there a whatsapp or telegram group for those preparing for the GRE, please I would love to join. Please help a brother to stay motivated. Thank you.

Our RAs have a study group for August GRE. Reach out to them via - stepoluchukwu@gmail.com.

frog12:
Adesina is busy causing trouble. Adesina just throw all the former African presidents under the bus for his unethical behaviour. they have to support him to prevent america from trying to control the bank.

I think we have others beside Okonjo.

You are not correct - his behavior is not unethical and he is causing no trouble. If you are an insider, you should know that there are forces with different interests and investigations have vindicated him. The claim of no due process followed has been shown to be weak.

America cannot control AFDB. This is not the world bank where America is the largest shareholder. They're not first and certainly not second.

Nyanabo:

So far as she is human she can't. I'm not saying she is 100% or a thousand percent. All I'm saying is she is the best we've got that's suitable for the job at least for the time being.

Why is it that it's other people who values things that's under our nose ? We attach no value to them until other people starts appreciating them for their works. I remember Mr. Adesina when he wanted to run for the presidency I'd of the AFDB back in 2015 he didn't receive full support. But now see the exploits he is doing on the continent. Until recently his person wasn't questioned.

Ditto to Adenisa. Everyone will not support you or need not support you, it does't stop your quality. In fact, having opposition is good.

As an insider somewhat, I can tell you even some Nigerians at AFDB initially had their own candidates in mind, not Adesina. This is fine, everyone has an interest and must be allowed to exercise their interest and choice.

Adesina is however doing a fantastic job and I am proud of him. He is clearly world class - no story, full stop.

AnanseK:


Stop all this chest beating. Everybody knows that the woman is overrated .

She performed woefully as the coordinating Minister for Jonathan and left the economy in a mess.

As minister of finance she watched as Desiani Madueke, Sambo Dasuki, Secundus , Mama Peace, Bello Haliru and a host of them drained the treasury.

From her performance, I wouldn’t recommend her for the position of Wuse Market women President let alone DG Of World Trade Organization.

This statement of "everyone" is just a joke.

If you can name one Nigerian more qualified for this international nomination and defend your position with logic, not emotions or hearsay, then we can start talking.

hardbody:


Abeg which course this hanty study? I no mind to start afresh. Only she one be all these everywhere? Chai...I wasn't well guided and counseled and we get Guidance and Counseling in the uni dah year ooo

She didn't just study a course, she is world class.

Go read your book well and study hard and blast your grades, with time you too will be world class in your own right

Nerd111:
Please, help me!!! I need a job before hunger kill man pikin. I graduated with a First class honors in Microbiology in a Nigerian university since 2018. Since then, I've not been able to get any job. I dropped my certificate for a while and entered street to hustle, but this coronavirus pandemic has cut off all my access to my part time informal jobs. I've been learning data analysis and other skills too. I have acquired like 5 professional certifications. Nonetheless, I'm unable to get a job. Please, I'd be glad if anyone could help me out with ANY job. I'm not picky o. I currently reside in Ilorin. I have thought of relocating to Lagos but I don't know anybody there and I'm very broke. Please, God should use somebody to help my life.

First class and things this bad? I am interested in your story. Send me an email (Not nairaland private message oo. Just search for any email connected to me, either posted by me or by an "institute" that I belong to). Hopefully you do a thorough search to get one of the many emails

Romeozigs:
Please I want to ask,how best can one prepare for GRE and get a good score(300+). I know u have shared a video on this which I have watched. What materials do we need to lay our hands on especially the verbal reasoning. The quantitative seems to be a bit easier

Hi, I just saw this and thought to comment. Your bound is too conservative for a good score. 300 is an average score. A good score is anything from 310.

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The link above is a sample of what our RAs do. If you're interested in becoming an RA, send us an email.

Getting an RA opportunity, in addition to at least a good academic performance and of course at least a good GRE, can increase the odds of getting into the school and programme of your dreams. We have sent our best RAs to some decent or even very good programmes to further their studies.

For those interested in finance, economics and business graduate school (for PhD), see this https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=3589832. Download it.

The link above is a sample of what our RAs do. If you're interested in becoming an RA, send us an email.

Getting an RA opportunity, in addition to at least a good academic performance and of course at least a good GRE, can increase the odds of getting into the school and programme of your dreams. We have sent our best RAs to some decent or even very good programmes to further their studies.

SmartyPants:


So you can't see that all those pics are from non combat location?

Man, the thing dey tire me. I heard they say our youths are intelligent. But man