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the guy that almost broke out marriage the, i told her to block the guy and also on facebook.. with all pressure and relunctant, she did. could you believe this same guy, she has added her again on facebook with another new profile. common why wont i be insecured in all this as you all proclaim.

I wont blame you though. You will always support your gender

ahnie:
Oga rest!

Pls how can i get this done. Beside what evidence do i need again with all this glaring at me.

excellence44:
Oga try the pretend at times. To catch tiff you need to behave like one.
Get your laptop, open Whatsapp and hers there and monitor her chat from there.
Or pretend to travel, stay within the neighborhood and monitor her movement.
Or contact any of those women were the run mouth is they get clue.
Fear women but no go die because her oh.
There's life even after marriage.

I know you guys will castigate me. Some are even saying am being insecured. Can you take it when the wife you married and taking good care is not been faithful or honest i. Her dealings with you. I am far from being insecured but even if i am now, she made me be so. How do you want me to trust a woman that have fail me in so many ways and you still want me not to be insecured living with her. Honestly you guys dont get it. I am not that kind of man thag expose my home but for me to do this now, its because i cant take it no more. The pain its costing me is much. If you are married you wilk understand better. How can i live with a woman that gives me reasons to doubt her

My dear just imagine what this gender can do. Someone that messed up barely 5 months ago, gave her a second chance but i was very watchful of her. Just imagine, she keeps males friend that doesn't benefits her but ready to destroy her marriage but not ready to learn. Honestly nothing will make me change my mind this time. I have had enough. Men , never give a cheating wife a second chance. She will still repeat it. I regretted i did now.

Jennyclay:
All your post is always about your wife.

Shey na only you Waka come?

Continue!

Good day nairalanders. Its good to meet the family again and happy new year. I know majority of people here will be familiar with my story base on my previous trends. If you are unaware, you can go to my previous trends to get better perspective. Family, another one don happen again o. You all know i told you that i caught my wife cheating with a guy some times ago. I forgave her and gave her a second chance, but it seems that word that a cheat will always be a cheat is damn true. After all the issues that have happened between myself and i, another issue of unfaithfulness was unraveled today. I noticed my wife was chatting with someone on whatsapp and when i got closer to her, she became uncomfortable and this made me to request for her phone to know whatsup. I noticed there is this guy she was chatting with and in that chat, it was obvious that she deleted the previous conversation she had with the guy. In holding the phone, a chat from this guy entered and reads... PLS MAKE SURE YOU DELETE THIS CHAT O. I DON'T WANT WAHALA. When i saw this chat, i was shocked and also marvelled that what could make the guy send such message to my wife if they have not been have something in common. I acted as if it was my wife that was chatting and start wining the guy to know better. The guy was saying things that look like she has something to do with my wife. One of the chat was that, he knows that he is safe cos he is sure he is always in a safe hand with her. I was angry and furious when i saw all this. I asked her what was going on between the both but you know women, she denied and started crying that there is nothing going on between she and the guy. But my people is it possible for a guy to send such kinda message to a married woman if there is nothing attached. Pls am just tired of this woman called my wife cos i decided to give her a second chance because of my two daughters but it seems she is just ready to use her own hand to destroy her marriage. Even though there is nothing going on with the both, how do i believe her this time with the previous experience have had with her. How will a married woman be so stupid and foolish and never learnt from her mistake. Pls i know you guys will abuse and insult me for accepting her back but honestly i am also regretting aswell and am ready to send her back to her family. I have had enough of all of this. God marriage is not easy atall.

My advice for you is that you should not cheat cos you will be the one at the loosing end. Your husband got nothing to loose and you will be blamed at the end even though he was the one that pushed you to that limits. Men are likely to be distracted at some stage of their life, thats when you need to understand him better that one day he will come back to his senses which am sure he would. Just pray for him and ensure you do things that makes you happy so that what he does wont bother you. I wish you goodluck in you home .

Well the cheating wasnt already sexual but still emotional. How do u feel your wife telling a guy she loves him and misses him so much and remember every emotional affairs have tendencies to lead to sexual. If not that i came and disrupt what they were doing then, that guy might have had his way with my wife. U know woman can be vulnerable when they are emotionally attached to something.

BATified2023:
sorry u keep hammering cheating but did they have any sexual affair ?

If it’s still flirt chat u can reprimand her which is normal but still keeping it in mind will break d marriage in d long run

If they didn’t have sex u can still take measures that will help d family especially as a man, with the way u are going any small pressure will break d marriage especially from your end

My brother i have never been this pained in my entire life. I felt it to my born marrow. The mistake i made was granting her permission to go for the job which i am regretting now. She entered with SSCE qualification as a level four and her pay is 38k with deduction what she earn is 32k. Imagine a govt worker earn such amount in this dispensations. Her tfar to work montly is close to 55k, just imagine, despite the inconveniences the job brings to the homes, its not even helping financially but rather taking from me again. So frustrating.. the only option is her to go and stay close to her office with the kids but what is my own faith here as a married man with the issue of trust on ground. She has tried business bfore but didn't work reason she opted for this job but we never knew what we were going into then. It messed everything up. It was during this job she started relating with another man and reason she did was to get money to augment her tfare money. Its keeps getting crazy with this woman i married and seems am already loosing it.

4ward4:
I feel your pain OP. The worst part of all this is that ,her salary might not be up to 100k Considering her educational qualifications.
To be a man is complicated and uttermost wisdom is needed in handling issues . Number 1 and most importantly is home running monetarily.
Letting her work with such poor qualification was your mistake, she will definitely flirt to argument her poor pay, Considering Lunch and transport fare. It might be an innocent flirt ,but she will definitely do.
Your solution is simple, take her on a Trade. Take a loan and establish her...Discuss this intensively with Her and make a comprehensive business plan ,that will entice her. Show her how to make more money than the little salary she earns.
Divorce and those shouting out of points aren't conversant with Marriage reality. If you like go pick another wife, and same might befall you . If you don't plan for your woman properly.

When i told her to resign at first, she said it will take 3months for them to approve it and she will need to be going to her station for another 3 months even if she tender her resignation that it doesn't take effect immediately.Pls anyone in the FORCE, How true is this and any one that works with the correctional service to help me clear that.

Ibechris2:
My brother....let her resign that job.

It is for the good of the entire family.

Uniform work with SSCE na hell on earth.

All those oga's go use u do all the rubbish work around.

Pls,let her leave the job for now and have peace of mind.


Peace of mind is essential to all family.

Brother with your mindset,better you dont marry cos if you marry and want to have peace, women will frustrate you no matter what. Just stay single and be happy

Kollins11:
first of all, I don't do that useless shit called relationship or marriage.

Marriage/relationship is for delusional people who think love exist.

Secondly, them never born any useless Nigerian girl wey go play with my peace of mind. She dey Mad? abi Ogun wan kill her papa?

Oga, you better take total control of your house without minding her useless feelings, else the next Shege she go show you, you no go fit resist the urge to shalaye.

Just dey SIMP

Yes i dont trust her and i have justifiable reasons not to trust her. She has been like a snitch and a green snake in the marriage for 6years we ve been together. If i decided to let the kids stay with me, they are girls and its little i can do about that, they need their mom than i do, incase they are boys, i dont have issue about it. Yes she does have a character issue which has been an issue for us since the beginning of the marriage, she is very disrespectful and have character flaws, na just manage i dey manage her all this well and she has been like a liability to me since i got married to her, what will give me peace is to just opt out of the marriage but i have reason why i shouldn't do that. The kids expecially and dont plan to marry two wives . Its draining.

Patented:
YOU DONT TRUST YOUR WIFE AND YOU PRBABLY SHOULD NOT.
DO NOT SEND YOUR KIDS TO BARRACKS ITS NOT THE BEST PLACE FOR KIDS.

IT SEEMS YOUR WIFE HAS CHARACTER ISSUES, HOWEVER, WE HAVE ONLY HEARD YOUR SIDE AND THERE ARE TWO SIDES TO EVERY COIN.

DO WHAT GIVES YOU PEACE OF MIND SO YOU MAY LIVE LONG

Honestly brother, that job has been a curse rather than blessings to the family. It has been one issue to another ever since she got the job. Nothing to show and the way they use her as a wardress is bad. Her pay is 32k and she spend close to 2k for transport daily which even exceed the salary each month. Attimes its the money i give her for housekeep she uses to transport herself. So whats the gain. I have gotten through enough pain in this marriage honestly and am on the verge of DIVORCING and opting out cos things seem not to get better and its worst if you marry a woman that should make things worst and difficult for you. Ever since i got married to her, it has always been one issue or the other. I am just tired honestly.

Ibechris2:
My brother....let her resign that job.

It is for the good of the entire family.

Uniform work with SSCE na hell on earth.

All those oga's go use u do all the rubbish work around.

Pls,let her leave the job for now and have peace of mind.


Peace of mind is essential to all family.

Yes that was my first intention that she should resign but you see woman, i tell her to resign and she is back home, any little thing, she will be accusing me of leaving her job. Thats what women that do, most if them are accuser of the brethren and i dont want that to occur. I know if she leaves with my kids, the guarantee of this marriage to continue is slim cos emotionally from my side, i am not into her again but am just still looking for ways ti rectify issues because of my kids that are girls. They will suffer for all of this and i never plan to marry a second wife in my life. I came from a polygamous home and i know the negative impact it had in my life and wont want to subject my kids to such. This matter just tire me honestly, reason i need a solution to navigate through

laluski:
My brother let her resign that work and start taking care of the kids... It seems you don't have an idea the damages you're about to put yourself and family into.. at the end of the day, it's you every one will blame when things go terribly wrong. You and your family have been surviving without that work of hers. And just look at what you wrote, that before the month ends, she's already looking for tfare.. did she carry you along when she went to rent that apartment? So why's she crying stupidly now.. abegi!!!

You better stop that work immediately and of she refuses, go to her work, see her senior SENIOR OGA and tell them you want your wife to resign immediately or they should sack her... And tell them all these reasons.. they're elderly men/ women them go understand and advice her to go back home.. case close, problem solved...

The juice of that her workplace is NOT WORK THE SQUEEZE

Thanks for the input, you see women, you cant just predict them, this is the person that have not been beneficial in financing any thing at home. I basically do everything for her and the kids and instead of her to look for a way to support and lessen my financial stress, it was cheating that comes straight to her mind. Honestly i was devastated and betrayed by what she did, thank God i survived those period i discovered but you see, i have wise up and know how to run through things now, reason why i wanted the kids to go with her so she will bear the brunt and also the stress of what she has caused. Though she has apologize but you see forgiven a cheating wife is the difficult thing a man can do in this life.. you just cant let go as a man. ,

Tokskob2008:
I think it's the trust you lost in her that's making you more worried about the six month course away from base cos 6months isn't that a long time but after it won't she be posted to another state?

If you want her to stop the work just tell her to do so and face the kids and family, the work isn't helpful in the first place plus she is already exhibiting strange behaviors so what's the point Imagine her having extramarital affairs that isn't helpful in anyway to her, still uses the upkeep allowance when she is broke so what is the use of her affair

Forgiven her wasnt easy, to be honest with you have not 100% forgiven her cos am still shocked and heartbroken. But you see those kids they are girls and i know they will be massively affected if i act irrationally, they should not suffer for their mom crimes . The major thing now is trust and the way this union is going its very sketchy if it will last the test of time. The kids cant live with me cause am also a busy person and even though we end up DIVORCING, the court will still grant her cos they are still very young.

Justkatty:
First of all, I'll commend you for forgiving your wife because in this part of the world, a man can overlook any other thing but when it comes to cheating 99% won't even want to think twice before sending her out.
May God continue to strengthen your marriage and also bless Mama for helping out.


Back to your question

I'll advise you to let her work for few months or a year, for her to be able to gather herself and think of a business she can do atleast for now, till when the kids comes of age. But I wouldn't want the kids to go live with her because of expenses, I believe you both can come up with a target and when that is achieved, you can now consider her quitting the job.
I know for sure you'll be having this double mind of her messing around, since you won't be together again, just don't let that bother you
If she chooses to respect her body fine
If she chooses to misbehave fine, when it's time, she'll bear the consequences.
Peace.

I know have been posting this for a while but if have gotten the necessary solution i wouldn't be at the gate of this section looking for advice.
quote author=Meandmycrew post=119693329]How many times will you post this? Oga a beg rest ![/quote]

Yes the infidelity is my concern and this has really deaded the trust i have for her, if not that, i can still navigate this myself but you see trust is very big in marriage, i have thought about it that if she can have the mind and bold to talk to another man under my roof, ehat cant she do when she is distance when there will be little monitoring. Though it have been addressed and she apologize bitterly and promised she wont venture into such but you see once bitten is twice shy. Reason taking decision is difficult expecially the one that will favor the kids. Now there is a loophole in the marriage and seperation now will just destroy everything cos the union is weak now.

Zonefree:
Your main concern and worry should be infidelity from your wife, like I told you in your former thread.

You're yet to address that and now you're most concerned about her relocation. A woman who was flirting with her ex when you're sharing same room with her, what do you think will happen when she's alone?

Be wise.

I appreciate you input. You see some things are easier said than done, maybe if you are married you will understand better. A marriage of 6 years and with kids, you cant just take any drastic decision or actions hense you will regret it, better if there is no kids involved, but u see when kids are involved, it will be difficult to navigate. DIVORCE is not that easy as people claim and if you think i am a simp, you are mistaken cos before i got married i know how i dont take bullshit but you see martiage it have a way of humbling you expecially ehen you start having kids snd having their interest at heart. Anyway still thanks for you feedback

Kollins11:
OP after reading your previous and current real life stories, I'm still asking myself what are you still doing with that useless wh0re. Infact by now I expect you to have bring in another fresh kpekus into your house.

All your stories state that your wife dey always show you better Shege and yet you dey SIMPly accept her back. U be mumu? 70 years old man

My Verdict: you're irredeemable SIMP, I have no advice for you becus you no dey hear word.
And anybody wey go advice you na also typical BASTARD.

Happy new year nairalanders. This year is favor for us all. I need advice o my people especially from people that have been in the same scenario before.

I am having an issue in my marriage which is taking my peace this moment. My wife got a job at the correctional services of Nigeria which is formally know as prison service as a warder like 2 years now.

At first i never wanted her to do the job cos i knew the job will be demanding and will cause friction at home but i decided to let her go for it just to keep her busy and also to get small support from her cos it's not easy for me shouldering all expenses.

After she got the job, I noticed my wife changed in character and attitude and also in integrity, example like lieing and also having an I don't care attitude which she doesn't do when she was not working. Well I thought maybe the little exposure she start having and people she is minggling with are those influencing her. I never take consideration of it. The job is so demanding that she works on shift, at tmes afternoon and night shift and this has caused alot of issues but I decided to be an understanding husband and ignore, I supported her in chores of the house and also take care of our two kids when she is gone for work.

My mom also stays with us making it easier for me to navigate and take care of the home while she is away at work. It happened that we had serious issue of infidelity from her last year that i saw her chatting with one of her old friend and notice they were having an emotional affair. I was angry when I found out and sent her parking from the room we share together.

Honestly my intention was to send her away from the house cos I was furious and disappointed that despite all I have been doing for the family and also for her, she could pay me back in such manner, but because of pleading from my mom, I decided to let her move her stuff to the sitting room and we stop staying in the same room cos i needed space and also to heal from the heartbreak and disappointment.

During those time for like 4 months we had serious issue and living apart and doing things separately, but still in the same flat, I only give her money for my kids feeding and also pay their school fee cos have already made up my mind to move on.

During those period she went ahead to rent an apartment in the barracks where she works and never informed me. It was after she had paid for the apartment she told me and informed she will be leaving to her work station and reason is for her to reduce stress and also expenses.

When she got the job then, it was so stressful for her cos the distance to kirikiri to where we stay is very far and also she spend all her salary on transport, attimes she uses the house upkeep money I gave for tfare when she is stranded. She doesn't have time for me nor the kids cos she will be so exhausted when she returns back from work.

So when we had misunderstanding, I think she saw it as an opportunity to move to barracks and also to reduce her stress and also expenses. But what annoyed me is she never carried me along when she was processing the apartment.

Now the misunderstanding has been settled by both family and have decided to forgive her and give her a second chance cos this was her first time misbehaving. She has always been a good wife from the start but don't know why she turned this way of late. Now the issue is that, i don't know what to do, initially i told her to resign the government job which she accepted to resign, irrespective of her not having any new job or business to fall back on if she resign. She will be at home idle and dependant on me. Not that this govt job she is doing is helping financially at home cos she entered the institution with SSCE cert and poorly paid that bfore the month end she is broke and spend all on tfare, but because its a govt job and also she can grow in it and also become big in it in future, I decided to let her continue the job but she still wants to go to the apartment that she rented cos it has start reading.

What she suggested is she coming home every weekend to attend to the kids and return back afterwards. While she is gone back, it will be my mom and myself that take care of the kids of 5 and 6 years and my mom is old and don't have strength for such stress. I don't think that will be easy for me as man cos I also work as well and don't have that much time.

My decision now is for her to take the kids with her to the barracks to stay with her and will also change their school, i will be going there when i have the time to check on them. I can't change our present location now cos the place is closer to my own work and the apartment is almost rent free reason why i decided to stay put cos its not easy with rent in Lagos.

The problem now is that if i allow them to go, at anytime, they might sent my wife to enugu for 6 month to do her mandatory course and there will be no choice, the kids will be back to me and will also start changing school again which is not good for the kids. The job has been like a curse to the family rather than a blessing.

Should my wife resign the job and get another job closer to home so she can have time for her family or i should let her go to the barracks alone or with my kids and will be visiting them once in a while even though i as a man i have needs aswell and dont know how that needs will be meant when she leaves. I am just in a dilemma now and need an advice expecially from married couples and those that have experience such or couples that live apart due to work or something else. Pls pardon my typo errors.

I will appreciate frontage from the mod for more inputs.

I so much understand what you are going through op. Our story is kinda similar cos i came from a polygamous family and i tell you, it is HELL. My mom is the second wife and my dad is late. Ever since my dad left this world, it has really been a battle for my own siblings from my mom side, till this very moment it has not improved. We are 6 and i can categorically tell you that non of us prosper in our ways. Its like there is something blocking our breakthrough, my elder brother is a chronic alcoholic, my sisters married wrongly, the one that didn't marry is a single abandon mother, one of my sister is mentally insane. Problem just full everywhere. As the last born, i will say am still the only one doing a little better and despite this, the spiritual battle and attacks i have face is much. They have tried to do all sorts to kill me or make me jobless and useless but cos am closer to God ,he has been helping and delivering me from their plots. I learnt my step mom is behind all this we are going through. My other step siblings are doing well and things are working for them but our own side is upside down. Have been to mfm 3 times but the attack still persist and i hope i will be free one day. So my dear, its a withcraft attack you are encountering and its only God that can deliver you if you get close to him. It is well. Ensure when u get married yourself, you dont practice polygamy so what you have been through will not be experienced by your own kids too . I know one day, the person behind what i am going through and my family will be destroy soonest.

Even though i will say the poster has some point, in other way, its complex, like for me , when i was younger i wasnt that close to my dad, he was this kinda dad that when you hear his car horn, everyone will scatter cos he was though and very discipline, at then i thought he was wicked but when i grew up and became a man and also start having my kids, i start having understanding and even yern to get close to my dad now and also be there to take care of him but unfortunately he died many years ago. Despite being strict and discipline, i still wish he was alive and even love him unto death more than my mum that is still alive now. So this things varies . To some of you that are neglecting your parents now because they were not there for u or otherwise,i pray you have wisdom and do you own bit as child to your parents irrespective of what u went through. That is the command of God, honor your father and your mother so that your days will be long. He didnt said until they take care of you or were they for you, its an automatic command irrespective of any condition

Well thanks for your input aswell. But i will tell you that you cant just judge who i am from your other side cos you dont have any clue of who i am. I only seek for advice on the issue i listed and not to condemn my personality.

ahnie:
This op has issues,it's very obvious that not only is he manipulive,he's also authoritative and abusive

Yes i appreciate your input. As i said, the only reason why i gave her a second chance was because of my kids. Dont want to raise them with parents living apart. They are girls and you know what this can do to them. But as it is now, i dont have any choice that to let her go maybe she will learn her lesson in a bad way. Wouldn't have had issues in her relocating but because i dont have confidence or trust in her again, i don't know what she might be capable of doing when she gets to her new location. A woman that can cheat under her husband nose can do same while she is alone. She wants me to relocate with them but i dont think that is a good idea.I dont know whether to quite the marriage and move on or just keep managing the situation because of my two girls. There is tendency when she leaves, we gonna drift apart cos i dont see the reason of the marriage again while living apart

Zonefree:
You got yourself a manipulative wife. A woman who can't chest her actions rather she's blaming you for her cheating nature.

If you like give her all the attention in this world, a woman that wants to cheat will always cheat.

So you know, a cheat is a cheat, it doesn't matter if it's emotional, sexual or physical.

Pls i need more input from married people that might have had such issues bfore or that are living seperately as a couple . How do you guys cope as couple while not living together. Am thinking of giving this a try as every move has been abortive to stop this.

Well every marriage has its own issues and ours wasn't left out. The major reason for the lack of peace is due to her character of not respecting me and also reporting every of our issues to third party. The issue has been addressed but she still insist she wants to leave and me am not ready to relocate to the baracks where she works. I have my own work to and where we live now is closer to my working place . During the time we had issue, she already collected a loan from coporative to foot the house rent she just collected and its already late for her to turn back cos she has already paid for the house

Romanoff:
That marriage has K Leg.

You said the marriage has not been peaceful, it's no wonder she wants to run away and even sort solace from another man.

Her job is not the issue, both of you need to address the issue in your marriage first.

If the issue is addressed, quiting her job won't be a big deal to her, she could even do it willingly just to be close to you.

Who no like peace? If the marriage dey peaceful and sweet, why she go dey run?

Sort out your issues, even if it's through counselling.

Find an alternative for her to do, it could be opening a business of her choice or helping her get another job.

All the best.

It was an emotional cheating that have not lead to anything sexual and this was the first time she did such a thing and her reason was that i pushed her to do such cos i wasnt given her enough thing which made her to seek attention elsewhere. Though she was still wrong but she acknowledge her wrong and i gave her a second chance

Zonefree:
I found it weird you're still calling a promiscuous woman you caught cheating "my wife"

The reason why i did that was because of the infidelity which brought my anger. There is no man on earth that will see his wife relating with another man and wont be angry. I did that out of anger but we have settle and have also forgiven her cos of my two kids.

Mindlog:
"I and my wife had a serious issues recently and i sent her out of my apartment"........one of the key reasons she want a move aside the transport costs......it is still "your apartment", not her home.

Yes as at now, we have reconcile but she still insist she want to relocate to the barracks where she works due to the stress she go through daily transporting herself to work and also the money she spent on tfare. She spend all her salary on tfare . If she goes, it will affect the marriage cos i dont want my family to leave apart cos this is like creating an avenue for infidelity and temptations. I told her to resign and look for another job within our proximity but she said getting another job wont be easy due to unemployment and also she cant get a job compare to the federal govt job she has now. Even business she is not convinced doing cos she had done business before that folded up before getting this job. I just want to know if it will be easy to run the family while we live apart. Couples that leave apart, pls i need your input and how you all manage to run your home living apart.

God1000:
This is complicated, have you guys reconciled? Has your wife changed from her wayward lifestyle?

This is strategic decision, you need to think deeply about whether to continue with her because she has made up her own mind and there's nothing you can do now.

Top of the day nairalanders.

I need advice from mature and married people on this issue. Anyone that have been following me for a while can relate with few things have brought here concerning my marriage.
I and my wife had a serious issues recently and i sent her out of my apartment, i descover she was having emotional affair with a random guy which i found out. Though she apologize but i struggle to let go cos i felt heartbroken and betrayal. I never expected she could go that route even though out union hasn't been that joyous or peaceful either. When i sent her away then, she took all her loads to the parlour cos we leave in a big flat. We stop sharing room together ever since then and also she stop doing any wify duty for me.
The problem is that, she works with the nigeria correctional services and ever since she has gotten the job, she has change totally. The job is stressing her alot that she doesn't have time for the family, the worst part is that the salary she earns is low that she spend all on transportation without any leftover. I have complain about this but she told me to be patient with her that things will get better saying the job is a federal job and have a future to behold. I kept ingnoring and managing things like that which wasnt easy for me as a man. We live in lagos and she spend close tk 4 hours go and from work daily. Attimes she won't be able to do her wify responsibility. Now becos of the issue we had together recently, my wife had made attempt to leave the home and rent an apartment in her working place to live there just ro reduce stress on her.. In as much as i know it was my fault that made her to take such drastic decision, i am not ready to let her go cos i don't want to leave seperately with my family. She is ok with the move but i am not, cos i dont have that confidence in her again what she might be doing by the time she start living alone. Now i cant relocate with them to the place cos my work is closer to when we stay presently and the environment is better than staying in barracks. Also the place we live presently is very economical cos we pay very low house rent dues to family connection which has help us to save and not paying rent at the moment. Now i dont know what to do whether to allow my wife go with my kids to stay at her working place while i stay where we are now presently. I can imagine myself living like a bachelor while am married.she agree i will be coming to visit them but we all know its not easy to meet up attimes. Now pls i need advice if i should let her go, or stay . Although we have settle our issues but she still insist she wants to go.

Which kin lie be this. I don see the picture for facebook. Na you post am too there.

Locoxcobajrn: