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Rocktation:
Africans will remain Africans. What's ordinary 4000 that would kill a good salary earner? This is something you'd be willing to spend over beer and peppersoup with friends, so why not invest wisely? Atleast, something must make us girls, like you. Besides, whose to say she would have asked you to pay again? She must have her pride to protect as well. Just be as giving as you can be, cos you'll find out everything just might be working together for your good.

Just because one is loaded doesn't mean he should start acting like a charity owner. A lady should have pride and a sense of independence. Even if she was broke there's a way she should've asked to make the guy want to pay the second time.

rokiatu:
To be honest this your topic is ridiculous. for your in-for not everyone married for sex, some people get
married for love, and that love is what keep the desire alive, doesn't matter how many times you've had
sex, there's always a desire to make love, "make love" not have intimacy with the one you  love.

Honeymoon is not all abt sex or love making its abt having something special to remember.

they're both dead then. . .

See why they advice u should stick to one person? Different people different wahala. If I'm one of the girls (which is impossible) I wouldn't want to end up wit u. Well this puzzle is for u to figure out urself. Good luck

Lol. . . This story is funny. . . What would she have done if u weren't there? I can't say ur second move was smart though. U would've walked up to her and see if everything is alright. If she asks u to pay a simple no would do, she don't bite. . . Tell her to change her door else she'll pitch a tent there one day.

Gudgurl:
@Africn x.Tanx but wat he did does it make sense or wil it make rlatnship 2 wax stroner?

I'm very addicted to my phone, but not to the extent I can't leave it wit someone for 2mins. It makes sense if he's cheating or hidding some evil stuff he don't want u to know or maybe he's just protective of his phone. I don't know I can't tell but what I know is its not fair. It doesn't make a relationship stronger cos u'll wondering and u'll keep doubting. Soon there'll be a bricks wall between you two. Tell him how you feel while u ban him from touching you phone too. If he doesn't change. . . Well. . .

My dear, what u don't know won't hurt you. Just let go of the phone. U might read meaning into stuff u see and it might tear u both apart. Just enjoy him and damn his phone.

apocalypse:
Last week turned out the worst week in my relationship.

I started dating this girl last year and I must say things have been rosy ( altho I was a bit bothered about her past initially ) but everything changed last week. We just had s3x and she goes to ask me if she's the best I've had , not to put her down I tell her she's best I've ever had , which might be true cos I don't remember any memorable s3xual in the past. I go on to tell her that the sight of her alone gives me heavenly feeling and praise in every imaginable way possible to boost her ego. Wanting my own dose of healthy praise and ego boost , I ask her if I'm the best she's ever had and she gives me a shocker - I'm no good in bed. She just didn't say that alone but adds that she can remember bout six guys who gave her the best fkuc of her life while I'm some where down the ladder , the lower part of the ladder. It's not just what she said but how she said it , I could feel the glow in her when she was describing ( she actually described how she was humped and the size of their schlongs ) her experience with those guys and the frustration she felt with mine.
The problem I'm having now is I can't bring myself to make love to her as I feel inadequate , I don't even get a hard on. Things have gotten from bad to worse ( she dey complain say I no dey perform wella now the thing no dey gree stand up ) and the frustration is getting to her.

Why did I have to ask her

When u asked her did u want an honest answer or u wanted her to boost ur ego? Listen she told u her mind and for me its great. The only thing she should've said it kindly not bluntly. Tell her to show u how to thrill her, tell her u want to be her best like she's ur best. It doesn't hurt to ask dear. I ask my bf all the time what to do to pls him. Try out some of ur fantasy wit her. Its not every little problem that leads to break-up else u'll break-up wit a million girls and not find the perfect one cos there's nothing like perfect these days. Just tell she hurt u wit her harsh words but u want to make it up to her.

Thou shall not commit fornication. . . Now that u left the 2nd girl do u have a good job? Money? Peace? Or ur life is still on the road block? From one trouble to another? U better forget abt those girls and really pray and ask God for guidance not some pastor. Focus on ur life u re still young marriage should be almost the least thing on ur mind now.

eina:
@african queen. those two posters I mentioned have been making me angry with most of their comments from day one. I couldnt bear it anymore.

Thats no excuse. . . When next u see their post close ur eyes.

I'll feel loved and respected

Creamish:
bros . . dis is NL . . . im surprised criticism is seen as an issue . . i dont see attacks . . . i only see wat is expected in an online forum

Thank you

eina:
We have had topics like "Who do you admire most on nairaland", but what about asking who you detest most on nairaland? Nobody likes to be hated abi? Whether you like it or not I have to bring it up.

Personally, I hate posters who go about doing too much attacking or critizing even when its not necessary and I have noticed two posters so far that are very consistent with this. Most times when I read their comments they make me angry. Their usernames are Ebonyeyes and Mama gee. I just dislike them. Am ready for upcoming insults. Who's the first in line?

Even a child won't put up this post. . . U're being immature. . . Its low man

Its two ways some are curious to exploy and see if she have added experience and carry out experiment. Others are for real but the ratio is like 80:20% One would never know the real deal

kpolli:
wait, is there anything wrong wit your bf trying to be friends wit your friends

There's not wrong but why would he choose that particular girl and keeps calling her when he knows how his girl feel abt it.

onoz101:
i met a girl on www.gistpage.com and she ask me to come to south africa for the world cup, do you think i should go?

Are u for real or just advertising a new site?

Emmayur:
continued, Tragedy broke on the 4th of FEB.2010, a woman whose brother-in-law that was interested in her,called her to her house and lied about things that i knew nothing of.She sent me a text saying she wanted a break-up. I tried to mend it but it was not possible infact she asked me to stop calling.April came and she tried to talk and sent messages of LOVING ME but it was late,i had made up my mind to forget her.The issue is a child of the friend of same woman who lied to break up my relationship likes me and truly,i like her.But is it adviceable,after all that happened as the girl in question stays with the woman. Pls i need this advice.Thanks.

Na u sabi, if you want make that woman control you for house no wahala u can move on with her daughter. your girl couldn't stand the test of time but everybody deserves a second chance. whatever you do don't fall prey to evil scheme, look for someone else or go back to the other girl,

kpolli:
n u say his english was poor, can we bliv u now
plus was it your money, the guy didnt want his money to waste

OMG!!!!!! can't believe you said that

Benitaton:
Am in love with a guy that has a serious girl friend, he loves this girl so much that he always talk of her.  I believe he has feelings for me too. the annoying thing now is that  we have been dating for some time now and this girls picture is still hung on the wall, his excuse was that her picture is what staying there. I honestly do not know what to do because i love him

I know exactly what u re going through cos I'm going through the same , Its hard to let go mostly when he calls every minute saying babe I miss you or when he holds you like u re his world or treats you like an egg, or look deep in ur eyes and say what would I do without you, but the facts still remains that you re his 2nd best, the facts still remains that you re just a slice of his paradise, the facts still remain that he may never really be with you, but you don't mind, cos u're in love, you can't let go, what would you do?, two things, either enjoy it while it last like ur own slice of paradise keeping in mind that it won't last just like the taste of ur favorite meal won't last in your mouth forever, keeping in mind that its just a dream and  u will wake up from it dream  anytime or, the hardest, try letting go, It may be easy for others to give advice but my dear you wear the shoe u know where it hurts, if wishes were horses,

d bigrod:
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who told u dat a woman is in control of the spender.thats a fat lie.[/size]

spenders are insecure and get very nervous when threatened in other to feel secure they spend and spend and spend,

pack ur load and ur boyfriend no want u again. Babe beware from such guys cos every misfortune he face, he'll be pointing you

Beautful.B:
I went to a date with a guy for the first time, we went out for a lunch, he's English was too poor, he bought fried rice and ice cream for me, I eat a little of it as usual, he got upset and said why am I wasting the food, I told him that am ok, this guy took the remaining food and ate them as if he hasn’t eaten for a week no remainate , even the chicken he ate both the flesh bone, mehn i was embarrassed, so I walk out of the place.

oh God this just made me remember when a guy took me out to mr. biggs. we got there and he sat right in front of the ac, he start watching the tv its was on african magic, then he started yelling "change the channel to cnn as if that was not enough he sad the reason he brought me here is cos of the ac said he doesn't like those food mr. biggs and all the other resturant makes. it was so embarrassing i wanted to leave but he almost got down to his knees and he was talking at the top of his voice now ladies if u see this guy, he cute, and handsome, well dressed and groomed . i never ever thought it will be like that. it was the most embarrassing moment of my entire life,

sirvick:
i went to a date with a lady, in five star hotel, we both a good time together, the most embarassing thing came after we played some games their, on our way to go home, reaching at my car to open the door,  my car key fell down just pick it up my foreign trouser just torn in front of the chick and the waiters, i was dead at mints

thats real funny how did she take it?

you are in a dream paradise u better wake up cos even though he ends up with u, u will never get peace cos u brought unhappiness to another, i feel for u but there's someone out there for u he's blocking your way, do u want to be a second best for the rest of ur life?

andromida:
My guy and i hav been having probs for smetime.recently he went to my good frends offce and collected her number, 2 dys later he calld her and says he wnts to be her frend.when she told me i calld him and expressed my church mind.he kept saying he just wnted to be her frend and bla bla bla.lastwk again he cals her and says he just wnted to be her frend,not sexmate,not galfrend,just her frend.this stinks to me and am hurt although we've made up i kip tinking how could he do that.I feel like leaving him,i didnt deserve this then again i still got strong feelings for him but i cnt respect him as i used to,to me he sank too low.

I've had such experience before. . . Since he started calling my friend we sort of departed u know like there's a thick wall between us. . . Even me and my friend are no longer close like we used to. It hurts like hell. So the best way is to really talk to him if he doesn't change just move on before it gets out of hand. . .

Ujujoan:
So when you are pouring into a girl, you are completely oblivous of the fact that she could very well get pregnant? Oh yea right, you have options!

You probably think that she's barren or u r impotent!
Or if she gets preggi, she can go be intimate with herself!
or if she doesn't want to risk having a child, she could stuff herself with contraceptives that will very well affect her later in life!

*shakes head*

_{Why do guys think they have no part to play when a lady gets pregnant for them}  

True talk girl. . . Guys always think its the ladies fault when she get unwanted pregnancy they forget it takes two to tango.

1st of all that girl stopped being ur friend when she let the guy into her pants. . . She have no good intention for u and trust me she'll make ur life a living hell if u go back to him. Forgive them both, make peace wit yourself and move on. . . U deserve better

Emmayur:
I need an advice so i dont make any mistake. Three years ago,i met a girl called R who i became friends with.We were close but just friends on my own part.Friend started telling me she had a cruch on me,even her family members.I took it with a pinch of salt until one night we were together(this was 1 year after we became friends).We started from 5pm in the evening and we talked till 5am(it was a field at a camp we both went for).There i tried to convince her that she could trust me and so it started.Two days later,she called via extracool(infact she got me into talking at night with people) and told me she had a cruch on me, there and then,i asked her out, It was a wonderful time we had together-those TWO years we dated.In the month of Febuary, continued shortly,

Is this a nollywood story or what?

SA Lady:
Oh! my goodness, the artist sounds like the story of my life.

I dont know about the spender he is usually old quite frankly a fossil and will spend all the money on a woman if its what it will take to keep her and control her. These are eventually parent child relationships, no cant do

Give me an adveturer anytime, but we all know why I am not with him now 'cos he's a sneaky cheat.

The spender are not always old as u say. . . They re handsome and well groomed. . . A woman is in control of the spender cos he knows if he don't spend he'll loose her. . . A spender live in constant fear of being alone so he spends to be safe. . .

googles:
where is the spender thats the one i like

Yeah the spender is more attractive. . .