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To me this is a ridiculous topic come on
If a girl had the unfortunate luck of pick any of these types of men she would need therapy later in life.

we are on topic, someone is cheating live and direct FYI: the only reason i did't yab u is bcuz of your lips, so succulent

Seriously you guys are talking about something else entirely

And they said my thread was too sensitive

I want to know this since polygamy is accepted has any woman married more than 1 husband in S. Africa? just curious

playah P:
My friend (a married man) had a fight with his wife simply because he (the husband) refused to pay the school fees of the wife's siblings. This happened some months ago but i just wan know if its also the responsibility of the man to take care of his spouses' FAMILY,
He confided in me but unknown to him, his wife already told me about it long before he told me, *chuckles*

Well if she is working why doesnt she just pay for her sibling?I mean the man should have to worry about paying his bills and his inlaw bills as well. But you said the guy is rich, i guess he is selfish or a little egotistical. If he loves his wife he should do it to please her. I mean how would it look if you have a mansion and your inlaw is unemployed on the streets because he/she has no money to pay their school fees. have a heart people.

OK? HOW AM I AN AWARD WINNING CHEATER?. PLEASE EXPLAIN

,mama-gee:
It looks like the person that started this thread in the first place is an award-winning cheater.

@poster
hahahahahahahahahahahahahah oooh my God this is soo funny

The Sly:
No matter how it may be. . . . . .I can never stop cheating.
Not in this life. . . . . . .Its in the blood, I hope my Gf doesnt see this.

You are stupid

Wow here we go with another post blaming women for everything.

DAAAANNNNGGGGG you guys are so mean to this guys. And im saying guys because they are doing most of the post.
I wish you luck on your search

Well what is the big deal if she is going to be calling you with the phone?
I think you both win, but my guess is she is just using you to her advantage

Wow, this is a really complex question. I kind of feel i should have just left it alone. Then again i'm looking at the responds and the passion in some people's posts and i dont really want to leave it. I see some people say that its Nigerian men that i run into. I just want to say that i live in California and finding a nigerian is like finding winning the lottery not really but its close. There are Nigerian churches, and meetings like parties. I just want to say that a few guys from other ethnicities African americans very few hispanics( they usually have girlfriends which i later find out) they never tell me of their girlfriend though.


I meet a lot if single Nigerians around my age at parties and other events but im saying i've encountered some men could be mistaken as my dad's friends. They approach me like anyother older guy and start conversations about my schools and work and well life as a young Nigerian in America. Then when i think everything is innocent they start asking about my relationship status then it comes to "Can i come visit you on campus and take you out to dinner sometime? I know im a little older but im young at heart. You are a very beautiful girl im mesmerized by your presence and would like to get to know you better." My respond"i dont think that is a good idea, you seem like a nice man plus i dont believe in dating anyone that is married old or young". Their response goes to the tune of "We dont have to tell anyone, my wife will not find out. I just want to treat you well, and if i wasnt married i swear you would be the girl i need, blah , blah, blah" Around that time i get up and say nice talking to you but i have to go now.

Ok?
There are girls and guys that are friends so i dont know what isthe big deal unless he likes her or is scared he might fall for her.

yeancah007:
All men cheat. . .duh !

Poster you're in the USA ,Im sure Senator Ensign,Gov Sanford are not nigerians. . . don't generalise. .

And of course it always takes 2 to tango  

YES IM AWARE OF THE ADULTERY IN THE UNITED STATES, MOST PEOPLE OUT HERE HAVE BABY MAMAS AND BABY DADDYS( will never be me). Marriage is taked as a joke here but we Africans always take pride in not divorcing but still violate the 10 commandment rule and cheat. So cheating is ok as long as you are still married the Nigerian community will not shun you?

yeswecan:
thank God am a man.

This statement " " is like saying there is no girl with wife credentials in the street of Nigeria. It is an assumption from people associated with the practice. Some decent girls are not even aware of this practice. Just like when i was in the UNI (AAU) while some people are running away from school because of cult conflict, others don't even know if anything like secret cult even exist on campus. Girls ranting about Married Men And Adultery are associated with this practice one way or the other, either they know someone that's into it or  

From my view point people are unfaithful and foolish this includes men and women. Some of you are sounding like the Naija men are cheating with cattle or goats. Is it not the same "Naija girls" they are fooling with? Now tell me who is the bigger looser, the girl that knows the man can never marry him and still want a taste or the men just searching for fun.

This thread mirrors high level of pretence, from a rough statistic 1 of every 3 Naija girls has dated a married man.

If you are innocent you have nothing to worry about, i have not dated a married woman in my 24 years of age so i will eventually get married to a "fresh girl" I once overcame temptation from a married woman once in my estate back in Naija. Develope a mind of your own, know what you want and go for it.

That is a crazy Statistic but i had a cousin that came to the U.S. and she was telling me how it was there in the Universities. Professors asking for sex or they will fail the students and Students offering sex so they can pass the course. We are no better than the western world i could even say we are getting worse.

seunbballo:
@Oyinda, you also need to understand that the lady wey open her eye love the man wey u know say want full time house wife. She no suppose complain be that. You have to understand that marriage is not just all abt the lady thinking of the man's wealth and that she was well taken cared of when they were dating. You have to lay the foundation and table it well.

I am not going to be a full house wife, this is what i want and this is how i will be. if u can't comprehend, then lets go apart. At least at that stage the man knows that the lady sees value in herslef and knows what she wants. Even though the lady is say average and the guy is very rich. He will know that she is not motivated by wealth or anything flashy the guy wants to offer.

Men like to push women around after marriage becos they know what they want and they give it to them''money,car,clothes,jeweleries'' and don't expect them to interfere in any other thing they do''business, flirting, another wife outside, his family matters''.

So one needs to understand these trends. If the lady lays that at the begining of the relationship, after marriage of some years and the woman is still looking vibrant and youthfully sexy. Its the man that would be boasting around saying he's wife is this, his wife is that. Everything is logic!!

No matter how disciplined and cultured the man is against his wife dressing that way, it would have been ironed out before marriage so that it would be ok for the wife to dress nice for her hubby.

OK BLAME IT ON THE WOMAN AS ALWAYS, HONESTLY NO MORE EXCUSES, SOME MEN TELL THEIR WIVES THEY ARE UGLY AND THE WOMAN GOES TO GET COSMETIC SURGERIES AND THE MAN IS STILL CHEATING. THEY GIVE EXCUSES LIKE SHE WASNT GIVING ME WHAT I WANTED OR SHE WASNT MAKING ME HAPPY. WERE YOU MAKING HER HAPPY AND GIVING HER EVERYTHING SHE WANTED? WHY NOT DISCUSS IT WITH YOUR WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND FIRST BEFORE GOING OUTSIDE TO SATISFY YOUR THOUGHTS. TRUTH IS MOST MEN THAT CHEAT HAVE GREAT WIVES AT HOME BUT GUESS WHAT, HUMAN NATURE DOES NOT KEEP THEM SATISFIED. WHEN THE WOMAN DESIDES TO LEAVE HIM HE CRYS AND BLAMES HER INSTEAD OF LOOKING INWARD AT HIMSELF.

soft-touch:
I dont think all Nigerian men are unfaithful neither all nigerian women. The problem is just that people come to conclution based on few experience they had ( approx 50million Nigerian men above 18rs***UN Est***), and not all campus girls are wayward as generally claimed.
I had a case of a course mate( Lady)  that claimed all men are unfaithful, but the same lady started sending erotic text messages to me when she heard I am about to get married.She even confided in one of her friend that she must have a taste of me before my future wife does. (why? - She clamied no man can resisit her natural outlook) Tell me who get problem?, But I will not for that reson say "all nigerian Ladies are devil"  despite all role she played before and after my wedding. She successfully failed,
It depends on individual.
Nigeria will continue to produce faithful men & Women. It all left us to determine who we want to be personally.

pLEASE READ MY POST AGAIN I DID NOT SAY ALL, MY FATHER AND MOTHER ARE ATTACHED AT THE HIM WHERE THEY ALWAYS LIKE THAT I DONT KNOW BUT THEY ARE TOGETHER WORK TOGETHER PLAY TOGETHER DO EVERYTHING TOGETHER. tHAT  IS HOW IT SHOULD BE THEN THEY WILL NOT SUCCUMB TO TEMPTATION FROM THE OUTSIDE. THERE ARE ALWAYS OTHER WOMEN AND MEN OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE THAT DONT CARE IF YOU ARE MARRIED OR NOT. THE MARRIED COUPLE ARE TO BLAMED BECAUSE THEY PARTICIPATED IN A COVENANT TO BE HUSBAND AND WIFE. tHEY NEED TO MAKE THAT WORK BUY COMPROMISE, TRUST AND COMMITMENT  TO EACHOTHER NOT OUTSIDERS.

pc guru:
@mr president so you in other words cheating is justified and you feel it's necessary i feel so sad for you.Let me tell you something i'm an exception to your way of life.If cheating works for you good enjoy but for me i have my own ways too.So take care of yourself.@ebony goodnight i'm just so disappointed,majority of nairalanders have no sense of moral.May God bless you all and never give you something or a partner to regret deeply i feel sad for you all saying there's nothing wrong with adultery.

THANK YOU

goodass:
^^ c wat i mean? '. . .all married 9ja men' hmm not even an exception!

Then we can conclude we cheat cos we r nigerians and married!

I guess you are right since your reply makes more sense than posakosa's nonsense.
Its done then, Im going after African Americans , whites or latinos here.

@ posakosa
Im mumu huh? I guess he is mumu for picking the wrong girl to pursue.
Abeg
@ deji2009
Im just stating the fact, Im not saying all married Nigerians are like btw.
The community should shun it but rather other men kind of encourage it.
@ ebonyeyes
I know huh? They need to go back to the santity of marriage and i already decided that i wont be the poor wife sitting at home for my husband to come back home from his girlfriend. I feel you on that

I just had to post this because i've had enough. Im 22 years old and has been somewhat bombarded by Nigerian men who are married. The worst so far happened at a Nigerian Independence Day party out here in L.A. where i was stalked by this married man. This is not the first time that this has happened to me and a lot of my friends go through this as well. Recently a friend was called all night by a man that was doing business with her company. She had to call her phone company to change her phone number because he left threatening messages saying that he will come after her if she doesnt mess with him. 
Back to my case, this man told me that he and his wife was at the parade earlier and he had seen me and he was so excited to see me again. I told him i dont date married men or men with girlfriends and he told me it wouldnt be a problem he can hide it from his wife well. The thing is that he wasnt the first guy that is married to hit on me that day. I've been through the same thing at other nigerian parties.
Why is it that Nigerian men are so unfaithful, im so mad that i dont even want to marry one because im scared i will be in the place of the wives on day. I dont dress provocatively, im more on the conservative side but like a normal 22 year college student would dress. I hate to say it but i think people accept this behavior in our community because its so common.

UPDATE
I dont like dating Black guys(African American and West Indies) because they are for the most part cheating or players or psychos and the few that are good are already taken. I've dated 4 guys in life 2 were African Americans, 1 was Latino, and recently i dated this nigerian guy that was at my school. Now the reason i chose Nigerian men is because in the States Nigerians put themselves on a pedestole compared to Whites and African Americans. We think that we are well behaved and can do no wrong. They say oh we dont have as much divorce but then at all these places they are hitting on young girls to mess with on their wives. I dont mind being approached by Nigerian guys around my age or at least single but married one? come on? A lot of these guys got young kids and a beautiful wife at home. Im sure that those guys would leave their wives if they find out that they were messing with younger guys or any other guy for that matter. Why cant we do better?.

Have you talked to her and she told you she is just shy?
She might be a little doubtful, ask her if she wants some space or if she doesnt like something you do.
If she is actually shy you might have to be the initiator and make her comfortable with you, she might just be afraid.

Well i dont know. But when it comes to men here in the United States the dark skinned men to me that are cute have attitudes and prefer lightskinned women Beyonce light. Im light myself but im more caramel. I gravitate towards other light skinned people i guess im just comfortable. But when i do go to parties where there are nigerian men they always strike up a conversation with oyebo it annoys me like that is the first thing they notice. Nigerian men like light skinned women i know it here and back when i lived in Nigeria. I just feel sad for the women when they bleach their skin. They look unnaturally light almost orange or ashy color. Some its so bad their face is light like tyra banks but their body is akon ewwwwww. Please love your skin

How could you Now your image is stuck in my head everytime i i try to do it