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If hair is naturally dry and it's left unmoisturized and uncombed it will roll by itself into dreadlocks. This the Cele (spiritual) type of dada. My daughter has such hair and if I was superstitious, she would be in dreadlocks!

Just be grateful that you weren't consumed emotionally and/or physically. It's crazy when spouses betray each other via adultery. It's good you handled it well; and your new employment. Take good care of your child and formally divorce her and move on with your life. Many didn't have the equanimity to carry on with life in such circumstances. I knew of a guy who suicided, found after about 4 days in Ojodu-Berger area. Another I know of is sick, wife is housewife but treats him bad despite fending for her and kids past 15 years. The guy is contemplating suicide!
Overall, you really tried, your medula dey kampe! So, I pray you find true love especially in view of your new lease on life via employment/income! Peace.

Lagos State should fully prosecute him under anti-domestic violence law, there should be a deterrenceto crime. Prosecution will re-configure his mindset on violence (domestic or otherwise) and also upgrade our Nairalanders' "she most probably deserved it" crew! The fellow's education was a waste, still a babarian, a brute!

blesoh:
The memories will live forever.
Poor girl.

. She'll have closure if her father is brought to justice, jailed!
By the way, I wandered about her mother, her whereabouts, departure from the matrimonial home or demise Sadly, the girl child is always endangered in circumstances such as this. It could have been a wayward neighbour, uncle or any random guy with some cash. Extended family those days was useful in sheltering a child in this sort of situation. An aunt could have taken her in to shield her even from the cruelty of a stepmother. My sister had to shield a boy child (cousin's child) from the cruelty of step mom recently. A first child whose mom had passed and with the way he was being raised he be deprived of education. Oh.... so many thoughts. ..... so sad. The relatives must intervene, she can't go back there.

[quote author=EzzyCarter post=894632 ,.......a hard pill to swallow but it will end up being swallowed. It's just a matter of time ...[/quote]Never mind the nil cerebral crew. Always attacking the medium rather than the substance, because they have superior facts or argument. It's a shame, really. What's the value of our education? Empty heads on Nairaland always insulting Messengers of truth. Unfortunately for them, with Covid 19 plague all deceptions have been further exposed.

He is broke and definitely has inferiority complex. Appreciating you and your contribution would make himself feel less of a man. So, he has to constantly put you down to feel like the maigida, Lord of the Manor. You didn't start early to admonish, so he getting more and into his bragadaccio character, hence his recourse to violence or threats of it to ensure you are cowered and remain cowered. Truth be told, this may escalate someday. You're already boiling to speak out here! Accordingly, I recommend professional psychological counselling. Thereafter, you will decide whether you wish to continue living like this.

Cti28:
Commendable. But climbing the truck is risky. What if he falls from there?

He is light na!�. Seriously, he wants to personally inspect the contents himself. Shey the news of the massive movements no scare you?

The case is to be retried. He was not acquitted.

..... but yet Satanic agents with an agenda and dull people are waiting for a hurry put together RNA vaccine that will not go through proper trial and is expected to kill 15% of it's users ....is this world not mad so?[/quote]Thank you!
More like a vaccine, (read "antivirus" with an inbuilt virus to kill off parts of a population. Please keep the information coming, for conspiracy theories are fast becoming reality. The other day Representatives nearly hurriedly passed a Bill in ONE day!
Folks please let's do the needful/educate ourselves and survive this plague.

Thumbs up for this analysis.

TheArchangel:
A natural phenomenon. I call it the reckonings. The decade of empty nest syndrome. Counting the cost period. Have seen it happens severally to others. The sudden self and mental realisation that she has been using the kids as cushion to bear the absurdities of the marriage for so long. At this point, most women has gained slight degree of financial freedom and independence and can decide to leave or show "him or them" pepper.
They begin to realise how unfairly they were treated by the family and in-laws in the early days of the marriage, it is just human nature to either ignore or seek revenge.
Most women marries too early to understand what their goal in life really is. That, makes it more scary as some may go extremely left-wing or extremely right-wing in search of those goals.

@OP please correct the headline immediately! Replace "benefitted" with "benefit", and thank me later.

Bodexman:
RIP to him.

These people should come out straight, is it Coro that killed him or what?

No matter what is happing at the moment, this year 2020 is my year of double uplifting.

Amen!

Amen!

Thanks for educating him. Ignorance has destroyed man home on account of this issue. Many do not know that it only requires discipline to select the sex of your. If you have the time can share your knowledge in broken down thread with our folks here. The knowledge will no doubt avert unwanted children. Regards.

iruocious:
Stop saying what you don't know just to make a point. A woman's body does not determine which to pick. Each sperm cell contains just a single chromosome; an X or a Y. Whichever one that swims faster and gets to the ovum (which is already an X) first, fertilizes it. Also, the sperm cells containing the X chromosome outlive their Y counterparts who die faster thereby increasing the chances of female children if ovulation is 2 or 3 days away. That's the reason most unintended pregnancies produce females. Chances of male children increases during the ovulation period because the Y chromosome sperm cell tends to swim faster generally. Please visit your family planning clinic when need be and stop blaming women ignorantly. RIP to the innocent child.

It's a "hit" in underworld lingo. Unfortunately, theother two, collateral damage! As cold blooded as it sounds that's the law of the underworld. Nwafor didn't quite understand the rules and the dire consequences. Lesson for all parents and guardians, it's not enough to pay bills, mentor and counsel your children/wards. All that glitters is not gold, there's fool's gold also; this attracts, a bait, more or less. Nevertheless, so sad

Juliusmalema:
Since they have entered. Ondo state should take them in or put them in Isolation.


Them been in Ondo is like also living in their own State.

Playing the devil's advocate?? They're are to stay home to stay safe, in view of the health emergency. Are they above the law?

Racoon:
Another political gimmick.Seperate almajirism from Islam? So why did you lots fought Emir Sanusi? Well, let's see how it all pans out because that means the foot soldiers doing most of the dirty works will be gone. Remember Garba Adamu from Kano said "The Almajiris Cultural Heritage is the Pride of the North"

Covid 19 is exposing the underbelly of the system that could eventually backfire, hence this forced rethink of the politicians. It may not be sincere, as per regrets of stealing the children's future through this system, however, the plague is a wake-up call to their leaders. Also consider the okada/tricycles are now banned in many cities. So, where will they export the unskilled graduands of these schools to? It's no longer a solution to simply buy them motorcycles and ship them to eek out a living. For the first time in a long time, these children will be in their homes and be catered for by their parents. We will see how it pans out in the coming weeks.

u11ae1013:
Anyone in Nigeria who has an issue with chloroquine is either biased or due to hatred for Donald Trump because he supported it.

There is no drug as far as I am concerned that is more effective than chloroquine in treating those symptoms of coronavirus

In addition, the organic from Madagascar is from wormword and the active ingredient is artesiminin which is effective against malaria. So, folks if I suspect I have the disease I won't wait o. Dogoyaro may work also. I'm right now boosting my immunity with vit c, lemon, ginger, garlic + fruits etc. No one should be waiting for the very corrupt global institutions. They intend to profiteer from it. This is the real blood money loading. Over 250k deaths, yes? Then a vaccine to be taken by everyone.

Ejima1:
Why can't you be civilized in comments

Don't bother with him, probably one of the hate vectors spoiling this forum. Rancid, insecure bullies without intellectual capacity to contribute positive thoughts/ideas to any issue.

yyba:
narrative keeee you their

You seem quite shallow. Rather than resorting to invectives, why not engage him in intellectual discuss. This attitude (hate vector ) will get you nothing but retrogression!
BTW, states are on lockdown, movements are illegal except for essential services. Underaged vagrants are not essential consignments. For crying out loud, failure to provide for your children is a crime. The states are not their parents.

Babatunde40:
You are really village people. Even if you want to book space, why would you laugh at such a bad news?

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Somehow, many of our people have lost their humanity. It's so sad. A young man full of promise is estinguished by the dreaded plague and the fellow finds it funny. His laughter is even sadder.....hmmm.

Judiciary is the den of favouritism, nepotism and god-fatherism. No matter your experience/expertise, without a politician, monarch or top beauruecrat backing one up, it's a lost venture. Product delivery is evidence of the rot. But who will reform this arm of government?

Amaso99:
they can have there office in Lagos but the main production takes place in Rivers state and other Niger Delta states

And, the staff recruitment is from HQ offices in Lagos. The of employees are not from Rivers. This also accounts for the back and forth movements after offshore duty. Many are unaware that the infection will fester in clustered communities, al tenement accommodation. I believe it's better to be harsh and keep the people safe. There are no facilities to cater for exponential increase in number of victims. PMB failed to shut out external influx of travellers and we all have to face considerable anxiety, trouble and expense! Accordingly, each state should protect it's people from the disease as best as it can.

Bevista:
The Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation is deceptively cloaked in a mantle of selfless philanthropy. But the reality is that they have used their resources to deviously embed themselves into nearly every aspect of global public health.

A global pandemic is the perfect opportunity for all those investments to pay off - both in terms of financial profit as well global CONTROL.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wQSYdAX_9JY

Unfortunately, many have never heard of philanthro-capitalism. Covid 19 vaccine exists, the moment is not yet ripe for it's launch. Imagine the profit!

JOHNSONSOLAFUNMI:
All these draconian rules, there are river state citizen in other states

Are the Rivers people in other states on the streets?. Truth is bitter. Those children ought to be taken care of by their parents, this no time for a minor to be roaming about in search of food. Imagine the rate of infection amongst those tested so far. They're are a danger to themselves and others. They ought to be in their homes.

Na wah o! No where is safe.

clevvermind:
Our government don't support research but their thought is how to loot

Pax Herbal has made our version. It's been presented to Edo State governor in aid of treatment of covid 19 patients. It's said to improve immunity and act as anticoagulant. The disease is said to cause pulmonary thrombosis instead respiratory distress. Let's see if they will use African remedies instead of shopping for what they will import at humungous funds. After all, the disease no dey select victims!

Donald3d:

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Just in case you don't know, one of the best way to become unfortunate in life, is treating a good spouse bad..
Please be good, kind and show love

Donald3d, you tried jaare. @OP, read the message/counsel very well. If possible print it out and put it in your wallet and read as often as possible. You erred, so repent and show LOVE.

BTW, you may have been jazzed o! Imagine all the money you frittered away! So, try very hard to win your family back. Love conquers all.

Oga just make up your mind finally, that is, to stay in marriage OR Not to stay! Nobody can really advise you as such. If your decision is to leave the marriage, formalize the divorce and move on . But cater for your child.

NO! It is a photo alibi for the ongoing looting of palliatives' funds.

It seems reasonable to do so rather than littering all threads with fund requests account+ numbers sans names!

sageprime:
Aswear this post should be put down

Where are the moderators? This is so bad. NL has gone to the dogs?

Salvador1:
is real

It's real.