Will be happy to help out. No one knows tomorrow.

Hi I have not finished reading ur post will go back to it shortly but I would like to know in what form do you n ur pastors receive confirmation from God? This may not relate to ur post but if for example u know in ur heart ur partner is not the right one for u maybe they r abusive n all n ur pastor gets confirmation that says otherewise will you go ahead wit the marriage?

Finally done. Firstly it's not right for ur hubby to be to put this burden of his mother issue on u. U never mentioned his dad, why is she d one doing everything even if his dad is late his most senior uncle should be the one handling the engagement issues I Am partly yoruba n have a friend that is Yoruba n her father is late when she wanted to get married her inlaws gave d list to her mom which she promptly sent to her dads people.we Yoruba are too much of a people pleasers n ve seen marriages that don't last cos this always backfires. Your marriage is between u n ur partner.if his mother is not advices properly she will ruin it n it's all in the hands of ur man.

WHat ever u do...DONT LET HER HELP U BUY UR WEDDING RING.

Good luck

taitee: @airpure welcome...well indomie is a worse option for rice cos it contains lots of starch ad bad fats...buh u could reduce ur rice quantity, fill up ur plate with salad and maybe beans or moimoi, ull get filled quicker. so u'lleat the rice in a healthier way,d less often too. cutting out foods completely may mak u crave for them and overeat....welcome


p.s get used to d catfight between hourglass nd agaba nd now modath. it probably helps them bur more calories...all the activity

Awwwwwww thanks a bunch.

No need for gloves guys these kind of robbers don't get to court when caught.

Brunch : vegetable salad
Dinner: fist size wheat with okra soup n fish
Water: about 1liter
Workout : 1 HR walk

Hi guys.

So I ve been on the Internet all day researching weight loss n all even in meetings. N I ve decided to go on a low carb hi protein diet.

Can u guys please educate me on Nigerian foods that are high in protein?as majority of our foods contain loads of carbs?

For swallow I ve decided to stick with honeywell wheat to replace garri n pounded yam

Wats can I Eat as substitute for rice? Is indomine healthier than rice?

Damn I love this thread.

HG yea its a diet tea just using it to help me detox.

Thanks guys . Wishing every1 a fab week.

Hi guys
Present weight :80kg
Target weight: 68kg
Height :5.8
Aim to achieve my target through intensive workout sessions,deit , ballerina tea.

Todays log:
Breakfast :fried plantain n 1 fried egg( regretted it as soon as I was done)
Lunch : nil but a cup of ballerina tea
Dinner :3 table spoon rice and goat meat n fish stew
Water: 3liters

Work out: 1.5hrs of walk n jog

Please avoid n discourage such because he may take ur acceptance as consent to d relationship.

sylve11:

Only asaba u saw bah? What about the other lady wey Sey she nor fit kiss that ugly thing? Which governor ugly pass the person wey u just mention him name? U nor need mention name, e too clear. Lol

the other ugly governors wife is late na so she is not the aunt being referred to

Cant Stop Laughing. This should be a huge lesson to every1. every secret will be revealed one day. God help us. am guessing its Delta state governor that is being talked about here. shaking my head.

debrief08:
Against my better Judgement I will answer you once.
What could I have done to save my marriage that i didnt do? Nothing, short of dying, I took the blames for shortcomings, failures, was publicly ridiculed, never responded, attempted to fight back once, worse mistake, everything he asked me to stop I did except my Job and My dad.
What did I do differently in my current marriage? Apart from developing esteem, with the help of my husband nothing, i am still the obedient, and loving woman I was.
What can you do to avoid abuse or being with an abuser? If you are lucky to see red flags then dont manage especially if the abuser is not willing to work on his/ her short comings. In a lot of cases especially with church people, abusive behavior is well covered, there is so much pretense, when it manifest after marriage it is excused on demonic influences, i have seen people blame their househelps as being responsible for possessing an abused spouse.
How to avoid bad marriages, start from your home, train the boys well, train the girls that they are not inferior, their opinions count.
Abuse in most cases is not cause and effect it is about power, the abuser feels happy only bwhen someone is reduced by their words and actions and is ion pain, that is the sense of satisfaction that comes from abuse, you can be the best wife or husband and still be stuck with an abuser.

Thank for ur reply I duff my hat to u. From ur post I better understand some of the issues.like some men abuse cause of damaged minds n nothing u can do to save em n in dis case u should run or expect to be in RIP section soon. Also that if a man accepts his shortcomin n understand that abuse is a no no n he is willing to change then u can work wit him.thanks dear.

You see now Efe n others there is need to keep an open mind in threads n try to understand others instead of throwin abuse cos no man has all d knowledge. Every situation n human being is diff. We can all learn from each other. If not NL will be a place where selected few think they ve all the knowledge n every1 must fall in line.

That said I won't post here again I ve seived n picked the info that is beneficial to me n I hope others do so too.

P.S I salute every woman that was brave enought to walk out of an abusive home.every single mom etc it takes a strong person to be U in this society we find ourselves.

baby_123: Madam Airpure walahi I don't want to add insult to injury, at this point I think you should give it up and apologise. People are rightly offended but what you seem to be doing is just "kicking a dog while it is down". What do you gain from this campaign? Some erotic pleasure? So you caused your own abuse means others caused theirs.so tell us, why did your husband slap you? Did he discover you were a girl about town, you trapped him with juju/pregnancy or what? By the way, your type of woman is very dangerous. I fear for your mentality should you be in an abused persons life or their emergency contact. My dear you say you are quick to say sorry to your husband, but find it hard to accept that you are completely wrong. Means your previously stated claim is just a way to totally keep in your husbands good books because you are afraid. If you have personal issues, go ahead and discuss it. Stop transferring hurt and aggression.

Look at all my previous post u will see I apologised guess even cotton didn see it.

I didn't accept my Abuse like u n others seem to think. If u read my post u will see I moved out after d abuse n came back only wen he promised not to do it again n he has not.n I also said if he does it again then its over. I also critically analysed the cause of d abuse in dat case n ve taken steps to avoid it.cos I do love my pretty face lol .then again I ask Should I ve gotten divorced since d opposite of getting divorce here is accepting abuse.

debrief08:
Please leave Cotton alone. You come here saying you dont justify or tolerate abuse yet ask someone what she could have done to save her marriage, meaning she must have failed in some way. Leave her alone please, If you need answers read through the whole thread but leave her alone.
So what if our society is Judgmental? SO you too must join in and Judge? Leave her alone please. You are telling her not to be defensive yet you are putting her on the spot.
She didnt do enough to "save" her marriage fine get over it, while you are at it, drag Titi from her grave and give her a medal for bravery, afterall she fought to the end to "save" her marriage and got rewarded with 76 stab wounds, there are several women "saving" their marriages, go and ask them, Leave cotton abeg. I hardly get angry but your last post is so not nice.
Stop lying, none of those questions were aimed at learning anything.
Addressed what? How should anyone be responsible for the decisions of another adult to the point of "addressing" someone elses wrong choices? What kind of wicked person are you? "god forbid if the new husband hits you" seriously?
There is no question you asked here that has not been answered, stop it seriously, Stop.

Ok let's for a second put aside the way my question rubs in a wrong way r u saying there is no sense in my question?if ur answer is NO then I bow out of this thread wit d knowledge that its a Divorce Manual for only people seeking divorce. Not those seekin to understand n avoid abuse n divorce

So I call on all singles to walk on by. If they don't want to go into marriage with a plan B in mind.

Efemena_xy: ^^ That's because the sadistic b*i*t*c*h can't help twisting the knife in the wound.

Evil witch.

Good Morning Efe dear. So u are at it again wit the Abuse.

I can only imagine d kind of person u r. Obviously wit an inferior complex n Very Rude.can also imagine u don't ve a lot of friends cos of ur communication defect.if debrief can communicate her long post without insult then u can.

I WILL IGNORE U. Till u learn a civil and matured way to communicate.

cotton101: i have been told to ignore so now i just dey sit down dey look

girl about town? well it takes one to know one - as u dey try and point one finger at me 4 are pointing back at you, like WTF oooooooooooooo o just dey sit down they look and source red paint on ebay for my shoes me and debrief have a parry next yr to attend

Cotton those questions were not directed at u. If u read my post after that I apologised if u tot it was directed at u. N honestly u need to stop being defensive cos to make a decision like u did u need a very tough skin after that.we can pretend our society is not judgemental but sometimes after a divorce even family tend to judge.

I fully respect Debrief n u cos I felt u told ur stories to help educate women on abuse.n make em understand better d mind of abusers etc. If that's d reason then like good students we should be able to ask questions to enable us understand better.

Lemme now ask u a question r there some things u think u should ve done differently in ur previous marriage to avoid ending up in an abusive marriage?R there things u could ve done differently to save ur marriage?if any ve u addressed them before embarkin on another marriage. Godforbid wat happens if the new hubby hits u?

Ok before u guys all come runnin to insult me I am only askin to educate myself n others to helP avoid divorce,understand men,knw went to say u ve had enough etc. N if u say this is not the thread for it then tell me is it better to only give d guide to getting divorce n survival tactic after wards. When u can also help them avoid violence n divorce.if some fundamental factors r not addressed will a womAn end up wit 7 husbands before she finds Mr right?

Lemme also state again that I DO NOT EXCUSE or JUSTIFY ABUSE but I ask questions so as to understand cos for every problem there is a ROOT cause which must be addressed before a solution can come n as married women we owe it to d singles to help em understand such issues not just giving em a manual on divorce.

Efemena_xy:

Thank you.

And that's exactly what my beef with her is! I couldn't have put that any better.

Atleast now u ve been schooled on how to communicate better.

ileobatojo:

In the same vein, you can also ask, how did the sweetheart woman become the verbally abusive devil after marriage when she is not mad ke? If you can excuse one's physical abuse saying that the other caused it, can you not also see that the other must have caused the verbal abuse as well? Why are you so willing to excuse one and not the other? Cos you did put verbal abuse among your list of reasons for physical abuse.

I think you also fail to understand something. Any one that is repeatedly beating up their spouse for whatever reason is pretty much "mad". No normal, sane person will resort to repeated beatings of a fellow adult as a means of dealing with whatever issue he feels is an underlying problem in marriage. So for example, if a man feels "trapped into a marriage by a pregnancy or married a girl about town unknowingly" and has now resorted to beating her up at every little opportunity, there is a screw loose in his head. Therefore, ultimately, in the grand scheme of things, it does not matter what the person did to cause it, the bottom line is the abuser has a problem that is manifesting in an unacceptable way. Again, I'm not talking of a one off episode like the slap your hubby gave you. I'm talking about people with a pattern.

You are also deliberately closing your eyes to the fact that majority of abusers don't really have any credible valid reasons. They are just severely controlling people with personality disorders. I think you need to read a bit about the psychology of abusers.

You ve raised a lot of Valid points n I apperciate d schooling.I am not for any form of excuse really I read the stories n tried to understand.n feel if some factors dat lead men to turn evil should be discussed so people in such situations understand n knw to manage it.
I mentioned d issue of baby be4 marriage cos ve seen cases where A lady gets pregnant cos she is desperate to get married d guy might even be dating some1 else but just had a fling wit d pregnant one. He is den forced to marry her even though he hasn't knwn her 4 long n doesn't love her.it happend to a lady I knw d guy never fails to remind her how she trapped him n there is always conflict in d home.in dis case I ve even adviced her to leave him.

On ur last paragraph its abit hard for me to believe there r abusers like that that r not under d influence of something. Such abusers can be easily spotted if a woman pays attn to d warning signs n doesn't rush in to marriage for d sake it.if one is already in it then divorce is OK.

Efemena_xy:

And logic tells me that the combination of your terrible written grammar and somewhat inability to reason properly only proves that you aren't really intelligent are you?

~ So Cotton was under the spell of voodoo now, was she? Going by your "logic"

~ and she was burnt alive - to a crisp, abi??

Abeg, do us all a favour and carry your lopsided logical analysis to the Romance Section. Or better still, GO TO BED!!!

Abi you nor get work to attend to in the mornining??

EFE when I said BLACK MAGIC I meant on d man to make him be so Evil n I wasn't referring to cotton it was a general statement.

Ok now I get how u reason if some1 doesn't like ur post n conform to it d person should be ABUSED. Hmnnnnn

freecocoa: You are clearly not against violence, from what I understand by your post, there is a just cause for violence in some cases accept where the man is a certified mad man roaming the streets and that's somewhat worrisome cos you are obviously excusing violence, I think you need to reread your post and try to make meaning out of it.
So I got pregnant and had to end up with the man is a just cause for abuse? Menh babe your theory is really scary.

My dear I am so anti violence that I pride myself in spotting it n running before it happens n to do dat u must be realistic n logical which is wat I am tryin to achieve.

Dat u got pregnant is NOT a just cause for abuse but for u to understand how men feel trapped n outsmarted n react in such situations to enable u avoid violence.

I might not make sense to u but I just want u to keep an open mind to other peoples opinions.

N thanks for not being ABUSIVE lik dat EFE something girl

Efemena_xy:

Please don't attempt to understand my mentality, whatever you think it is - I'd like to spare you getting brain f*a*g.

I just told you, I find the bolded bit of your post especially offensive!

Are you slow or what? How hard is it for you to comprehend that you don't use words like: Oh, you were probably abused because your ex discovered / thinks you were a girl about town and he was disgusted with you

Doesn't that sound stooopid, even to your ears? Do you think someone reeling from an abusive relationship needs to be likened to the terms "disgusting" and "girl-about-town"?

Who the frigging hell do you think you are?? Or you think you're better than them because you "endured" your slap in the typical Nollywood fashion??

Really dear why do u feel d need to be ABUSIVE. There r better ways to communicate without insults. U see by ur post I can tell d kind of person u r that's wat I am preaching about people need to learn to communicate in a civil manner . This kind of attitude won't help u in marriage if u. Continue like dis u should print this thread n keep it

R u saying I should get a divorce cos I Was Slapped. Hmmmm.no comment.

freecocoa: I for one don't clearly understand your point, how are those reasons you stated good enough to excuse an abusive man?

Hmmmmnn I AM NOT EXCUSING AN ABUSIVE MAN.but trying to understand why n how d sweetheart married became d DEVIL when he is not mad ke. If people can understand stuffs like dat it will help avoid a lot of conflict.

Logic has to follow every story except is black magic if it makes sense to u that a man can burn his wife wit Cigar for no just cos it doesn't to me. If we don't understand these basic facts then no marriage is secure.

N check all my post on this topic I am 100% against violence of any kind.

Efemena_xy:

I don't care that you think you're creating an awareness of some sort here.

Your post, especially the bolded is downright rude! Learn to express yourself in a much more sensitive way, without hurting peoples feelings.

You come across as a snide, snobbish piece of work.

Whoaaaa I apologize to those concerned if u think I am targeting any1 its actually a generalized statement. Of scenarios that could lead to such abuse from most men's point of view. Cotton n Debrief I ve 120% respect for u guys cos not every1 ve d guts to do wat u did though I do.cos I don't care wat society tinks. However like I said I am tryin to understand n learn how to avoid divorce rather than when to get divorced.

Now Efe ur mentality is wat I also want to understand how did u get Snide n snobbish from my post. One of d problems that cause such issues is that people read too much meaning into stuffs n assume a lot. Too Verbal.

sirabbey: Waoh! what a brilliant discourse on the issues of abuse in marriage and in the society at large. even though yours sincerely have been married for close to 3 years now, I have learnt so much and my eyes have been opened to new perspective that i dare say, I am a better person than i was before reading through this thread. That said, many issues have been thrashed here and i don't intend repeating them, but permit me to quote Honoré de Balzac, a french writer (1799 - 1850)who said "No man should marry until he has studied anatomy and dissected at least one woman".(Now don't rush signing up for anatomy class with jennyKadry or Pdude )The point here is that men and women are vastly different, so much so that they are deemed to come from two different planets (Men from mars and women from venus) and there must be a conscious effort by both sexes to study the other sex with the aim of understanding them in totality to the best of one's ability before venturing into marriage. (note I said other sex, not specifically your fiance or fiancee because at this stage you are wearing rose coloured lens known as love and your views and understanding may be skewed) Let me recommend Dr. John Gray book "Men are from mars and women are from Venus" as well as "Answers for your marriage" by Bruce and Carrol Britten.

[/b]Secondly many abuse in marriages are avoidable if only the party involve pay closer attention to the issue of communication.[b] communication is much more than dialogue between a husband and a wife, it is the life-blood of their relationship. In the words of the great Apostle Paul I Cor 13:11 (never mind if you are not a Christian, just pick the lessons) he said "When I was a child, I speak as a child, i understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man(or woman) I Put away childish things. This means a child will speak, then understand and then think. Now a child has got the sequence wrong because as a mature man/woman, the thinking has got to come first, which will pave way for understanding and then ultimately speech that will result to meaningful and healthy communication. what am getting at is that in marriage a man can not continue to talk with his wife the way he enjoys talking with "the boys" and not court trouble neither can a woman bring the kind of convo she relish with "the girls" at the saloon into her home and not have issues as well. This kind of convo as far as marriage is concerned are childish and should be outgrown or at best be reserved for the kind of audience that understands and appreciates it.
Finally we are all work in progress, and can only make progress with the help of our support base and in marriage no other support base is greater and closer than our spouse; and like the Yorubas will say, the owner of the load must be the first to make attempt at lifting his load if he/she expected to be help. We are all responsible for our actions and in-actions irrespective of the seemly effect we think other people have on us.

Great Point on avoidable conflict.respect n communication r key in marriage.

cotton101: airpure - really really REALLY

even if i was rude (and i'm not saying I was) does that mean a man should beat you up drag u along the floor, burn your body and do all manner of things. I mean in my own experience his mouth was a lot worse than mine - someone who opened his mouth to tell me I had destroyed my womb when I was having a suspected miscarrige (we thank God it didn't happen), somone who knew I had a high risk pregnancy and would lock me in the house with no way of getting out if God forbid there was an emergency - someone who to this day and his child is almost 2 does not ask after her or provide for her - that is the person according to u was verbally abused.

You see looking back now I saw the signs but call it naivety but when You have never experienced domestic abuse or even heard about it within you family and extended family honestly I thought it was something I watched in movies - the closest I got to domestic abuse in my life was watching the julia roberts sleeping with the enemy movie. to be honest after a while you stop talking then u get slapped or verbally abused for being quiet - apparently being quiet was me being disrespectful.

Honestly I like keeping my sundays peaceful and making sure i'm always happy during the weekends as i work full time and feel like my daughter only sees a stressed out tired mother MOn- Fri and this ur post (coming from a woman) is slightly annoying.

my 2 cents

My Dear, I totally understand wat u went tru n don't judge u for it.I see my self as a realist so I take a 360 degree look at issues.I didn't state ur ex was verbally abused by u dear I just gave my general opinion on abuses. From wat is see now ur ex was d Devil himself

From my view point such hate as u ve described from ur ex don't happen over night 4 no just cos except ur ex is a mad man.burning wit Cigar etc. Most cases ve seen such happened in d followin:
1. Baby Came first n d man felt trapped into marriage. He den feels his wife ve outsmarted him n tries his all to punish u so u get fed up n leave.
2.He found out after d marriage dat he married a girl about town n didn knw d history of d gal he married n now is disgusted .
3.The woman is a verbal abuser that he sees as emasculating him whiCh he is fighting against.Nagging n all comes under here.
4. For some reason he doesn't trust his wife maybe its something she did or he heard.
5. The woman is a full Time housewife who he sees as a liability
ETC.

The point here is not just to educate about violence n divorce but I think should also be how to avoid getting into such marriages. N for younger peeps to learn they ve to see things fully.

For example wat were d signs u noticed that he could be abusive? When did d first abuse start?what lead to d abuse?what steps did u take to ensure it never occurred again?at some point before d cigar burn did u realize d love was completely gone? U see for me I wouldn ve waited till d cigar burn or that will be d last straw cos a man dat can do that can set u on fire. Really proud u got out alive n like I said in my first post on dis topic is that women like u should be given a trophy if possible.

FOr me if my hubby slaps me after the last one will probably leave him cos I nolonger do things to provoke a fight.

Wishing u all d best .

Whoa wat a long tread. I was up till 3am readin this last night n my hubby saw me and cautioned against beerything I read n making decisions based on what I read on nairaland today I had to sneak to finish it. i also caution other to be wise about things they read here n apply common sense before makin decisions.

First of if we r honest as a woman there r always warning signs u see before gettin married but its ur choice to decide if u can live wit it or not if u do decide to stay u should be committed to d marriage n try to make it work.

Cause n Effect. I dnt encourage violence but Most women that were hit if honest will tell u they said something before d slap came see women r verbal abUsers very expressive uNlike men who talk less. Some women can strip a man of his manhood wit words that r worst than Venoms honest most cases of neigbour hood marital fights in d loud arguments before woman screaming 4 help she is abusive n listing d mans shortcomings

D first n only Time my hubby slapped me I said something out of anger I regretted d minute it came out of my mouth.I moved out after dat slap he traveled to see my parents they walked him out of d house n my dad told me to leave him. But cos I was honest wit myself I knew I was 50% to blame he promised never to hit me n hasn't done so ever again I on my part ve learn to use words better not as weapon for destruction.

So women need to understand d power of words. Verbal abuse is as bad as physical abuse.cos words once spoken have very long term n bad effects d pain of a slap might fade but words r like a crack that always remain.

Over Time I ve realize my powers as a woman. A woman actually does make her home.wit words a woman can achieve a lot.understandin is also key. When u see ur man is down no need kicking him wit ur I told u so n harsh words there will be Time for all dat. U should be supportive.

Now I ve a happy home cos I ve given my man ful power as head while I enjoy d role as neck which is a better position coS d head can't move wit out d neck.

Even in books such as 48 laws of power I learn diplomatic or strategic ways of handling issues. I say words like pls n sorry like I breath air they don't cost much but can make a whole lot of difference. I don't believe there r men except mad men that will just turn their woman into punching bags.if a woman truly loves her man n want d marriage to work she should learn to avoid such provocation n learn more intelligent n strategic ways to get her points across. Like wen I see a problem is tricky instead of confrontation I send my hubby an email n encourage him to do same.

Women also need to stop lookin n believing wat their friends n outsiders say about their marriage as I ve discovered most women r liars n cos oF d competitive nature of women they will tell lies just to seem happy.believe in ur marriage n ur man.

I also belive in women having a source of income cos experience have shown that abuse happen more in such homes.

If all else fail n u can't find happiness then u can seek divorce cos as I always say You Only Live Once. YOLO.

Guitarlife: *coughs* please don't pull the trigger. Hold on a little, special shout out to a fellow comrade @johndoe. You are a true soldier.
Ok, what exactly am I supposed to say ? First, @jenny please don't hide my post or call the mods.
Kkk now, I find it quite melodramatic that we have a thread celebrating the 'ones that got away'. Is this a newly devised means of soothing bruised egos ?
I don't really get it. I think these people who have made a mess of the most sacred institution known to man should be in the religious section. They should be proteges for spiritual folks like omo alata, frosbel and the likes who would find it such an honour to reorientate them.
I don't suppose it's right to begin to praise and celebrate them for making a terrible mess of the marriage institution.
I'd rather we stopped making them feel like heros lest we encourage more women on the path of infamy.
Picture the putrid sense of self aggradizement with which these pathetic heathens hurriedly type in a bid to display their newly acquired 'emancipated ' status.
It is a total shame that people who should remember these unfortunate events which has become a permanent scar on their lives albeit and shed a few tears wether crocodile or not , are seen parading the streets and gleefully displaying banner's emphasizing the 'dignity' of such events too.
It really is a forked world anyway. When a woman can with a sense of gratification chronicle the stories of her failed marriage.
I am not as appalled reading from these divorcees as I am reading from people on the sidelines. It's quite disturbing to read how people have been hailing them.
I thought we understood the age long proverb that said nobody will give an account of a event in a bid to indict themselves. We should all realise that no party is impeccable in a failed marriage.
Both partners are EQUALLy responsible for the fate of a union. Why then are we bent on making these misguided women feel like they are worth having their names in the guiness book of world records ?
These are marital failures , I mean now that they have quit a marriage , whenever they start having such challenges like they had in previous marriages they could as well quit too ?
Whatever has made a woman walk out on her marriage is not to the seen as a feat deserving a tropghy.
It is a disturbing event that should evoke a deep sense of soberness and reflection.
We don't know who the villian was, we don't know who the cheat was, hell, we don't even know who the real assailant was.
We don't have the facts who was to blame. All we have is the misleading and grossly opinionated accounts of these divorcess(I apologise if that sounds vindictive but that is what they are DIVORCEES).
The only fact we have is that they made an attempt at marriage and they FAILED.
Please people stop allowing unnecessary sensationalism deny you of the ability to reason well.
Some of these women commanding applauds might actually be recommended for the gallows if the truth came out.
I think we'd rather read from people who have managed to make their marriages a success than for some people to keep reminding us of an inglorious side of marriage.
They could start by telling us how they made the mistake of walking into the wrong marriage, how they allowed the Blackberry and peruvian hair to blind them to the reality .
How they jilted a hardworking hones young man for a philandering , generous millionanire Then may be we'd take it form there.
Hi jenny*waves*

Any Woman that comes out of an abusive marriage should be commended and given a trophy if possible because they were strong enough to not ve ended up in "ANOTHER HUSBAND KILLED BY HER HUSBAND THREAD" also we as women need to start teaching our sons that there is no excuse for hitting a woman. cos i honestly feel some mothers are to blame for the kind of men that take pride i hitting their wives. any man that hits his wife is a WOMAN WRAPPER.a GUTLESS PIG,with LOW SELF ESTEEM . that feels the only way to prove his manhood is by being violent. most of the men that do this cant stand up to their male counterpart in a fight.

Whoa its always so funny to understand how people reason. When i saw the topic it sounded interesting and i felt it will be educative to some folks.which it would ve been if some people didn't start condemning it.People r too angry and frustrated these days that even a simple harmless topic can lead to insults.people need to stop seeing the negative be4 d positive@ poster the topic makes sense n it will help people realize if u get honest answers that Divorce is not always the answer or vice versa.Thumbs up.

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Hmmnnnnnn Sir/Madam ur friend probably went to a private hospital. Its free in almost all fedral n govt hospitals u only pay for reg n some basic stuffs costing less dan 1k but den again guess u knw dat.

festusijomoni: I have observed that people hardly appreciate anything done by the govt. They tend to view it from several perspectives. Let it be known today that Dr Emmanuel Eweta Uduaghan is rated highly in the transport sector.[/b] He has assured that the roads will be fixed in due course to compliment the vehicles[b]. The vehicles will be managed by seasoned transporters and I can assure you that since 2008, we have had a very thriving, comfortable and the cheapest transport scheme in Delta via the initiative of the Governor. Join me in giving him kudos for this.

Mr Genius so it makes sense to u to buy buses then fix d road afterwards wen all d shocks n all r destroyed. Won't it be better to fix road first. Haba pls think .its not rocket science its simple logic.

Alonga: Pls let appreciate dis,i believe d governor has try in transportation sector in d state,kodus to uduagha for this great work.

Apperciate what exactly, I believe u ve people in gov or r related to d gov so u get handouts. Well start by comparing this to what the state has. Is transport sector just buyin cars n buses? Where r d buses n cars bought 4yrs ago? Wat roads r these buses going to ride on? Tell me u not aware that insecurity in Delta is d worst in d country?compare wat d gov n commissioners ve looted to wat is being utilised.

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