No matter the woman you think you married, never take her from Africa to the west. It's better she stays in Nigeria and cheats than to join you abroad, cheat on you and still make you loose everything you have worked your life for.

Dear men, no woman is different. It doesn't matter if she is a virgin or not. It doesn't matter if she is religious or not. Women generally don't love you as a man, they only love what you provide.

I don't know how else to say this, it is better to leave that woman here in Nigeria if you base abroad. You can come back every 3yrs and see her. When you get back, secretly do a DNA test on the kids you have to know which one is yours.

Taking a woman outside the country is like telling your parents, siblings and friends who helped you travel out that you do not appreciate their sacrifice.

Let me ask you a question, if you were a poor illage man, will a Nigerian woman who lives in Europe come back to the village and take you abroad just to better your life?


Shalom.

Dear men,

Learn to cheat like women. Before you make up your mind to cheat, please make sure you are ready for whatever the outcome will be. Don't cheat and beg.

Personally if I cheat on a woman and she forgives me, I loose interest in her. And if a woman cheats on me, I don't forgive. But them never born that woman well to cheat on me sha.

Shalom


Shalom

richforever123:


As a man you don't need to be the one who goes outside to fetch the water, you can always hire someone to do it or better still create a plumbing system in your house, is it every day you are lifting items? Just focus on providing the finances, I understand not all men are financially buoyant, you either needs to up your finances or go for a woman that meets your budget, when you start splitting the bills with a woman the disrespect will creep in

Why are you hell bent on defending women. No man was created to provide or take care of another woman. If a woman I marry feels that cooking and cleaning is too much for her, she should hire a help and pay the help from her pocket.

My idea of getting married is to have my wife cook and clean for me. It's actually more expensive to maintain a wife instead of getting a help. So I don't see a reason why I'm willing to face armed robbers, kidnappers, ritualists etc just to protect my family and she is complaining about cooking and cleaning.

Is there any greater sacrifice than the willingness to lay down my life??

If you think about what I've written with an open mind, you will see that I'm saying the truth.

Shalom.

All is fair in love and in war...

Shalom

richforever123:


As a man do you expect the wife to contribute 50/50 and still respect, cook and clean for you? Think about it as a man you are meant to cater for majority of the family needs, women are not designed to provide security for the man, it is the man's job, while she nurtures, cooks and cleans. if you go to most homes where the woman is the main bread winner, there is always chaos, the man is always highly disrespected, even if you marry a virgin it is same thing, if you want your wife to bing 50/50 then you should be ready to cook and clean to and not always have the final say, that's just fact

50/50 is just for the aspect of finance. There are other things a man brings to the table such as protection, Doing the difficult jobs around the house like heavy lifting. In some families, the fetch water outside, so the man does it. In some families, when they have little plumbing and electrical repairs, the man does it.

Infact, the respect a woman receives is borne out of the respect people have for her husband.

Shalom

Nobody ever talks about what a man deserves.
Why would she say that the man wasted her time?
Was the man not also spending his own time with her?

There is nothing wrong in asking her to contribute 5m to a joint account. She wants to reap where she didn't sow financially.

Shalom

Dear Men,

For whatever action you want to take in life, always make up you mind for the consequences.

If you want to cheat, calculate the worst possible outcome if you are caught and if it's something you can shoulder, please go ahead.

This is why as a man I prefer "pay as you go". No strings attached, no chats no evidence. The girl comes to your hotel, renders her service and she goes. She doesn't even need to know your name and always pay in cash.

Shalom

IkeIgboNiile:
Bro, go and rent a place for yourself and enjoy different girls. What people think don't matter since they don't finance your life.

PS: don't listen to the girl, telling you to go and marry. Live your life freely, don't let anyone chain you down before you're ready.

Exactly.

Dear boys/men, don't be decieved into getting married with the hope that you will always have sex whenever you want it. Single guys get more sex than married men. Once married, your wife will refuse you sex and blame you if you get it outside. It's just like refusing to give you food in your own house and still blame you if you visit a restaurant to eat.

If your wife is weaponizing sex, please use the money you are supposed to sort out her needs and get sex elsewhere.

Women have succeeded in demonizing sex thereby turning it into a bad thing. Sex is just like every other human need. The urge for food, the urge to sleep, the urge to use the rest room and the urge for sex are all part of the human person. So why demonize it?

OP, if you still want have more women, just get another apartment outside your area and do whatever you wish. Don't worry, do what you loke and the world will adjust.

Shalom

EreluRoz:
Modern men style of polygamy differs, they want a woman who can take care of herself so he can go ahead and marry another one with the peanut he's contributing at home. This is what Yul Edochie wanted to do to his breadwinner wife (as confirmed by Yul's father Pete Edochie) .

How can a woman be responsible for more than 85% of the success of the home and you dare want to add another wife and make her fund your polygamous life? Yul hit head for ground sha.

In Essence, if a man is responsible for 85% percent success of his home as a breadwinner then he has every moral justification to be polygamous?

The truth of the matter is that women don't like polygamy because they think that the resources they are supposed to enjoy alone is being shared with another woman.

They don't actually care about the man because they are incapable of loving a man, they only care about what he provides and they don't want to share a man's provision.

Shalom

This is exactly what this Mohbad issue will cause. His wife is scared of doing the DNA test because if it turns out negative, she will be evicted from the house and all Mohbads properties will go to his parents.

Most probably, she may have secretly done the test and because it was negative, she decided to fight the idea of doing a DNA test publicly. If the result was positive, she would have come out a long time ago to vindicate herself.

A gentle reminder to all men is this, do that DNA secretly, if the result is negative, chase her away, if it turns out positive, keep shut and continue your life.

Shalom

You see what this girl wrote here, it's the true definition of most women. Don't be decieved, that your gf or wife that you think has morals will choose a cheating rich partner over a poor faithful partner. If you are poor and your wife does not cheat, just know that men don't desire her. Once a man puts a little pressure, she must bulge.

This is why I say that women are not built to love. They are built to submit and they submit to money.

As men, since you know that women are submitting because you have money, why not regulate the way you give it to them. Be very selfish with who you spend your money on. Once she looses that attractiveness in your eyes, please look for someone else because she would not hesitate to leave you if you go broke.

Shalom

The electricity issue in Nigeria is more of a corruption problem.

The supply chain for electricity is so large that tlyou cannot begin to fathom the different areas and the the different actors in the power sector.

- Customes make money through clearing of all types of generator.
-Filling stations make money from people buy fuel to power their homes, shops or offices.
-Generator sellers, spare part sellers, and mechanic are all employed just because we lack electricity.
- Diesel is also used to power large generators.
- Power generation is a reoccurring campaign point for each election cycle.

There are many factors. It is not that there is no money to fix electricity, every successive government just lack the will power to do it due to corruption.

Shalom.

This woman should understand that Just because those men want to hit does not mean they have any atom of respect for her body. They just want to release their poison inside of her and go. She should not feel too important.

If she wants to know her value, she should try to date or marry one of those men calling her that's when they would remind her she is just a 304.

Shalom

How are we even sure Davido was crying for coochie.

The audio was incomprehensible. He may have been crying for something entirely different.

All I have to say us that a rich man does not deserve monogamy.

Dear Men,

Love your wife to the extent that you become a widower instead of allowing her to become a widow.

Shalom

The term evening Newspaper is used to describe a woman who has passed her reproductive prime. Most people know that Newspapers are sold in the morning when the news is still fresh/recent and hence any news you are hearing of in the evening is usually stale and has little to no value.

That being said, we should agree that there are certain stages in life that ensures things are done properly (Although this is not a rule).

It is usually difficult/impossible to find a 30 year old man/woman as a pupil in primary school because he/ she has passed the age to still ve in school.

The example above shows why older unmarried woman are referred to as Evening Newspaper. We all agree that a woman is mostly fertile between the ages of 18-35yrs ( Although some women can still give birth much later in life).

This is why men usually prefer younger women and they refer to older unmarried women as evening newspapers because they have little or no reproductive value when compared to younger women.

Although the paradox of life and death does not work in the theory of first come - first serve, it is important you do things in life at a time nature has made perfect(This does not mean it may not work out at other times though).

So a single lady should try to vet the man she wants to marry on his character and not on his finance.

Marry at "natures best time", raise your children on time to avoid being offended when society refer to you as Evening Newspaper.

If you read this with an open mind devoid of sentiment, you will know I'm telling the truth. I'm always on the side of truth.

Shalom

Dear men,

Do not be pressured to provide for any woman. Provide for yourself and let the woman share in the provision you have made for yourself.

Nobody is created specifically to provide. Most women twist the Bible and say it is the man's duty to provide.

The Bible clearly states that ANYONE (not necessarily a man)who fails to provide for the family is worse than an infidel. This verse is misconstrued so much because it talks about widows and not about a husband providing.

This is why I always tell my female family members that no man owes you provision. You should vet the man you want to submit to on the merit of his character rather than his pocket.


Marriage or dating is a social relationship and not a financial relationship. Men should strive to be very selfish about who they give their money. If you met her as a 5k girl, please date and marry her as a 5k girl. You don't owe her any financial liberation simply because you are together.

Shalom

EreluRoz:
She's somehow right but nairaland is not the best place to have reasonable discussion.

Women are not created to provide, it is against their nature, it makes them become masculine and vulnerable to other men. It takes a strong and well disciplined woman to provide and still remain faithful, well, not much of such women exist these days.

Men should learn to be traditional and provide, stop stressing your women and putting them in vulnerable position to other men.

Nobody is created to provide.

A woman provides for herself when she is single and suddenly when she gets married she is no longer "Created" to provide??

No matter how much you provide for a woman, if she wants to sleep around, she will sleep around.

Shalom

Dear men,

If you unfortunately marry a bad woman, I beg you, stop investing or providing for her. You see, the reason why it is easy for people to break up with you or to easily move on after a break up is because the invested very little to that relationship.

If a man has invested so much into his relationship, then the breakup hurts more. If a woman has invested so much into a relationship, then the breakup hurts her more. This is the basic rule of life, it has nothing to do with being a male or a female or being a good person.

As she has refused to acknowledge that good and bad, right and wrong, Yin and yang etc are what brings balance to the world, please do not make her life soft.

It seems as a joke now but before God and man, she has told you that she is there just for the good times. If something bad happens to you and she decides to leave, the laws of nature would not hold her culpable because she stood by the oath she swore. It is now left for you the man to act now or forever take whatever comes your way.

Also, why do women have the delusion that they are always wanted? They don't know that it's so cold outside( I hope they understand this).

Shalom

I want to buy a car, I visit a car dealership and the sells man tells me he has a lot of unused cars, straight from the factory and then I reject all the new cars and opt for an already driven car with a history of one accident and a 100 thousand mileage.
That's the case of this guy.

Never upgrade any woman financially. A woman is with you because you have that financial advantage over her.

OP you gave your ex a seat at the big boys table and that's why she decided to go for someone above you. You see, if you are a bus conductor and you introduce your woman to the bus driver, automatically she will want to go for him. If you are the deputy governor and you introduce your woman to the governor, that's where her eyes will be.

Women always want to go for the biggest person in the room. Don't be surprised that if she gets the chance to meet your overall boss, she would dump this your senior colleague for him.

This is why you should never give a woman a seat at the table where you eat from. Just provide the barest minimum enough for her survival, no Luxury whatsoever. If she wants luxury, she should go and work.


Shalom

Heartbreaking story.

To further help men from raising other people's children, I will be sponsoring 10 DNA tests for 10 different men who have doubts about the paternity of their Children.

RULES

1) Only one child per man. Of utmost importance is your first child.
2) If the result of the DNA test proves paternity fraud, the responsibility lies on you as the father to carry out test on your other children if any.
3) Selection of beneficiaries will be at random.
4) I'm only responsible for the financing, you are completely responsible for the outcome. I don't even care to know what the result says. You will have to sort out the consequences yourself.
5) Please ensure this is a secret. Women are not allowed to participate because I will have to prove you are a man to actually qualify.


#saynotopaternityfraud

Shalom.

OP

I will be truthful and blunt. You don't owe your wife luxury. It is absolutely wrong for her to call youba poor man for being unable to provide her WANTS. Every profession is important, if you are not a school teacher, who will you leave the job for. Even if you leave the job, are school teachers forbidden from getting married because they earn little salary.

You see, if your wife wants luxury (a new phone or Geepee tank or whatever) she should go out and work. Your income is little and then you have a wife who sits at home waiting and depending on only you to provide?? That's wrong.

The only person that deserves luxury is a person who works for it and not a person who depends on the worker. My advice to you is to treat her exactly how she treats you. If she feels she married a poor man, she should leave and join the queue of ladies waiting for a rich man.

Like I said, you owe no one any form of luxury. You are already providing to the best of your ability.
She either settles for what you can provide, or she leaves. If she leaves, atleast your standard of living will increase because you are married to a leech.

Shalom

People think God is not wise when he made a hierarchy in marriage.

These days women want to feel equal to men in a marriage. It doesn't work that way. Forget about civilization, God through Nature has made a man the head/leader/ruler of his household and every other person in that household MUST OBEY the kingship of the man.

Modern women think that they must have a say in every decision in the family, unfortunately God did not intend it that way. He said women should be submissive to their husband.

Just notice that any marriage that breaks up, the root cause is always the woman thinking that her husband is her Partner instead of realizing that her husband is her LEADER.

America was colonized and ruled by the British until 1776 when they gained their independence and that ended the union. Nigerian was ruled by Britain until 1960 when we gained independence and that ended the union. What I'm trying to explain is that once one party sees another party as equal, then it will be extremely difficult for their union to survive.

Dear men, always marry a woman who is submissive and respects/fear you. You will enjoy the marriage more than getting married to someone who feels they are your partner.

People say bad things about our culture but they fail to understand that our native cultures encourage submission from women and that is the secret to long lasting marriages of old.

If your wife sees you as a partner instead of a leader/ruler, then just know you are not married but you are in a partnership and partnerships are likely to breakup due to "irreconcilable differences"

Most women maybe against my point of view but the funny thing is that they all want submissive wives for their brothers and their sons.

Shalom.

Apart from the other factors that affect the naira, the governors also have some blame in this.

Once allocation is shared, state governors mop up the available dollars in the banks and because of this demand, the naira depreciates.

Men you see all I have been teaching.
Only provide the barest minimum that will guarantee your woman's survival.

You don't need to make any woman comfortable. You just have to make sure she barely survives. This is because they don't really care about you, they only care about what you can provide.

Your money and resources are their goal. Use your hardworking to better yourself because the day you are unable to provide, these women would not hesitate to leave.

Shalom

Olamilekxy:



You think masturbating doesn't have a negative effect?

Overfeeding is bad, drunkenness is bad but that does not mean we should not eat or drink.

Excess of everything is bad.

Shalom

If men had no strong urge for sex, women would have gone extinct a very long time ago. Infact everybody that is presently alive wouldn't have been born.

Now men here is the trick, if you are not getting regular sex, please practice healthy masturbation. To married men, if your wife ever denies you of sex, go and masturbate and make sure she sees you in the act. Once she discovers that you get satisfaction outside of cheating, she will change rapidly.

I have said this before, the only man a woman can manipulate is a Hot man. Once you are not Hot, no woman can ever manipulate you.

Everyone alive wants sex, but women have mastered the art of hiding their urges. Men should master the art of satisfying their urge outside a woman.

Shalom

Men, have you noticed that each time women reject a certain category of men it is because they are deemed low income earners??

This is why I always say that men should endeavor to get as much as they give in a relationship. If you spend money, demand for an equivalent amount.

Learn that relationship is transactional. If you give, you take. Take something physical. If you give money, take money. If you give gifts, demand for gifts.
It is not your job to spoil any woman. Men also deserves to be spoiled.

Shalom

Most men know the kind of women they marry.
Do not take your wife abroad if you suspect the tendency of cheating or not being submissive to you. Leave her here in Nigeria and visit whenever you can.

Some may argue that she may still cheat here in Nigeria. At least if she cheats here in Nigeria, you can send her packing without shi shi.

Men, women don't love you. She married you because you could provide for her what she is incapable of providing for herself. The day she is able to provide those things for herself, she will walk away.

Shalom.

OP I perfectly understand your point.
But if we should tell ourselves the truth, the pain of providing for your kids is not basically because you provide. It stems from the fact that the money you send will be used by your ex-wife for her own personal needs instead of the kids.

Most women after divorce use the kids to siphon money from their ex husband's. They lie about the kids health, the inflate school expenses, the inflate groceries and every other thing needed by the kids. They now use the money meant for the kids to live their lives.

This is exactly the scenario that men abhor. After divorce, most men are willing to allow their women to go and live their life the way they want but most women make it their life's mission to destroy the man.

OP, if it's possible, pay for only verifiable expenses. Go to their school and pay the fees directly. If they are sick, go to the hospital and pay directly. Buy the groceries and send to them. Your ex wife should also contribute monetarily in taking care of the kids. Also ensure you evidence of what you do.

Don't be scared, in future, your kids will understand especially the male children.

Shalom

In all sincerity, he didn't ask for too much. He asked for the barest minimum.
No shouting, no quarreling, can cook, can dress well, can pray etc.

He didn't ask for big breast or big nyash, or fair skin.
All the qualities he listed are homelike qualities.

For the men against his list, will you rather have the opposite of what he listed in a wife?

For the women against his list, will you wish your brother or son marries a woman who has the opposite of the qualities he listed??

We all know what we are doing, after nairaland we will all go back to our realities.

NO GREE FOR ANYBODY THIS YEAR.

SHALOM

As a man, never joke with your Finance. That is not to say that you make money for women. Only give a woman just enough to guarantee her survival. Never provide luxury to any woman, if she wants luxury let her go and work.

The world thinks along the line of finance. A rich man may be stupid but his words, actions and inaction carry more value than that of a wise poor man.

Just know that in any relationship with a woman, the primary aim in her mind is because you are providing something or that you are capable of providing something in the nearest future. So do not go to any length to please her.

One thing men do not understand is that when a woman knows you can provide, she will want to stick with you. Forget the threat of breakfast/divorce. A few Instagram DMs (attention) does not translate to a good life and women know this.

1) Finance
2) Finance
3) Finance.

But don't spoil any woman. Just give them the barest minimum that will guarantee her survival.

Shalom