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MyExpression:
Stop advocating Masturbation.
Advocate for Discipline instead.

Ask your masturbating protégé if they really want to be doing that.

At some point, you don't want to do, but like other addictions, you still find yourself doing it.
When you cum that's when you'll come back to your senses
You cum and become weak...and experience brain fatigue.
It's no longer normal.


Maybe there's a healthy dose of Masturbation, I don't know...but as long as you keep doing what you do not want to keep doing, it is a problem to fix...not one to embrace.

Then advice people to stop eating, or drinking water or sleeping.

Masturbation is good. There is no gain advising people not to masturbate because it helps relieve your sexual tension.

Shalom

Sex is just like every other urge/need of a human body. The urge to sleep, to eat, to drink etc are all the same.

Men/women need sex as often as they want to just like nobody will purposely deprive themselves of sleep, or food or water. The problem is that alot of people secretly satisfy their sexual urge and come openly to condemn others. This is why I advocate for masturbation when you can't have sex.

Masturbation helps you to make good judgement.

Shalom.

Dear men,

Love your wife so much that instead of making her a widow to suffer alone in this world, you choose to be a widower.

Shalom

What is so special about a woman that you are willing to work for 50yrs just to fund her lifestyle?

What if she turns out to be lazy? Why would I spend my youthful energy to provide for any woman?

Marriage should be viewed as two people who start a company but most women want to be employees but with the benefit of a co-founder.

Dear men, do not fund any woman's lifestyle that us not related to you by blood. If she wants a funded lifestyle, she should go out and work.

Shalom

ExAngel007:
On-Air-Personality, Moet Abebe, is of the opinion that Stealthing is a form of r@pe.

Stealthing is the practice of removing one's c0ndom during s£x without the knowledge and consent of one's partner.

In a post shared on her Instastories, Moet wrote;

There are female condoms too. So if she wants to be safe, she should also wear a female condom. Moet Nonsense.

Dear Men,

Never upgrade any woman to be better than you. It is better you leave that woman in Nigeria while you hustle abroad. It is better you hear that there are alot of men knacking your wide here in Nigeria than bringing her over.

Whenever you come back, you can decide to do a Paternity test and take the kids that belong to you and leave the rest for her.

Women are not good people to upgrade. Never forget that your mother may be a good mum to you but a bad wife to your father.

Shalom

Don't let anybody kill you in this life. In 20years, this guy will be out of prison and if he may still enjoy life before he dies.

Defend your life with everything you have got. There is no punishment that is enough to compensate for murder. Even if the person is sentenced to death, he or she may still end up in a better afterlife (assuming they are religious).


Shalom

Elmojiid:
Toto go hear am

How many rounds will you go to pay a woman 2million for iPhone.

Let's say 20k per night, that's like 100 days of constant Bleep before she is able to make 2million.

If you remove her menstruation of 4 days, it will take around 5months before she earns that amount.

Indeed, toto go hear am.

Shalom

BaddieFreak:
I hear you. It’s not about shaming men, everyone starts somewhere. But if I’m building my life towards a certain vision, I need a partner with that same energy. You don’t expect me to settle for less especially considering the fact that I worked so hard to get to where I am today. Strong, independent women set their standards, and yes, that includes choosing who they build with.

The Phrase "settle for less" is actually what men do. Women don't settle down. It's only men who settle down and 99% of the time, the men are more educated, wealthier and have better means of livelihood at the point where they marry.

So in essence it's actually men who settle for less. If a man lives in a face me I face you apartment, and he gets married to his wife there, it simply means that at the time of the marriage, the wife was living is a much less poor environment. It's almost impossible to see a woman who owns a duplex in Ikoyi get married to a man who lives in a face me I face you apartment in okokomiko. Women are actually the less men settle for.

Another word I want to dispute is " Standard". A woman's standard is only pegged at what she can do for herself. You standard is dependent on how much you earn legitimately and not how much you receive from men. Alot of women use iPhone which were bought by men. That is not actually their standard because they cannot afford it on their own. That is actually the man's standard because he gave it to you.

Lastly, the words "strong" and "opinionated" are very masculine words. You don't expect to be treated as a woman if you behave like a man. This is exactly the same way Women don't like men who look or act girlish. Women want masculine men and men want feminine women. Know this and know peace.

Shalom

Dear men, it is NOT your duty to provide for any woman who is not 100% loyal and submissive to you.

Infact, you should aim to make yourself happy, after you have provided for yourself, then you can leave a little bit extra for her.

Your wife is an adult. She can work for herself. The only woman/women you owe your provision is/are your daughters and mother ( and your female siblings).

Dear men, if something happens to you, your family will survive. I've never heard that all the members of a family died because the husband/father died. Do not let any woman make you overwork yourself. If it's only garri and sugar that you can provide, please do so. If your wife wants chicken, she should go out and work.

Shalom

As a man struggles day and night for financial freedom, that is the the same way women struggle day and night to get commitment in the form of marriage from men.

Don't be decieved, marriage is the best thing that can happen to any woman. Forget about the internet frenzy, women actually pray to get married.

The only problem is that some men go after women who don't want them, the same way those women are after a guy who doesn't want them. The only difference is that women openly say it when they reject a guy while most guys don't come out to call the names of the women they rejected.

As a guy, if you look critically at your life, you will discover that there was always a woman who loved you.

Shalom

People make sex sound so strange. SEX IS JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER HUMAN URGE. The urge to sleep, to eat, to drink, to pee, to use the restroom. All these are part of the human package. Sex is also part of the human package. Stop attacking an abstract reality to sex.

Can you say SLEEPPING is more enjoyable than EATING?
Can you say PEEING is better than POOING??

So why are you comparing sex to all these this. As long as you are a healthy human being, you will always have the urge for sex.

Shalom

Prostitution and Armed robbery bear the same risk. For each time and armed robber goes out to rob, he has made up his mind that he may not return alive.

Each time a prostitute goes out for her business, she should make up her mind that she may not come back alive.

This has nothing to do with your financial condition. Both categories just don't want to work, so nobody should feel pity for the prostitute.

The number of ritual reported is merely a fraction of what is going on out there.

Everyone should be careful and choose legit work instead of the shortcut.

Shalom

Exceptional300:
There’s this girl I have been dating for a couple of months now, we are planning on settling down soon. She was diagnosed with PCOS couple of years ago before I met her, had a surgery and one of her ovaries were removed. Though she still ovulates and sees her period, I am kind of worried if there will be any issues in the future.
My parents doesn’t know about her surgery yet. Should I tell them about it?

Of all the healthy/complete women on earth, you chose the one with issues. Ask yourself this question, if you were the incomplete person in any facet of life, will she choose you?

You are exposed to two difficult choices
1) Possibility of getting pregnant and giving birth with its complications.
2) Risk of cancer in the future.

That feeling of love you have will fade when childlessness or health issues begin to torment you.
In situations like this, it okay to be extremely selfish about what you want. The world and your girlfriend will adjust.

You are actually scared that telling your parents will result in them not supporting the idea of you marrying her, particularly your mum. In your heart, you have doubts too that's why this is an issue for you.

If you are in a room and about to have sex with a girl, do you usually call your parents to ask their opinion?

By telling your parents, you know there is a 99% chance that they will ad ice you not to marry her. That way, you already have a reason to break up with her. Be selfish in your decision. Healthy women are cheaper and easier to marry than someone life is already beating 1-0.

Shalom

ruffhandu:
Hello people,
Please I need some advice.
We live in PH, and have 4 kids. The oldest is 10 while the youngest is 6. I give my wife 700k every month, and this includes general upkeep and maintenace and fuelling of our car (Lexus 330). I don't drive the car (I dey leg, while she uses it to run around, which includes school runs and her business).

I no dey chuk eye for her business. Bu I am getting frustrated as she still makes me believe that the money is not enough. I pay electricity bill (band A) and house rent (3m pa) yet every now and then she puts bills on my head. It is driving me crazy.

When I tell her to list out her expenses so I plan with her, she picks offence. I am really tired of the whole thing and don't know how else to approach the issue without causing too much problem. I know some men whose salaries are 250k-300k in PH, yet they are surviving.

No amount of money is enough for a family and no amount of money is too small for a family. Your wife is just greedy.

The job of every woman is to plan the home. Planning ensures she cuts cost for her husband and nurture the kids. You wife is very selfish to think that she can spend 700k a month and still grumble.

To be sincere, the fault is from you. You should sit and ask yourself if your family cannot survive on way less than 700k per month.

If something happens to you now, will your family still live on the same level?
Or is your wife just using you to soften her own life and pretend she is doing it for the kids.

Take charge of your home.

Shalom

I don't actually care about her reason for dumping you. I only care about the last message where she was asking if you guys can still be friends.

PLEASE SAY A CAPITAL NO.

My motto is this " I CANNOT BE FRIENDS WITH A GIRL I AM NOT DATING OF BANGING."

If you say yes, you will keep on doing boyfriend duties but you wount get her coochies of get anything in return.

Shalom.

What you make as income monthly in the UK is bigger than what you make annually.

You are making a very wrong decision if you go ahead and marry her.

Being a baby mama, a prostitute, a bad woman etc are all vices every man should avoid in a woman. Now ask yourself this question, If it's a known fact that you will be very poor for the rest of your life( Being broke is considered a vice for men in the eyes of women) will this woman still agree to marry/date you knowing fully well that you will never make money for the rest of your life?

You see, when it comes to making the choice for a life partner women are more rational than men but when it comes to loving with the consequences of the choices we make, men are more rational.

Allow single mothers to be single. There is a reason why the word SINGLE is attached to their name.

That woman will always place that child above you. If she was sooo good, her baby daddy would still be with her.

Shalom

No matter the woman you think you married, never take her from Africa to the west. It's better she stays in Nigeria and cheats than to join you abroad, cheat on you and still make you loose everything you have worked your life for.

Dear men, no woman is different. It doesn't matter if she is a virgin or not. It doesn't matter if she is religious or not. Women generally don't love you as a man, they only love what you provide.

I don't know how else to say this, it is better to leave that woman here in Nigeria if you base abroad. You can come back every 3yrs and see her. When you get back, secretly do a DNA test on the kids you have to know which one is yours.

Taking a woman outside the country is like telling your parents, siblings and friends who helped you travel out that you do not appreciate their sacrifice.

Let me ask you a question, if you were a poor illage man, will a Nigerian woman who lives in Europe come back to the village and take you abroad just to better your life?


Shalom.

Dear men,

Learn to cheat like women. Before you make up your mind to cheat, please make sure you are ready for whatever the outcome will be. Don't cheat and beg.

Personally if I cheat on a woman and she forgives me, I loose interest in her. And if a woman cheats on me, I don't forgive. But them never born that woman well to cheat on me sha.

Shalom


Shalom

richforever123:
As a man you don't need to be the one who goes outside to fetch the water, you can always hire someone to do it or better still create a plumbing system in your house, is it every day you are lifting items? Just focus on providing the finances, I understand not all men are financially buoyant, you either needs to up your finances or go for a woman that meets your budget, when you start splitting the bills with a woman the disrespect will creep in

Why are you hell bent on defending women. No man was created to provide or take care of another woman. If a woman I marry feels that cooking and cleaning is too much for her, she should hire a help and pay the help from her pocket.

My idea of getting married is to have my wife cook and clean for me. It's actually more expensive to maintain a wife instead of getting a help. So I don't see a reason why I'm willing to face armed robbers, kidnappers, ritualists etc just to protect my family and she is complaining about cooking and cleaning.

Is there any greater sacrifice than the willingness to lay down my life??

If you think about what I've written with an open mind, you will see that I'm saying the truth.

Shalom.

All is fair in love and in war...

Shalom

richforever123:
As a man do you expect the wife to contribute 50/50 and still respect, cook and clean for you? Think about it as a man you are meant to cater for majority of the family needs, women are not designed to provide security for the man, it is the man's job, while she nurtures, cooks and cleans. if you go to most homes where the woman is the main bread winner, there is always chaos, the man is always highly disrespected, even if you marry a virgin it is same thing, if you want your wife to bing 50/50 then you should be ready to cook and clean to and not always have the final say, that's just fact

50/50 is just for the aspect of finance. There are other things a man brings to the table such as protection, Doing the difficult jobs around the house like heavy lifting. In some families, the fetch water outside, so the man does it. In some families, when they have little plumbing and electrical repairs, the man does it.

Infact, the respect a woman receives is borne out of the respect people have for her husband.

Shalom

Nobody ever talks about what a man deserves.
Why would she say that the man wasted her time?
Was the man not also spending his own time with her?

There is nothing wrong in asking her to contribute 5m to a joint account. She wants to reap where she didn't sow financially.

Shalom

Dear Men,

For whatever action you want to take in life, always make up you mind for the consequences.

If you want to cheat, calculate the worst possible outcome if you are caught and if it's something you can shoulder, please go ahead.

This is why as a man I prefer "pay as you go". No strings attached, no chats no evidence. The girl comes to your hotel, renders her service and she goes. She doesn't even need to know your name and always pay in cash.

Shalom

IkeIgboNiile:
Bro, go and rent a place for yourself and enjoy different girls. What people think don't matter since they don't finance your life.

PS: don't listen to the girl, telling you to go and marry. Live your life freely, don't let anyone chain you down before you're ready.

Exactly.

Dear boys/men, don't be decieved into getting married with the hope that you will always have sex whenever you want it. Single guys get more sex than married men. Once married, your wife will refuse you sex and blame you if you get it outside. It's just like refusing to give you food in your own house and still blame you if you visit a restaurant to eat.

If your wife is weaponizing sex, please use the money you are supposed to sort out her needs and get sex elsewhere.

Women have succeeded in demonizing sex thereby turning it into a bad thing. Sex is just like every other human need. The urge for food, the urge to sleep, the urge to use the rest room and the urge for sex are all part of the human person. So why demonize it?

OP, if you still want have more women, just get another apartment outside your area and do whatever you wish. Don't worry, do what you loke and the world will adjust.

Shalom

EreluRoz:
Modern men style of polygamy differs, they want a woman who can take care of herself so he can go ahead and marry another one with the peanut he's contributing at home. This is what Yul Edochie wanted to do to his breadwinner wife (as confirmed by Yul's father Pete Edochie) .

How can a woman be responsible for more than 85% of the success of the home and you dare want to add another wife and make her fund your polygamous life? Yul hit head for ground sha.

In Essence, if a man is responsible for 85% percent success of his home as a breadwinner then he has every moral justification to be polygamous?

The truth of the matter is that women don't like polygamy because they think that the resources they are supposed to enjoy alone is being shared with another woman.

They don't actually care about the man because they are incapable of loving a man, they only care about what he provides and they don't want to share a man's provision.

Shalom

This is exactly what this Mohbad issue will cause. His wife is scared of doing the DNA test because if it turns out negative, she will be evicted from the house and all Mohbads properties will go to his parents.

Most probably, she may have secretly done the test and because it was negative, she decided to fight the idea of doing a DNA test publicly. If the result was positive, she would have come out a long time ago to vindicate herself.

A gentle reminder to all men is this, do that DNA secretly, if the result is negative, chase her away, if it turns out positive, keep shut and continue your life.

Shalom

You see what this girl wrote here, it's the true definition of most women. Don't be decieved, that your gf or wife that you think has morals will choose a cheating rich partner over a poor faithful partner. If you are poor and your wife does not cheat, just know that men don't desire her. Once a man puts a little pressure, she must bulge.

This is why I say that women are not built to love. They are built to submit and they submit to money.

As men, since you know that women are submitting because you have money, why not regulate the way you give it to them. Be very selfish with who you spend your money on. Once she looses that attractiveness in your eyes, please look for someone else because she would not hesitate to leave you if you go broke.

Shalom

The electricity issue in Nigeria is more of a corruption problem.

The supply chain for electricity is so large that tlyou cannot begin to fathom the different areas and the the different actors in the power sector.

- Customes make money through clearing of all types of generator.
-Filling stations make money from people buy fuel to power their homes, shops or offices.
-Generator sellers, spare part sellers, and mechanic are all employed just because we lack electricity.
- Diesel is also used to power large generators.
- Power generation is a reoccurring campaign point for each election cycle.

There are many factors. It is not that there is no money to fix electricity, every successive government just lack the will power to do it due to corruption.

Shalom.

This woman should understand that Just because those men want to hit does not mean they have any atom of respect for her body. They just want to release their poison inside of her and go. She should not feel too important.

If she wants to know her value, she should try to date or marry one of those men calling her that's when they would remind her she is just a 304.

Shalom

How are we even sure Davido was crying for coochie.

The audio was incomprehensible. He may have been crying for something entirely different.

All I have to say us that a rich man does not deserve monogamy.

Dear Men,

Love your wife to the extent that you become a widower instead of allowing her to become a widow.

Shalom