You don't know the extent you are willing to go until your survival is threatened.

In all your choosing, go for someone with a good character. If you marry a beautiful woman with rotten character, you will discover that after 6 months of marriage, that beauty becomes useless to you.

However, go for a lady that is well to do and has the right character that suits you. Leave poor girls alone.
When a guy is struggling, they call him broke. But when a woman is struggling, they call her an independent woman.

Character is everything. To show you the importance of character, people are naturally closer and more open minded with individuals who have good character. Nobody likes a person with bad character whether male or female.

In the end, even if you get married and you later discover that your wife has bad character, please LEAVE that marriage. Women may say you are not matured enough, but don't listen to them. A mature man is a HAPPY MAN. Anyone who says you're not a man because you left a woman with bad character, please tell such a person to go ahead and marry your ex wife. If they do, they will soon discover what made you leave her.

Shalom.

Ishilove:

Dey play. Yet every Saturday our roads are blocked because of wedding receptions. It is only on social media that marriages are going out of fashion.

Some of you come from very dysfunctional homes and have developed a very skewed perception about the divine institution of marriage. Wouldn't blame ya because we are usually the product of our upbringing.

No one is against the institution of marriage. I'm just enlightening men about the nature of women.
What I'm against is th dysfunctional narrative that polygamy is bad. This narrative is what women want us to believe.

There are 4 major forms of marriage.
-Monogamy
-Polygamy
-Polyandry
-Polygamy.

Of all these forms of marriage, women only wish to practice monogamy because it guarantees their survival whereas men would opt for Polygamy because that's where they may find solace in this concept of marriage.

Ishilove, you are not my target audience. Just read and swipe.
This is the MALE AWAKENING.
SHALOM

kayperry:



You forgot to tag ishilove, cococandy, pocohantas

no peace for the wicked not even in shiloh

Pocahontas seems genuinely nice. That does not mean that she will/cannot manipulate anyone in her life.

Iyajelili:

No, it is geared at hating women and it is so sad seeing almost all men on this thread blaming women for everything wrong in a marriage whereas there are women genuinely being maltreated, disrespected and trampled on by their husbands.

This is because men don't complain. Women are always the once complaining and taking sides.

If my messages are not sweet to you, that's because I'm telling you the truth. The truth is always bitter.

PLEASE NOTE THAT MY MESSAGES ARE NOT MISOGYNISTIC. BUT IF YOU TAKE IT THAT WAY, THEN ITS FINE.
WHATEVER MAKES YOU SLEEP WELL AT NIGHT.

vickydevoka:

The moment you know your position as a father, the better for you. Most men just wanna be husband n not a father. A father is one who will alway there for his kids , a father is one who lead by example. The kind of man you are attracts the kinda woman who will end up with. Most men want to be living like a bachelor in marriage. No one should pressure you to marry, but when you decides to , please do it with a seriousness and be dedicated. I’m very ok at 32, Buh I don’t want to marry Bcus I know myself. I really want to enjoy my bachelor life , so by the time I gets into marriage I will fully dedicate myself and do away with a lot of things

My brother,

The reason why I always say that this present day marriage does not favour men is because of VALUE.
Now you may want to know what I mean by value. Value is the worth attached to something. Men do not marry a woman because she can provide. Men do not marry because a woman can protect. Men marry unconditionally. This is why men love unconditionally. This love is akin to the kind of Love Jesus has for us. It is an unconditional love. This is why a man can marry a poor, illiterate, village girl and bring her to the city and change her life and the life of her family forever without asking for anything in return.

On the other hand, women marry on the condition that you provide something. You provide, protect, lead etc. If you're unable to do these things, they will say "he is not yet matured for marriage"

Now as a man, as you age, your value as a marriage able man increases. On the other hand, as a woman ages, her value as a marriage able woman decreases.
This is why women hate polygamy. They know that when you are ready to practice polygamy, they will no longer be among those you will truly want. This is why they are against polygamy. People may argue that women can also decide to practice polyandry but it will not favour them because once they clock 50yrs their husband's will look for someone younger.

The only natural requirement for a man to get married according to nature is if he can impregnate a women. Women are the once attaching other things like provision, protection etc.

So ask yourself this question, why would you stick with one woman when your value increases. Why stay in such bondage. When women had the womanly value, they had several partners and that was when they think the whole world revolves around them. But when it's your turn to have the whole world around your finger tip, women would now want you to be monogamous.

The purest form of unconditional love you can ever get from a woman is that of your Mother. She is the only woman that can love you unconditionally and that is the kind of live men seek from their wives.

Do not come here to tell me I have sisters or a mother. I JUST WANT TO REMIND YOU THAT YOUR MOTHER IS YOUR FATHERS WIFE AND HENCE SHE WILL MANIPULATE HIM BUT SHE WILL LOVE YOU. YOUR SISTERS WILL MANIPULATE THEIR HUSBANDS BUT THEY WILL LOVE YOU.


SO THE TYPE OF MANIPULATION YOU WILL GET FROM WOMEN DEPENDS 100% ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM.

maestro299:
Marriage was created to protect women. Men (or at least the non-beta men) would go on fine without it. It still baffles me why 'feminists' are so hellbent on removing that protection for their gender.

Initially, marriage was solely made to be a union where the man is the head of that union and the woman is the body of the union. Human beings are social in nature that is why we always want to belong to one group or another. However, marriage has continually evolved into a weapon subtly used by women to gain control of men.

You want to sleep with a woman and she says "marry me first". What if you marry her today and after sleeping with her 2 or 3 times you divorce her. If women were in our shoes that's how they will treat us.

Women are transactional in nature. There is nothing they give you without expecting something in return. In contrast, they expect men to give them something without expecting anything in return.

Let me make you understand this, women complain that the can not go out on a date if the guy is not willing to spend. However, they don't understand that their pussy means to them what our money means to us.

In essence, they want you to freely part with your money while placing conditions on their body. This is wrong. Must a man spend money on a date with you?. Why not split the check on your dates.

This is why I talk about manipulation. Women want to manipulate men into doing their bidding. My advice to men is this, never be scared to negotiate from the onset. If you want sex from a girl, firmly make your intentions known.

A woman that does not want to sleep with you should also not spend your money. Otherwise what do we gain from it?. You loose money and you get no sex??.

Now women and SIMPs will attack me with the following

-Don't you have mothers or sisters?
-Everything you want is sex
- Must you sleep with a girl because you took her on a date etc

Please understand that women will try to do everything to make sex look like a bad thing so that once you mention sex, everyone thinks of you as a bad person.
My brothers please NEVER look at sex as a bad thing. The urge for sex is natural and its just like the urge for food, the urge to take a drink, the urge to use the restroom, the urge to sleep. It's all part of nature so you should embrace it. Don't feel ashamed to ask for what you want.

Shalom

MissOpe:


Marriage is designed to control
Religion is designed to control
Government is designed to control
This and that are designed to control..

In your sincere opinion, how should men live and exist without all these forms of control, knowing fully well that the heart of an average man lies in evil and other forms of vices?

Men should learn to live their lives FREELY AND WITHOUT ANY FORM OF COMFORMITY.

In marriage, men want to be polygamous. The problem of the black race is that we accept every form of indoctrination from the white man.

Let me Enlighten you. Do you know our customs are superior to test of the white man?. Do you know that the ancient form of democracy practiced in Eastern Nigeria is superior to the type of democracy brought to us by the white man. Do you know that our marriages and family values are better than the white man's own?.

We just want to imitate the white man and throw away our own values.

When feminism began in the 19th century in America, it was designed to liberate women from societal operation. This means that the society was responsible for oppressing women. This struggle led to the Civil rights acts.


I will talk more about this later.
Shalom

simplesearch:



Very useless advice none should listen to or accept. In life You always get your complementary half, meaning you can't be deceitful, promiscuous, cunning, and expect to get the opposite by chance if such does exist. There are women who will choose never to get marry again after the death of their husband. There are also many who serves as breadwinner for their homes when the going became tough for the man without blowing a trumpet. If you get marry to an ex-hooker, bisexual, serial fornicator or even a leabian or a godless fellow and except to have a good and sincere partner; you're joikng.

You are trying to sound politically correct so that the ladies on this forum will term you "Mature man or Real Man".

My message is not geared at hating women. It is rather to open your mind to understand the nature of women and how they reason.

You see, the world is a place where the fittest survive. If you are not fit, you wount survive. Fitness in today's world is not by physical strength just like it was in the old. Fitness is your ability to scale through life's problem.

Women are weak. Left to their own strength and reasoning the world would never have developed. So they understand that to live and survive against the predators of life, they have to manipulate the people (men) who hold the real power to do their bidding. Now they know that the male ego is our downfall, so they try to either pet your ego or destroy your ego as the case may be.

Here is how the male ego affects you as a man
-Baby I want you to last in bed for 5hours.
-You are not strong
-You are not a real man or a mature man.
- You are broke

No man wants to last for 5hrs in bed. Infact men just want to climb, cum and dismount. All we want during sex is just that 15secs orgasm.

When a girl says you are not strong, she wants you to do something she is physically incapable of doing.

You are not a real man or mature man means she wants something that is emotionally okay but reasonably not okay. Women work with emotions.

You are broke means that even though she knows she is broke and that she comes from a broke home, she still wants you to spend the money her entire family are incapable of spending.

A man can get married to a woman and for 40years of marriage she was a full time house wife. A woman cannot feed you for a month without grumbling.

Now, the relationship you have with a woman determines how she will treat you.

YOUR MOTHER IS A DIFFERENT PERSON TO YOU AND SHE IS ALSO A DIFFERENT PERSON TO YOUR FATHER. THIS IS WHY SHE TREATS YOU DIFFERENTLY AND TREATS YOUR FATHER DIFFERENTLY.

MY WRITE UP IS FOR THE OTHER WOMEN IN YOUR LIFE APART FROM YOUR MOTHER OR SISTERS. REMEBER, TO YOUR MALE INLAWS, YOUR SISTERS ARE THE SAME THING YOUR WIFE IS TO YOU.

Shalom

vickydevoka:

So you also think the same for your parents. My mama lazy, she self know. Na my papa be number 1

I am speaking to you as an individual. If your dad was/is a good man, you will still love him whether he is married to your mum or not.

Every woman's gift is conditional and sentimental. Here is an analogy of a sentimental gift from women(Your mum)

" You return home from school and ask your father for 10,000 to buy a text book at school. He will ask you what textbook you want to buy and you may have probably inflated the amount for the textbook. At night, your father stays awake thinking of how he will give you his last 10k for school. Tomorrow morning he calls you and gives you 7k. He give 2k to your mum for food before going to work and he is left with Just 1k. Now he has to pay transport or fuel his car, he has to also buy something to eat from that same 1k.
Now you go back to your room feeling sad that your dad did not give you the complete money. While you are grumbling, your mum squeezes 3k into your hand and tells you 'don't mind your father, he is a stingy man' and immediately you collect the money from her, you feel better and begin to smile and your emotions surpasses your reasoning. You are angry at someone (your dad) who gave you 7k but you are happy with someone who gave you 3k". WOMEN ATTACH SENTIMENTS TO THEIR GIFTS.

Do not misinterpret my message for being misogynistic. I'm just trying to open your mind to properly understand the world and how women think.

Shalom

Marriage is the most critically crafted institution that is designed to control the behaviour of humans and ensure the controlled existence of mankind.

Please note that I used the word "control" in order to truly explain the nature of marriage. This is because, there is nothing you can achieve within Marriage that cannot be achieved outside of marriage for men.
Just name one thing you can achieve within the confines of marriage that you cannot achieve outside marriage.

Animals don't get married but yet they sustain the existence of their species.

Every factor that made you as a man go into marriage will become irrelevant after one year of marriage.

Now if you are saddled with this fact as a man, why don't you make marriage transactional just as women do?.

Don't settle for less. You're a MAN for goodness sake. Don't date or marry any girl who is poor or from a poor background. Any day the marriage stops serving your purpose please LEAVE because your wife will leave you any day you stop serving her purpose. Your children no matter their age will understand once they get older.

This is why women love marriage.
1) If she gets married at 25 years of age, she is sure that all things being equal, you as a man will provide for her until she gets to 55years of age. By that time, she must have had an adult who will continue where you stop.

2) By 55years of age, your children will begin to think that their mother was the ONLY parent that suffered to raise them. They forget all the hardwork, insults and humiliation you had to endure to provide.

3) She secures a guardian, protector, companion, sexual exclusivity etc all to your own detriment.

Finally, don't be decieved about marriage as a man. It is a money-milking institution designed to ensure women survive this harsh world. DONT LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR THE SURVIVAL OF WOMEN, LIVE FREE AND LIVE WELL.

Shalom

You are a good man.

Your baby mama is on survival mode. She sees herself as a second mother to her siblings. In all sincerity, she also wants her siblings to survive.

But she is a very wicked and selfish person. She doesn't love you. You're just a means to an end. She will kill you prematurely. You will be stagnant for the remaining part of your life.

Do you understand what she is asking you to do?. She is asking you to carter for 7 people in this harsh economy. You owe a duty to your daughter, she I the only person you're obligated by nature to provide for. Not even your baby mama shares this obligation.

It is hard, but I tell you to avoid that girl. She sees you as a means of survival. If she gets someone else tomorrow that accepts to accommodate her siblings, she would not think twice before dumping you.

I will leave you with this words " DO NOT SAY YOU CANNOT STOOP SO LOW BECAUSE YOUR MEANS OF SURVIVAL HAS NOT BEEN THREATENED".

Her means of survival (which is you) is threatened and hence her actions.

In life, nobody has the right to tell another person how to react when they are hurt.

Every reaction is justified. You don't flog a child and tell him not to cry.

To the video, the guy reacted well. He took all he gifted the girl during the relationship. The girl should also go to the boys house and collect everything she bought for him.

When a guy buys you something as his girlfriend, he is doing so because he wants you enjoy a certain bit of comfort that comes with being his gf. When the relationship is over, you have an obligation to return every comfort material which was given to you during the relationship. That's how people with sense will behave.

DJ cuppy once dated a guy who bought her a G-wagon. When they broke up, she drove to the guys place and returned his gift. That's how it should be done.

When a woman wants to manipulate you, they say you're just a "boy" or you're not a "real man".

Most women in this comment are saying the guy is just a boy, but if the relationship was still going on and he was still spending his hard earned money on you, he will ce called a real man.

Men don't be decieved. Once relationship ends, collect what you have given so that she will go back to how she was before she met you. You cannot resign from a job and still flex the company car.

Refuse to be manipulated.

God said men should provide for their families. He never said men should provide LUXURY for their families.

The lady in the video has a very shallow mentality. Marriage is not a poverty alleviation program. Marriage is the Union of two people and not the union of one rich person and one poor person.

Men should understand that you were not created to drag any woman out of poverty. A woman is a support system to a man. So if she thinks 250k is enough to run her dream household, then it's fine. Once the man provides 150k, she should be ready to support the man with the remaining 100k.

I hate people setting standards they cannot match. A man is not earning money so that he can sort out your wants because you're his wife. What if the man now says, because you are not beautiful, I will not provide protection to you. Anyday armed robbers visit us, you are on your own and I'm on my own. If I get the chance to run, I wouldn't care looking back.

Women don't even understand that part of the reason why they are safe in this world is because of the perceived male presence. A woman misbehaves outside and you overlook it because you don't know who her husband is.

Men should raise the bar. Don't marry any poor girl. Let the poor marry the poor. If as a man you earn 100k per month, look for a woman that earns at least 80k and marry. Avoid all these girls living their lives based on survival.

Shalom

We are prisoners of our own identities living in prisons of our own creation. < Theodore "T-Bag" Bagwell >.

Your wife is actually playing a psychological game with your head. It's a subtle threat and a way she is trying to keep you in check. She is just reminding you of the consequences of you cheating on her.

Now, marriage does not make a man monogamous. In fact, when you get married, that's when you begin to see more handsome/beautiful people.

According to the quote by T-bag above, marriage is a prison you have created out of your own FREE will. The only solution to having more than one sexual partner in a defined relationship such as marriage is discipline.

This brings us to the concept of human frailty. Human frailty is a concept that largely explains what many people term CHEATING. Let me explain what human frailty is as it concerns morality. Human frailty can simply be termed HUMAN WEAKNESS. Everyone has a weakness. Some people lie because they are scared of the consequences of telling the truth, some people are selfish, some people are kleptomaniac, some people have pride, some people are gluttonous etc. This is human weakness.

Now one of the aspects of male frailty is that men tend to want more than one sexual partner. There is nothing wrong with this because everyone in the world is fighting one form of frailty or another. This now brings us to the question " Do women not also want more than one sexual partner?"

Everyone wants more than one sexual partner but men have been discovered to be much more open about their desire to bed more than one woman.
Women on the other hand have mastered the act of keeping this desire VERY VERY VERY SECRET. In fact, a woman would prefer for the ground to open and swallow her up than for her to express the need to be bedded by more than one man because the consequences will be greater on her.

To further explain this, I will tell a short story. During my NYSC orientation camp, a certain son of a big man was caught openly sniffing Co.ccain at our Mami market. Nothing was done to him, however the son of a poor man was caught smoking Marijuana and he was de-camped. This story explains the concept of CONSEQUENCES as it concerns cheating to both a man and a woman in defined relationship.

My advice to people is not to judge others for their frailty. A man may cheat out of human frailty. Understand that because someone does not engage in the same type of sin as you does not mean you're better than him/her.


Finally, before you leave your husband because he cheated, sincerely answer this question. If you are taken to Mars and kept in the same room with a guy/lady whom you find sexually attractive, will you or will you not sleep with him/her provided that NO ONE on the face of the earth will ever find out and provided that you take a drug that completely shuts down your conscience.


Shalom

Women love money. Who doesn't??

But the bad thing about women loving money is that they love when they get the money free without working for it.

Now, there are five steps to dependency according to Robert Luton in his book toxic charity. These steps include the following:
1) Appreciation
2) Anticipation
3) Expectation
4) Entitlement
5) Dependency

If you give something to someone the first-time they will appreciate it. If you give that same thing to the same person a second time they will anticipate that if they ask the third time you will still give them. If you give them the third time they will be expecting it. By the fourth time, they will have a sense of entitlement and by the fifth time, they will be dependent on you for that same thing.

Now according to the post by the OP, this girlfriend has reached the stage of dependency and hence she thinks it's HER RIGHT to always get the 300k monthly irrespective of the fact that the guy has lost his job. This is why she wants to break up with him. This explains the fact why Children or a spouse taken oversees is termed a DEPENDENT.

Now why does a girlfriend even deserve to be given 300k in the first place?.
If a guy is friends with another guy who earns 4500 dollars per month, the natural instincts of this said friend is to appeal that he is taught the necessary skills so that he too can earn that amount. But a girl will just sit at home and expect 300k at the end of the month simply because she is a girlfriend.

We all know that a woman cannot manipulate her fellow woman this way and this is why I emphasize that guys should always be aware of this devilish manipulation.

The right thing for this guy to do at this moment is to cut her loose. If he gets honey, he should pay a hooker.

Brothers, never part with your hard earned money no matter the guise of the manipulation.

Shalom

The white man came to our land and things became increasing difficult especially when it concerns our tradition, value system and culture.

Before contact with Europeans, most cultures in Africa had a system of ensuring that girls get married on time. That system is what we call "Being betrothed " to your future husband.

When a female child is born, she is betrothed to the son of the Father's friend such that as soon as she is ripe for marriage, the necessary things are done.

I'm not trying to say that system can work in today's world because of the complexity of our society. What I'm trying to say is that women of those times understood the value of being submissive to the leadership of their husband's. There was no dick measuring between men and women at that time.

These days, women think they can live their lives as they want and when they are 30 and above, they will look for a responsible man to marry as a means of pension or gratuity.

95 percent of women above 35 may never be properly married again. So what they do is to get pregnant out of wedlock and birth one or two children and then the place the tag "Single mother" to their names.

These acts are responsible for the decadence we have in our society today. Armed robber, prostitutes, runs girls etc.

In the United States, about 65-75% of children who were raised by their single mothers went to jail for one crime or another. On the contrary, above 85% of children who were raised by their father NEVER went to jail.

Men, always try to marry descent girls. If you stay in Lagos, Abuja, PH or any developed city and you want to get married, please locate a relatively reserved state where values are still maintained and Marry a SUBMISSIVE WOMAN.

Happy sunday Fellas.

3nity7:
guy take am easy, you came through a woman, she feed you, cared for you, protected you with her very life. And don't forget your sisters too, you don't want some one to chose saving a snake over them when they are in danger.

Perception is everything. Everything your mother does/did for you is for your own survival, everything your gf/wife does for you is for her own survival.
Try to understand that you mean different things to different people. To some people you are their father, to others you are their son, brother, uncle etc.

I'm not against the generality of women, I'm only here to ensure that they don't manipulate you. Why do you think women are concerned if their mother-in-law likes them or not?. Have you heard about women complaining about their father-in-law??. This is because Eve cannot manipulate Eve.

Your mother knows what women are capable of and that's why she is concerned about the kind of woman her son marries. Your father is never concerned about the type of woman you marry.

Let me make this clear, your mother or sisters do not belong to the category of women who MAY likely want to manipulate you. In fact, the best protection you have against your gf/wife are your mother and sister.

Monkey no fine, but him mama like am. If you like be an slowpoke, be autistic, be blind, be lame, be deaf, be dumb, be illiterate, be poor as a church rat, your mother will never abandon you. But it takes the grace of God for a girl to like you if you have the above.

The world is a cruel place, women try to make their negativity look like positivity. Let me paint you a scenario, Do you know that verbal abuse is more dangerous than physical abuse??

Because woman verbally abuse men, they really see nothing wrong with it. But when a man physically abuses a woman, all hell is Let loose. Now people will tell you that when a woman slaps you, you should just walk away. But I'm telling you today, when a woman slaps you, invoke amadioha with your right hand and give her a deafening slap. NO ONE HAS MONOPOLY OVER VIOLENCE.

Some people will come and say a real man does not touch a woman, but let me ask, should a real woman touch a man or verbally abuse him?

Brother, I'm not asking you to be misogynistic, all I'm telling you is to know how women think and be ready to counter them at any given time.

N/B: I DONT SUPPORT VIOLENCE.

Shalom.

DonroxyII:
Wickedness Loading in the Alpharic-Redpilling Post ... You have been so Hurted & Wounded ...

Men are the Maintaners of Women

Men are to Date Not Boys ...

The Difference between a Man and a Boy is Simply "Maturities" ....

Don't do Pass Your Self But as an African Man, It's Your Job to Take Good Care of Yourself & Good Care of Your Woman Vice Versa !

If you are a man, women have succeeded in brainwashing you that the difference between a man and a boy is maturity. That concept is flawed. That is what I call manipulation. When women want you to behave in a certain way that meets their needs, they tell you, you are not matured. See eh, these rules women make are because they don't like you. If a woman likes you, all these maturity rules will be dumped in the trash.

Have you noticed that when you are horney, your judgement about women becomes flawed?. This is why women are against healthy mastur.bation. This is why a wife will deny her husband sex and will report the same husband to his family if she sees him mastur.bating. This is why prostitutes request for their money even before you touch them. They know that once you cum, you realise that they ain't even worth the stress.

Women are masters in manipulation. Why can't men learn that act of manipulation too. Let me tell you a secret. If you like a girl, and you know there is a high possibility of you simping when you meet her, just invite her to a date. Before you leave your house to the date, master bate and empty your balls. You will realise that you are more confident, you may even end up canceling the date because it's too much stress.

Now ask yourself this question, why do women hate having another woman as their boss?. This is because Eve knows what Eve knows. They know they cannot manipulate their fellow women.

If you see a woman and a snake, kill the woman first before killing the snake.

No it doesn't

Infact desist from being manipulated by women. If you like, make your dick be like yam, you can never fill a woman up. A place that a full grown baby with big head pops out from, that's the same place you want to fill with you 8 inches dick??

I say this again, desist from being manipulated by women. Don't try to satisfy her. It's one of their acts of manipulation. They tell you that real men satisfy their woman. Sex is ot a do or die affair. Climb her, release your poison and step down. If it takes you more than 5 mins to be done, then something is wrong. Have you seen a lioness or goat or dog or any animal complain that they are not satisfied?? Na only women dey complain. If women want satisfaction, they should go and buy electro ic dil.do.

As a man, climb, pour, come down and go about your normal business. Don't spend more than 5 mins there.

Women get Hot and attracted to men the same way men get attracted to women.

You see, Nature has made it in such a way that they are able to bottle these feelings. If this is not the case, women would have been extinct a long time ago. Life has made it in such a way that we are attracted to things we can't easily get and once we get them, we begin to look for other things we don't have. This is the idea behind men being polygamous.

So don't apologize for being polygamous. Women want a wealthy man all to themselves but they don mind sharing a broke guy with other women.

Here is an experiment, women get hurt when a rich guy cheats on them than when a poor guy cheats on them.

Rich guys=Extremely beautiful women
Poor guys= Ugly girls

The good thing is that there are very few poor guys. Infact, men control 99.9% of the wealth in the world.

Do a mental exercise. Picture all the women you know, and Check how many of them you think are richer than you apart from the wealth they get from their husband and boyfriends.

In summary, everybody gets attracted to the opposite sex. The difference is that men are expressive when they find you attractive.

As a man, don't be decieved that looks don't matter for a man. Human beings are a creature of beauty. This concept is what bad boys understand and good guys don't understand. Bad boys exhibit that sexual vibe that attracts women like magic.

It's the same concept women use to get the attention of men. A woman wears a skimpy gown and she acts surprised if she is sexualized?. Her major aim of dressing that way was to attract your attention. Women understand the value of beauty and this is why they go under the knife to enhance their body. You as a man, what is stopping you from spending the money you make to enhance your own beauty?
Infact it is cheaper to bed a woman if she is sexually attracted to you than if you spend money on her.

Here is how it works, as a man or boy (there is no difference), spend money on yourself, go to the best barbing salons, buy clothes that fit you. Buy clothes that sexualizes you in a male sense. Eat good food. Use good cologne so that you smell nice. Once you look well taken care of and with a little bit of arrogance, women will flock around you. Remember no one is ugly. Money is the filter for ugliness. Stop chasing women online because you cannot predict if she likes you or not. Chase women physically, because you can read if she like you or not. Women don't usually get the attention they crave for physically and that is why they live their lives on social media. That's why they pose and take sexually revealing pictures in order to get their attention. Infact, if you physically see and talk to some of these girls you see online, you will realise that they ain't even worth your time.

Lastly, don't spend on women. Spend on yourself and women will come to you. Women understand the secret of investing in their physical looks to attract men and men should also understand this secret too.

As a man, a woman is something you acquire. How can you be below someone you can easily survive without. You are stronger, richer and better. Why would you bother about someone who is weaker, poorer and less in value than you??

Men Invest in yourself!!!!

Men are naturally polygamous. Remove religion that tends to bend the natural will of human beings. We all know that women love men who are capable of providing for them. In the same vain, men love to have a variety of women.

Women's weakness is wealth
Men's weakness is multiple sexual partners.

As a man, never subdue your sexual urge. If a broke man does not deserve any woman, when such a man becomes rich, he does not also deserve monogamy.

The greatest power women have is not pussy, it's their ability to manipulate men. Once you refuse to be manipulated by women, they say you are not a REAL MAN.

Be it known today that a real man is a HAPPY MAN. If monogamy makes you sad, please try polygamy. You owe no one explanation of your life choices.

The below words are the worst form of manipulation women use on men.
-A real man
-A mature man

Don't ever be fooled by these words. When women want you to behave a certain way, they bring up that real or mature man shit. A REAL MAN IS A HAPPY MAN. Infact, the idea of getting a woman is this " I have built a certain level of comfort, come and share in it". This does not in anyway give her authority over the COMFORT you have built. My phone, my car, my gifts are a way of making sure I ENJOY the comfort I have built. In the real sense, a woman is a kind of comfort you acquire. So if this comfort no longer serves my purpose as a man, I will collect EVERYTHING I HAVE GIVEN YOU.
Just so you know the kind of people women are, THEY ARE READY TO DEAL WITH THEIR FATHER'S POVERTY, BUT CANT DEAL WITH THEIR BOYFRIEND/HUSBANDS POVERTY.

People don't understand that to men, giving a lady money whatsoever is a form of investment. If A man takes you to a restaurant for food, or sends you money or does any form of monetary favour for a woman, he has invested in that woman. And just like every investment, you expect your reward. For the women crying foul here, why not advice women to reject every form of monetary assistance offered by men. If a man asks for a date, then the lady should pay her own transport and pay for whatever she eats at the restaurant so that she will have the moral ground to refuse such a man when he makes sexual advances. You can't expect a man to spend on you and gain nothing no matter how you try to spin it.
Refuse a man's money and you have the right to refuse his sexual advances. Accept a man's money and accept his sexual advances.

I don't understand why people hate this girl. So because Hilda did hers she should not attempt her own Cook-A-thon. Overtaking is allowed. She owes no one no explanation. So if my neighbor bought a car yesterday and I decide to buy a car today then it means I'm a copy cat. Let's just wait for GWR to recognize her. She had the courage most of the people castigatting her don't have. Some of them are even scared of "what the world would say" and hence they can not try any challenge in Life.

Chef Dammy, even if the world rejects you, be proud that you did something great. It's not easy to cook for 120hrs.

Letsmeet:
Please everyone, what's your opinion on this?
Is it wise to date a young lady from a divorced home?
If She is very nice, quiet, respectful, the most understanding person in the world, doesn't even quarrel. Has a good job and many other good qualities.
But if her parents are divorced, and live in the same area, and she lives with both of them.
What is the likelihood of her divorcing in future? Anyone with similar experiences please?

Divorce is a very bad thing to occur in a family. Divorce has both physical and mental effects on the children. You have to understand that the motive for Divorce is different between Man and woman.

For instance, if the girls mother initiated the divorce, she has automatically shown her female children that once the marriage is uncomfortable, there is a way out. Furthermore, she has unintentionally shown her male children that women do not marry for love, rather marriage is transactional for women. It means that the day you stop "being a man" irrespective of the reason (poor health, job loss, bad business transaction etc) your wife will Divorce you.

Men hardly initiate Divorce. Women always think that there is something perfect outside their matrimonial home.
Women from divorced families no matter how good their qualities are, know only two things;
1) SURVIVAL
2) DIVORCE IS THE WAY OUT FROM MARITAL PROBLEMS.

Please in all you do, avoid such girls.

N/B : The only reason I support Divorce is in the case of domestic violence. No union is worth your life.

hotwax:
For the past years, our workspace has been witnessing high rate of career growth of our female counterparts, especially young girls. We guys feel so dejected and demoralized whenever promotion list is published.

It is a norm that ladies who don’t do anything at the office, those who don’t work get promoted while guys work like donkeys. This has made us lose many of our talents to our competitors.

You see female IT students squaring up to fight a Manager, threatening a Manager. We had a case where a Manager was summoned and warned to desist from correcting a particular female industrial attaché. He was told point blank that he would lose his job. When its time for promotion, ladies (both married and single) wear skimpy skirt to the office, expose cleavages e.t.c.

Late last year, we had management shakeup, the new management is dominated by women. Our MD is a woman. This has changed things significantly. They published promotion list last month, men dominated it. I got promoted too.

Things have now changed. Suddenly ladies are courteous and respectful. Office spaces is now always full to the brim. Our female folks are now working seriously. They are now nice. They are learning some processes they care not to learn before. They don’t use to work, now, they are learning the Hardaway.

In those past years, I lost respect for women in offices especially those career miniskirt ladies working in offices. I used to wonder who they fcked to get to where they are.

Women actually prefer to work under men than under their fellow women. This is because, it is easy for Eve to manipulate Adam but Eve cannot manipulate Eve. Let me explain something here, when it comes to anything that has to do with sex, romance or boy/girl relationship, women are naturally ahead of men. They are able to sell sex even without actually sleeping with you. The are subtle, devious and manipulative. Men hold the power to everything in this world, so women through sex will always try to manipulate men to directly or indirectly do their bidding.
We see women as helpless, but in reality they can actually do most things we think they cannot do. Their act of helplessness is actually a camouflage for them to survive in this world. For instance, if a man is traveling on a high way and his tire gets punctured and he comes down from the vehicle to fix it, you will notice that other road users will continue driving without anyone stopping to offer a helping hand. In contrast, if a woman's tire gets punctured while driving, once she stops the car and steps down you will see that other road users who are men will automatically swerve out of the road and offer her a helping hand because she will feign helplessness. Notice that if this happens, road users who are women would not bother stopping to help their fellow woman, its always the men.

This is why I always advice people, never be fooled by women. They understand the power of manipulation. All their lives, they employ this power subtly such that you cannot detect what they are doing.

In marriage, if your wife denies you sex, SIMPs will advice you to " seat her down and have a heart to heart conversation with her, help her out with domestic work and blah blah blah". But if a husband denies his wife manly protection or provision, nobody will talk about " seat him down and have a heart to heart conversation with him, help him out in his business or try to understand what's wrong".

In the end, we all know what we are doing.

CuriousMind2022:
It's a known fact that most Nigerian girls marry who they consider ready for marriage and not necessarily who they love. I am exactly in that dilemma and the question I am asking myself is whether I should continue in this loveless marriage or slowly drift and walk away.

My marriage is barely 2 years and a few months, but it has been a rough journey for me. Things I never envisaged I would experience in my marriage, I have suffered, from utmost disrespect to verbal abuse.

I came to the conclusion that she doesn't love or care about me based on what happened yesterday. I was recently transferred from my base to a new location and because of that, I would only be able to visit weekends or twice a month. Prior to that, we barely had sex once a week.

We had already had sex the normal once we usually had it (Saturday morning), but I wanted more because I will only be coming back after two weeks. I initiated a move on Sunday morning, she declined because she was thinking of preparing food for our baby before we leave for church. We went to church and came back, and as usual, my wife was in her undies (just panties and bra) in the sitting room (This was what she wore throughout that Sunday).

I watched her walk around the house in that and that even turned me on the more. I am a practicing Christian, and I try not to look after other women lustfully, but common this is my wife, even God sanctions that. After being turned on throughout the day, I went to my wife in the night, (note she slept in the sitting room with our baby leaving me alone in the room) to enjoy my conjugal rights with her, but she gave me excuses that she is upset and not in the mood.

I left and went back, seriously konjified, I managed to sleep. The next morning, I woke up with my urges and went to the sitting room to have my morning devotion, but I could barely concentrate because I was still very Hot. I explained to her that so really wants me to go to my new station like this knowing fully well I will not be coming back until 2 weeks time. This woman did not care!

I took my bath, prepared myself, and set out for my office. I was not happy with her but I kept my cool and left for work. She had demanded that I dropped some money for her before leaving and despite the fact that I was not happy with her, I dropped the money in a conspicuous place where I know she will see it before leaving. This was my own way of saying I am not happy with what you did, but I still cared.

I try to do things I usually do for my wife even when I am angry with her. This is my own way of saying I may be angry with you, but I still cared about you and I am open to a resolution. On the other hand, my wife doesn't care what happens to me when she is upset. She immediately stops cooking for me ad any other thing she does for me when she is upset. It is obvious to me now that to my wife I don't really matter in the grand scheme of things. She is only caring and concerned, when she is not angry (when we are good and we don't have any issues). I believe that when you love somebody, you treat them right and show genuine love and care for them even when you're upset with them. This is what I have constantly shown to my wife in our 2+ years of marriage.

Back to my story of what happened weekend/Monday. My wife never bothered to call me to check if I arrived safely since I left the house yesterday. I even called her once (primarily to check on my daughter), but she didn't pick up and she didn't call back, and up till now, we have not spoken.

She obviously does not care whether I arrived safely in my station or not. In this country of insecurities, a family member of yours will travel and you do not care whether he/she arrived safely, that is the height for me, and in the actual sense, I should be the one upset here because she left me high and dry, despite knowing fully well I am very Hot.

I am a family-oriented person, I have always dreamt of having a peaceful, loving, and Godly home but unfortunately, the reverse is the case for my wife. I began to understand why family background is very important in a person's life, after getting married. My wife is from a family where they place little or no value on marriage. Her mother had children with 2 men, and my wife is obviously working very hard to follow that same path. She shows little or no enthusiasm in making our marriage work. I am always the one to initiate moves to resolve issues when we quarrel, whether I am right or wrong, I do not care, my focus is just on making my marriage work and my home peaceful.

This last episode shook me very hard, and I have been asking myself whether I want to continue in this loveless marriage or opt out. Working and living in a different city will even make it easier for me.

I needed to let my thoughts out and thanks to Nairaland, I have done so.

Here is my advice for you.

Women know men love sex and armed with this fact, they will do everything within their power to weaponize sex. Do you think you wife does not know what she was doing when she wore only her undies and was walking around the house She knows perfectly well what she was doing.

Let me teach you something about human beings. Our senses do not function optimally when we are in need to quench our biological thirst. For instance, if you are hungry, you make bad choices when looking for something to eat. If you are thirsty, you make bad choices when looking for something to drink. In the same vain, people tend to be loyal to people who can feed them, or quench their thirst or cure their urge for sex. Your wife is banking on the fact that she can cure your urge for sex and therefore she weaponize's it. The day you are able to feed yourself, or quench your thirst or satisfy your urge without depending on the person/people you formerly depended on is the day you enjoy true freedom.

Don't be scared, your marriage will not end badly. Look for a girl to satisfy your urge or better still, in order to save yourself the stress of having to woo a sidechick, just engage in "pay as you go". When ever you are Hot, get a runs girl and satisfy yourself. Since your wife is denying you one of the most important things in your life, please deny her all the most important things in her life. Reduce the money you give her to 20% of the original amount. Reduce the affection you show her. Smile when handling your phone for no just reason. Go out more in the evenings. Improve on your personal hygiene.

Remember this even if you forget everything I have said above " YOU ARE LIVING OUT YOUR LIFE TIME THE SAME TIME YOUR WIFE IS LIVING OUT HER LIFETIME. DON'T EVER PLACE YOUR HAPPINESS ON ANY WOMAN.

YOUR TRUE LOVE IS YOUR MOTHER BECAUSE EVERYTHING YOUR MOTHER DOES FOR YOU IS FOR YOUR OWN SURVIVAL, AND EVERYTHING YOUR WIFE DOES FOR YOU IS FOR HER OWN SURVIVAL.

The day you are unable to provide whatever you're providing for her is the day the marriage will end. You married a woman who sees marriage as transactional. Deal with it.

IN THIS GAME OF LOVE, WOMAN ARE NATURALLY MORE INTELLIGENT THAN MEN. BUT ONCE YOU TREAT HER THE SAME WAY SHE TREATS YOU, SHE BECOMES SUBMISSIVE.

Find out what your wife loves best and deny her from having it. If your wife is the type that is very happy when you help her out on domestic work, please stop doing it. If she loves money, please stop giving her money. If she loves attention, please stop giving her attention. Whatever she loves, please stop doing it for her. And always have a smilling/happy face.

Treat her exactly as she treats you.

SenecaTheYonger:


Make her feel young, take her on dates, cook for her sometimes, tell her to rest while you take care of the kids. She’ll be more happy to have sex when she feels pampered. After having sex, take some chores from her on that day or the next, that way you’re training her mind that when she gives you sex, you’ll take some chores from her. She’ll be more inclined.


I swear some of you only get married so you can turn your wife to sex machine.

Bad advice. This will make her weaponize sex. Op pls don't follow this advice. You can help your wife out without demanding sex from her. Infact, help her do some house chores happily in the morning, then during the evenings please go out and satisfy your urge and come home with a smiling face. Reduce the attention you give her, reduce the money you give her. Smile while chatting with your phone for no reason. Become picky with her food. Invest more time with your children. Spend more of your free evenings outside the house. Don't ever give her slightest reason to see you as a sad man or to know that her denying you sex is affecting you. Be happy going to work. Begin to dress well. Buy a new cologne, cut your hair every two weeks. You don't need to buy new cloths, just make sure your current cloths are always neat and sparkling. Do this consecutively for 5 months. Your wife will get the message that her position in your house is greatly threatened. She will adjust. There is power in action. Forget too much talk and take charge of your life.

Nation1:
Hello people,

Am married for 6 years with two kids. Some months ago, my wife started denying sex so much that we hardly have 2 times in a month. Because of this, I no longer disturb her this days cos it's better to let her be than to be rejected since most times I expected her to say no or give an excuse or the other which am always about 90 percent right about.

This days, I don't feel attracted to her sexually anymore. I have never cheated on her but this days, the thought of doing so is gradually creeping in. Have tried talking to her about this but no change. I don't want to start what extra marital affair but am tempted to.

I need your advise guys.

Please look for another woman to satisfy your urge. Don't follow the advice of "seat her down and have a heart to heart conversation with her". If you do this, she will weaponize the sex even more. Reduce the attention you give her. Reduce the money you give her. Do all these with a smiling face. You are living out your life time the same way she is living out her lifetime. Do not let anyone deny you of something you can provide for yourself all the name of marriage.

In the immortal words of Theodore "T-Bag" Bagwell, " We are prisoners of our own identities, living in prisons of our creation."

Marriage is a prison of your own creation.