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neyobills:
The mentality of your likes about single mothers is surprising to me,single mothers are people with flesh and blood like you,they might have made mistakes,everyone does,however their kids are also blessings in the disguise if properly nurtured,that single mother you are saying is equivalent to a lunatic yen yen yen might be the mother of a Nobel prize winner or a billionaire tomorrow,there are lots of single mothers I know doing very well financially that they might not even care to get married again afterall they have kids already just get a toy boy to play and enjoy life.

Children should be birthed within the confines of marriage. Stop advocating for rubbish. I'm not attacking the single mothers themselves. I'm only against the act of birthing children outside marriage. ERROR HAS NO RIGHT, BUT THE MAN/WOMAN IN ERROR HAS SOME RIGHT.

With this your mentality, young girls will feel that birthing children outside marriage is good.

Stop premarital sex. Stop accepting money or financial aid from men. Stay stay chaste until you get married.

A large majority of the dysfunctional people you see today lack the presence of either parents while growing up.

If you like, encourage your sister's or daughters to become single mothers and then tell them that the kids may likely become noble prize winners tomorrow.

Jovialjune1:
I wish this type of proposal for your daughter, that is, when she's 29 and a single mother, so that you can preach to her to be grateful because she is valueless.

Victim mentality.
Tell me what is good and honorable in being a single mother(except a widow). When you hoe around during your prime, you expect a man who has worked his ass off to come and marry you as a single mother. What happened to marrying the father of your child?.

A single mother is equivalent to mentally retarded broke man. The same way you view such men is the same way men view single mothers.

Avoid premarital sex, avoid collecting any form of material or financial help from a man. That way you will be young and pure and men cannot give such conditions as stated by the OP.

Women should understand that their value decreases as they age. Men seek to marry valuable women. A 29 year old single mother should be grateful to get this kind of deal. If roles were reversed, women would not settle for a low value man.

Men should begin to view marriage as transactional. Women view marriage are transactional.
That being said, Functional families should strive to raise high value kids.

Shalom

People often think that the Red Pill 💊 is designed to maltreat women. That is absolutely wrong. The real definition of Red pill 💊 is "WHEN DEALING WITH A WOMAN, ACT LIKE A MAN BUT THINK LIKE A WOMAN"

Shalom

There is nothing wrong with that apartment whatsoever. I will give you reasons.

An apartment like this in Lekki or VI will cost around 1.5m

The same 1.5M can get you a well furnished 3 bedroom flat in Ajah, or the Mainland.

Now, that same 1.5M can pay your rent for 5years in more than 25 states in Nigeria.

Also, most people living abroad rent places like this and they pay so much money.

Kings, never be discouraged or feel bad when women try to broke shame you. Why will you feel bad when someone is broke shaming you for the same thing they are incapable of providing for themselves?


After Social media/Nairaland forum, we all go back to face our realities.

Shalom.

Women have the ability to coin words and phrases that is capable of manipulating the male ego. Most of their words and phrases have entirely different meaning.

According to women, A God fearing man is a financially stable man who practices sexual exclusivity with just one woman. There is nothing women love more than being rich and sexually exclusive to them alone.

Women forget that lack of money reduces the amount of Women available to a man while the presence of money increases the amount of women available to a man.

Men, don't be a woman's definition of God fearing, rather strife to be a man who lives life on his own terms.

Shalom

No sex before marriage=No spending of money whatsoever before marriage.

As women keep their body holy before marriage, men should also keep their money until after marriage so that they can use it to properly take care of their family.

This means that the girl should never sleep with the guy no matter the reason and the guy should not spend a dime no matter the reason.

Furthermore, after the wedding, anyday the woman says "I'm not in the mood" the man should also withdraw every form of financial provision, security and house chores until the day the wife gets in the mood.

Everything about marriage is transactional.

Shalom

You see, women are emotional beings and relationships deeply relies on emotion. For context purpose, a girl of 15 years of age will most likely be able to emotionally manipulate a guy of 25years of age. This is because, while men devolope in size and strength, women develope in emotions. Hence the reason why a girl of 15 years can get married but a guy of 25 years of age will most likely not be interested in marriage.

The solution to your problem can be explained thus:
1) In any kind of human interaction, whether romantic or not, the person who invests more has more to loose and therefore he/she has the lower hand.
2) No matter who is involved, never apologise when you are not guilty.

Point number one is self explanatory. If two men invest 60k and 40k respectively, the man who invested 60k will most likely want the business to succeed at all cost even if it means doing some illegal things to ensure the success of the business.

On the other hand, the man who invests 40k may most likely not stress too much and will leave the tedious work for his colleague because he knows that his colleague will have to work extra hard to ensure the business bears fruit. This is the simple reason why majority share holders in any organization are made the CEO because they have invested more than others and therefore they are willing to grow the organization. If the organization grows, they benefit more, and if the organization makes a loss, they loose more.

Your girlfriend understands this concept and going by what you have written, you obviously invest more in that relationship and this is why your gf has the guts to demand an apology no matter who is wrong.

The day you will begin to enjoy that relationship is the day you stand up for yourself and call her bluff. If it means loosing her, then so be it. But NEVER apologise when you are not wrong. Behave like a man.

Shalom.

The lady got what she deserves.

She collected an initial transport fare from the guy and she didn't turn up.

The guy invited her and decided to pill this one over her. I congratulate the guy for shaming the girl this way.
You don't go about collecting money from people if you know you wouldn't show up. That's fraud. The problem is that there is no ready judgement for girls who do this.

Men should know that women who behave like leeches should not be respected. They see you as their meal ticket. The day you cannot provide money, they look for the next maga.

And for the record, there is nothing childish about this guy's act.

When women want to manipulate you, the attack your ego with such things as
- You are not a real man
-You are a boy
-you are not mature.

Shalom

It's is morally wrong to deny people the right to secually express themselves the way they want. Why does everyone feel that a man having more than one sexual partner is wrong. In life, we all want variety of things we can afford. Women want variety of clothes, shoes, bags, even children and no one says "Oh it is financially wrong to have more than one bag or shoe or to eat more than one type of food because it leads to money wastage".

Once it concerns marriage/relationship, everyone wants a man to stay with one woman irrespective of the fact that he may want some type of variety.

Before Christianity came to Africa, men married according to how many women they can take care of. It is said that a man should provide for his family but never was it said that a man should provide LUXURY for his family. Women know that the share of finances they will get to fund their luxurious lifestyle automatically reduces when a man has more than one woman/wife and that is why the do everything possible to enforce sexual exclusivity.

Polygamy is a way of life. Do not demonize it. A man owes nobody any explanation if he decides to mate/marry more than one wife.

The truth is that most women are actually more interested in a man's provision rather than in the man himself. This is why in a case of divorce they always ask for half of the wealth the man has personally accumulated.

Men, your wealth is their target. It doesn't matter how much you have. 100k is still wealthy to a woman who has never had 10k in her life. 10 million is still wealth to a woman who has never had 50k in her life. Don't let them broke shame you. Deep down, women know I always speak the truth. I'm always on the side of truth.

Shalom

As a man, it is morally wrong to keep such a sensitive issue away from the woman you want to marry. One of the pillars of marriage is for procreation. Infact, the major reason why people marry is to procreate in such a way that origin or genealogy of a child can be legally traced throughout history.

It is a different issue if the man became impotent after the wedding. In such a case, I advice the couple to adopt a child or go for the less moral option of looking for a sperm donor.

But just know that adoption gives legal backing to a child while sperm donation is just to pacify the woman's ego that she must bear a child biologically.

Shalom

I think Christianity brought about cheating. Cheating is a term used to describe having sexual relationship outside of a defined union.

Naturally, women prefer sexual exclusivity with a man who is capable of taking care of her financially. They don't practice sexuall exclusivity with poor man. On the other hand, poor men practice sexual exclusivity while rich men don't like sexual exclusivity. It is evidently clear by this analysis that women originated the term cheating.

If I'm broke as a man, my women would prefer to sleep around with men who are more financially stable than I'm, then what gives her the right to prevent me from sleeping with more women when/if I have the means to do that?

This is nature, there is nothing like cheating. Women call it cheating because they don't want men to practice polygamy. In reality, every man wants polygamy, it is the women folk who want monogamy because they want to monopolies the resources a man has all to themselves.

Here is the analogy, A woman would want a man who is worth 100 million dollars because she knows the whole money would be spent on her and that translates to a good life. On the other hand, if a man is worth 100 million dollars and he has 4 wives, automatically, each wife may only be entitled to 25 million dollars and that is less that what each of them would get if they are the sole wife. Separate a man from his wealth and women would care less how many concubines or wives the man decides to marry.

Shalom

Humans are a creature of beauty. No doubt, if you are visually appealing, you will get some privileges you actually don't deserve just because of your physical appearance.

I first noticed this when I went to secondary school. Most seniors would want a pretty boy as their school son.

Also, people tend to be nicer to you when you are handsome/beautiful. Now the question comes to how to harness this physical attribute to your advantage:

1) Learn to smile and be nice to people. They will love you more. Some people even think it's a privilege when a handsome/beautiful person is exceptionally fond of them.

2) Never act as if you're in a haste for anything. It boost your confidence and paves the way for you.

3) Dress nicely. Don't over spend to look good but always look neat and wear clothes that fit and not clothes that are trending.

4) Highlight those little attributes that makes you good looking. For instance, try to brighten your teeth, exfoliate your lips, make sure your nails are neat ( both hands and feet), make sure your hair is neat, carve your eyebrows (both male and female)

5) Smell nice. Your body deodorant is way more important than your perfume.

6) Always walk alone so that you are approachable

7) Don't engage is habits that people consider dirty like smoking in public. You can do it when you are alone at home.

Make yourself scarce. Don't always show your face around. Let people miss you a bit.

9) Avoid dull coloured clothes. If you are very fair, buy clothes that enhance your colour. Very bright clothes will make you more outstanding. Darker shades will make you more mature.

10) Avoid loud people. They draw the wrong attention towards you.

Let's discuss this topic realistically.

Women have been known to pitch their children against their fathers. Even without being divorced, women intentionally tell their kids negative things against their fathers in order to make the kids love them more. This usually starts when the kids are very little and that is why most kids say they love their mum. As they grow up, they begin to think that their father hardly loves them. This is because the man is usually out hustling to Carter for the family and affords the woman more opportunity to spend time with the kids and indoctrinate them with hatred for their father.

Now imagine what happens when they are divorced. The kids automatically think that the reason for the divorce was their father. Furthermore, most fathers are scared to send money to their divorced wife because she most like will use the money for her selfish interest and not for the kids. Also, she may lie to her ex husband with the children's name just to get money from him.

I once read about an old man who divorced his wife when his 3 kids were hardly 7 ,5 and 3 years old respectively. Fortunately for this man, he kept a diary where he wrote down the reason for the divorce and it was because of the woman's infidelity. This man also kept all the receipts of all the money he sent to the ex wife for the children's upkeep. He never missed paying their school fees up till university level and sending large sums of money for their upkeep. On the other hand, their mother brainwashed them that ever since she divorced their dad, he hasn't sent a dime for their upkeep. So these kids grew up hating their father and thinking of him as an irresponsible man.

One day the eldest child who was 35years at the time decided to visit his dad and that was where he discovered the truth about the whole situation. He apologized to his father and invited his other two siblings to apologise to their dad because they hated him for no just cause.

In essence, Most fathers are wonderful. Some women just enjoy turning their kids against their father and it gets worse when divorce happens.

Shalom.

You don't know the extent you are willing to go until your survival is threatened.

In all your choosing, go for someone with a good character. If you marry a beautiful woman with rotten character, you will discover that after 6 months of marriage, that beauty becomes useless to you.

However, go for a lady that is well to do and has the right character that suits you. Leave poor girls alone.
When a guy is struggling, they call him broke. But when a woman is struggling, they call her an independent woman.

Character is everything. To show you the importance of character, people are naturally closer and more open minded with individuals who have good character. Nobody likes a person with bad character whether male or female.

In the end, even if you get married and you later discover that your wife has bad character, please LEAVE that marriage. Women may say you are not matured enough, but don't listen to them. A mature man is a HAPPY MAN. Anyone who says you're not a man because you left a woman with bad character, please tell such a person to go ahead and marry your ex wife. If they do, they will soon discover what made you leave her.

Shalom.

Ishilove:
Dey play. Yet every Saturday our roads are blocked because of wedding receptions. It is only on social media that marriages are going out of fashion.

Some of you come from very dysfunctional homes and have developed a very skewed perception about the divine institution of marriage. Wouldn't blame ya because we are usually the product of our upbringing.

No one is against the institution of marriage. I'm just enlightening men about the nature of women.
What I'm against is th dysfunctional narrative that polygamy is bad. This narrative is what women want us to believe.

There are 4 major forms of marriage.
-Monogamy
-Polygamy
-Polyandry
-Polygamy.

Of all these forms of marriage, women only wish to practice monogamy because it guarantees their survival whereas men would opt for Polygamy because that's where they may find solace in this concept of marriage.

Ishilove, you are not my target audience. Just read and swipe.
This is the MALE AWAKENING.
SHALOM

kayperry:
You forgot to tag ishilove, cococandy, pocohantas

no peace for the wicked not even in shiloh

Pocahontas seems genuinely nice. That does not mean that she will/cannot manipulate anyone in her life.

Iyajelili:
No, it is geared at hating women and it is so sad seeing almost all men on this thread blaming women for everything wrong in a marriage whereas there are women genuinely being maltreated, disrespected and trampled on by their husbands.

This is because men don't complain. Women are always the once complaining and taking sides.

If my messages are not sweet to you, that's because I'm telling you the truth. The truth is always bitter.

PLEASE NOTE THAT MY MESSAGES ARE NOT MISOGYNISTIC. BUT IF YOU TAKE IT THAT WAY, THEN ITS FINE.
WHATEVER MAKES YOU SLEEP WELL AT NIGHT.

vickydevoka:
The moment you know your position as a father, the better for you. Most men just wanna be husband n not a father. A father is one who will alway there for his kids , a father is one who lead by example. The kind of man you are attracts the kinda woman who will end up with. Most men want to be living like a bachelor in marriage. No one should pressure you to marry, but when you decides to , please do it with a seriousness and be dedicated. I’m very ok at 32, Buh I don’t want to marry Bcus I know myself. I really want to enjoy my bachelor life , so by the time I gets into marriage I will fully dedicate myself and do away with a lot of things

My brother,

The reason why I always say that this present day marriage does not favour men is because of VALUE.
Now you may want to know what I mean by value. Value is the worth attached to something. Men do not marry a woman because she can provide. Men do not marry because a woman can protect. Men marry unconditionally. This is why men love unconditionally. This love is akin to the kind of Love Jesus has for us. It is an unconditional love. This is why a man can marry a poor, illiterate, village girl and bring her to the city and change her life and the life of her family forever without asking for anything in return.

On the other hand, women marry on the condition that you provide something. You provide, protect, lead etc. If you're unable to do these things, they will say "he is not yet matured for marriage"

Now as a man, as you age, your value as a marriage able man increases. On the other hand, as a woman ages, her value as a marriage able woman decreases.
This is why women hate polygamy. They know that when you are ready to practice polygamy, they will no longer be among those you will truly want. This is why they are against polygamy. People may argue that women can also decide to practice polyandry but it will not favour them because once they clock 50yrs their husband's will look for someone younger.

The only natural requirement for a man to get married according to nature is if he can impregnate a women. Women are the once attaching other things like provision, protection etc.

So ask yourself this question, why would you stick with one woman when your value increases. Why stay in such bondage. When women had the womanly value, they had several partners and that was when they think the whole world revolves around them. But when it's your turn to have the whole world around your finger tip, women would now want you to be monogamous.

The purest form of unconditional love you can ever get from a woman is that of your Mother. She is the only woman that can love you unconditionally and that is the kind of live men seek from their wives.

Do not come here to tell me I have sisters or a mother. I JUST WANT TO REMIND YOU THAT YOUR MOTHER IS YOUR FATHERS WIFE AND HENCE SHE WILL MANIPULATE HIM BUT SHE WILL LOVE YOU. YOUR SISTERS WILL MANIPULATE THEIR HUSBANDS BUT THEY WILL LOVE YOU.


SO THE TYPE OF MANIPULATION YOU WILL GET FROM WOMEN DEPENDS 100% ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM.

maestro299:
Marriage was created to protect women. Men (or at least the non-beta men) would go on fine without it. It still baffles me why 'feminists' are so hellbent on removing that protection for their gender.

Initially, marriage was solely made to be a union where the man is the head of that union and the woman is the body of the union. Human beings are social in nature that is why we always want to belong to one group or another. However, marriage has continually evolved into a weapon subtly used by women to gain control of men.

You want to sleep with a woman and she says "marry me first". What if you marry her today and after sleeping with her 2 or 3 times you divorce her. If women were in our shoes that's how they will treat us.

Women are transactional in nature. There is nothing they give you without expecting something in return. In contrast, they expect men to give them something without expecting anything in return.

Let me make you understand this, women complain that the can not go out on a date if the guy is not willing to spend. However, they don't understand that their pussy means to them what our money means to us.

In essence, they want you to freely part with your money while placing conditions on their body. This is wrong. Must a man spend money on a date with you?. Why not split the check on your dates.

This is why I talk about manipulation. Women want to manipulate men into doing their bidding. My advice to men is this, never be scared to negotiate from the onset. If you want sex from a girl, firmly make your intentions known.

A woman that does not want to sleep with you should also not spend your money. Otherwise what do we gain from it?. You loose money and you get no sex??.

Now women and SIMPs will attack me with the following

-Don't you have mothers or sisters?
-Everything you want is sex
- Must you sleep with a girl because you took her on a date etc

Please understand that women will try to do everything to make sex look like a bad thing so that once you mention sex, everyone thinks of you as a bad person.
My brothers please NEVER look at sex as a bad thing. The urge for sex is natural and its just like the urge for food, the urge to take a drink, the urge to use the restroom, the urge to sleep. It's all part of nature so you should embrace it. Don't feel ashamed to ask for what you want.

Shalom

MissOpe:
Marriage is designed to control
Religion is designed to control
Government is designed to control
This and that are designed to control..

In your sincere opinion, how should men live and exist without all these forms of control, knowing fully well that the heart of an average man lies in evil and other forms of vices?

Men should learn to live their lives FREELY AND WITHOUT ANY FORM OF COMFORMITY.

In marriage, men want to be polygamous. The problem of the black race is that we accept every form of indoctrination from the white man.

Let me Enlighten you. Do you know our customs are superior to test of the white man?. Do you know that the ancient form of democracy practiced in Eastern Nigeria is superior to the type of democracy brought to us by the white man. Do you know that our marriages and family values are better than the white man's own?.

We just want to imitate the white man and throw away our own values.

When feminism began in the 19th century in America, it was designed to liberate women from societal operation. This means that the society was responsible for oppressing women. This struggle led to the Civil rights acts.


I will talk more about this later.
Shalom

simplesearch:
Very useless advice none should listen to or accept. In life You always get your complementary half, meaning you can't be deceitful, promiscuous, cunning, and expect to get the opposite by chance if such does exist. There are women who will choose never to get marry again after the death of their husband. There are also many who serves as breadwinner for their homes when the going became tough for the man without blowing a trumpet. If you get marry to an ex-hooker, bisexual, serial fornicator or even a leabian or a godless fellow and except to have a good and sincere partner; you're joikng.

You are trying to sound politically correct so that the ladies on this forum will term you "Mature man or Real Man".

My message is not geared at hating women. It is rather to open your mind to understand the nature of women and how they reason.

You see, the world is a place where the fittest survive. If you are not fit, you wount survive. Fitness in today's world is not by physical strength just like it was in the old. Fitness is your ability to scale through life's problem.

Women are weak. Left to their own strength and reasoning the world would never have developed. So they understand that to live and survive against the predators of life, they have to manipulate the people (men) who hold the real power to do their bidding. Now they know that the male ego is our downfall, so they try to either pet your ego or destroy your ego as the case may be.

Here is how the male ego affects you as a man
-Baby I want you to last in bed for 5hours.
-You are not strong
-You are not a real man or a mature man.
- You are broke

No man wants to last for 5hrs in bed. Infact men just want to climb, cum and dismount. All we want during sex is just that 15secs orgasm.

When a girl says you are not strong, she wants you to do something she is physically incapable of doing.

You are not a real man or mature man means she wants something that is emotionally okay but reasonably not okay. Women work with emotions.

You are broke means that even though she knows she is broke and that she comes from a broke home, she still wants you to spend the money her entire family are incapable of spending.

A man can get married to a woman and for 40years of marriage she was a full time house wife. A woman cannot feed you for a month without grumbling.

Now, the relationship you have with a woman determines how she will treat you.

YOUR MOTHER IS A DIFFERENT PERSON TO YOU AND SHE IS ALSO A DIFFERENT PERSON TO YOUR FATHER. THIS IS WHY SHE TREATS YOU DIFFERENTLY AND TREATS YOUR FATHER DIFFERENTLY.

MY WRITE UP IS FOR THE OTHER WOMEN IN YOUR LIFE APART FROM YOUR MOTHER OR SISTERS. REMEBER, TO YOUR MALE INLAWS, YOUR SISTERS ARE THE SAME THING YOUR WIFE IS TO YOU.

Shalom

vickydevoka:
So you also think the same for your parents. My mama lazy, she self know. Na my papa be number 1

I am speaking to you as an individual. If your dad was/is a good man, you will still love him whether he is married to your mum or not.

Every woman's gift is conditional and sentimental. Here is an analogy of a sentimental gift from women(Your mum)

" You return home from school and ask your father for 10,000 to buy a text book at school. He will ask you what textbook you want to buy and you may have probably inflated the amount for the textbook. At night, your father stays awake thinking of how he will give you his last 10k for school. Tomorrow morning he calls you and gives you 7k. He give 2k to your mum for food before going to work and he is left with Just 1k. Now he has to pay transport or fuel his car, he has to also buy something to eat from that same 1k.
Now you go back to your room feeling sad that your dad did not give you the complete money. While you are grumbling, your mum squeezes 3k into your hand and tells you 'don't mind your father, he is a stingy man' and immediately you collect the money from her, you feel better and begin to smile and your emotions surpasses your reasoning. You are angry at someone (your dad) who gave you 7k but you are happy with someone who gave you 3k". WOMEN ATTACH SENTIMENTS TO THEIR GIFTS.

Do not misinterpret my message for being misogynistic. I'm just trying to open your mind to properly understand the world and how women think.

Shalom

Marriage is the most critically crafted institution that is designed to control the behaviour of humans and ensure the controlled existence of mankind.

Please note that I used the word "control" in order to truly explain the nature of marriage. This is because, there is nothing you can achieve within Marriage that cannot be achieved outside of marriage for men.
Just name one thing you can achieve within the confines of marriage that you cannot achieve outside marriage.

Animals don't get married but yet they sustain the existence of their species.

Every factor that made you as a man go into marriage will become irrelevant after one year of marriage.

Now if you are saddled with this fact as a man, why don't you make marriage transactional just as women do?.

Don't settle for less. You're a MAN for goodness sake. Don't date or marry any girl who is poor or from a poor background. Any day the marriage stops serving your purpose please LEAVE because your wife will leave you any day you stop serving her purpose. Your children no matter their age will understand once they get older.

This is why women love marriage.
1) If she gets married at 25 years of age, she is sure that all things being equal, you as a man will provide for her until she gets to 55years of age. By that time, she must have had an adult who will continue where you stop.

2) By 55years of age, your children will begin to think that their mother was the ONLY parent that suffered to raise them. They forget all the hardwork, insults and humiliation you had to endure to provide.

3) She secures a guardian, protector, companion, sexual exclusivity etc all to your own detriment.

Finally, don't be decieved about marriage as a man. It is a money-milking institution designed to ensure women survive this harsh world. DONT LIVE YOUR LIFE FOR THE SURVIVAL OF WOMEN, LIVE FREE AND LIVE WELL.

Shalom

You are a good man.

Your baby mama is on survival mode. She sees herself as a second mother to her siblings. In all sincerity, she also wants her siblings to survive.

But she is a very wicked and selfish person. She doesn't love you. You're just a means to an end. She will kill you prematurely. You will be stagnant for the remaining part of your life.

Do you understand what she is asking you to do?. She is asking you to carter for 7 people in this harsh economy. You owe a duty to your daughter, she I the only person you're obligated by nature to provide for. Not even your baby mama shares this obligation.

It is hard, but I tell you to avoid that girl. She sees you as a means of survival. If she gets someone else tomorrow that accepts to accommodate her siblings, she would not think twice before dumping you.

I will leave you with this words " DO NOT SAY YOU CANNOT STOOP SO LOW BECAUSE YOUR MEANS OF SURVIVAL HAS NOT BEEN THREATENED".

Her means of survival (which is you) is threatened and hence her actions.

In life, nobody has the right to tell another person how to react when they are hurt.

Every reaction is justified. You don't flog a child and tell him not to cry.

To the video, the guy reacted well. He took all he gifted the girl during the relationship. The girl should also go to the boys house and collect everything she bought for him.

When a guy buys you something as his girlfriend, he is doing so because he wants you enjoy a certain bit of comfort that comes with being his gf. When the relationship is over, you have an obligation to return every comfort material which was given to you during the relationship. That's how people with sense will behave.

DJ cuppy once dated a guy who bought her a G-wagon. When they broke up, she drove to the guys place and returned his gift. That's how it should be done.

When a woman wants to manipulate you, they say you're just a "boy" or you're not a "real man".

Most women in this comment are saying the guy is just a boy, but if the relationship was still going on and he was still spending his hard earned money on you, he will ce called a real man.

Men don't be decieved. Once relationship ends, collect what you have given so that she will go back to how she was before she met you. You cannot resign from a job and still flex the company car.

Refuse to be manipulated.

God said men should provide for their families. He never said men should provide LUXURY for their families.

The lady in the video has a very shallow mentality. Marriage is not a poverty alleviation program. Marriage is the Union of two people and not the union of one rich person and one poor person.

Men should understand that you were not created to drag any woman out of poverty. A woman is a support system to a man. So if she thinks 250k is enough to run her dream household, then it's fine. Once the man provides 150k, she should be ready to support the man with the remaining 100k.

I hate people setting standards they cannot match. A man is not earning money so that he can sort out your wants because you're his wife. What if the man now says, because you are not beautiful, I will not provide protection to you. Anyday armed robbers visit us, you are on your own and I'm on my own. If I get the chance to run, I wouldn't care looking back.

Women don't even understand that part of the reason why they are safe in this world is because of the perceived male presence. A woman misbehaves outside and you overlook it because you don't know who her husband is.

Men should raise the bar. Don't marry any poor girl. Let the poor marry the poor. If as a man you earn 100k per month, look for a woman that earns at least 80k and marry. Avoid all these girls living their lives based on survival.

Shalom

We are prisoners of our own identities living in prisons of our own creation. < Theodore "T-Bag" Bagwell >.

Your wife is actually playing a psychological game with your head. It's a subtle threat and a way she is trying to keep you in check. She is just reminding you of the consequences of you cheating on her.

Now, marriage does not make a man monogamous. In fact, when you get married, that's when you begin to see more handsome/beautiful people.

According to the quote by T-bag above, marriage is a prison you have created out of your own FREE will. The only solution to having more than one sexual partner in a defined relationship such as marriage is discipline.

This brings us to the concept of human frailty. Human frailty is a concept that largely explains what many people term CHEATING. Let me explain what human frailty is as it concerns morality. Human frailty can simply be termed HUMAN WEAKNESS. Everyone has a weakness. Some people lie because they are scared of the consequences of telling the truth, some people are selfish, some people are kleptomaniac, some people have pride, some people are gluttonous etc. This is human weakness.

Now one of the aspects of male frailty is that men tend to want more than one sexual partner. There is nothing wrong with this because everyone in the world is fighting one form of frailty or another. This now brings us to the question " Do women not also want more than one sexual partner?"

Everyone wants more than one sexual partner but men have been discovered to be much more open about their desire to bed more than one woman.
Women on the other hand have mastered the act of keeping this desire VERY VERY VERY SECRET. In fact, a woman would prefer for the ground to open and swallow her up than for her to express the need to be bedded by more than one man because the consequences will be greater on her.

To further explain this, I will tell a short story. During my NYSC orientation camp, a certain son of a big man was caught openly sniffing Co.ccain at our Mami market. Nothing was done to him, however the son of a poor man was caught smoking Marijuana and he was de-camped. This story explains the concept of CONSEQUENCES as it concerns cheating to both a man and a woman in defined relationship.

My advice to people is not to judge others for their frailty. A man may cheat out of human frailty. Understand that because someone does not engage in the same type of sin as you does not mean you're better than him/her.


Finally, before you leave your husband because he cheated, sincerely answer this question. If you are taken to Mars and kept in the same room with a guy/lady whom you find sexually attractive, will you or will you not sleep with him/her provided that NO ONE on the face of the earth will ever find out and provided that you take a drug that completely shuts down your conscience.


Shalom

Women love money. Who doesn't??

But the bad thing about women loving money is that they love when they get the money free without working for it.

Now, there are five steps to dependency according to Robert Luton in his book toxic charity. These steps include the following:
1) Appreciation
2) Anticipation
3) Expectation
4) Entitlement
5) Dependency

If you give something to someone the first-time they will appreciate it. If you give that same thing to the same person a second time they will anticipate that if they ask the third time you will still give them. If you give them the third time they will be expecting it. By the fourth time, they will have a sense of entitlement and by the fifth time, they will be dependent on you for that same thing.

Now according to the post by the OP, this girlfriend has reached the stage of dependency and hence she thinks it's HER RIGHT to always get the 300k monthly irrespective of the fact that the guy has lost his job. This is why she wants to break up with him. This explains the fact why Children or a spouse taken oversees is termed a DEPENDENT.

Now why does a girlfriend even deserve to be given 300k in the first place?.
If a guy is friends with another guy who earns 4500 dollars per month, the natural instincts of this said friend is to appeal that he is taught the necessary skills so that he too can earn that amount. But a girl will just sit at home and expect 300k at the end of the month simply because she is a girlfriend.

We all know that a woman cannot manipulate her fellow woman this way and this is why I emphasize that guys should always be aware of this devilish manipulation.

The right thing for this guy to do at this moment is to cut her loose. If he gets honey, he should pay a hooker.

Brothers, never part with your hard earned money no matter the guise of the manipulation.

Shalom

The white man came to our land and things became increasing difficult especially when it concerns our tradition, value system and culture.

Before contact with Europeans, most cultures in Africa had a system of ensuring that girls get married on time. That system is what we call "Being betrothed " to your future husband.

When a female child is born, she is betrothed to the son of the Father's friend such that as soon as she is ripe for marriage, the necessary things are done.

I'm not trying to say that system can work in today's world because of the complexity of our society. What I'm trying to say is that women of those times understood the value of being submissive to the leadership of their husband's. There was no dick measuring between men and women at that time.

These days, women think they can live their lives as they want and when they are 30 and above, they will look for a responsible man to marry as a means of pension or gratuity.

95 percent of women above 35 may never be properly married again. So what they do is to get pregnant out of wedlock and birth one or two children and then the place the tag "Single mother" to their names.

These acts are responsible for the decadence we have in our society today. Armed robber, prostitutes, runs girls etc.

In the United States, about 65-75% of children who were raised by their single mothers went to jail for one crime or another. On the contrary, above 85% of children who were raised by their father NEVER went to jail.

Men, always try to marry descent girls. If you stay in Lagos, Abuja, PH or any developed city and you want to get married, please locate a relatively reserved state where values are still maintained and Marry a SUBMISSIVE WOMAN.

Happy sunday Fellas.