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This guy is just one of the many ritualists/yahoo boy who was unfortunate to be caught.

I don't criticize people for their reason to date. Some date for money, some date for nyash, some date for boobs, some date for status etc.

There are many reasons why people date. So if an adult makes up her mind to date a ritualist, then I have no pity for her if she also falls victim to that ritualist. Afterall, the money she has been enjoying were the tears and curses of the people who suffered due to the act of her boyfriend.

My sympathy only goes out to her family and loved ones who were not AWARE of her choice of relationship.

The funny thing is that, if that guy had succeeded and was not caught, after he makes money from his ritual, another girl will still see all these questionable wealth and still decide to date him.

People may say she doesn't deserve death, but I tell most solemnly, she signed her death warrant the day she started dating that boy.


NB: the boy should rot in prison, not because he killed that girl but because he has caused pain to the girls family who were not AWARE of this unholy relationship.

Shalom

Women think sexual urge is something you can suppress. Can anyone suppress hunger or thirst?

Childbirth is difficult on both the man and the woman. You cannot sex starve your husband for 3 months and expect him not to get satisfaction outside. You must be a very Wicked person to starve a man and complain if he decides to get satisfaction outside.

For men, the urge to have sex is natural. You cannot deny your husband food and then complain if another woman feeds him.

If a child is hungry and his mother tells him " stop crying, learn to control your hunger, you have to be disciplined to control your hunger, I will feed you in 3 months time", that gives you an idea of how Women sound when they give reasons why a man should not have sex with his wife.

As a man, except on health grounds, if your wife denies you sex, do not complain. Just look for a girl and get the satisfaction you need. Also, deny her whatever you normally provide for her. She should go outside and get it.

It's about time men view marriage the way Women view marriage. It's appalling that married men beg their wives for sex. It's a shame. Any night that she is not in the mood, the next morning the man should not also be in the mood to provide for her. Or better still, when there is a threat to her life, the man should not also be in the mood to defend her.

Shalom

This is a fine topic to discuss, but OP should edit the headline to look/sound better.

Now to the topic

I have said this before, Human beings are a creature of Beauty. Everyone likes beauty but over the years, women have mastered the art of beautifying themselves and this makes them more attractive to the opposite sex.

Whatever you feed in life grows and whatever you neglect dies. You don't expect women to feed their outer selves and still be smart at the same time.

My advice to men, please go after only High value women. No woman will settle for you unless she knows she will get something she is incapable of doing for herself from you. If you must sleep with a low value woman, always ensure you make her understand that she is low value and that she is in the vast majority of people of no value.

Shalom

Your wife has weaponized sex.

Go outside and get it. Don't let any woman you call wife deny you sex for flimsy reasons.

You see, men enter into marriage purely for the sake of love. To women, marriage is transactional. Before a woman agrees to marry you, she must have weighed all the advantages she stands to gain from the marriage.

She knows you will always be Hot as a man and she knows she will always be the most available woman and hence, she wants to ration the number of days you get sex in a year.

Men understand this, WOMEN HATE MEN WHO ARE NOT Hot. WOMEN LIKE Hot MEN BECAUSE A Hot MAN IS EASILY MANIPULATED.

Sexual urge is like hunger or thirst. You cannot suppress it. The answer to a hungry man's problem is food. The answer to a thirsty man is water. The answer to a Hot man is sex. If your wife denies you sex, please masturbate and let her know you are masturbating or go outside and let her know there is a competition.

Now take that one thing she desires most "ATTENTION"

Never mention sex to her again. Live with her as if you are living with a stranger. If she complains that you don't get her in the mood, tell her that you don't go to work just because you are in the mood or that you don't provide for the family because you are in the mood to provide. Remind her that you do all these things because it is your RESPONSIBILITY and that she also has a RESPONSIBILITY of satisfying your sexual needs.

Shalom

Some comments are hypocritical.

At 47 and you are unmarried, there is absolutely nothing wrong in patronizing sex workers. Just keep an open mind and hear me out.

If we are all sincere to ourselves, the major aim why a woman gets married is just to have someone take care of her and to elevate her societal standards(married woman). The major aim why men get married is to have a home( Home cooked meals and orderliness) and to have a sex partner. Every other thing is just a bonus to that marriage.

OP, Women will criticize you because you are actually one of the men they cannot manipulate in terms of relationship because their greatest weapon which is sex is something you get whenever you want it.

As humans, well all enjoy most of the things we consider bad. If you are truthful to yourself you will know I'm saying the truth. We all like sex, we like clubbing, we like smoking, we like orges, we like naked parties. We are only scared because we don't want to go to hell. Remove religion and indoctrination and you will know I'm saying the truth.

Shalom.

Don't be deceived. The pride of every woman created on earth is to be called someone's wife and probably a mother.

You see, as you grow older, your preferences in life changes. You begin to desire certain things especially if you see women your age. A time will come when you as a single lady will ask to go out with your married female friend and you will hear things from her like " Emeka my son is graduating from secondary school thus week, and next week Aisha my daughter will be participating in her singing competition and I have to attend both, therefore I have no time to go out with you"

You will feel pained, you will begin to wish you had a family of your own.

Advice of the day:

Life is a culmination of all the experiences you have had. At the beginning, you were a baby and experienced undiluted love, you grow up into a teenager and you feel the burst of hormones and energy. You become an adult an you begin to take up responsibilities. You get married and have children and you begin to be a family man/woman. Your kids grow up and get married and you become a grand parent and if you are lucky, you become a great grand parent.
Let it never be said that out of your own decision, you decided to be a single old lady. Why give up on other experiences of life after becoming an adult

Shalom

Just like the urge for food, or water, there is also an urge for sex. It's completely natural. Women are actually the ones who preach this gospel of No masturbation. They do this because they understand that it is very difficult to manipulate a man that is not horn.y

As a man, your body constantly produces sperm and when these sperm cells accumulate in your body, it leads to sexual urge. For Women, they generally experience more sexual urge during ovulation because that is the period they are most fertile.

Men, have you noticed that after having sex with a lady, you automatically find them not attractive anymore?. This is because you have released the major factor that made them attractive in your eyes.

Masturbation boosts confidence. Once a woman knows you don't actually care about having sex with her, she becomes naturally attracted to you.

Having said that, when a woman is billing you, just go and masturbate and you will discover that you wount fall for their manipulation.

This is why most prostitutes or hookopians always demand for their money BEFORE they have sex with you because they know that you may not want to pay them after sex.

My aim is to liberate men. Follow my teachings and advice and you will be glad you did.

Shalom.

Over the years, mankind has done the job of God by interpreting some verses of the Bible to soothe their particular culture and society norms.

Everything God made is good. Food is good but overfeeding is bad. Wine is good but drunkenness is bad.

The reason why people say smoking weed is bad is because it affects your sense of judgement.
For instance, some people may not engage in sin normally but when they get high, their sense of judgement is impaired and they do things they wouldn't normally do.

Finally, smoking weed is not bad, but it has the ability to alter your sense of reasoning which can lead you to sin.

NB: I'm not a religious person

Shalom

People try to over amplify the importance of sex.
I do not support sex for grade especially if the student studied hard and actually passed the exams but the lecturer decides to fail her. However if the student failed and the lecturer decides to help her by sleeping with her in exchange for grade, then both the lecturer and the student are 100% culpable.

You see, women are masters of manipulation. They will tell you that a man should help out without demanding sex in return. However, a man can not just walk up to a woman and say " please I'm Hot, can you just satisfy my urge"?

That's exactly how women sound when they ask men for financial help or any other kind of help. If women will not agree to help a Hot man without expecting money or anything in return, then men can help women without expecting anything in return.

Don't come here to tell me about morals, Humans are only morally upright when it suits them.

Shalom.

It should be a crime not to do DNA test. Even if the child looks exactly like you, please do DNA test.

If you give your wife 20k cash, I believe she will count it in your presence to confirm its actually complete. So why does your wife count the money? Does she not trust you??

I pray that someday, scientists will come up with a method to do DNA test once a woman becomes pregnant, so that men will not spend money on Antenatal for another man's child.

Fraud is bad, but the worst type of fraud is paternity fraud.

#sayNOtopaternityfraud

Shalom

Ade1177:
You're aware most house helps are underage?

Abi what are you people smoking

The op said if you must cheat why not go outside

Why with house help

90% of house help are usually ladies under 20
From 13 to 18
Looking for money

My submission was not age specific. I am against sexually molesting children who offer house help services.

I only wrote my opinion when considering the house help as an adult.

Again, what is the difference between the house help and those girls you termed "outside"??

Whatever you do for your fellow man is a debt repayable no matter how long it takes.

Women want to alienate you from the people who actually have your best interest at heart.

Women call you mummy's boy because you are close to your mum.
Women make you feel like you are not man enough if you are close to your dad, brothers or sisters or even friends. They do this because they hate COMPETING for your ATTENTION. They want you all to themselves.

Once alienated, they find it easy to destroy you. You can easily break a single broom but you cannot easily break a bunch.

Funny thing is that she will begin to respect you the more if she knows that you don't always say yes to her demand.

Shalom

The craze about Apple devices can most likely be backed by the superior ADVERTISING prowess of Apple.

Beauty and class is subject to what us obtainable in a particular society. The more you see something (advertisement) the more your brain subconsciously registers that thing which you saw.

For instance, everytime I open my browser, I see an advert from Viva. Normally I don't use Viva for laundry, but since I began to see their advert more that 25 times a day, I automatically started buying only Viva detergent anytime I want to do laundry.

In essence, advertisement programs our mind and Apple is extremely good with advertisement.

To further explain this, the specifically channeled their advert to the women folk. Nowadays, women do more advert for IPhone devices than the manufacturer Apple themselves.

Shalom.

Psychologically speaking, you see those duties a house help renders in a family, is exactly what a man wants/Expects from his wife.

Women don't understand that cooking, sweeping, and generally taking care of the home is what most men want from marriage. They think their matrimonial duty is just to sleep with their husband.

Once a man starts admiring a house help who is good with her duty, the man naturally begins to like her and hence most men end up sleeping with them.

Again wives don't understand that the only difference between them and a house help is title. Most house helps are prettier and more homely than madam.

Some people may disagree with what I just wrote, but if you search deeply in your heart, you will discover it is the truth.

Shalom

When a man builds a certain level of comfort for himself, he invites a woman (be it wife or girlfriend) to partake in this comfort he has built.

Women should realise that men don't do things for them because they are women, men do these things in order to forestall every possible obstacle that will deprive him of enjoying his comfort.

So if a man gets you a phone, a car or rents a shop for you,, it is because he wants to always have access to you. The day the relationship ends, he is mandated by nature to retrieve EVERYTHING he has given you and give it to the next wife or girlfriend in order make his life easier.

As a woman, when a relationship is over, return everything that was given to you during the duration of that relationship and then leech on the next Simp to provide your needs.

The end is MALE SATISFACTION, women are just a means to that end.

Shalom.

Kobojunkie:
Dey there dey fool yourself! A father who cannot provide for the children he voluntarily squirted out of his loins into this world is a deadbeat father, whether he has a sob story or not. Stop consoling yourselves with silly reasoning in your foolishness. If you have kids that you are unable to provide for, you are no less a looser of a father than those who womanize, etc.

With the world the way it is today and the competition as strong, no one should be having kids unless he is absolutely sure he can provide them all they need to succeed.

Whatever makes you sleep well at night.

ibinaboonline:
Prenup or not, if I was in that man's shoes and she actually gave me children, she can take everything. No amount of money will convince some women to kiss, talk less of making love and babies for him.

I believe in this 21st century you must have heard of test tube babies or surrogacy.

That man wants true love and not babies. Unfortunately, he has to settle with what his money can buy.

Shalom

Nobody actually wants to travel abroad. Na condition make us dey Japa. If a dollar or pounds exchanges at 50kobo today, you will discover that most Nigerians will just return home.

All these people going abroad for masters is just a route to make money for themselves.

Have you every heard the US citizens are leaving their country to go and work in the UK?? Infact most citizens of the US live and die in the same city they were born. That's why they think that Africa is a country.

Shalom.

What money cannot do, more money go do am.
Let's tell ourselves the truth, if that man were to be poor, that lady will not even look at him.

I hope the man has a Prenup or will sha, that lady might just poison him, inherit his wealth and spend it with someone else.

If you disagree with me, just search within your heart, do not lie to yourself and you will discover I'm speaking the truth.

Shalom

If money grew on trees, women would date monkeys.
It is not right to beat your wife. It is better to withdraw your financial support or starve her of sex( just like women do to simps) than to hit her.

Men, this explains the life of women. Once money is involved, women would not mind being your slave. A women prefers 10million naira that you give to her than working to make 20million naira.

#sayNotoviolence.
#SayYestononviolence

Shalom

Court marriage is to the detriment of the man. If you must do a court marriage, get your wife to sign a BULLETPROOF PRENUP or WILL every possession you have or may have SECRETLY to your mum or dad.

#Hakimi

Shalom

OP answer these questions honestly
1) Does your father spend his money on Drinking and smoking/drugs?
2) Does your father womanize?
3) Is he hardworking?
4) Does he provide anytime he has the money?
5) Does he gamble away any money he makes?

If he does not engage in any of those negative vices I mentioned, then the truth is that he doesn't truly have money.

Don't kill your father before his time.

Also, your mother's job is not just to pop out children. She should be very involved in training them too. Don't heap all the responsibilities on the man.

You have done your best by providing part of the money.

Shalom.

My advise to this man is as follows
1) Don't ever sell your source of income to send your wife abroad.
2) Always know that she is in love with what you provide and not your personality.
3) Plan for your retirement, as you go out daily to provide for your family, remember you are part of that family and provide for yourself too.
4) If your wife places conditions before she sleeps with you, please place more stringent conditions before you provide.
5) Be prepared to walk away once the marriage no longer serves your purpose, your wife will walk away at the slightest opportunity. Don't worry about the kids, when they grow up they will understand.
6) Marriage is a world institution so be prepared to treat your marriage as such.
7) Your marriage should be transactional, anyday she relegates in her duties as a woman, you are justified to relegate in your own duties as a man.
Be formless like water, never be predictable.
9) Never let your wife draw you away from your parents or siblings. If you die, she will be more interested in the properties you left behind.
10) IT IS NOT YOUR DUTY TO PROVIDE LUXURY OR SOFT LIFE FOR YOUR WIFE. IF SHE WANTS ANY OF THOSE, SHE SHOULD GET A JOB.
11) If your wife works, please ensure that she contributes 50% of her earnings to the family needs. Don't say a man must provide EVERYTHING.

Lastly, I pray she is a GOOD AND KIND person and may Your marriage work out.

N:B Do not think I have given you bad advice, my aim is to ensure that you are not on the loosing side of this romantic transaction.

Shalom

If your relationship is premised on the condition that you give your girlfriend monthly allowance, then you are just dating a prostitute.

These days, women have succeeded in making the world think that sleeping with a guy should be the sole decision of women. If she says No then it's a No.

If men begin to exchange the favors and everything they do for women on the condition that you sleep with her then that will be a fair exchange.

A woman is looking for a job and the employer says unless you sleep with me before I give you job, I know Simps and women will frown at that.

If women had the opportunity men have, the male species would have been slaves.

Religion aside, as a man, if you feel that the payment you want before doing any favour for a women is sex, then please demand for sex before you help her out.

Also men should prioritize helping men out instead of women.

The only thing playing tricks to the male mind is the stockpile of sperm in your scrotum. As soon as you cum, you come back to your senses.

Shalom

No matter the situation, never marry a single mother.
If she was a good woman, her ex would not get her pregnant and leave her ( except in the case of death of her legally married husband).

Even single mothers usually advise their sons not to marry a single mother when he grows of age.

Shalom

A man is mandated to provide for his family. A man is not mandated to provide LUXURY for his family. A man is not also mandated to create a soft life for his wife. If the woman wants luxury and soft life, she should go and work.

Do not put men or be allowed to be subjugated into civil slavery known as marriage. If your hands can provide only garri for your family, by all means do that.

Men, don't be scared, no matter how much you earn in life, there is always a woman for you. Afterall you are giving her what she is incapable of giving to herself.

Shalom

People have this preconceived notion that their husband or wife is infallible. That's really childish. The idea of loving someone is to understand that this person will hurt me from time to time and I will be always ready to forgive him/her from time to time.

Stop being decieved that the person you choose to marry will never hurt/disappoint you. If that's the case, then there is no need for marriage vows.

OP your husband has not really committed any sin/crime against you. You just saw a search history and not actually the act. I bet you too must have fantasized about someone other than your husband in the 10 years of your marriage. The difference is evidence.

Shalom

Nigeria is a complex society.

It is wrong that a married man slept with a 16year old girl. However, if the man was not aware of her age, or he did not forcefully lure her to bed, then that's a new perspective.

You see, parents do not properly explain the dangers of premarital/underage sex to children. They tie every form of explanation to religion. The truth is that, underage sex is bad because it basically distorts the chances of having a bright future particularly for the girl child.

The man has 50% of the blame while the girl has 50% of the blame.

Since the girl is young, I encourage the parents to stand by her, give her Encouragement, give her support, give her a shoulder to lean on so that she will not feel dejected and abandoned.

Shalom

Family is all we've got.

Don't let anybody decieve you, once a person is under your roof, you have that responsibility to take care of them. This is why before you take a person under your roof, make sure you are able to carter for his/her basic needs if not, kindly tell them you are not yet ready for that responsibility.

It's a different thing if the person expects you to provide luxury for them.

OP, your brother owes you accommodation, Healthcare, feeding and transport. People should stop sounding smart by saying nobody owes you nothing. It's dumb, we all owe ourselves some kind of responsibility.

Having said that, you also owe your brother respect, running errands without any form of grudge, taking care of the house, wash his clothes, manage his business as if it is your own, obedience, cooking etc.

You see, nobody is an island, we all need each other and the paradox of life doesn't work in the theory of "the eldest son/sibling will forever be the wealthiest or the backbone of the house". These days, God can bless anybody and he may choose to bless you over your brother tomorrow. Remember the story of Joseph and David.

Shalom

Children are like hot metal, the way you shape them is the way they turn out in future( at least 90%of the time).

Most fathers were harsh because they wanted their kids to turn out well. That does not mean they felt hatred for their wife or kids, they wanted to get it right.

I still advise anyone reading this, don't be soft with your kids especially during their formative years. Be firm and strong, that way you will raise children with home training.

Do you know that some of the negative things you don't do today is basically because you have home training??

This is why a dysfunctional family(family without a father or mother) is a menace to the society.

I love my dad because he made me into a real man. No womanizing, no drinking, no smoking, follow all men with goodwill.

Shalom

Eve don talk her own side of the story, let's wait to hear from Adam.

Before you judge, make sure the girl is not billing this guy.

Most times, guys can be irrational especially when they have spent money during the so called talking stage.

Being a single mother can only be excused on two occasions
1) The death of a husband, in this case you are not a single mother but a widow
2) Divorce on the premise that your legitimate husband is beating you up.

Any other condition is just not acceptable. Children should be birthed in marriage. What do you expect from having sex with a man who is not your husband and when you get pregnant you begin to feel bad for being called a single mother?
If you were a good woman, the man who got you pregnant will do everything possible to legitimize the union.
Stop seeking for sympathy when you become a single mother and stop blaming men for leaving you when you become pregnant.

Shalom