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The term evening Newspaper is used to describe a woman who has passed her reproductive prime. Most people know that Newspapers are sold in the morning when the news is still fresh/recent and hence any news you are hearing of in the evening is usually stale and has little to no value.

That being said, we should agree that there are certain stages in life that ensures things are done properly (Although this is not a rule).

It is usually difficult/impossible to find a 30 year old man/woman as a pupil in primary school because he/ she has passed the age to still ve in school.

The example above shows why older unmarried woman are referred to as Evening Newspaper. We all agree that a woman is mostly fertile between the ages of 18-35yrs ( Although some women can still give birth much later in life).

This is why men usually prefer younger women and they refer to older unmarried women as evening newspapers because they have little or no reproductive value when compared to younger women.

Although the paradox of life and death does not work in the theory of first come - first serve, it is important you do things in life at a time nature has made perfect(This does not mean it may not work out at other times though).

So a single lady should try to vet the man she wants to marry on his character and not on his finance.

Marry at "natures best time", raise your children on time to avoid being offended when society refer to you as Evening Newspaper.

If you read this with an open mind devoid of sentiment, you will know I'm telling the truth. I'm always on the side of truth.

Shalom

Dear men,

Do not be pressured to provide for any woman. Provide for yourself and let the woman share in the provision you have made for yourself.

Nobody is created specifically to provide. Most women twist the Bible and say it is the man's duty to provide.

The Bible clearly states that ANYONE (not necessarily a man)who fails to provide for the family is worse than an infidel. This verse is misconstrued so much because it talks about widows and not about a husband providing.

This is why I always tell my female family members that no man owes you provision. You should vet the man you want to submit to on the merit of his character rather than his pocket.


Marriage or dating is a social relationship and not a financial relationship. Men should strive to be very selfish about who they give their money. If you met her as a 5k girl, please date and marry her as a 5k girl. You don't owe her any financial liberation simply because you are together.

Shalom

EreluRoz:
She's somehow right but nairaland is not the best place to have reasonable discussion.

Women are not created to provide, it is against their nature, it makes them become masculine and vulnerable to other men. It takes a strong and well disciplined woman to provide and still remain faithful, well, not much of such women exist these days.

Men should learn to be traditional and provide, stop stressing your women and putting them in vulnerable position to other men.

Nobody is created to provide.

A woman provides for herself when she is single and suddenly when she gets married she is no longer "Created" to provide??

No matter how much you provide for a woman, if she wants to sleep around, she will sleep around.

Shalom

Dear men,

If you unfortunately marry a bad woman, I beg you, stop investing or providing for her. You see, the reason why it is easy for people to break up with you or to easily move on after a break up is because the invested very little to that relationship.

If a man has invested so much into his relationship, then the breakup hurts more. If a woman has invested so much into a relationship, then the breakup hurts her more. This is the basic rule of life, it has nothing to do with being a male or a female or being a good person.

As she has refused to acknowledge that good and bad, right and wrong, Yin and yang etc are what brings balance to the world, please do not make her life soft.

It seems as a joke now but before God and man, she has told you that she is there just for the good times. If something bad happens to you and she decides to leave, the laws of nature would not hold her culpable because she stood by the oath she swore. It is now left for you the man to act now or forever take whatever comes your way.

Also, why do women have the delusion that they are always wanted? They don't know that it's so cold outside( I hope they understand this).

Shalom

I want to buy a car, I visit a car dealership and the sells man tells me he has a lot of unused cars, straight from the factory and then I reject all the new cars and opt for an already driven car with a history of one accident and a 100 thousand mileage.
That's the case of this guy.

Never upgrade any woman financially. A woman is with you because you have that financial advantage over her.

OP you gave your ex a seat at the big boys table and that's why she decided to go for someone above you. You see, if you are a bus conductor and you introduce your woman to the bus driver, automatically she will want to go for him. If you are the deputy governor and you introduce your woman to the governor, that's where her eyes will be.

Women always want to go for the biggest person in the room. Don't be surprised that if she gets the chance to meet your overall boss, she would dump this your senior colleague for him.

This is why you should never give a woman a seat at the table where you eat from. Just provide the barest minimum enough for her survival, no Luxury whatsoever. If she wants luxury, she should go and work.


Shalom

Heartbreaking story.

To further help men from raising other people's children, I will be sponsoring 10 DNA tests for 10 different men who have doubts about the paternity of their Children.

RULES

1) Only one child per man. Of utmost importance is your first child.
2) If the result of the DNA test proves paternity fraud, the responsibility lies on you as the father to carry out test on your other children if any.
3) Selection of beneficiaries will be at random.
4) I'm only responsible for the financing, you are completely responsible for the outcome. I don't even care to know what the result says. You will have to sort out the consequences yourself.
5) Please ensure this is a secret. Women are not allowed to participate because I will have to prove you are a man to actually qualify.


#saynotopaternityfraud

Shalom.

OP

I will be truthful and blunt. You don't owe your wife luxury. It is absolutely wrong for her to call youba poor man for being unable to provide her WANTS. Every profession is important, if you are not a school teacher, who will you leave the job for. Even if you leave the job, are school teachers forbidden from getting married because they earn little salary.

You see, if your wife wants luxury (a new phone or Geepee tank or whatever) she should go out and work. Your income is little and then you have a wife who sits at home waiting and depending on only you to provide?? That's wrong.

The only person that deserves luxury is a person who works for it and not a person who depends on the worker. My advice to you is to treat her exactly how she treats you. If she feels she married a poor man, she should leave and join the queue of ladies waiting for a rich man.

Like I said, you owe no one any form of luxury. You are already providing to the best of your ability.
She either settles for what you can provide, or she leaves. If she leaves, atleast your standard of living will increase because you are married to a leech.

Shalom

People think God is not wise when he made a hierarchy in marriage.

These days women want to feel equal to men in a marriage. It doesn't work that way. Forget about civilization, God through Nature has made a man the head/leader/ruler of his household and every other person in that household MUST OBEY the kingship of the man.

Modern women think that they must have a say in every decision in the family, unfortunately God did not intend it that way. He said women should be submissive to their husband.

Just notice that any marriage that breaks up, the root cause is always the woman thinking that her husband is her Partner instead of realizing that her husband is her LEADER.

America was colonized and ruled by the British until 1776 when they gained their independence and that ended the union. Nigerian was ruled by Britain until 1960 when we gained independence and that ended the union. What I'm trying to explain is that once one party sees another party as equal, then it will be extremely difficult for their union to survive.

Dear men, always marry a woman who is submissive and respects/fear you. You will enjoy the marriage more than getting married to someone who feels they are your partner.

People say bad things about our culture but they fail to understand that our native cultures encourage submission from women and that is the secret to long lasting marriages of old.

If your wife sees you as a partner instead of a leader/ruler, then just know you are not married but you are in a partnership and partnerships are likely to breakup due to "irreconcilable differences"

Most women maybe against my point of view but the funny thing is that they all want submissive wives for their brothers and their sons.

Shalom.

Apart from the other factors that affect the naira, the governors also have some blame in this.

Once allocation is shared, state governors mop up the available dollars in the banks and because of this demand, the naira depreciates.

Men you see all I have been teaching.
Only provide the barest minimum that will guarantee your woman's survival.

You don't need to make any woman comfortable. You just have to make sure she barely survives. This is because they don't really care about you, they only care about what you can provide.

Your money and resources are their goal. Use your hardworking to better yourself because the day you are unable to provide, these women would not hesitate to leave.

Shalom

Olamilekxy:
You think masturbating doesn't have a negative effect?

Overfeeding is bad, drunkenness is bad but that does not mean we should not eat or drink.

Excess of everything is bad.

Shalom

If men had no strong urge for sex, women would have gone extinct a very long time ago. Infact everybody that is presently alive wouldn't have been born.

Now men here is the trick, if you are not getting regular sex, please practice healthy masturbation. To married men, if your wife ever denies you of sex, go and masturbate and make sure she sees you in the act. Once she discovers that you get satisfaction outside of cheating, she will change rapidly.

I have said this before, the only man a woman can manipulate is a Hot man. Once you are not Hot, no woman can ever manipulate you.

Everyone alive wants sex, but women have mastered the art of hiding their urges. Men should master the art of satisfying their urge outside a woman.

Shalom

Men, have you noticed that each time women reject a certain category of men it is because they are deemed low income earners??

This is why I always say that men should endeavor to get as much as they give in a relationship. If you spend money, demand for an equivalent amount.

Learn that relationship is transactional. If you give, you take. Take something physical. If you give money, take money. If you give gifts, demand for gifts.
It is not your job to spoil any woman. Men also deserves to be spoiled.

Shalom

Most men know the kind of women they marry.
Do not take your wife abroad if you suspect the tendency of cheating or not being submissive to you. Leave her here in Nigeria and visit whenever you can.

Some may argue that she may still cheat here in Nigeria. At least if she cheats here in Nigeria, you can send her packing without shi shi.

Men, women don't love you. She married you because you could provide for her what she is incapable of providing for herself. The day she is able to provide those things for herself, she will walk away.

Shalom.

OP I perfectly understand your point.
But if we should tell ourselves the truth, the pain of providing for your kids is not basically because you provide. It stems from the fact that the money you send will be used by your ex-wife for her own personal needs instead of the kids.

Most women after divorce use the kids to siphon money from their ex husband's. They lie about the kids health, the inflate school expenses, the inflate groceries and every other thing needed by the kids. They now use the money meant for the kids to live their lives.

This is exactly the scenario that men abhor. After divorce, most men are willing to allow their women to go and live their life the way they want but most women make it their life's mission to destroy the man.

OP, if it's possible, pay for only verifiable expenses. Go to their school and pay the fees directly. If they are sick, go to the hospital and pay directly. Buy the groceries and send to them. Your ex wife should also contribute monetarily in taking care of the kids. Also ensure you evidence of what you do.

Don't be scared, in future, your kids will understand especially the male children.

Shalom

In all sincerity, he didn't ask for too much. He asked for the barest minimum.
No shouting, no quarreling, can cook, can dress well, can pray etc.

He didn't ask for big breast or big nyash, or fair skin.
All the qualities he listed are homelike qualities.

For the men against his list, will you rather have the opposite of what he listed in a wife?

For the women against his list, will you wish your brother or son marries a woman who has the opposite of the qualities he listed??

We all know what we are doing, after nairaland we will all go back to our realities.

NO GREE FOR ANYBODY THIS YEAR.

SHALOM

As a man, never joke with your Finance. That is not to say that you make money for women. Only give a woman just enough to guarantee her survival. Never provide luxury to any woman, if she wants luxury let her go and work.

The world thinks along the line of finance. A rich man may be stupid but his words, actions and inaction carry more value than that of a wise poor man.

Just know that in any relationship with a woman, the primary aim in her mind is because you are providing something or that you are capable of providing something in the nearest future. So do not go to any length to please her.

One thing men do not understand is that when a woman knows you can provide, she will want to stick with you. Forget the threat of breakfast/divorce. A few Instagram DMs (attention) does not translate to a good life and women know this.

1) Finance
2) Finance
3) Finance.

But don't spoil any woman. Just give them the barest minimum that will guarantee her survival.

Shalom

We have alot of responsibility to our partner. As a woman, there is nothing wrong in building a house in your father's compound. Where there is a wrongdoing is not letting your husband know that you are carrying out such a project.

Dear men, do not let your wife's actions or inaction lead you to your grave.

As for me, I will love my wife soooo much that I wouldn't want her to be a widow. Instead of my wife to be a widow, let me be a widower.

Shalom.

OP, you have done nothing wrong. Nobody has a monopoly over violence. You even gave her enough opportunity before you hit her. I must commend you for that.

People have to understand why the society is against hitting women. It has nothing to do with you being a gentleman man but everything to do the avoidance of committing murder. Women are generally weaker when compared to men but I'm not trying to generalize here. NOBODY HAS THE RIGHT TO HIT ANOTHER PERSON.

Also there are two types of abuse.
1) Physical Abuse
2) Emotional abuse.

Physical abuse usually has evidence. This is why it is easy to spot a person who has been physically abused. Most people who are abused are women. However some men get physically abused just like the OP.

Emotional abuse is much more difficult to spot. The people who are usually on the receiving end of Emotional abuse are men. The society turns a blind eye on Emotional abuse because there is no physical evidence. Women are usually the once dishing out this type of abuse. They insult, abuse and do all manner of things to their partner and expect men to keep quiet.

The only reason why I advice men to avoid physical abuse is because Nigerian prisons are not a good place to be. Apart from this, do not be afraid to be called a woman beater when a woman raises her hands first on you.

If a woman knows that if she slaps you, she will recieve a thunderous slap in return, I bet she will keep her hands to herself.

OP cut that girl loose. She is not good for you. If a broke man does not deserve love, a man with money does not deserve only one woman.

Shalom.

No man can perfectly explain submission more than a woman and no woman can perfectly explain love more than a man.

For instance, if you had asked the jews what love meant, they would have given you several definitions. But the one the one time Jesus christ was asked what love is, he demonstrated it on the cross of calvary. There are actually no words to describe what Christ did on Calvary.

In essence, submission to your husband is a gift which God has designed for only women to understand and express while love is a gift which God has designed for only men to understand and express.

For the sake of your question, submission simply means " AT ALL TIMES, MAY THE WILL/WISH OF MY HUSBAND BE DONE TO ME".

There are no exceptions to submission. You cannot submit today and not submit tomorrow or you cannot submit in this matter and not submit in the next matter. Submission is absolute and this is why Men must choose CAREFULLY whom to love and women must choose CAREFULLY whom to submit to.

Jesus christ did not say, I will only die for the Jews or for Israel, he died for everyone.

SHALOM

Everything we buy in life, we always want to test/check if it is okay.

You by a phone, you will always want to check if it's OK before you pay, no matter how much the seller tries to convince you that it's okay.

I don't understand why women are against men trying to check if a child is truly theirs.

Left for me, DNA should be done at the point of birth for two reasons.
1) to confirm paternity or maternity.
2) To avoid switching babies at birth.

Shalom

A full grown adult is coming online to complain that she paid for the food she ate? Incredible.

The major aim of most Nigerian women who go on dates is to "chop" a man's money and not necessarily because they want to get to know you.

If you want to confirm if this is true, fix a date with a lady at a location where they only sell water or just soft drinks and she will decline going on that date. In contrast, fix a date where they sell food and she will jump on the opportunity.

Shalom.

MikeofKd:
Good day Nlanders, pls I need the wisest counsels of wise Nlanders. I have a problem which is lack of commitment to women, ive been this way since I left uni, and pls know that this isnt due to masturbation or any sorts, cause I havent done that thing since my teenage years.

I meet a woman today , we vibe, connect and all but i'm just damn too scared to commit any woman no matter how good she is. I'm scared that if I continue this way I may likely find it really difficult to get married.

Seeing and experiencing different complains of men in real life and on the forum as made my commitment issues with women only worse. I'm currently working, fair pay, got my own place, I'm doing quite well for myself. Ive met different women this year that were good women, but I fear if I give my heart to them they may switch up, women are too complicated naturally to cope with.

This fear of commitment is seriously holding me back from getting a serious relationship. My only fear is if I continue this way I may not get married. I need the counsels of wise nairalanders to advice me on what to do concerning this commitment issues cause it quite depressing no lies.

I form hard guy, but deep down I really be craving for a romantic relationship, I'm just too scared to give any woman my heart cause ive been hurt in past relationships . So hurt that even when I had a good woman I couldnt see it and I lost her.

Your Wise advice and counsels would be deeply appreciated thanks.

Here is my sincere advice to you.

1) When you see a woman, treat whatever relationship you have with her as transactional.

2) Make sure any woman you decide to date invest something tangible in your life. I don't mean sex, let her invest her money, skills and time in your life.

You see, women are loyal to their emotions. A woman does not really care about what you have done for her in the past, if you cannot help her presently, you are useless to her. This is why I said she has to invest in you and openly ask her for it the same way they ask you for money for wig, shoes and cloth. A woman is only loyal to her sacrifice. Once she knows she has sacrificed something that is not easy to come by e.g Money, she will be loyal to you.

Here is how you do it, if you have a car and you want to go for maintenance and you know it will cost you like 15k, openly tell her that your car is due for maintenance and that she should give you 15k for it (Not borrow).

So whenever she collects money from you, collect an equal amount of money from her. This is transactional relationship. So that the day she decides to leave, she will remember all that she has invested in you and that will keep her.

Don't crave for love, it will find you and when it does make sure you are getting as much as you are giving.

Shalom

Mouth odour is as a result of
1) Bacteria activities
2) Untreated gastrointestinal disease.
If you close your mouth for a long time, the Bacteria secrets gases that contain alot of sulphide and hence the bad odour you perceive.
Steps to reduce mouth odour
1) Brushing in the morning and before you go to bed at night.
2) Use a tongue scrapper to scrap your tongue after brushing.
3) Buy non sugary chewing gums.
In fact, even if you miss brushing and you eat gums steady, it will greatly reduce the odour from your moth at least for that period.

Shalom

The responsibility for pregnancy does not solely rests on the shoulders of a man. The man donated 50% of the genetic material and the woman donated 50% of the genetic material.

The problem here is sense of responsibility. Women should learn to be responsible for their actions. You got pregnant and you're here to disturb a man's wedding. Why didn't you ensure you got married to him first before opening your legs.

No man is 100% responsible for any pregnancy. You are partly responsible and the woman is partly responsible. Everyone should own up to their mistakes.

What if the girl is even promiscuous and the guy is not actually responsible but because she has seen that the guy is family oriented, she wants to hook him up with the pregnancy.

Shalom

As a man, never loose your Armour to any woman. Whether wife or not. Being a man is much more than being of the male species.

The mistake Israel made was upgrading Sheila financially and socially. No matter the pressure, always make sure your wife depends solely on you.

Just like the British colonies, once they feel they can stand on their own, they begin to ask for independence.

Women only love you for what you can provide. Once they can provide those things you provide for them or once you give them the seat at the big boys table, they begin to see themselves as equals. Never loose your power to any woman no matter how long you have known them or married to them.

Teach only men how to fish, and as for women just give them enough fish to guarantee their survival.

For the unmarried, just know that the woman you will marry will only submit to you on the condition that you have a very clear upper hand. That upper hand you have is your money. Never upgrade your wife to your level or set her up financially. Let her ALWAYS depend on you.

Do you know why most women change once they go abroad??.
1) The law is on their side
2) They too can make the same amount if money their husband's make.
When this happens, they see no use for their husband.

Shalom.

These things have no ideal formula. Before you conclude on what's best for you, try the understand the reason behind both ideas.

1) Brushing before eating helps you to wash off the layer of bacteria,microorganism and food particles which must have built up after your last meal the previous night ( Assuming you didn't brush before bed)

2) Brushing after eating ensures that food particles left over after eating are completely washed off and that your mouth does not have the odour( aroma) of the food you have eaten. This actually boosts your confidence when talking to people after a meal. It also helps delay the growth of microorganisms which feed on food remnants in your mouth especially your tongue.

So it is ideal to brush before and after meals.

Shalom.

Why is it that whenever a man and a woman divorces/separates, the man never tries to do anything to hurt or bring down his estranged partner, but the woman makes it her life mission to bring down this man.

They go to any length to tarnish the man's image. The Bible says it is better to live under a leaking roof than to share a mansion with a bad woman.

This just tells you that women, no matter who they are derive their relevance from men.

Treat marriage or relationships as a business. You can be extremely rich as a man but make sure you only give your wife or gf what is only enough for her survival. If she wants luxury, let her go and work. Afterall Oshoala is a woman so nothing stops Adesuwa from making her own money.

Shalom

A rich man has no business with marriage. While a man is working to make money, his wife should also be working to make her own money. Stop leeching on men's money.

If you get married as a rich man, I can tell you that the major factor that attracted your wife is your money. Why not just have kids and any day the woman wants to leave, she should go.

I have never heard that the baby mama of a rich man ever cheated or was disloyal. That's because she knows she will loose everything if she tries such.

Marriage protects women even when they are wrong. A woman feels comfortable cheating when married than if she was just a baby mama. Even if your wife cheats and you demand for divorce, the western courts will still grant her her certain percentage of your wealth.

So I advise rich men, don't sign the dotted lines. Keep her as a baby mama or give her an air tight Prenup as a condition for marriage, better still, Transfer your assets and cash to your mother.

Shalom

A rich man should not be married. Marriage has no benefit at all to a rich man. Forget about divorce and the likes, marriage is not in tandem with the idea of wealth.

If a broke man does not deserve a woman, it is implicitly wrong to say that a rich man deserves one woman.

Why would I stick to a woman when I can comfortably have as many as I want.

You see, women are very cunning. They like sexual exclusivity with a rich but they don't practice sexual exclusivity with a broke man.

The idea that after divorce, a man has to pay alimony to a woman is what I don't fully understand. While they were married, the man was working his ass off to make a living, what then was the woman doing with her own life?.

Well is as a rich man you want to get married, please get an air tight prenuptial agreement signed. If your wife says she wount sign the prenup, then just get her pregnant and continue your life. If she insists, then let her go.

Don't worry sooo much about the kids, when they grow up, they will definitely understand.

Shalom

Dear men,

I want to take out time to properly educate you oh how women think and act. I also want to educate you on the general solution to most problems you face in your marriage or relationship.

A woman was created to be under a man and hence she should serve at the behest of her husband or boyfriend. Now this authority that was given to men is not just because you have a dick, it is because nature has given you some tools which establishes your authority.

These tools are
1) Developed Reasoning
2) Physical strength
3) Finances.

If a woman senses any weakness in these aforementioned endowment from nature, she is bound to misbehave.

Developed reasoning refers to your ability to make judgement devoid of emotions. If something is black, then it is black even if your emotion is telling you it is white.

Physical strength enables you to navigate this world in providing for yourself and for your family.

Finances enables you to create a certain level of comfort for yourself. When this comfort is created, you then get a woman as part of the comfort you need.
In all these, nature has ensured that you live a life according to what you can provide for yourself.

Now women generally respond to these qualities. If she senses any weakness in any of these attributes, she rebels.

Leaders often times take tough decisions in order to subdue the followers and this makes it easier for them to lead.

NEVER GRANT A WOMAN FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE. This is because most women enter into marriage or relationship because it offers them a certain level of financial freedom without responsibility.

Verbal abuse and physical abuse are the same kind if abuse the difference is just in the instrument used.

If you want your wife to stop abusing you, withdraw every form of financial assistance you give her. Close down that shop you opened for her. Make her depend on you for survival.

Just to further explain my point, You cannot abuse your boss at work not because you fear and respect him but because he pays you and thus grants you financial freedom. The day you resign from your job, you automatically discover that you no longer fear or respect your boss.

Don't be afraid to loose your wife, if she is tired of the marriage she should go. Don't endure any form of verbal abuse.

Just make a rule from today, Any day your wife insults you, make her pay the price immediately.

No matter your age, you can still remarry. Men generally avoid women who have been previously married.

Don't worry about your kids, when they grow up, they will understand.

Shalom