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Still on this issue ……..

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Transaged
Transabled : felt like should have been born disabled, so cut off hand or leg or go blind.
Transparent : A man identifying as a mother and not as a father anymore and vice versa.

This is just the beginning.

Pls if you feel you should have been born brown or white, , feel free to go transracial - it’s allowed!

I now identify as ……….’wait for it’, let me think it thru

Lexusgs430:
Your time is coming...... Too ......😁

Na breakfast, e go reach every

Lindakam:
Hi everyone,

A relatively just got his student dependent visa and it has no work no public funds instead of restricted work. Please do you advise he fixes the issue before coming or after coming. Which would be faster. Thank you

It’s better you get it corrected here, I’m sure you don’t want UKVI/TLS holding on to your docs forever!

Kaycee54321:
Hi everyone.

While trying to fill out job applications, I often get to this section where I'm asked if I identify as trans, my sexual orientation, religion, etc...

Subconsciously, I often feel they're trick questions and I'm always torn between choosing "Prefer not to say" rather than a blunt "No", especially to the gender inclusive questions...

I honestly do not care much about sexual orientation, gender assignment/tags or religion but then again, I do not want to be sidelined because of a perceived misconception about my profile...

I'd appreciate any inputs please. Does all that really matter, significantly?

My friend! It matters not. Own up to your orientation with your full chest.

I believe it’s there because everybody (all LGTV categorisation) wants to be identified and not sidelined.

Lexusgs430:
New regulations/rules for over 70's ...........

This info can only be for few persons and you definitely one of those

Abi no be so?

Zahra29:
Not really, the UK is a pro at bouncing back. The current issues are not new - Thatcher had far more union strikes to contend with in her time, many complaining about the same issues of today.
Brits have been migrating to Australia, Europe, US for years.
Many Brits alive can still remember when the country went through rations on food and energy
So while we are going through a rough patch at the moment, we've bounced back before and will do so again

I laughed in Kanuri @ the bolded

[quote author=Ollyjimmy post=119874666][/quote]You get half of Whatever you paid for a year’s IHS. If your payment is two years, you will need to apply in instalments of 6 months.
So, when applying for the refund, you are required to submit your 6 months payslip

Chikadibia21:
This also happened to me in a history class which was supposedly meant to celebrate black history. The teacher kept dwelling on how blacks were slaves to the whites. The students kept staring at me like I was some modern-day slave

This might not be the same experience for everyone though.

It was all intentional. Black history! Meant to reiterate slavery for a whole month every year and make their upcoming generations aware of the world order.

Control the media, set the agenda and control the narratives. This has been their MO front the jump.
But curiously so, now that we know, what are blacks/Africans doing to set a new agenda going forward?

Black Americans feel they are superior to other blacks while Fellow Africans see one and another as competitors - yet they are all victims of the white man’s exploitation.

R & D will always have a prime place in all facets of human endeavour.

eniola1010:
Why do these barbers only take cash?

The fear of HMRC
Some self employed individuals do this

tobbyoladejo:
Please, I got caught suddenly in rain a few weeks ago with my passport on me, and when I discovered it at home, part of the passport photograph on biodata page has become cloudy. The passport was supposed to expire in like 15 months from now. Can I just apply for renewal, pay for 10 year passport and schedule capture in London? I'm asking because on the Nigeria high commission website in London, I'm seeing postal order of £250 for damaged passport, whereas it's £20 for renewal. Not sure if it is a mistake or that's how it is. Please kindly advise, as that's what is delaying my Schengen visa application right now.

You don’t renew until 6 months to expiry

Treadway:
one of my major sentiments, I'm wayyy too protective of my kids. I cannot can. Me and this Nairalander were having this exact discussion 3 MTHS ago. Aside many lacking values to pass on to children, many simply just do not have the time because bills have to be paid!

Well said!

Zahra29:
What about the very many yahoo boys, ritual killers, armed robbers, runs girls, dirty politicians and crooked professionals etc who were born and bred in Naij?

Parenting styles may vary for example hitting a child in the UK is generally seen as abuse because there are often better ways to teach and discipline a child. The majority of black boys and children in general who were raised here are doing well and are responsible. Conversely there are nigerian students who come here and get into trouble. Several during my uni days- one boy even got into trouble with the police over allegations from an oyinbo girl he was messing with.
Not every black boy here is in a gang, the same way not every young Nigerian is into yahoo or a Nigerian "prince". A lot of it is stereotypes due to media presentation.

I wasn’t comparing 9ja with UK.
And I wasn’t even talking about beating children to straighten them out. I’m also sure you are aware that spending quality time with kids isn’t an abusive act?
What I wrote up there is on influence of western cultures on immigrants and based on life experiences and not media reportage.
Due to the nature of what I do, I have traversed almost all major cities in the UK (except Newcastle, Portsmouth and a couple others) b4 reaching my conclusion.

lavida001:
How can one ascertain that agency is actually remitting tax contribution To home office.

I checked now on HMRC and its showing You do not have gaps in your record.

No tax remittance to home office.

Do you mean your employer isn’t on your records with HMRC ?

hustla:
Na ela me dey give them, concentrated one

One of them told me he will call the police on me as he thinks im an illegal immigrant. After asking if he or his family can afford to pay £15,000 for school fees or if he has a BSc or MSc, I handed him the phone and asked him to call the police, make we see which one of us them go carry


Someone who couldnt even finish high school but knows how to order nonsense online should be able to google basic stuff and be enlightened.

Its 2022 abeg

It’s 2023 o and not 2022

Gerrard59:
Honestly, why is that so?

In some parts of Africa, we have some of the most humane cultures, but do we believe in ourselves enough?

The issue with black man, no be today e start o

Gerrard59:
I am really interested in reading tips and experiences from black African parents who have been in the UK for ages in tackling the issue. Two solutions I have thought are sending them to schools owned by conservative churches, sending them to Nigeria so that they know the conditions at home, the stakes at hand and the reasons mummy and daddy had to relocate. Like you stated, spending quality time with the children is very important.

Best bet is to let them spend earlier years up to adolescents back home to know their culture, life’s values etc before bringing them here to complete their education.
Our educational system at the earlier years is quite faster - formal or informal. Learning at the earlier years for an African child is quite faster but slows down after three or four years.
As simple as this may sound, research as far back as 80s has it that African child (0 - 3 years) is precocious due to constant interaction between mother and child, breastfeeding, wrapper-tying carrying on the back, constant touches to name a few.

But with the present Nigerian situation, one may need a rethink to consider family finances, safety, availability of jobs etc before making that relocation decision.
For those who are here already, I guess it’s best to know your kids and spend quality time with them.

Sorry to burst your bubble but very few African parents who have been here long enough are good models to consider their parenting style especially when you see the end result in their kids.
Just maybe! Location let them down.
Raising kids in London, its environs and some other major cities need serious consideration.

hustla:


We will see how it goes. God keep us till then
On the flipside, it seems Nigerian kids and the gang thing is a lot common in UK than other countries for some reason

So unfortunate it’s that way.

sugarkemi:
Happy new year. Please I need a sincere advice for my next move.I got admission to southwales for Feb intake . I'm making 6 digits monthly here in Nigeria.I have a wife.As a Student with dependent is it possible for both of us to be saving like 3k pounds in a month.

Do you both have kids? If yes, then you guys might be limited in your earnings per week per month.
Also, depends on who the student is - is it you or your wife?
Lower your expectations and if you meet it, you can then raise the bar.

hustla:


Will be interesting to see how it pans out for a lot of folks in 10/15 yrs time

Hopefully people wont pack 15 hr care shifts and neglect the kids to the hands of social media / streets

The alarming rate of black kids in gangs is worrisome, now! Add fresh influx of kids born to these ‘woke’ immigrant parents to it. One can only hope many won’t look back in 10/15 years and regret bringing the whole family, especially their kids.
Blacks do not hold on strongly to their cultural identity - we are easily swayed.

Skolex5:
I will be greatful if someone can help schooling me on credit cards .

I want a proper schooling like a newbie , and possibly mentor !

Pls I beg .

Why don’t you try and read up extensively on it first and then come up with questions you want answers to.
It’s a very wide aspect of financial mgt and “one man’s meat (way of managing finances), might be another’s poison”

I come in 2023 peaceeeey

Compliments of the season to all and sundry.

For folks just coming in with their families, especially those with much younger kids, you have a lot to do and the earlier you started the better.

Apart from the culture shocks, the differential treatments etc your young ones will experience in school and in the larger society; they would soon be directly exposed to ‘relationship curriculum’ on LGTV and all the confusion that comes with it.

Imagine 5 and 6 years olds learning about ‘dad and dad’ parents or the freedom to change your gender - confusion is about to let loose.
At this age, they are not even done understanding the male / female issue.

It’s introduction is inevitable!
However, the short term solution here, is to do the education yourselves rather than thrust it in the hands of ‘strangers-with-agenda’ to do it for you.

Your 9 - 5 jobs and shifts are necessary money-making moves, but giving those kids a solid foundation is ‘importanter’

Plaitex:
Good evening House. I got to the UK 3 weeks ago, Sheffield precisely and haven't had any luck with job searches. Got only one interview which wasn't successful. The others do not respond or feedback.
Please what can I do? Am I missing a link? I apply from Total, indeed, Reed and LinkedIn.

If you need job(s) urgently to keep body n soul together b4 the big break via LinkedIn, Totaljobs etc come, visit the local recruitment agencies’ offices closest to you. Also, try IndeedFlex
Meanwhile, if the big breaks are what you urgently need, patience would be a necessary virtue for you to cultivate.

eniola1010:
My sister. Want to ask u something. Is it possible for one's credit score to increase without having to devise the cc or borrow want to and pay back on time method.

Cant someone just live his life normally, earn his salary, and use his card to buy something with the money in his card. Wont this also increase credit score?

It’s a CAPITALIST world you are in. You must borrow / get a CC / access credit one way or another if you want to have a good score.

Foxie:
Please when I try to call this number it keeps saying it doesn't exist.

Sorry for late response. Input +44 and remove the 0 before 7

justwise:
Obviously you are joking

Never say never

Halleend101:
Good evening my wonderful people.

Please mothers in the house how do you cope with children and work,I arrived UK last week on dependent work visa,I have 3 kids my first child is 8 years, second 5 and the last one will be 3 years on April.please enlightening me on the kind of work I should be looking for that would give me time to come and pick them up from school.

Please advise on how to balance it. Person need to work.

Ah! Na only you waka come ?

ChiefDaddy1:
I must be honest with you comrade, I do not have that capacity to count book anymore

So, you’d rather be counting money than counting books?

Foxie:
Please house, kindly recommend courier companies that can ship foodstuffs from Nigeria to the UK. Thank you.

They are all over Isolo / Ajao Estate axis in Lagos. Call this folks in Manchester, they ship to anywhere in UK.
07802 730559

Pogracious:
Hello Ancestors

Thanks to all that contributed to my query.it is now resolved and I will be able to leave at the expiry date.All your contributions helped.
But I also have a question to ask,the washing machine in the apartment is mine as landlord did not provide one,can I leave it behind in the apartment or it will be considered as my stuff and they will call me to come and carry later.Asking because it will be a cost uninstalling and taking to recycle and if it can be useful to the next tenant,why not?
Your advise again sirs and mas

Be business minded and talk to your LL, he might just decide to pay you some small quids on the WM.

tushqueen:
What if it's a case of overstaying in Canada or America, then the wife got a job in the UK, will this implicate the man? Just relating it to a case I have at hand.

I will appreciate useful inputs from anyone

Information is power.
Regularising your stay in Canada is as difficult as UK; whereas, with a good immigration lawyer, it’s quite easy in US.
I know a family of five (all entered US together with hubby on a visiting visa while wife was on student visa accompanied by the kids) who initially sought asylum with the excuse of FGM on new born baby and subsequently regularise their stay - now with nice jobs and a mortgage to go with it. All these happened in less than 5 years.
Another lady who is divorced used same Immigration lawyer and now has her papers after overstaying for 2 years.
Meanwhile, many are there in US still running from the law and hoping another Democratic govt will do what Obama did in 2013 and grant amnesty.

justwise:
How will that work when the husband is living here illegally?

Single mother @ the time of filing application

Illegal immigrant hubby came back into her life much later when she got to UK - boom! Tell UKVI this story for the hubby to regularise stay much later.

justwise:
Old tricks, at some point that dead father will be found alive somewhere in the UK then all the years of lies will come crashing.

He should explore single mother as an option, after all, separated or divorced couple can reignite their love interest again.
And guy code 001 clearly states that “once de be, always de be”