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I fear that this virus could mutate and become more deadly.

Try to get vaccinated and boosted if need be

DarkJeddi:
Many have said worse..

Until they had a visitation..

Let's hope Mr COVID-19..

Will soon remember to pay you a visit..

Seeing is believing.

Lol, it's one thing for one to be against the vaccines and call it all sorts of names.

It is another to to call covid19 a scam and calling it a scamdemic or plandemic that one is outright stupidity laced with non insane delusions.

Bola146:
If she can't cooperate with her husband to face what was wrong, she should have left the marriage and focus on her sex trade

It's obvious you couldn't see through the person's sarcasm.

The person you quoted only highlighted the advice men give to women here when they come seeking for advice.
The person only reiterated it to the OP.

Kutunban:
Thank you for your concern and advise, next year hopefully we intend to bring in the last child in our personal house. Those baby food (Nan, Aptamil, Friso, SMA) and cloths can be overwhelming.

I understand,and the both of you were smart enough to have one,that is what I will advice the OP to do for now until things get better but she shouldn't wait and have nothing.
Hopefully things get better for you and your wife and what you are planning on doing and working on will materialise.
I pray it gets better for your family and your children are blessings to you and your wife.Amen

All the best.

Romanoff:
A lot of ignoramus here don't know that once a woman hits 35, she's termed a geriatric in obstetrics.

Her risks gets higher with pregnancy at that age.

These are things that should have been discussed before marriage.

In my opinion, one child is enough if you both can get your finances together by evaluating your current financial situation.

Does any of you have HMO, does it cover pregnancy and delivery?

Can you buy okrika clothes rather than new ones, can you do exclusive breastfeeding for three months and do you have three months maternity leave?

Can you afford formula and daycare after the maternity leave?

These are questions you both should come together and address.

Factor in the price of diapers.

If you have lots of friends, talk to the closest so they can throw you a modest baby shower.

You can get gifts there.

The diapers I got from baby shower and naming ceremony, I'm still using them and haven't even touched the ones I bought.

I pray he listens. He can have kids anytime he wants, you're the one who has the clock to consider.

Women who have kids late sometimes are lucky enough to have multiple pregnancies and I agree with you but that said you should also highlight that men's sperm begins to decrease once they enter 40.

This hasn't been focused on much in this part of the world but it is true,some of them even find it difficult to impregnate women and use sex enhancing drugs too,their sperm quality reduces and the number of sperm they produce reduces with age.

So even the husband is at risk, men also experience fertility decline too and the husband should be made aware of this he shouldn't think it would be easy for him as we are highlighting that of women we should highlight that of men.

And besides I will reiterate again I would not advice anybody interested in having children to have them late this includes men and women because the 60's and above should be for enjoyment not responsibilities of paying fees and raising children NO NO NO

Kutunban:
I'm 35 too and my wife is 32 years, I married her 3 years ago 2017 and we decided to have just 1 child till I own my personal house before we can add the last one and hopefully 2022 I'll be in my house. She accepted my conditions because I don't want to bring in children that I can't give them the best of training and superior knowledge, educating a child is quite expensive these days couple with the high cost of living. I understand his fear and worries but kindly talk to him and make him understand that the repercussion of late child bearing as a woman.

Even as a man it isn't advisable to have kids late because in your 50's your sperm quality would reduce not all men can perform and produce children when they get to their 50's it isn't easy and asides that I wouldn't advice anybody to have kids late to be paying fees in their 50's and 60's when they should be enjoying their old age they would be shouldering themselves with responsibilities.

Make hay while the sun still shines.

frugal:
Focused my ass. If he was that focused he should have waited before tying somebody down I guess he got married due to family pressure, which in itself is a very selfish thing to do

God bless you for the comment,why should he marry her to begin with why not just wait till he has money before marrying her especially in this part of the world filled with womb watchers.
Even if he wanted to get married why not marry a woman who doesn't want kids early like him?

Why tie a woman down?the husband is selfish.

phazotron:
That is how you'll people will be caUsing issues for men. You have a responsible man and you're here talking this nonsense. You better keep quiet and help your man secure the bag. Don't women get pregnant in their mid 30s?

It is your kind that will still shame them for not marrying early or bearing children.
What if the woman develops a problem tomorrow that may deter her from conceiving. Why should she wait when she is married and still capable of caring for one child?

Yes women get pregnant in their 30's but how many women have their first child in ther mid to late 30's what is even the guarantee that if their situation doesn't turn around the husband would be willing to have kids?

That is how she will wait and after 10 years of marriage nothing and end up paying primary school fees at 50.
Tueh.

obembet:
Seriously your husband is right. And I support his decision. Life is not all about bearing children but giving a beta life for those kids. What's the point of having children that u can not take good care of, the children u can not give a standard health care and education. I think you should forget what people arround u says and focus on your life and be happy

She wants to have kids and they can have just one for now,when do you want her to have kids you want her to be 50 and paying fees for secondary school abi.

It is not like as if she is jobless or very poor they are a little bit comfortable and can bring in just one kid to the picture especially if that is what she wants.Her clock is ticking and she hasn't frozen her eggs to have children in her 50's when it hits or what if when he is ready she has trouble conceiving the earlier the better.

Your husband is selfish and anybody advising you that he is a strong man and that you should wait doesn't mean well for you.

It's either your husband isn't saying something or ....


You are 32 have a child now especially since you earn something,you are both earning and things will hopefully get better you can have just one for now and start planning,you cannot be 39 and 40 having your first child even if women have a biological clock and men can have kids in their 50's but such an ability to do so also reduces as the man ages too the sperm quality becomes low, asides that I personally don't advice anyone to have children late because I believe the 60's and 70's or beyond should be for doing other things in life you fancy and desire to achieve before death calls and not paying school fees and training kids at such age when you should be traveling the world, enjoying life,seeing your children grow and have their own family and other interesting times of rest and reminiscence that comes with old age.


That said I agree with many here who have asked what you two were discussing while courting it is obvious your goals don't align here.

Involve a third party if need be to call your husband to order or steal his sperm have children now you can have one for now but don't listen to him when he says you should wait who knows what will happen tomorrow,the earlier the better

Magnoliaa:
You see that figures of speech part? Na general disorder for their pack. It was the same thing one ediot too been dey try drag with Poco.

What can I say if not that they are the shining examples of the failed Nigerian educational system

I nor even know if dem pass through school or school pass through dem

Magnoliaa:
A lot of them don't. I have seen the trend for a while. Very consistent. Because I see some of those redpillers sharing my posts, annnddd I go wild. Like, wtf dudes?? Really?? Y'all think I'm with you? You can't tell I'm kidding or see through my posts? Ayemi o!

Some romance section boys are actually 'not the sharpest tools in the shed'

I am not surprised, instead of them spending the whole day hating on women here,they should learn the figures of speech

Magnoliaa:
Ermm, ermm. But one Ihiala Erik Erickson tok something about sarcasm being fake ..... likeeeeeeee, tf isn't that the point, nigga?? Sarcasm suppose dey direct or be truth?

Pali, do you know that Grammar Nazi guy? Be like im help dey useful for here or some English guru. I no just know whether im grammar services don close for tonight abi for the year.

Lol, e be like say he don close for the year, I find it odd that the guys couldn't see through your sarcasm.

lawdksearch:
I have never been married before neither do have kids. tell me what is wrong in searching for partner to settle with?
You have spit quite a lot of trash here so far, and keep insulting people all around, does that make you feel better? or was it an anus your father had to bring you to being?

I wonder how you have lost sense of decency.
If true marriage is a bad thing, God would not have instituted it in the first place!

Thank you.

They were only being sarcastic,and highlighted what your fellow brothers (the ejaculating gender) always come to spew here and in their redpill thread of misery.

They go about on this forum talking trash about marriages and women,the ladies are only highlighting how far they are from reality,when in reality many of you men cannot do without women and even without marriages and what many of those miserable boys post here daily is far from reality because they cannot stay without women and only feed lies to the gullible men who would buy such crap.

citywal:
I disagree with you, girls are bad everywhere. There was this girl I met in the UK she's just something else.

lmao,she was being sarcastic.

Palema007 and magnoliaa,I have been laughing since I saw this thread,your sarcasm and senses of humour is top notch.

It depends on one's preference though,at a time I thought it didn't matter until an experience changed my mind.The one I dated briefly,very brief(my first relationship) had a formal education but not up to a degree level and wanted to go back to school when the time was right.


I then realised that I am a sapiosexual person and I know that intelligence mustn't be book related but then sometimes education helps us to have exposure,he didn't have that and I found out that when it came to intellectual discussions on any particular field it was zero input from him.Maybe if he had put in effort to at least learn a few things on the internet it wouldn't have been a big deal because I learn everyday and some of the things I know I didn't know it because of my degree but he wasn't like that.

Then I realised that I can't date not to even talk of marrying a man without a degree,I ain't stopping at one degree minimum of two is my ambition and I could even go further if my priorities and plans would let me I prefer a man who is in that place with me(in terms of education)
No formal education at all is a NO NO.

So for my preference it matters,it doesn't matter to some people and they are just going on fine,but I love anything book related and someone who is a polymath/philomath in STEM related fields it intrigues me and such a man has to have a degree to be knowledgeable in that aspect so no I can't marry a man without a formal education because such a man would not meet my area of interest and what I call fancy because it is one area I love discussing about and sharing ideas.

I like nerds(not in the derogatory sense) don't blame me

Gwan2:
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Murder_of_Samuel_Paty

Wow,I just went through this I heard about the unfortunate event last year but didn't have much interest in it.

Reading this gave me chills the student lied and an innocent man died,why would an 18 year old choose to be an idiot?I am glad the fool is dead.
My goodness religious extremism and intolerance is a cankerworm and a disease that should be curtailed.

Biglittlelois:
I'm yet to see women force you guys at gun point to part with your money, cos y'all are making it seem like women control your mouth from saying "no".

How can they even say no when the first impression they give is 'baby I have money so it's all yours do with it as you like'

AGurlnoname:
Lol

Advice to men:

1. I noticed where there is "sugar you see ants around". Likewise for men, don't approach a lady like you can buy her the whole world, a shining knight who is willing to rescue her in her distress. First show her your real personality, give her emotional support before you support her financially. Your first impression shouldn't be " I'm a rich guy". If you approach me like that, I will manipulate and milk your money.

2. Stop fornicating about. . No woman wants a community dick, with infection and shaggy balls.

3. Lol, if you're a broke ass redpiller like, follow rich guys here and bash women. Stop wasting your time online, putting all your frustration on women. As long as you're broke, good looking ladies won't look at you.

4. Stay healthy too and go to gym. We don't like young men looking like 75yrs with a protruding stomach. I'm sure y'all have spec, so be a lady spec too.

5. Dont expect a perfect woman, you're not perfect too.

6. Team virgin or no marriage, also remain virgin for your wife.

Lol.

Preach sis, your points are valid

dreyboard:
Your girlfriend slaps your mum and you are still asking whether to accept her back?, You are a disgrace to manhood if you accept her back, you want to marry someone that doesn't show any respect to your mother to the extent of slapping her. What do I even know self, accept her so that she can complete her mission by beating your father and mother altogether.

Na so because the mother and father have no faults and if they are the ones that will kill her with trouble it's okay but not okay if the lady reacts.

Some of you ehn OP why are you finding it difficult to conclude your half baked story.

Some of us can be really blind when it comes to family that rational thought to the extent that even family could be wrong goes out the window

mikezuruki:
I have gone through your profile. I won't dignify you with a reply after this.

You're lost already.

Sorry for my earlier response. Regards.

When you don't have dignity,how can you dignify me.

You are the one whose lost because you have no rational counter argument to give me hence the emotional sorry take blackmail common get lost and continue to wander in your lostness

mikezuruki:
The embarrassment here is you. It's something that you can do, hence you asked the stupid question.

Do you know what an effective communication is? Lol. That you got my message and replied, communication is effective.

Back to the topic. Really your type is what men should avoid at all cost. What in this world would have warranted her slapping his mum?

Omoh.

How is it a stupid question to want to know the entirety of the story don't you know that when you go to court the court needs to be abreast with the details, how will a rational adult who is a third party want to take sides without knowing the full story

You are obviously half baked, effective communication is devoid of insults and you lack them hence why you couldn't even ask a sane question because your second paragraph was even unclear you talk like a kid

As for the silly question direct it at the OP, because that is what a sane court of public opinion would do so let the OP answer the question and stop trying to act silly,I avoid men like you because there is no rationality with them so it's a mutual thing because men who make irrational decisions and take sides without fair hearing is not worthy to be called a man.

It seems you don't know that when people are pushed to the wall they do things they wouldn't want to do because a sane ordinary person can answer that silly question of yours with this.

Saintmary:
You made very interesting points on your thread.

I hope many people will overcome their agitations to learn to do the right thing.


Sexual promiscuity only comes back to bite the butt.

Thanks dear for understanding the message,a lot of them were feigning ignorance when I created the thread

steveneche:

It's obvious you are a troll, instead of being honest with yourself and post the full story you came on nairaland with Bleep and bull BS.

Then you had to put an emoji to show how unserious you are,liar.

mikezuruki:
[s]Are you stupid? Like really? Start from where?

If her mum was in anyway wrong, would her entire family accompanied her to come and beg?

Aside that, are you even okay? It's a rhetorical question because obviously you're not[/s]

Excuse me,I don't argue with street urchins get lost, you couldn't even answer the question or counter it you chose to embarrass yourself and tell me that you lack effective communication like a kid that you are.

Common get lost.

justosee:
That can only happen with weak men.

You don't know the meaning of weak men

justosee:
Only foolish men will allow a woman to bring a bastard to his house in this present age.

Who told you the house is only is in this present age?

[quote author=eminikansoso post=108902754][/quote]Wetin concern me with you?


Why should it pain me?
Common swerve

viceddy95:
No need looking for what transpired between them,she over cross her boundary by slapping the mother of her future husband,nothing to settle there,make the girl gerrout…

Everybody has a boundary even if it was the mother that slapped her first then she also crossed a line and her boundary by slapping her son's girlfriend,I don't think such a woman would love for her own daughter's mom in law to slap her.

Every one including children deserves respect and we all have boundaries in human relationships that shouldn't be crossed.
Would you see it differently if it was the mother that slapped first, would you exonerate the mother because she is elderly and give her a pass for her actions,what would your response be?

viceddy95:
No need looking for what transpired between them,she over cross her boundary by slapping the mother of her future husband,nothing to settle there,make the girl gerrout…

There is always a need, don't be a half baked sentimental judge.
I just went through the OP's profile and saw his previous thread he was told,he didn't witness it or give his GF a listening ear.
You don't do that because it leaves room for one to infer things what if his mother doesn't like the lady or is a violent person or who knows if it was made up,going through his previous thread he didn't even respond to a few sane questions thrown at him.
One person said there are two sides to every story,the Gf's side,his mother's side and the truth.Before making decisions be certain so as not to make irrational decisions that come to bite us.

The OP should be honest enough and offload the whole story,if he does know what transpired then shame on him because this could be a lie or taken as malicious by him or against his GF by his mother.

The issue of contention here isn't the slap we are not yet there to address it because the story and what transpired that led to it hasn't been addressed so don't be sentimental here.

akwemose:
You were told??you didn't witness it?did you try to find out the story from your girlfriend?who told you she slapped your mother...I may be wrong but I see a pattern here.this could be a case of your mum not liking your girlfriend and this could be a cooked up story.did you really verify this story?how have things been between your girlfriend and your mother...have your mum always liked her or supported the relationship in this 2years??.please make sure what you were told is true to be certain you made the right choice...one would have told you will still hear from your woman before sending her packing..there are three sides to this story...there is your mum's side,your girlfriend's side and there is the truth.

Gbam

FernandezPablo:
You are either lying or you ain't reasonable to confirm what happened..you were told?
No investigation..you just believed what you were told...
This story ain't true..from your use of words to your vocabulary and the way you ended your sentence shows that this is a formed up story..

Another sane question.