MrBrownJay1:


... while she doesnt want to see reason with him?! why not just accept that these guys aint compatible and move on with their respective lives?!



thats because you "assume" that he doesnt wanna have kids for financial reason, while it can be many other reasons. the point is: he doesnt want kids, and that should be his final answer. it is obvious that this is something they've talked about way before marriage, thus she has nothing to complain about, as she fully well knew what type of man she was marrying.



the important question here IS: SHOULD YOU FORCE A PERSON TO HAVE KIDS, WHILE IT IS OBVIOUS THEY DONT WANT TO HAVE KIDS?!?!

duduade:
you earn 70k.. and you are not working on how to improve on yourself to earn more.. no desire to live a better life... your only desire is to be pooping children out abi...

Aunty u are the one frustrating yourself

ogwuche4u:

If his dad was to wait for things to be right, will he be in this world?

DirectTokunbo:
So are you saying that you can marry a barren woman? If the answer is yes, I believe you

frugal:

Focused my ass. If he was that focused he should have waited before tying somebody down I guess he got married due to family pressure, which in itself is a very selfish thing to do

Raalsalghul:
I like your husband already.

amnesty7:
Imagine! Oyinbo capitalist mentality. He never knows that the kids will definitely come with their blessings. And who promises or guarantees him tomorrow?
He may have to raise the kids in his old age.

Kolawole2130:
We have been married for 3 years now. We stay in a self contained apartment. He tries as much as possible to pay his bills while I support him too with paying the bills.

Since we married, anytime I talk about childbearing he gets angry. Like he may not talk to me for days. I will be the one to come and beg him later. He says his not ready to start bearing kids that he wants to have enough money to take care of the kids. He says he doesnt want his children to suffer.

I am so pissed off, I am 32 now and he is 35 and he earns 100k while I earn 70k. Is that not enough to raise a family. Plus age is not on my side he doesnt look like he will be ready in a year time again. Am already getting tired and people around me are getting married. No body can even talk to him. His mind is made up already.

The last fight we had he said i can go and divorce him if i cannot wait till he is ready. He is busy reading for professional exam instead of him to be thinking of how to produce seed. Professional exam that will last another 2 years. His family can't even talk to him. Am just frustrated already.

Kutunban:
I'm 35 too and my wife is 32 years, I married her 3 years ago 2017 and we decided to have just 1 child till I own my personal house before we can add the last one and hopefully 2022 I'll be in my house. She accepted my conditions because I don't want to bring in children that I can't give them the best of training and superior knowledge, educating a child is quite expensive these days couple with the high cost of living. I understand his fear and worries but kindly talk to him and make him understand that the repercussion of late child bearing as a woman.

na2016:


Keep shut! Marriage isn't about procreation, it is more about companionship

Fiscus105:



I fear who dnt fear you

If she is ur daughter at 32 and married for 3 years , will you be comfortable with it?

If such girl left him b4 marriage and went for guy that ready, you would be first person to blame all ladies that they are useless.

Pinch urself with needle before do it for others

Raalsalghul:


Mr man, are you okay?

What the Bleep do you mean by the above question?

Do you think a lot of people want to be in this cold, cruel, unbalanced world?

A world of suffering, struggle made worse if you're in a hellhole like Nigeria.

Given the choice, 95.798% of the world's population would prefer not to be given birth to.

So don't make it seem like he owes his dad any appreciation for bringing him here.

The fact that he's still fighting to succeed at 35 should give you a hint at the type of family that he's from and that is what you want him to be grateful for.

Watch yourself man!

amnesty7:
Imagine! Oyinbo capitalist mentality. He never knows that the kids will definitely come with their blessings. And who promises or guarantees him tomorrow?
He may have to raise the kids in his old age.

Kolawole2130:
We have been married for 3 years now. We stay in a self contained apartment. He tries as much as possible to pay his bills while I support him too with paying the bills.

Since we married, anytime I talk about childbearing he gets angry. Like he may not talk to me for days. I will be the one to come and beg him later. He says his not ready to start bearing kids that he wants to have enough money to take care of the kids. He says he doesnt want his children to suffer.

I am so pissed off, I am 32 now and he is 35 and he earns 100k while I earn 70k. Is that not enough to raise a family. Plus age is not on my side he doesnt look like he will be ready in a year time again. Am already getting tired and people around me are getting married. No body can even talk to him. His mind is made up already.

The last fight we had he said i can go and divorce him if i cannot wait till he is ready. He is busy reading for professional exam instead of him to be thinking of how to produce seed. Professional exam that will last another 2 years. His family can't even talk to him. Am just frustrated already.

litaninja:
170,000 joint take home per month. 2,040,000 per annum. Living in a single room apartment.
Of the 170,000, how much are your current expenses? Rent, Transportation, feeding, healthcare, utilities, etc?

The guy clearly is trying to improve the situation by upgrading his qualifications, but your brain can't seem to phantom anything more than bringing children to suffer.

How in the world do you somehow think this is an optimal situation for child-bearing??
Are you joking?

feckos:


Honestly I couldn't believe all the senseless comments I read here hailing the guy as being focused?

At 35? Been married for 3years? Not likely to complete his programme in next 2years? What loss will it be to him if e give the woman one pikin hold first?

This guy is just selfish and wicked.

Beblessedbaba:
I so much like your husband. A very sensible man; you want to bring children into the world without proper planning on how to cater for them.


He has asked for patience for you guys to sort things out first. Madam better be calming down. By the way, you married a very focused and responsible man.

I do not understand what you mean that age is not on your side at 32. Please don't plunge this young man into 3rd level generational poverty (his parents got nada & his grandparents were peasant) rather divorce him quickly and either marry a man who is ready to be popping children year in year out. Pity his ancestors as this young man out of the millions that we have has taken a better route instead of ritualism called Yahoo or scam that will still end of messing his later years up or cut down his life in it's prime or mortgage his children fortune.

NB: Do we even wonder why the Babalawo or Dibia that does juju or fetish rituals for Yahoo boys does not do likewise for his own children or himself. The answer is flowing in the wind.

amnesty7:
Imagine! Oyinbo capitalist mentality. He never knows that the kids will definitely come with their blessings. And who promises or guarantees him tomorrow?
He may have to raise the kids in his old age.

cococandy:
I feel like you and your husband should have married partners who are interested in the same things that you are. Like he wants to wait, he should have found a woman willing to wait with him.
Since he’s not here and no one can talk to him according to you, what other advice can anyone give you except to either wait with him or divorce him?

feckos:


Honestly I couldn't believe all the senseless comments I read here hailing the guy as being focused?

At 35? Been married for 3years? Not likely to complete his programme in next 2years? What loss will it be to him if e give the woman one pikin hold first?

This guy is just selfish and wicked.

amnesty7:
Imagine! Oyinbo capitalist mentality. He never knows that the kids will definitely come with their blessings. And who promises or guarantees him tomorrow?
He may have to raise the kids in his old age.

Fiscus105:



I fear who dnt fear you

If she is ur daughter at 32 and married for 3 years , would you be comfortable with it?

If such girl left him b4 marriage and went for guy that ready, you would be first person to blame all ladies that they are useless.

Pinch urself with needle before do it for others

Kolawole2130:
We have been married for 3 years now. We stay in a self contained apartment. He tries as much as possible to pay his bills while I support him too with paying the bills.

Since we married, anytime I talk about childbearing he gets angry. Like he may not talk to me for days. I will be the one to come and beg him later. He says his not ready to start bearing kids that he wants to have enough money to take care of the kids. He says he doesnt want his children to suffer.

I am so pissed off, I am 32 now and he is 35 and he earns 100k while I earn 70k. Is that not enough to raise a family. Plus age is not on my side he doesnt look like he will be ready in a year time again. Am already getting tired and people around me are getting married. No body can even talk to him. His mind is made up already.

The last fight we had he said i can go and divorce him if i cannot wait till he is ready. He is busy reading for professional exam instead of him to be thinking of how to produce seed. Professional exam that will last another 2 years. His family can't even talk to him. Am just frustrated already.