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@poster An empirical fact you mean. I don't know about your spoken english, but your written english is not just it.

And what do you want people to help you do? Break up with her on your behalf? Do whatever you wish.

Babe! Nice one!

@ poster, are you both living together? If yes, then i think taking such a step as cohabiting with someone you met 3months ago is a recipe for disaster. It also calls to question your mental state.

Your written English is not particularly great too. EXCEPT  you mean, not EXPECT. And again, what's up with the capital letters.

And to your question, i don't think it's right for you to leave this lady because of her non-ability to speak good English. Besides English is not our mother tongue. You can encourage her to further her studies. You can also encourage her to read novels in other to improve her diction and vocabulary. You said yourself that she's quite good in every other thing.

Those who are afraid to get married simply don't have the balls for it. @OP whoever told you you are rich? go and sit down somewhere my friend.

^^^^it's quite clear what I'm saying. But since you obviously don't understand simple English, I'll put it in the plainest language you'll understand. Women beg because the men secretly enjoy it. Makes them feel important.

If i have any reason to suspect my patner is cheating on me, i'll begin to hurt and subsequent investigations can't be helped. . . I'll want to know as not knowing will kill me inside same as knowing.

Nigerian men are the only guys on the face of the planet who want to eat their cake and have it.
In reality, most or a sizable number of them run away from self-reliant and independent babes. They actually prefer the helpless and completely dependent babe that would inflate their already bloated ego to no end. I know for a fact that guys to feel needed, they fancy being the hero that would save the day. Why then shouldn't we help them realise that dream since it obviously what makes their world spin. There are actually lot's of independent woman out there waiting for the right guy to appreciate them, but the guys run away. Most of this ladies have to feign helpness and dependence in order to snag a dude.

And some guys are here mouthing off gibberish. You simply can't eat your cake and have it.

Are you sixteen?

Nah. . . .we like them all soft and droopy.

^^^^nice one!

cuddle, cuddle and more cuddle . . .there's just something about a loving warm cuddle that make me at peace with world, and the world all of a sudden is not really a bad place. Aside that, I'm not much of a romantic.

Flowers, chocolates and all doesn't do it for me either.

A Romantic getaway with me and my love only means I've died and gone to heaven

Beync:
Una case get case inside case, dont even marry outside your family, marry your your elder brother.

Now this is just plain mean! I have my reason for making the choice i made. And yes, I'm

jude33084:
SECONDED!

Imagine within them the Igbos still descriminates, thats why they cant rule this country. No offence!

the typical Anambra babe

Don't get me wrong, I'm not discriminating. I love every tribe. i think everyone of them is unique in their own way. i can date any tribe, even Hausa, but i can't marry them for the sake of breeding confused children that would reply when asked, "where are from?" "well my mum is from so and so and my dad is from so so and so" They should simply say "Igbo" and they would be brought up to speak the language fluently and pass it on to their children. Our tribe mustn't die out for the sake of LOVE

marjo:
This is why you get so many Anambra girls marrying late and marrying often below them, read traders or in arranged or parceled marriages. I can marry from anywhere .

Nah . . .Basically, my number one reason for inter tribal marriages is preserving a person's rich cultural heritage. Children born out of inter-ethnic unions tend to be confused, and this will just lead to the dying out of a tribe.

btyfulmnd:
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And if nobody comes withing the area you haved maped out , i presume you will remain single all your life "abi u go find alternative[/size][/size]"
i see nothing wrong marrying from either your ethnic group or outside moreover, what one i looking for is what is in the inside and not the pyhsical.
my dad is from Kogi while my mum is Imo and i couldnt have wished for any better parents.

till then . . .

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Nah i can't marry anyone's that not Igbo. I can't even marry an Igbo unless he's from Anambra, and even then, there are still some town i wouldn't marry from.

Mrs.chima and tom28 get a room!

@poster. . .Sagamite was just being sarcastic with you, and you totally fell for it. Surprised you totally did not notice the green light Madoba was flashing at you.

. . .and to the post, there's something you are leaving out. I can't believe you are searching for a chaste-no-sex-before-marriage-girl. As a girl, i know that every girl wants guys that don't want sex from them as then they become sure of the guy's seriousness.

Yeah I've been heartbroken twice. the first was 4 years ago and the second was this year, quite recently. Very terrible experience. But i've taken it in strides, what's a chic gonna do?

Funny, but most of what's said on this thread is spot on. Things are really happening in this town and you are right, good girls are next to impossible to see and have all been converted to that life; except me of course.

@poster, from your simple courteous replies to even the rudest poster, i conclude you are nice person. Your being AA might not really be an issue with these guys, but it might be something else, not necessarily character-wise. The issue here might be

1. As someone said earlier, these guys may not be interested in you because of of how close your family and theirs are. They may even see you as a sister.

2. They may be in a relationship, or they may think you are (you are 22).

3. Sometimes, Nigerian men wouldn't want to get too serious with a person exceptionally pretty (even though they greatly admire such a person) as they may be on their toes all the time and scared that someone better than they are would come and whisk you away. They'd want to save themselves that trouble.

4 And lastly, they may not even know your intentions towards them (that's if you have any). But seriously, what do want from these guys? friendship? Relationship? Marriage?

Seriously, it doesn't really matter where the guy comes from, as long you both love yourselves and he cherishes you like no mans business, and most importantly, he makes you happy.

^^^^your standards just happen to be screaming judgments! You consider any girl you meet in the club not decent? You may not like clubs for whatever reason, but i believe you can meet good responsible people anywhere. Learn to give people benefit of the doubt.

ThiefOfHearts:
I rather be seen as loose for dancing with friends to my fav music at a club than be a dumb Arrow and follow some random dude to a "bar". For all we know she's probably buried under your house right now.

Good One! you should get a high five for this. 2buff trying to act like he's non-judgmental, when in truth, he's silently judging.

I've always known there was something shady about that crystal girl. Saw through her good girl act. A gold digger in disguise, She's

Tinyemeka:
Aaarrgh!! He had his first wedding in 1949! I am very sure the girl's parents had not even been born then. See the dessicated ooold goat. Wanted to hook the fresh thing abi? So when he dies he'll go and boast to his pals wherever they might be, that he'd wedded a 25yr old piece of a$$. Ok O.

The girl cut liver. She'd have simply gone on with the plans, screw the living daylights out of the sod on their wedding night (maybe egg him on with a mouthful of Viagra), then blame his eventual fatal heart attack on his old age. Mumu.

has gotten the fame and money that was her reason for hooking up with Hugh. Guess Holly's got the last laugh now

NO one put a gun in her head and forced her to date him, or even accept his proposal, but she did on her own accord. Hugh is not the one with the problem.

^^^^^thanks!

Insanity:
@op everything you said here is what i'll say 'bout the ladies too.You buy her gifts,U be mugu,you don't,you are not romantic. A woman can neva be satisfied. So,i'll say its a general issue for both genders. We are all selfish beings,so don't come here n say ;'men this','men that', just live your life,be yourself,don't mind what people say behind your back,'cuz it only means you r one step ahead,U dig ,

Guys complain about the ladies all the time on Nl. You can open yet another thread about the ladies and there selfishness, but here, it's about the guys and their woes.

Advocator:
On a related note, attractiveness can be a bi-product of happiness. I believe that people are often attracted to people who enjoy life & feel good about themselves and a certain energy radiates through when someone feels confident and beautiful on the inside, and it shows outwardly.

it's not the only factor. but I find that it's a big one. Thats my opinion.

[quote][/quote]An outward radiation of happiness does not mean a person is happy. To the world, i may look happy, but only i and i alone really know if I'm happy.

[/quote][quote author=Advocator link=topic=685350.msg8475326#msg8475326 date=1307486086]The author ain't me drunk woman!

i'm not even going to dignify this with a response. But seriously, you are good.

i believe they may have more economic advantage, but that doesn't directly translate to happiness.

So not true! get your facts right

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=685156.msg8474002#msg8474002 date=1307468644]OP-- your post apply to all of us in general-- By nature, we all are, covetous  and never satisfied- Ultimately,just DO YOU![/quote]don't get what you mean. . .rephrase.