₦airaland Forum

sammysmiles:
The interest youth put in relationships, how I wish they put it in making money...

pansophist:
The only post I'll ever agree with you. Small geh

Zzor:
Anita is a woman of wisdom HWA to them

RealVictor:
Download barter by flutterwave app, create a virtual Dollar Card, fund it and use it.
It works

illicit:
Communion wey no dey belleful person....

bukatyne:
1. Your husband is employing out parents' method of comparison to our 'role models'. Your Pastor's wife is 'ideally' a role model for women in the church.

2. As a wife, you are to please your husband; part of which is to aspire to be appealing to him.

3. Your husband complaining about your body does not negate his love for you (if you were sure of it prior to now)

Now we have cleared the above;

Work on your weight, skin and dress sense.

You testified that there is money so employ these fitfam people to prepare meals for you (if you can't do it yourself) and incorporate exercises. If you have tried to lose weight without success in the past, you can employ a dietitian (who is different from a fitfam p,rofessional)

While you work on being the best version of yourself, tell him you do not appreciate been compared to your Pastor's wife.

You are not going to be another Mrs. Pastor, you will be the best, sexiest version of yourself.

Zzor:
will you keep quiet, was the man trying to keep his home by disrespecting his wife like that? Are you one of the men I exchanged because I've lost count.rubbish

Rhodaogunpeju:
Why are our Nigerian Men so insensitive.

I'm naturally a chubby lady with curves and I remember vividy how my husband used to praise my physique and say I'm his spec. According to him skinny girls are not his type.

We got married and I have given birth to two kids and I added weight a little, plus we were living comfortably so the good life was evident in my life and body.

The church we normally attend, the pastor's wife has 5 kids already and she's much older than me but she still looks moderate enough with little or zero stomach fat.

My husband seeing this woman has constantly been telling me to try and work on myself, this man literally wants me to be skinny, when we married I wasn't skinny, the blow was when he compared me to my Pastor's wife, saying I have just 2 kids and I added weight while our Pastor's wife has 5 and she's looking like she never gave birth.. I cried and I have been crying since..


It hurts so much .. It makes me wonder if this man still loves me?

bukatyne:
Abortion is murder so you both discuss and work on how to keep the baby.

kingthreat:
If the man was guilty, they will be saying hang him. Castrate him.
If the woman was guilty of rape accusations, all they say is "Sorry".
The most screwed up set of men are those who play pawn into women's games and support every rape accuser without seeking the truth. If you are that kind of man, you should be ashamed of yourself.

pozehnani:
This can only happen When people don't understand what marriage is all about.

Most people see marriage as a medium to satisfy their sexual desires and that is why you see many men attracted and getting married to a lady because of her shape. When she goes out of shape, the Interest is gone.

Some see marriage as a means of survival. So when they become comfortable, they lose Interest in the providing spouse.

While some go into marriage due to societal pressure only to get in and realize they dont know what and why they are in the marriage. Or if marriage is actually for them.

If you want to understand the real meaning of marriage, study the life of Christ and his relationship with the Church ( the saints in the body of Christ). Until I find a man who understands this last point, Ill gladly remain unmarried. All we have these days are halfbaked men who know little or nothing about marriage.

grafixdon:
I had the same experience recently during endsars riot. Even though no vehiclar movement, some are able to get Okada to their various destinations though very expensive. I met this gorgeous sister trekking, I enquired when she was heading to, she said Iyana ipaja from there to sango where she based, what? From Igando to Iyana ipaja under hot sun, then I look for a bike and paid the Okada guy to take her to Iyana ipaja. She requested for my number which I reluctantly gave her.

A week later she got a job at odo eran closed to igando, she chatted me up that she needd to move to her sister's place at Igando because of her job... She asked for assistance for food and tfair to work. In total, I transfered 20k...10k, 5k, and another 5k... This girl collected salary and she didn't even tell me anything, 2 months later, she called me she need 2k to go to work. I asked if they're oweing her salary, she said no, so what have you done with 70k you were paid, 35k monthly, she said she bought clothes and other things. I just looked at her and shake my head. Courtesy demands you buy me even if it's ordinary malt to appreciate me for helping a total stranger like you without asking for anything in return.

I just tire for naija girls

CaveAdullam:
DAY 69, REDPILL 2021

Truth is like zephyr that runs through every facets and corners. It doesn't plead, negotiate or reason with anyone or thing. It is what it is! Though, TRP is going mainstream but never for once has it commune with any woman. The only women that communes with it are those that are curious and in dire inquisitiveness to know what it entails---redpillwomen, alphawomen, traditional women etc.

Many celebrities, politicians and game players know about TRP, but you'll hardly or never see them proclaiming it to anyone, women most especially. They play along feigning ignorance of TRP, because they verily know that truth is an enemy to the populace and the populace are friends to those that trick them, tell them lies and satiate their confirmation bias. For this reason, politicians are good demagogues.

You don't meet a woman and start talking "bullshits" about TRP. They're not intelligent to comprehend its details. Women don't even know about their nature not to even talk of understanding it. Though they're lacking in this knowledge yet do they play the game consciously or unconsciously. They're ready to rive anything that will subverts the benefits they earn from their Machiavellian tactics. So, standing at the forefront hoisting a flag of war which will shortchange their proceeds will definitely unleash their inner demons and chaos.

For women, subtlety is natural as is but an art for men. Hence, women play the games of life correctly to their solipsistic nature. A woman don't care about the nature of a man, what she cares about is what she can gain from that man whether he's ugly, handsome, poor, rich, tall, short. The friendzone is her natural way of benefiting from these men without any form of emotional attachment or mutualism.

Also, women are friends and main allies of simps; and as you must know, simps makes up more than 80% of the male population. If you understand (human) woman nature, you will play according to the waves of their fantasy so that you can at least gain leverage as per their connections with their simps who occupies the upper echelons of every society. Can you see the different ways young ladies and women display their "hard earned money" on social media? Become like an actor and you can fit well into any character. After all fame and money are what actors are concerned about.

How then do will now speak truth? Know this: women aren't as logical and pragmatic as Men. They're vapid and by their solipsistic nature, they only conform to what will benefit them, even the "truth" they will bear if it has great gains. If you decide to enter into any intellectual discourse with a woman, you will end up becoming tiresome. What they want is an emotional rollercoaster, unwavering in different scenes of adventures and enigma. In this emotional show, you can subtly attach some hard truths and let them absorb it on their own by an act of will and not by negotiation or coercion. If you go flat with the truth with any woman, you will never have any around because they will see you as boring regardless of every gems of truth you dish out.

In this present day we live, truth is poison to the majority who has chosen to live a lie. You must speak undiluted truth anonymously or better act it except you've got nothing to lose. Regardlessly, evil men kill men of truth, you must be careful on how you relate truth to anybody. Learn to protect your head before speaking the truth. It is better fools come to the knowledge of the truth on their own rather than negotiating it with them or by coercing them. Remember: truth is like zephyr, anyone who locks his doors against it will gradually debilitate.

Authority: Truth is for the courageous. So, to get along greatly with people, you must play accordingly to their fantasy.

Cc. Scofield114

UjuJoan2:
I quite agree with you!!!

There's just something about her that rubs me off the wrong way . . . . I'm really sad to say that I don't like her.

The person I feel sorry for is Harry. As horrible as the BRF might be, they are still his family. Having to choose . . that must be really hard on him.

During the interview he sometimes sounded defensive and a bit hesitant to say negative things about his family . . even expressed pity for them. But Meghan was out for blood. How horrible he must have felt to watch that and feel like he has no choice but to side with her!!!

I know we are all for women empowerment and all that, but the African in me cringes at what Meghan is doing. We are Africans, no matter what you DO NOT trash your inlaws. She appears bitter because her son was denied the title. It's like someone marrying a rich man, claiming she's not in it for the money, and then crying foul on realizing her children will not even be in the will.

Why is that even important to her if she is not so power-drunk and grabby!!!!

What exactly did she think she was getting into marrying into the royal family? If she expected to be welcomed with open hands then she must be f00lish and unrealistic. They killed Princess Diana for God's sake for being pregnant with a mixed breed baby. . how did she think they will accept her?

Harry is an adult, if he wanted to leave the family he could have done that well before he met Meghan. I think he will regret this action, and I think Megan is incredibly selfish.

FreeSpirited:
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Don't be dumb throwing up needless comparison.
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[s]Bodily Invasion and sexual dehumanization of immature girls are more traumatic with worse, long-term emotional effect than a boy whose genitals were fondled by a female molester, of course a boy's preeq would have been so small to make it a serious rape by the female molester.[/s] I had this same experience at 7 but I can't relate it with anything psychological or traumatic so far. it will be worse if I was a girl and being penetrated at that age.
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This is not to condone it.. but don't compare it with when young gals are painfully penetrated, used and rendered emotionally traumatized. Many of them as a result of such early exposure quickly become psychologically wounded, their normal sexual maturity impaired that they start engaging in dangerous sexual behaviors.
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This post is not about comparison; you can make a point about the less reported male rape, I mean the homosexual type of rape which is almost as dehumanising as that of girls being penetrated, at any rate, it's still not as common as girl exploitation of which u don't have to go far flung to the Vatican to bring your evidence.

Girls child rape happens everyday on our street, homes, by friends, church members, relatives, tutors, etc
..It happened to 4 young girls in my street who are barely btw 10 and 12, one of them was my sis..You will probably understand and be more sensible if it happened to your sister or daughter who is still in primary schl...

IntersexSherry:
This is true beauty with strength

oluwaseyi0:
Congrats

Hope it will reduce the recently slowness in accessing nairaland

Or na seun we go hold responsible for that one

DenreleDave:
[s]Failurenaldo fans, u Wana defend fake goat right??[/s]

advanceDNA:
1. A right to peace in her home...polygamy breeds jealousy and domestic fights...

2. A right to affection....which will always be shared by other women...

3. A right to safety...as long as a man sleeps with other women... that woman isn’t safe...they risk infection...

4. Make no mistake...Women in polygamous homes are not wives. They are just property..a pleasure & child bearing property..

..no one should made to feel like they are just another sex object among the many the man possess...

Like I said...polygamy is repackaged adultery...

bukatyne:
Roll the eyes upwards

Different dispensation.

Divorce was 'allowed' in OT, just write a letter of divorce to your wife.

In NT, not allowed.

advanceDNA:
I believe polygamy is greed...it’s repackaged adultery......women are the same...trust me...

I believe no one can love his wives equally... so already there will be biasness....

Polygamy breeds jealousy among wives and children...
if any woman tells u she’s fine with the fact that her husband is drilling another woman in the next room and will still put the same pen!s in her later on ....then u must believe I’m dangote...
So already I are just hurting several women emotionally who can’t talk because of their desperate need to be married and have children

At the end of the day...polygamy tramples upon the rights of woman..

This is my view.. I am not speaking from religion.


.it’s based on my views I feel that Reno is not alright..

bukatyne:
@bold:



@OP:
The Bible doesn't talk about smoking cigarettes or pornography either.

Studying God's plan for marriage, monogamy is the ideal situation which balances the 'rights' and 'responsiblities' of both parties.

Would a polygamist go to hell? No idea

Would a man filled with the Spirit of God marry multiple wives? I 100% doubt it.