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kennygee:
Ladies. See the comments in this post. The one that really saddened me was the sweet girl who got dumped cause she was "demanding". Were her demands really a necessity or were they vain demands?

If you can afford to help out a woman you claim you love when she was in need, not out of vanity, is that a bad thing?

Maybe she was poor and couldn't afford those things she needed, if you could afford it and you've ascertained it is a necessity, is it too bad to help her out?

I pray she is able to hustle, get through this poor phase of her life by getting a decent job or business so she can stand on her own.

If you hustle your way through and become financially independent, they'll say you won't be submissive. If you ask them for money for needs, they'll say you're demanding.

If you dim your light so they can shine, they'll say you lack ambition. If you go to school, gather degrees paid for by yourself and your parents, they'll say you won't be submissive.

If you're a working career woman, they'll say you are not fulfilling your wifely duties, if you're a house wife, you're a liability.

The Nigerian woman is screwed either ways.

Make your own money ladies, work hard to achieve your dreams. Carve a path for your self and observe and look out for the one worth committing to.

In all these, stay off fornication and live the kind of life Christ wants you to live.

Shalom.

God bless u everyday,dere are ladies who extend helping hands to dere man also and no one makes a fuse out of it.

ochiora:
honestly the downpour of that day no be here... I was literally swimming in disgusting flood... my goodness!!! And trust Aba people to be emptying refuse into the floods..tueh! obodo gwuru agwu.. can't wait to return to Abj biko!

U jus said d truth,aba people are there own problem wen it stays raining dat means lawma has started work,d dirt end up blocking d gutters......d best tym to rent a house in aba na wen e dey rain so DAT u go see d area wella..........am always careful wen renting a house dere bfor person fall inside gutter one day.

I believe everytin is Gods protection cos I av bin opportuned to enter a bus filled up with guys and I was d only girl dere.

Optimus212:
Hi Nairalanders....Please Admin, help me push to Front Page, i'm in dire need of people's opinions.

Pls ignore my writing skills because the way the matter be, my head dey shake like this.

My story is brief.

I am married to my wife & we're blessed with 3 kids,
..My wife starves me of sex over minor issues, even when we've settled by my apologies & me assisting remarkably well in house chores.
There was a period 2 years back she starved me of sex for 4 months because of one little misunderstanding we had back then which was unbearable for me & made me to cheat on her,..And my relationship lasted for more than a year with that lady.

Right now she (my wife) has started again with same attitude, its going to a month now. I am confused because I don't want to cheat on her again. What do i do? Should i keep facing such punishment? For how long? Or, should i file for a divorce? Don't you think such attitude will have reoccurrences in time coming?. It is disturbing me badly because I find it difficult to be sleeping alone at nite without her by my side. I have begged & begged her to let whatever anger towards me that is deposited in her to just die off, yet to no avail. The funny thing is, we'll discuss and play very well before going to bed but, whenever I start making advances towards her, she shows up a different attitude.

I am confused!! It is really really disturbing me. How & where did I go wrong?.

Pls, matured advices only, you can insult me too, of course its Nairaland but, I need serious advice, I am very worried.
Thanks.

my tailor is on dis table, but he has settled it by cheating on his wife, now madam is fighting to get d attention of her husband but is not possible cos hand wey hold d bobo now strong wella and d sidechick is ready to beat madam anytime she says nonsense,not saying u should do d same give her d treatment she deserv, u paid for dat stuff.

Last saw dis woman in my aunt wedding....... Rip to her

Her words:I find nothing in u

Happened in my area, d oda tenent fought wit d agent bfor her bf called army dat came to pick up d guy...... Guess she was d lady dat fainted dat day.

For all I care ur parents are d main problem here, who gives d younger one power ova d seniors... After ur parent it is u in times of authority......... I am also a first child I dnt give my younger ones dat chance so as my parents, just ignore her na only she go reset hersef my brother was on dis table bfor no b person tell am.

Lumig:
... Did you just say "no matter what she has done"? Even if the lady in question wanted to kill him? I can't believe this...

wat happens to calling of d wedding plans, if at all is has gotten to taken each others life, all is better she dies and u guys start writing rip and asking y did she not leave d marriage..... Marriage or relationship is not a ticket to heaven.

StarUp:
First and foremost, what did she do? Most times people don't ask that question, they will instead start bashing the guy with words... Even a mad man won't assault you just like that... It's possible what she has been doing to him is worse than this(maybe it was compound-payback)...#justsaying

Are u serious wit wat u wrote up � dere, no matter wat she has done should warrant such, he should av simply break up d engagement, marriage is not byforce .... Wen no b say she steal, dis one no go last for d marriage bfor dem go carry her dead body come outside..... Dnt support evil no matter d gender.

Tallesty1:
The cancer is male

Haha hahaha��� funny u

Tareq1105:
My brother, too much hate on Nairaland

Too much bitterness, I kip wondering wat dey learn from churches and mosque dey attend....

Can we nigerians learn to dispose our dirt properly bfor fighting d govt over bad roads evn d drivers and dere motor boys are not left out.......

Once dis guy won make her run mad again make him just realese one fake pre-wedding pics and him and another babe d craze go worst.... A close friend who knowns d family said tonto is just lyk her father, dat dey lack manners and greedy people.

My junior brother is suffering from it, dere is dis native drug he mix it with pap water..

Joromi12:
U expect us to believe this abi.

U nid to, i had a neighbor who also behave dis way, just dat we b paddy sumhow but e own case b say him go collect small kip d rest.

d tym passenger join forces grab e junior no b person go tell am to give chsnge........na by unclothedness

met her in club in umuahia hee busy body no gree her sitdown one place.

meet her in club in umuahia hee busy body no gree her sitdown one place.

God tanks for ur protection,plying dat route without having issues

Remembered my sister going to call our neighbours dat i fainted dey all ran to help only for her to shout april fool.......One of d neighbour wey no lyk my sister bfor d hatred kuku increase dat day.....

philip0906:
Your own case different madam...Na una way: use guyman head finish, come dey yarn opata

No i for carry am go shoprite,after recharging his phone jus dat day he assisted me........no i for carry am go carbury

Could remember wen i still dey skool wey won idiot try fis nonsense wit me,e own b say make i buy provision cos he help me explain one course i let am know say d one e teach me dey evn give me headache.......nobody tell am make e find e square root...........U better stand up to him a tell him No cant displs mysef to pls anoda,skool matter wey everybody dey manage if i wanna give u my food it must b from my heart and not ur right,i go evn cook d food for ur front ,off my gas lock my door comot witout looking back...so better wise up.

Could remember wen i still dey skool wey won idiot try fis nonsense wit me,e own b say make i buy provision cos he help me explain one course i let am know say d one e teach me dey evn give me headache.......nobody tell am make e find e square root...........U better stand up to him a tell him No cant displs mysef to pls anoda,skool matter wey everybody dey manage if i wanna give u my food it must b from my heart and not ur right,i go evn cook d food for ur front ,off my gas lock my door comot witout looking back...so better wise up

Yigiyaga:
I just broke up with the op online yesterday over inconsistencies in her profile after online dating experience from dec 29 till yesterday. Pls ask her how i scammed her?

ok

emkz:
For some, it is a scam because either one or both of them are not true to the relationship. With commitment and discipline, it can work.

Circumstances like work can keep a couple apart for some time. Temptations will arise, as some outsiders would want to exploit the distance and take advantage. No one knows how this would pan out. I have seen two cases where the woman was devoted to the man even though they were 9 hours apart across the Atlantic. I even cautioned one when she was hanging out with a man in a "harmless" friendship. She cut him off.

For a wayward woman, there can never be an excuse to cheat since it is embedded in her DNA. Once the husband goes to work, the fuckboy starts his work in his house with his wife or in their hideout. It has nothing to do with distance. A woman who is decent and respects herself and her relationship would not cheat or create the environment for it to happen and vice-versa. So please, let us not generalize because of some indecent people we have seen/experienced.

Words...........thumbs up

adonainana:
Being a hotel manager myself i can relate to this actually, its because of profitability ooo, it costs money to run a hotel everyday whether you have guests or not. So back in the times we used to switch off our generator to save fuel and pray Nepa brings light. It even became worse during the recession in 2016, omo this times ehn, some customers would even want to come and fight us for the remaining of their change the next morning

is bad I swear, I was shocked dat faithful day, had to tye d curtains as if I was In my house,bath to con talk breeze....... I talk nawa tire dat day......

msg since way back Na now e Con dey reign.....

adonainana:
This story get comma inside ooo, how come when you lodged into the hotel you didnt notice the missing net and windows, how can a hotel be beautiful in the day and suddenly at night has no facilities.

The girls that were singing on the stairs when you first entered, how come they were no longer there again. Maybe the generator became faulty and the lights went off hence the sudden appearance of mosquitoes. cos this your story get K leg oooooo.

u av to believe him, I av lodge in a hotel were d gen was switched off by 11pm,i had to come outside to talk natural breeze it was terrible dat day.......

Am I d only one dat av never watched dis show for once....

Dis one no go do Xmas

dalongjnr:
Very terrible. It's peculiar with obese women. Obesity on it's own is a contributing factor in most cardiac-Pulmonary disorders eg, HHD,OSA... etc.

hnmmm.....i dnt agree with you my gf is a very lepacious person including my brother ,dere snoring dey put fear for my body especially when I Neva sleep......i do pray to far asleep before dem.