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JamaicanLove:



I do have suicidal thoughts sometimes

Don't know what it means

But sometimes, whenever I think about taking my life, my thoughts go to my dad, how he would feel. The pains he would go through, when I'm gone.
He doesn't even know that I have chronic asthma, and sleep apnea.
I hide this things from him.
I'm an introvert, I don't associate.
Lots of things are weighing me down.
Who am I Kidding, no one here gives a fuc.k

Khonifer:
Smh for Nigerians! Don't open your eyes and educate yourself. Resort to insults like a stupid child

RuddyFusion:
Please I will appreciate a good advice on how to deal with this situation.

How can you deal with a relationship that was ended abruptly without any reasonable reason?

My problem is not that she just ended the relationship in a fit of anger, but the fact that both of us are on the same team working on work related project ....So we will be seeing each other everyday for the next couple of months..

I want to feel normal and OK but I don't know how I will pull that off with Monday fast approaching...

I wish I can start off with someone else almost immediately to push this off my mind, but that's not the case...

I will appreciate any advice that will help..

Thanks in advance

AccessME:
you are the one that's stupid for not understanding what am trying to portray! Read again and graps well.

Omololu007:
I've not benefited anything from OBJ, so if buhari put him in jail till 2023,I don't give a dam about it.

A man that spent $16 billion on power, yet there is no light does not deserve any pity.

During the tenure of OBJ,I lived in bariga from 2003 to 2007,during those years,I didn't sleep with power supply for up to 2 weeks,and there was no day I enjoyed power supply for 24 hours,OBJ you're a foolish man that deserve to rot in jail.

OBJ never cared about Yoruba's living at bariga that were not seeing power supply,though he was spending billions of dollars on power supply, I have not pity for the useless man.

I hope buhari will arrest you and lock you up till 2023

Buhari will have my vote if he can lock this useless man in jail.

Foolish man.

LaudableXX:
Sorry sir, but the only ass on this thread is just you. And thank God, everyone can read and they have seen it. Talk to any fully qualified psychologist. They will tell you that no woman files for a divorce immediately she encounters or experiences an abusive situation the first time, at the hands of her husband. The abuse must have gone on repeatedly for ages, before she finally plucks up courage to apply for a divorce. Others make excuses for such husbands and continue to stay in the marriage, until they get so emotionally damaged or physically brutalised that it is impossible to continue with their lives.

Do you remember the banker Titilayo Omozoje Arowolo, that was killed by her abusive husband Akolade Arowolo in 2011? Or the case of late Fatima Ibrahim Manu who was killed by her husband Umar Manu in 2016? Google it. Abuse can go both ways in a marriage. A man can also be abused by his wife, and even get killed in the process. Mr Bilyamin Muhammed Bello, son of a former chairman of the Peoples Democratic Party, PDP, Haliru Bello, was allegedly stabbed to the death by his wife, Maryam Sanda. Were the lives of these deceased people, not ruined by their spouses?

Many women make excuses for cheating husbands, especially in Nigeria. You can decide to play the ostrich, by claiming it does not happen. Na you sabi. Many of them do not want to have a broken home, either because they have children for the man, or because they are financially dependent on such men. Nigerian society also stigmatises single mums to a certain extent, and some women do not want to go through that. This is not America, where a woman can automatically move out of her matrimonial home today, file for divorce tomorrow and is automatically granted alimony, once the case comes up in court.

My neighbour is a classic case. She suffered abuse for years at the hands of her husband, who eventually left her for someone else, after he had disfigured her with several beatings. That was when she finally filed for divorce. He had already wrecked her life by then. So Oga, educate yourself before you start talking about things you do not know!

LaudableXX:
A little knowledge is a dangerous thing. And when people like you start flaunting a little knowledge, it gives cause for alarm. Is divorce automatic? Do you get it the day you apply for it? Before the divorce comes through, the man could have wrecked her life. So stop saying what you do not know. Do you know how many women in this Nigeria of today, have been infected with STD or HIV by their husbands?

Most women (not all) who marry as virgins, are the ones that are quick to make excuses for their husband's bad behaviour. They tend to suffer his philandering and abuse quietly for years, before their self-control and tolerance threshold, snaps. Don't blame them. That is the limit of their knowledge. So please learn a little more about real life, before jumping to strange conclusions.

greatforever:
I posted sth here last month. but I haven't moved on she hasn't soften her pedal she insists we separate. D reasons she gave was da I was making jokes which wen I was with her I apologised. I TLD her I was sorry...
she even went ahead to tell me da I'm a good person but she doesn't want any relationship 4 now.

d prob now is da I haven't moved on from her. her thought keep rising in my mind...

pls help I want to move on