₦airaland Forum

aadvark:
He should not even come sef, before we start accusing him of being gay. Nigerians and accusation be like. . . . .
somebody zuma this comment for me

"Zuma this comment.."

holysaint1:
The lady be like... Leave me alone oooooo....

What a man can do, a cucumber can do beta...

Real or face, this picture us the funniest thing I've seen in a long while! I laughed so hard!

Ademoore07:
Infact, I'm proud of those 3 doctors in the room. Tuale for you guys.


Although, i'm a medical laboratory scientist, I could understand most of those points. Thumb up to d medics

I tell you! I was enjoying their diagnosis and exchange before they started arguing. But I think they've made up. Not so?.....Sirs.

Small time person go talk say na pickin change to chicken! Na our way.

Kakamorufu:
God knows if he ever stepped his feet on Nigerian soil. he mixed too. so he feels more British than Naija. even his school is in ghana. so

He's a product of Edo College and University of Benin. Do some research before you start making baseless assertions

baby124:
Marrying the wrong person will change your life drastically. Either due to rage from you or destructive acts by the spouse. People should Shine their eyes.

Let her get a lawyer. Otherwise what do you think these guys with her have to gain by going as far as being paraded by police if it was a setup? OP, you can't vouch for anyone o. We humans are capable of anything. Can you even trust or predict your own actions 100% OP? May we not be faced with challenges that cause us to take irrational decisions.

You just said a cotton-pickin' mouthful. If the unfortunate spouse is able to put their lives back together, then they're the lucky few. Why women have to remain in a relationship that demeans them is beyond me.

franchizy:
APC Fabricated news. This government is full of lies.

Its obvious that the prof never sent any letter.

im tired of APC and their fat lies. i blame PMB for this lies.

Nonsense.

Shut up, my friend! You sound really daft!

OMG he's so adorable! The concentration on his face, priceless!

merahki:
Darling, you lack love....and I am not insulting you
Little mind, even littler heart...biko, don't be like this

So you have never sinned?
I wonder at the kind of mind that would judge other people so calmly (or stridently even) , so coldly, so totally, so matter of factly, so completely, so unforgivingly
(Shudders)

You need to change the way you see and react to your world
So you do not think that the hell this girl, and her poor family must be going through right now is enough punishment?
The sordid video her father would watch and how his heart would break seeing his darling little girl like that.....how her siblings would be ashamed to come out in public, and the way their hearts would break for her, how they would want to crash every social media in order to protect their darling sister....their sister who would share her food with them, pillow fight with them, let them drive her car.....then her dear mother...no words about the pain she must feel.....their treatment in society and church and everywhere.....how her kids would possibly see that video in future...and how she definitely has "ruined" her chances of getting the big prizes in our society...jobs. marriage, etc
Then the surely sorry, broken, devastated -at -her -and -her -family's sure shame she must feel .....

The blackmail that was said to have happened...and the way she surely must have run through whatever money she has/had...the fact that sleep and appetite have most probably eluded her for the next ten years or more....her loss of standing, her loss of everything. She could be seriously contemplating suicide and have suicidal thoughts right now....she may have a grandparent who is struggling to come to terms with what they are hearing about their beloved grandkid. Have you considered that she may have been drugged....that people (older,richer, more powerful) may have exploited her greed for whatever...money, standing, just whatever?
All these and you still need her to be punished? Why?
She could be an angel who has this one weakness, or two, or more ( acts) ....she could be respectful, loyal, funny, fun to be with, a joy to every one who knows her, obedient, very loving....and you want her punished in that dear "angel without sin" tone

Why do we have this need to trample people to smithereens in our society? What are we really fighting when we do this? And we have all the religion, no? ... and worship God like no other and then what?
I sin, you sin, our parents sin, our politicians rape and rob us blind everyday....everybody sins
She got caught....has been shamed, must be regreting her actions, and with her family is traumatised like no one can imagine....and that is not enough?
Chai

Don't mind the hypocritical perverts. Wanking off to the video while they call her names. Get a damn job already and get busy!!

omenka:
They can't. Person debit their commonsense from birth come receive overdraft join at the age of one.

Dem no credit the account till 2015, and after jona lose election, dem suspend the account patapata!

cr7lomo:
Look at what she has brought upon herself and her family because of one stupid pageant or money or unnecessary fame..

One stupid thing I hate go hear is " do not judge" people are really taking advantage of this and that is y we have lost or morals...alot of ashanas will come to this forum to defend her because they are also guilty of the act...if u wanna 4k no problem...but y record it?? To the extent that it leaked...

We have our morals in Africa....girls are becoming too desperate these days because of I wanna belong... Nigerian girls are one of the most laziest women on earth...they just love quick money at all costs... The annoying thing is that they use the money for stupid material things like phone cloths hair travels and car... Bunch of bumbos

What morals do we have in Africa, pray tell?

No more free money. You are expected to work. In saner countries, public service is exactly what is....service. Not an opportunity to amass stupendous wealth as has been the case in Nigeria. So those who know themselves have advised themselves accordingly. This is a good sign. And it is what Nigerians have been praying for: public offices must be made less lucrative and therefore less attractive. But in the rush to condemn because of political affiliation or ethnic bigotry, a lot of people won't see that.

If there's any justice, this vile creature will be removed come December. And posterity will judge Liyel harshly for foisting this man on us.

samhay:
Congratulations

Sweetheart, u r d 1 dat always gv me a mention to this kind of threads.
We desired twins and we always use such as point of contact.

Death snatched u away

I miss you

So sorry for your loss

AfroKnight:
Just look at these ladies. They have forgotten that they will become mothers in law one day. Just look at the nonsense they are saying. Na somebody marry these ones o.

You cannot stop his mother from moving in unless you are evil. She is his mother and they are related by blood and genes. You on the other hand were married.

You can divorce a wife but not a mother. Better respect the bond between a man and his family before marrying him.

The good woman raised him to be a good catch for you but now you want to relegate her.

The man will decide not you. Nonsense.

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As expected, a couple of wicked jezebels have quoted me. You have no choice. The mother raised the man and you will not have authority over her unless you want your daughters in law to dictate when you visit your own sons. Make una go siddon. Nonsense.

"The mother raised the man" ? She did a poor job otherwise he would take care of his home front and his wife's emotional needs and not look for mummy to come and live in his house when she has her own. "Nonsense"
What women will put up with for the sake of being married. By God's grace, at that age I will have a full and very busy life and will have no time to go hanging on any of my sons when they should be concentrating on building a life with their wives. I am raising them well. Nigerian mothers need to check themselves. In the way they relate with their married sons and their wives and the way they raise their young sons who will be tomorrow's married men. Thank God I had a good example in my Mum. She's too busy looking after her husband, running her NGO and enjoying her life. Her 3 daughters in law are the ones looking for her to come spend time with her grandchildren.

Arielle:
Nothing demonic about maturation and it really does make your skin glow.

Sorry 'masturbation'

Chubhie:
To imagine a lot of girls would be lured into this demonic ritual.

Nothing demonic about maturation and it really does make your skin glow.

mrvitalis:
For God sake he laughed after saying that. .. meaning it was a joke...
I have always said it.. APC should try n come down intellectually.. . Nigerians are not smart enough to comprehend complex statements

Correction. He laughed before he answered. And his laughter was like " he he he. These guys are in for a shocker" . It was a joking kind of laugh. More like a malicious chuckle. Let's say in some alternate universe he was joking. In front of the world press? Before a female president who probably had to fight hard against comments like that for most of her career? Does he not gave a PR person? Does he not think? I was Buhari ' s ardent supporter even as it us obvious he's been floundering hoping he would let the right people in to help him. He's lost my support. And millions of Nigerian ' s . The way our presidents mess up is eerie. As if they have a death wish. Perhaps there's something to what Ruben Abati said. This really is the dark continent. In do many ways

As unbelievable as it sounds, I have heard this about someone I know of. It was quite a scandal at the time. The woman was a popular akara seller opposite the hospital in a town called Ikom in cross river state. This happened I think in the 80 ' s so my memory is a bit sketchy. But she was well known. She was married with children. A visitor saw her and went back to her family in Akwa Ibom to report that he had seen a woman who bears an uncanny resemblance to their daughter who had died over 10 years before. The woman's brother went back with the man, and was directed to her house. When he saw her he started wailing and confronted her openly. She entered her room, locked the door and vanished. At least that was the narration we heard. Suffice it to say, the woman's children are still there and the whole community knows the story. The madam vanished till today. Creepy! The Yoruba's call them akudaaya I think. Fascinating. I like paranormal stories.

I couldn't even finish reading that crap that is supposed to pass for journalism. "Rescued from squalor" indeed. Where do you people get your God complex from? She probably refused to hand over her paycheck. You marry a girl and 'rescue' her from poverty, bring her to almighty USA, 'invest' in her education and of course expect to reap the fruits of his investment. Is she your cash cow? I know a couple with this same problem because she won't hand over her earnings and she runs a tight budget since Oga will not work. He expects her to fork over cash so he can roam the streets of Atlanta forming big boy. Instead of the man to be appreciative that the woman is the frugal sort and is saving every penny for college for the children, small investments to yield extra cash for savings and even a mortgage for a ridiculously large house he insisted on, the guy was angry that the woman has grown wings and is keeping him from enjoying his 'investment'. Shebi this idiot has murdered his wife. Okay he will find the respect he is looking for in jail when 'Bubba' makes him his biatch! Anuofia!

Acidosis:
You really don't see any wrong in a married woman calling her son her life?

Do you know what that means?


If you say men should not demand events to revolve around them, why justify her praises to her son? or is the son not a man?

If things can revolve around the son, what about the husband? Oh, I forgot the guy is the number 1 person in her life, not the husband (my only and main issue with her post BTW).

Marriage is not by force anyways but if you must get married, stick with the ideal rules.

Oga Acidosis, you're a real baby sha! . But her son is her life, na. Let's get real. The bond between mother and son must be extraordinary considering what they must have passed through together before her husband came along. It makes no sense trying to compete with that. I'm sure the husband realises that. Besides we're assuming everything is ship - shape in her marriage. What if it isn't? With a background like hers, harsh words that are thrown out in the heat of the moment can really cut to the quick. Cut her some slack. It isn't easy to be a woman in a country like Nigeria. Let alone a woman with her history. She's incredibly brave to share her story and her identity.

eyinjuege:
I quite disagree with you.

A lot of girls who had teenage pregnancies dropped out of school, and never made much of their lives.
She did. She's come a long way, and despite all the challenges she faced has been able to turn her life around and make the best out of a bad situation. She's raised a fine young man (of course with the help of her parents), has a job which meets her basic needs, is well educated and is in a committed relationship (nothing more serious than marriage when we talk of relationships).
She did all this by herself, she had the strenght and will power to keep going even at such a young age. Believe in yourself, never give up and when life gives you lemons make lemonade out of it.
That's a lesson I've just garnered from her life. Another important lesson lest I forget, is thatnof accepting responsibility for her actions. She knew she was at fault, took responsibility for her actions and paid for it. She didn't wallow in self pity when she was sent to the village, she didn't blame other people for her misfortune ( a lot of adults even on NL still do this), she didn't blame her parents, she didnt blame the boy who impregnated her, she blamed herself!, And she also knew she was the only one that could make things right. There are consequences for our actions. I hope people can see this in her story. It was rough for her.
This is equally a lesson to parents who have children that get pregnant while still teenagers. Help support them, the deed is already done and they can still make you proud. Don't throw them out to the dogs to feed on. Her parents helped raise that child to where he is now- a 200L law undergraduate. Just as intelligent as his mother. The boy looks so young like secondary school boy sef.
The present life she has now with her husband is another phase of her life, a new phase, a totally different life. She's just starting to build and form memories in that new phase. I won't be surprised if she hasn't been married for more than 2 years.
Shes still quite young in my own opinion

Spot on!

ItsQuinn:
Her husband was no where to be found, her husband didn't contribute anything to her struggles, her husband wasn't there when she was at her worst, so why must he be recognised? Recognised for what na?

The only people that need the recognition and application is her father and her son. Shikena!

Probably because he did her a huge favour by marrying her poor unworthy self. Why must it always revolve around you men? Her remarkable story is about herself and her son. Because she didn't shower encomiums on her husbands doesn't mean she doesn't appreciate him. How can you infer that?

moonraker:
My friend, sharappp. This is what happens when you give small agberos internet time.

Ever been to a traditional british wedding before? ofcourse not. Now run along and educate yourself...

To all the Nairaland members, think or read or do your research before commenting. This is how conflicts or wars

are started.

I think he must have been joking. Only people who have been living under a rock will not know the value of vintage cars. Only the very rich have the money, time, taste or appreciation to restore a vintage car. Antiques are usually the purview of the very rich as they can afford it. The car is most likely owned by the couple or a close friend or family member, because people who restore cars or other vintage items engage in it purely as an expensive hobby, and not usually for gain. Except maybe some business minded chap. These cars don't come cheap at all.

Na wa oh! Una don vex oh! Sorry, na. No disrespect meant. It has gone over board, no doubt. No excuse for that. Peace and love.

And any one who won't marry her because of what she does for a living is not the one for her. Her own guy is out there.

genieluv:
Hey guyz, lets face the fact. I am not against women being hardworking or learning skills, i myself am a professional Bead and Hat maker, but the point is that i do not encourage women going into extremely strenuous jobs some of which are naturally made for men who have stronger bodies and a greater strength.

The richest African woman today (Alakija) started out as a fashion designer and see where she is today.
The female structure is quite fragile and extremely strenuous jobs can affect a woman's health and even probably her fertility. We already have enough stress and pains during childbirth and our monthly periods.

How many of you guys would be willing to marry a succesful bricklayer over a succesful fashion designer?

I beg to differ. If that were the case, if that were the case Wolfgang Puck and other world renowned Michelin starred chefs would not have followed their calling. Nigeria ' s own Tosan Jemide would not have shared his awesome talent with us. I know an IT engineer, truly talented and extremely hard working. When she takes off her overalls, she's a very girly girl. How about Lady Mechanic, who's a personal friend? My point is skill is not, or should not, be gender based. All that's required is determination, hard work and passion. I find it funny that ladies that would be the first to complain when men pigeon - hole them into traditional 'female' are doing it to themselves because they don't want to get their hands dirty. This awesome young lady could well become the CEO of a construction or building company, breaking new ground in building technology if she keeps at it. While her peers are busy making beads like one million other girls are doing. If that's you're calling, fine. But don't discourage others with the guts, drive and ambition to develop or build upon a sellable skill and reach for the stars. Oh and Mrs Alakija did not make her billions by being a fashion designer.

I think it's time I left this nairaland. Disgusting.

victorlake:
brother you hash ooo.

But he's right!