Na wah oh why will they not support it anyway most doctors in Nigeria are still old school,but women who have such issues should really seek help and not just fold there hands i am really happy for you.

hannydarl:

for me o any symptom of pregnancy on the book I had from morning sickness that took me to the hospital for drip/infussion to big nose and lips to baaaad heart burn,indigestion,extreeme nausea,loss of appetite, weight loss,spitting,tiredness I also had progesterone problem so I was on the injection every 3 days for 3 weeks then moved to the tablet till week 24(refused to stop at week 16 when dr gave the order because after 4 MCs i was afraid that if i stoped too soon i might lose this one too) i had all these problems for 9 months and then baby did not turn he was transverse so i had to get a CS in all pregnancy did not treat me well but my boy is worth it all.

@ poster sorry i am deviating from the post, @ Hannydarl i found it really interesting that you talked about your miscarriages, I think maybe it is a cultural thing but i hardly find our women talking about it,they just act like it never happened and sometimes don't even bother to seek medical help they just stay home and keep praying going from one church to another thinking people from the village are responsible. Not knowing a simple thing such as baby aspirin for some women can prevent miscarriages or just finding out what the problem is.I always think of starting a thread on misscarrages and infertility but i always feel nobody will come in.anyway i hope miscarriage never comes your way again,i know it can be scary but we always have to keep trying good luck.

hahah ok you said MY CHILDREN so i just assumed you where married .The show must go on, you cant say because the children will not like there step father you will deprive your self from happiness, if you find someone else.in such situation it depends on how old the children are some women in such situations wait till they get a little bit older and the children may understand better then.To be honest eitherway one part will suffer.We women sacrifice a lot all in the name of marriage or family, sometimes i think we just have to be selfish .

It is a very tricky situation you cant take sides because one person will have to suffer. Either your children or the husband, You just have to keep telling your children and your husband they are all part of your life .If you don't listen to the children it will break down communication , they will feel you chose a man over them.Your husband should be able to understand as he is older that the children will feel a form of resentment towards him.Just keep talking and showing your love and affection towards them,and try not taking anybodies side if you can i know it is a very very difficult thing to do.In my own experience my father took his children's side which i loved (when i was younger)even if i knew it damaged his marriage in a way but i felt he owed it to us to protect us from her.

I am still clapping child!

Pepper body i thought our case was closed oh, because sane women are saying how they feel, and it makes sense you dey vex again .
Leave me alonnnnnnnnnnnnnnne anytime you see Arlington skip it dont read it so you can have peace!

Thank you real women!

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Ibkaye i know i can hold a conversation with you because you can reason  .I knew the prayer thing would come up, and women who just decide on leaving it in Gods will turn into slaves for these men i have seen so many cases that i told my self   i would never ever be like that come hell or high water.
My life is just like my statement underneath Life is like a movie you write your own endings and mine is not 6feet under with my eyes wide open .love is blind but mine wears Rayban and contacts

@ibkaye you are  a woman with her head screwed on correctly,Thank you jo.  I know the topic does not say beating but when you use the word Endurance nothing good comes with the word.

But wetin i talk no reach to slap oh, missy b did i say something to hurt you? your only part of interest seems to look like my whole reply For block heads like you it is essential to bark at them because your head is blocked do you get the concept, and you answered my assumption you belong to yaba on the left. Again as i stated block head it is your choice ohhhhhhhhhhh stay if you can endure it all , I will not waste seuns bandwith with hopless banter with the likes of you so let us leave it at that. Endure all you can and take all the rubbish that will be given to you, have a nice life .

Missy B:

It would do you alottta good to release those facial muscles.
And YES!! I said and repeat'' Until I'm sure I'm ready to endure . . . . I won't get married''.
For Pete's sake . . .It's one of my human rights to have my view on certain issues.
Now Listen . . . . Marriage is a long term bond and as such, it's advisable
to know your consort very well in other not to make yourself risible in ur own eyes.
You get married to Jack and after 2 years you shove off with ur kids
because he beats you.
Then over to Peter and pull out again with kids after 3 years because he smokes
and that will iterate itself with Johnson, Kanu, Edward and Harry.
At the end of the day . . . . You're not only a disgrace to yourself but to ur kids,family and society.
It is better to remain single than go into a marriage with this mentality you have. From that part of your statment . . . It's evident that you're not
yet a mother. For your kids, you'll go extra miles.
No . . . those days aren't gone . . . there are still mothers who would
walk through fire to ensure their kids happiness.
Plus . . . You'll keep hissing for as long as you refuse to study
ur man before saying ''I DO''

Maybe you did not understand what i said of course it is your human right to express your views ,we all have opinions that is why we are here. and it is your God given right to invite beating upon your self at anytime also.
I think you are not married so you can run your mouth now when you are please come back here again and voice your opinion on this.
Who says i have to go to Kanu ,edward and harry? Who says i cant live alone with my kids?
For my kids i will take beatings you must be really be a funny person or belong to somewhere in yaba on the left hand side.(just assuming) cos i don't believe in 2008 a woman who can read and write English will say this.
And me staying with man who treats me badly helps my children in what way ?bring my boys up to be good men ?or turn my girls into door mats because they see there mother cant leave an abusive marriage .If you can tell me the good this will do to my children maybe i might be better enlightened.hiss again and not relaxing facial muscles.

So a woman who divorces a man because she is treated unjustly is a disgrace?
You must be a young girl, you can not study a person nobody can be studied. The human mind is very complex ,the only thing constant in life is change people change just because he was good to you for 5 years before marriage does not mean he will stay the same .Which society am i disgracing are they taking the beating or maltreatment for me. you just infuriate me with what you write . but again as you said it is your right to express your opinions and when you do get married try not to be a door mat and if you are married i wish you luck cos you will need it.
P.S
It is because of women like you that Leilah says Nigerian women will go through rubbish and i can see why.

Missy B:

Where did you marry at all?
Until I'm sure I'm ready to endure anything . . . I'll not settle down.

God i Beg oh do you have any idea what you just said? just pray that God never lets you see wahala in marriage . If you marry a man who already knows you have this attitude you are finished.some men can frustrate a woman to the extent she will almost go crazy and vice versa. i don't care what it is , if i don't feel fulfilled in my marriage, i am leaving what is this life all about, That i have to stay sad, till the day i drop dead ,just for the fact that i said i do.One of the fundamental goals for the human race is to have some sort of happiness and your marriage definitely holds one of the keys to happiness and if the man shows me to the heaven everymorning and uses my head to sweep the floor , or mentally abuses me and disrespects me i should endure? Long hisssssssssssssssssssssssss some women just turn them selves to door mats .

He asked to be transfared to another country , he still loves Nigeria but he just cant go there for a now.The funny part is they did not beat him up or anything they treated him OK , but when you are kidnapped with people with guns there is nothing OK about it.

Angolobabe, just keep talking to your dad i guess he will wait or you can just send money down.
Don't take your husband at all to Ph , My friends husband was kidnapped but released later after eating enough kpokpo garri and dry worms
No matter the pressure now just don't take him to PH.

Some of you say things, without thinking as always. what if you marry a man who you think his sperm is faster than Micheal Phelps,and a woman who you think can have a baby any time you breath on her and it does not happen what do you do? Imagine if that was you do they throw you away ?does someone say God forbid when your name is called?Do you now become a man because you can not have a child? Nigerians still have a lot to learn about what love is.
That is a cultural thing, A Nigerian man will feel he is less of a man because he has no child to carry his name , a woman will feel she has failed her own family because she can not bear a child and will be very worried due to pressure from crazy ass in laws.
I can marry an impotent man , it does not make him less of a man .

Very true there is a great difference between Love and pity. Use me as your case study if you will my husband is in a wheelchair and he will be there for the rest of his life someone slammed him to the ground and broke his neck .
Forget stories about what friends said if i had listened i would have died, funny enough all of does who laughed at me don't have husbands half as good as mine so who is laughing last now?
It is not easy like everyother thing in life but i don't think i can trade him for any other man,he cant walk around or do most things like other men do But as i said he is my choice and am happy.

Superman,
I have this sinking feeling that you want to rub me the wrong way. And see what my response will be ?
It's okay you don't have to like it you are entitled to your opinion,All that matters is i do.

My fellow Nigerians I created this topic so we could  talk and exchange ideas , not to hurl insults at each other , but i see somepeople enjoy it.
Because you don't agree with with someone Else's opinion  does not make that person stupid.Cant we all just get along??
As i have always said an opinion is like an ass hole we all have one!
RFN,NGFL,BBC ETC
LONG LIVE THE FEDERAL REPUBLIC OF NIGERIA.

If we all believe in God as we all claim why not wait so that the Almighty can judge who is wrong and who is right .you all passing judgment to the poster or someone who does not agree with your beliefs is already a sin .

Nigerians take religion very seriously i can see why some people will be angry. i am a Christian i believe in God i know what his power can do in our lives but i think some people should be able to separate common sense from religion.

people shouting that the poster will have cause to take his leg to the RCCG grounds are you saying that is the only place where his problems can be solved ,if by any chance he has any due to your swearing you all did ?

I believe that if you cry out your heart to God no matter where you are as long as you believe he will answer you, i have seen that happen over and over again.
What turns me off about some Church's (i am a proud CATHOLIC)is the way they say that other Church's are not true .
They say find a good bible believing church especially when i say i am catholic are the saying we don't read the bible or we read limited pages that make no sense?
We should just respect each others religion if your church works for you fine if my own faith and religion works for me fine .
Now all the grown babies here passing heavy condemning insults to people pick your toys up and throw them back inside your prams.

An opinion is like an Ass hole we all have one and we use it which ever way we like !

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Oga super man who are all your insults for? Cant you just have a simple conversation without throwing insults to anybody?
You who said people cant read and write simple English did you go through yours before posting