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As much i admire the guy's honesty, he went too way over the top if he actually said those things the OP claimed. I would advise you leave him to his ways. His words were very immature and kinda appear unapologetic. I guess that's his own way of putting up a defence mechanism. Let him learn the hard way that u don't act in such manner when uv done wrong! Shalom

dearygally:
First come first serve.
Location billings way , ikeja.
1800 each

R these tables still available? I need one and an office chair tho my location is Asaba Delta State.

Still available? N can we do 750?

lekkys:
Eveni

Location pls?

Amazinggirl95:
Update..
People have been mailing with their picture for her to identify...but none is the father of her daughter..so pls keep it coming tnxs,this post was not fruitless after all..and all the kind comment..I sincerely appreciate...we are going to work with some comments here too...u guys r the best...

Lol Guys! Shey make we tell am?

chuka5000:
tow ur car out from that workshop first thing tomorrow morning, they'll kill u soon.


how can u buy a new engine and gear and u are being asked to buy a flywheel (wicked people)

just ask anyone u know that got a similar brand in asaba to advice u.

however, its like u were not there when the engine and gear were bought.

u can also take the car to mgbuka in Onitsha for them to take a look since u are in asaba

Yes i have done just that! I was not there cos of work schedule but those guys rly wanted to mess me up. The idiots were still haggling money wt me when i wanted to tow the car out. I have rly learnt some vital lessons tho

David50:
Do you stay in Abuja?

No. I'm in asaba

crackkland:
The people taking this clown serious are the ones I even find funny.

What to do na? Make we no discourage am. Its all comedy to me too but its a free world.

All this ur description of what happened on the night: Were you there abi na u b d friend sef? Its also obvious ur "friend" was forming normal slay queen hence she cannot recall the name of the guy she slept with n later started chatting with on WhatsApp! I'm sure she ddnt even save his number! You can meet a lawyer for a "subpoena" on ur telecom operator as per the call logs during that period. But apart from that, abusing everybdy on here wont epp u!

Oshigun:
People who work with facts, either because they love Lagos and desire her progress or because their profession encourages them to alway recognize proven statistics, Will know that the Igbos are not assets to Lagos. At all. They are mainly saboteurs. It is only their business leaders like Ovia, Elumelu etal who contribute substantially to the IGR of Lagos.

Meanwhile the contribution of those people is dwarfed by that of their Yoruba peers who are far more in number.

Overall, only the Igbos themselves and uninformed Yorubas think Igbos are as important to Lagos as they claim.

They actually benefit more from Lagos than they give back which makes them an economic deficit to the State rather than an asset.

This is why I encourage and will continue to encourage them daily to leave Lagos and see if the State "crashes" as they threaten will happen if they depart back to Ala Igbo.

Pls Ovia and Elumelu r not Ibos!

Dear Ademidedavid, I decided to reply ur post cos I av experienced ur situation personally: Just fresh from NYSC, I was teaching but I had an ex who sometimes moaned abt my paygrade (just abt 33k/month then). She would ask "When r u gonna get a car?" And I would be like "Are u normal?" (In MC Macaroni's voice). Then she nearly confused my life when suddenly she said "My friend's boyfriend just gave her (the friend) 100k for fun." Bros, we talking abt my slightly over my 3 months salary o! I argued it as a man but i was worried (as u were) that my woman was bn influenced and I just cant help it. Eventually, it turned out that the 100k wasnt actually a gift but for other purposes. But what if i had done something drastic just to "meet up"? Na so i for just kee myself for nothing.
Many people have bashed on u here, some actually right and some too extreme! I still wouldnt wanna bash for u laying ur hand on ur wife cos I wasnt in the situation u faced, ur apology may depend on ur wife's reaction after that action of urs. Did she stop nagging? Did she realise she's overstepped her bounds n shocked? If she did, then u may apologize. Its always amusing when people say "walk away" lol...dem neva jam a woman in all her glory of fury.
On the flip side, I would suggest u c her moans as her own way of wanting a better life for her family. Trust me, even if uv got all the money in the world, women wld still moan for the nearly impossible like "Making love on the moon"[left][/left]. I really do believe u want the best life for your family and i also must commend u for bn open n honest abt ur finances, pls dnt be discouraged! I was trained that way too but it doesnt mean we shld be careless abt how we spend it. Encourage her to always save from whatever u gv for monthly upkeep and her own income. She needs financial discipline and for her to appreciate hw difficult it is to save and watch money grow.
Thank God ur a civil engineer and a lecturer, well I dnt no hw tight ur schedule but I think u shld start practising ur skills by the side more. U could start by looking for small building projects to consult for (even if na just bungalow) and u also need to update ur skills regularly. I have a civil engineer colleague (tho we r in the power industry), but he gets small jobs via referrals mostly and yet we work for a private firm!
Lastly, an advice from a brother, U need to be careful with ur wife cos when a woman starts getting so influenced from the outside...its always not easy to turn their heads back in. Just gats continue to talk more with her n show her all d cards, hopefully she go reason with u.

God be with you bro and ur family.

Its a long story, Aye! No vex!!!

OKOATA:
In as much as your advise is good but the number 1 is out of it bro, the guy is emotional drained and he also needs love and care, he has been managing and even developed HBP, let the guy separate but I can bet my balls that the woman won’t change since it’s obvious he knew before hand what he’s sticking his head into that’s why he went to meet a false prophet to talk to her before marriage, the man thinks he can’t find another woman aside her that’s why he keeps begging and crying before a woman. Let him just free that demon.

Bros u dey vex oo ! I think we shld also appreciate the fact that this is still a one-sided story, hence we shld be abit moderate in our judgements. U rightly said the man is a "simp" but its also obvious from his story that he's a family-rooted man who wants to enjoy his marriage. Asking him to leave the woman might be too extreme for now, that's y i suggested temporary separation if he really cant cope in his current house.

After all said n done, na d man no where d shoe dey tight am. His happiness n health is paramount.

Wow! I tried visualizing what ur going thru in ur marriage and sincerely i felt very bad. If all u wrote on here is true, then its very unnecessary to remind you of how u got here. I feel ur yet to accept the reality of the kind of marriage ur in. Your idea of how a marriage ought to be isnt what ur seeing and ur very disappointed. This rubs off on how u handle issues with ur wife. Bros, wake up n face it! For me, i think uv got 2 options:
1. Acceptance and Admittance and i mean it really. Accept ur wife and admit the reality of ur marriage. If twas the other way round, women would normally advise the woman to focus on her children n make herself happy. Same applies to u bro. Focus more on urself and d kids after all ur literally catering for urself in ur house. Expect less from ur wife so u dnt get disappointed all the time. Tho u ddnt say anytin abt the sex part, but ask for it if u want, if she accedes - cool! And if she wants u, don't deny her too.

2. Separation: This option is abit more financially expensive. I suggest u get a small place to stay away for a while while you show up to check on the kids and supply their needs. You have to be quite strong to try this tho cos u myt end up missing ur family esp the kids. This shld be a very strong msg to ur wife and if it works that she adjusts from her ways, then great, if it doesn't, you know the last option.

God be with you and your family!

Dear OP, ask ur mum to come more openly to u.
1. Was she in an extra relationship with the man (u myt b shocked that the money wasn't actually a seed but an investment gone wrong);
2. If the above is true, its even better cos u could be able to get ur mum to testify that she gave him the money as a loan for an investment (even there's no paper trail) as far she can prove she really gave him the 3.5m.
3. U may trace the man's new location and simple narrate ur situation to him hoping he wld be compassionate enof to help or return part of the money.

All in all, ur mum really needs to come clean on all this. Pls ask her if she's got some other property she aint telling u guys yet!

Good luck!

Ignorant lawmaker! Actually its just a resolution by the House and its not binding on the President. However, instead of shouting on the media while scoring cheap political points, the lawmakers should sit, think and liaise with the FG and the NESI players.
1. Who r the customers u want to give free light?
2. Will the big customers benefit from this largesse or not?
3. The energy requirements of most big industries are more than all residential consumers. Are we gonna gv these industries free light too?
4. What are the modalities for payments by the FG? Are they gonna be covering the invoices in full (even if they can waive TCN's share)? Or FG is gonna pay according to current percentages each Disco remit to the NESI? The craziest part is that the same FG just mandated the Discos to remit 100% of their invoices back to NBET. Actually the Minister is right. No be by mouth online else u gv free power to the mostly the rich who can afford to pay n less to the poor who really cant!

Dear OP, honestly i admire the honesty in ur story and i kinda have some similar traits especially when it comes to family meals and indecisivesness. I dnt like to worry abt food. I dnt care - whatever my woman prepares is what i eat. However, i have come to understand that that's an aspect of a woman one might not get rly lucky to change. So after 9yrs, its expected u ought to av adjusted to wife's "flaw".

As per u loosing ur job, i still wanna go easy u cos i have experienced that people react differently to setbacks. Some will spiral down n it affects so many aspects of their lives. I think ur taking ur job loss too badly.

Your decision to spend the 7-digit profit u once made was a consequence of lack of foresight and ur wife is still pained. I still wouldnt wanna be harsh on u cos u were out of job n cash for a longtime n u only saw the money as a windfall. U ddnt plan for the future and ur wife was concerned u ddnt consult her before blowing off the cash.

Your sit-outs with ur friends isnt totally out of place. Sometimes we all need our pals to make us feel kinda loved n save us stress from other fronts. Notwithstanding, u must realise, u r responsible for ur wife, 3 kids and a maid under ur roof. U cannot afford to live ur life as if ur single and alone. Out of self-respect for urself, i suggest u shld reduce time spent with ur friends. Our people say"friendship isn't sweet if one part of the relationship always lacks" Chill responsibly.

U need to really calm down and see ur wife in a different light. Task her more mentally. Like ask her for suggestions on jobs or businesses u cld try. I have discovered that women have the simplest solutions to the most complex situations. After all, u said she's made of beauty and brains.

Not all wives nag when their husbands come late if they no ur out there hustling ur ass out. In ur honest story, u said u argue politics with ur friends, i suggest u either show less interest during such discussion or u ask for more productive talks. Ur current situation is not one for politics arguments and ofkos u guys do talk abt ur sexcapades. That's not right honestly.

I think ur worried (reason ur hair is all grey at 39) but ur not rly handling ur situation in a wise manner. This is a time to be sober, appreciate ur wife, love ur family (go out n get stuffs for ur kids even if it's snacks), help out at home n i dnt think any one would begrudge u if u wanna chill with dem boys once in a while.

Finally, Be more responsible with future finances, plan with ur wife and don't be too ashamed to even ask for help in watever form.

God bless you bro and be with ur family!

I'm abit surprised you guys don't get what the OP is doing here. I'm sure he likes peeping into the lady's room at night whenever he returns from work late which might even be intentional. The OP is a chronic vo-yeur as he has unwittingly confirmed this especially with the way he stalks on the lady.

Dear OP, stop peeping at her room for your self pleasure and stop bn a pervert. U will be disgraced very soon if u don't quit!

Angelfrost:
Great points raised there...

While it's good to learn from history, it is largely unproductive to stay stuck in her mistakes... This is almost midway into the 2nd term of an entirely new administration, yet not a single sign of improvement...

We can't stay bedeviled by the atrocities of PDP... We are supposed to be forging ahead... There's supposed to be clear signs of rising above the errors of the past, not repeating them or even doing worse.

Lest we totally derail from the main issue of this thread, is PDP also the reason why this government failed woefully to properly palliate the untold hardships due to an imposed lockdown??!... Why is even the simplest act of governance so difficult for them??!...

Good leadership can turn the worst economic situation of any nation around... We have seen it happen before.

I agree with ur assertion but like i said appreciating the current situation is vital! In hindsight, I think the better govt we've had in dis democracy is Obj's because we.made some progress and broke barriers. There's always a excuse for failure and as u can see, most of the current actors in this govt were also the same cast of the previous govts that failed us including the president. Its a generational thing, our elders r scared of entrusting the younger ones with leadership. Is it the fear of becoming irrelevant or the fear of seeing someone succeed where they failed? Just look around!

sulaak:
Chief,

2023 election will not be about stuff like bridges, roads, water and electricity, but high debt and low oil price.

Iweala failed as the 2011-2015 finance minister, but the current bunch APC clowns, have been a complete disaster, in less than four years they have increased the country's debt profile to $100 billion on a potential annual income of less than $15 billion per annum.

Yes I admit! But our debts have been rising since Obj left power! 15billion dollars will never be enough to cater for over 200m people with the rate of corruption. Even without misappropriation, it will never be enough! New york city with a population of 8.6m has a budget of abt 1.8b dollars for just waste department. I'm not against borrowing, the implementation of the loans is critical. We had no reserves and our main revenue source is almost gone. But i have not seen the seriousness with this govt in handling the little we have n its saddening.

sisisioge:
Assually money matter is tricky o as it brings out the true self of the people involved.

As a principle, I dont borrow people money I know I can not forfeit. So, borrow him if you're sure you won't miss it too much in case he disappoints.

Or, take it as a transactional arrangement where you ask for collateral in case of default. Ensure he signs something witnessed by another while handing it over.

I just really hate doing money parole with friends.

Requiring ur best friend to sign a document may not be as easy as he might find it embarrasing. Personally, i dont like bn in such a situation so I'd rather dash u the money in full (if i can afford to) or a part of the amount so i can manage my expectations.

obisite:
Those advice I've seen up there are not pretentious or unrealistic as said..

Ever heard of "never lend any amount you can't over look to someone if he/she don't pay"


Friendship comes with responsibility... no
Of what importance is my friendship with someone if that person can't be of help to me when I'm in need..


Those advice up there are just mere common sense.. Reasoning

The OP has not said if he can afford to forego the said amount if his friend ends up defaulting. Just because he tried saying its just abt 10% of his "savings" does not make it intangible. But uv rightly said, he needs to consider some things before he acedes to such request cos when money issue sets in a friendship, it becomes embarrasing and totally surprising sometimes. For the OP to ask indicates his doubts and if he isnt sure, then i suggest he dashes his friend a percentage of the amount requested. With that, he expects no refund and the friendship is still kind of intact!

Angelfrost:
Sigh... This is not necessary... People like you are the reasons why Buhari and APC can under perform and steal without remorse, knowing fully well you will be there to defend them as being "not as bad as their predecessors"!!!

Learn to stick to the crux and subject of any discourse, regardless of how much you hate the messenger... That's objectivity... That's MATURITY!!!

Its not about defending Buhari's govt. There's a precedence and personally i just cant get over it! I still ask one question: how come we couldn't pay salaries n had to borrow during a period when we had the highest ever oil prices?

Maturity is understanding the plight and appreciating the current situation. Have u watched election debates in other "saner climes" many people always quick to compare Nigeria with? U dont hear stuffs like bridges, fuel pump price, public health centres etc cos they've risen above such basic stuffs. This is because previous leaders alrdy tackled such tins. But here in 2020, we still on that in our country. The next set of elections in 2023 will also be based on these things!

Its really worrisome! Previous leaders didn't do well and the current ones aren't any better

Its always very easy to compare and then castigate Nigeria at every given opportunity! Are those stuffs for the whole country or a village? Our politicians too are very good at arranging food neatly a la Gov. Wike

ShenTeh:
Did you say best friend?

You also stated that you know the money is for a dire need.

You said the money is just about a TITHE of your savings.

See, folk, relationships come with responsibilities and we are in each others lives for a reason.

Please be a friend indeed.

Friends lay down their lives for their friends everyday. Please help your friend. You can even surprise him by informing him that he should refund only half.

Be the miracle you want to see.

All the best. Last last all of us still never get enough.

R u the OP's friend?

PuZZyNegro:
Wow, people can be so good on the internet.

So, you mean if the poster has 1 million naira and lend 100k to his friend, he should not bother if the friend doesn't pay up, or should tell his friend to pay 50k as the other person suggested, how nice can humanity be.


90% of advices here are unrealistic and pretentious.


Be sincere, how much have you given to charity since this year?

Op, lend your friend the money but let him understand that the continuation of your friendship lies on if he pays back the money. A friend that will borrow money without paying back does not value your friendship and feelings

Lol! U sef see am? He didn't even stop at just lending the friend money, our chief accountant said the OP should forfeit even 50% of the loan!!! Maybe he's the friend in question

AmuDimpka:
Asoebi is a Yoruba culture and it's originated from them...it is only tiny Igbo that would copy that and they Re in Lagos

Oga am not in Lagos n the wedding was supposed to be done in one of these Ifites in Anambra!

I really find it abit bewildering when people say "there's hunger in the land o" as an excuse for begging. Yet we all claim Nigerians are very industrious and blah blah blah. I have like most people "begged" from relatives - some helped and some did not - but i have always tried to live within my means! Wages r what they are either u earn urs daily or monthly, ur savings culture is very important for days like this.
Now coming to nairaland, its very embarrassing really, as u c e-beggars fighting for beghing space. I saw a begging thread where one e-beggar was asking another to go open his own thread and stop spamming the thread (like its some form of real business). Ironically, these are d same guys who would have boasted abt feeding ur family for 5 generations n shapeless bank accounts! Anyone with a newly opened account on here for begging is a scam n shouldn't be helped.
The same citizens lashing the govt for not bn prepared r the ones begging all day long cos they weren't prepared too despite having access to daily news n events!

Begging is shameful but the e-begging is shameless after all is a faceless forum and they have perfected the art of not including their full names in their account details.