₦airaland Forum

Abagworo:
Look at a suburb of Aba in Osisioma LGA and tell me how many suburbs of Oshogbo, Ife or Ilesha that is this built up with highrises. There is problem in maintaining densely populated area like Lagos or Southeast than places with room to play with.

Agreed with no reservations
But for a state with low population like osun generating more revenue than all south eastern should tell you alot.

rainlover:
Do you know?
Most states in Nigeria are just there to complete numbers, lol!
Abia, Osun, Ondo, Bayelsa...

You're saying rubbish I don't know about other state...but apart from Lagos and ibadan...osun has the best road in the south west and better road than all of the south eastern state... despite all this the governors is still constructing a flyover as we speak...am not a politician nor a tribalist but the roads aregbe( interior minister) constructed in osun in 8 years no south eastern state can construct it in 16 years just for the records let me not talk about schools
In the latest IGR chart released, osun state generated more IGR than the whole south eastern state...just for the record

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caracas:
Yes Tinubu will if the elections remain the same way it has been....
My comment said if the elections are Free n fair any one the Igbos support in lag would win,we have the population n spread....

It obvious you have not been to Lagos State
Elections in Lagos have never been determined by the igbos most of them don't even have PVC and those that have PVC votes in Nwewi and Nsukka...Lagos State election is purely determined by the Yorubas...stop making it sound like igbos are indigenous to Lagos as far as Lagos State is concerned Igbo are non consequential politically. This is just the political reality

caracas:
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If Kalu contests n the elections are free n fair he will win Lagos
And any one who wins Lagos would most likely win the south west....
I come in peace ......

Which Lagos
Shey the one in anambra or enugu
Jagaban will clear everything in Lagos...he won't lose even a single pooling booth that's the reality even before the election starts...if tinubu contest he has 4 south west in his bags already, am not a fan of tinubu nor his foe this is just a political reality you igbos needs to calm down..your high sense of grandiose will lead to more failure for you.

Stay woke kings

Igbo presidency is not visible I love the fact they're preparing for 2039
Kalu can't win a LG in South West talkless of North

Stay focused

andrewbaba44:
You no Dey watch afcon self ?

With all these their cassava/rice field

Stay woke kings

Stay rational always

Meedon:
Stop posting pictures. Do you seek the girl's consent first before dropping their pictures here like atomic bomb?



Make we deh civil abeg. Happy sweet Sunday all you guys.

Make we dey try ignore some of the lowlifes wey dey here.

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Iyaebe:
Most of you redpillers are pretenders, you don't practice what you preach here in reality.

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Qasak:
After the girl must have fu$ked different dicks. Travelled to different countries on all expense paid trip by men. When market finally fall press am she go find man way she go deceive with that we all have history it’s in the past take me as I am crap!!! Lol my dear who you be
My brothers pls let’s hustle, invest, buy lands, properties and make the best use of our working age. We men age gracefully that’s where we win. I personally have chosen to stay of the market for now focusing on my self development.

@ d bolded She wants you to ignore her past so she can devour your future

shaybebaby:
Perhaps a maid/ nanny so she can work outside the home too or the necessary tech to make the work at home easier ( picking up after 6 people ain't going to be easy)?

I mean, you wouldn't turn up for work and not expect to be given the tools to help you do your job properly. Also if you were given excessive workload, with time you would expect compensation commensurate to that workload.

Ever considered that the reason WHY she couldn't hold on to those jobs was because of the demands within the home? What if start times at work is the same as when the kids start school, how could she be in two places at the same time?

When the kids are ill, who stays to look after them? Would that not affect her attendance and performance at work?

Just this week, my son had to stay off from school because his teacher had covid. Did this impact his dad's work? No. His life went on as normal.

But I am lucky, I work from home so I could still work. But in addition to that, had to cook during the workday, provide snacks and homeschool all whilst working. But many don't have that luxury so pray tell, doesn't that put them in a position where they have to sacrifice one for the other?

Do men EVER have to make that choice? My job or my kids?

So tell me, how would you balance that if you were the OP?

@ d bolded madam men has always had a choice to make between their family and job
The basic and the most primary function of a MAN is FINANCIAL SECURITY
The moment I stop providing for my family then I don't deserve to be called an husband or a father that's every man will work his ass out to provide for his family

You see I agree with some of your views
But you see OP has always lacked a FRAME in the beginning of her life, thus facing this woes...her biggest achievement is marriage which shouldn't be so
At the age of 23 you are just at your prime full of ambition this should be a time you need to lay out plans for a prosperous career not turn yourself to a reproduction factory or a liability...she didn't need a man in her life at that time she needed a job.
Man exploit women in relationship because women are shy to talk about what they want in relationship...a man is never emotional in marriage he is purely transactional your husband didn't marry you because he loves you No!!! (love/emotion come secondary for men ) He married you primarily because of what you can offer to him and values you can add to his life, and if you as a woman don't have a frame he will end up getting all he wants and you end up with nothing...thus the woes the woman in question is facing currently...the man had all he wanted with this woman having nothing cos she was shy to create a frame in the relationship and is this man wicked The answer is no!!! he is purely Machiavellian
You women needs to speaking up start telling what you wants what your dreams are both of your should have a frame and work in that frame. Simple as ABC this is never a quantum physics.

DrFunmisticGlow:
you don't want to understand and lack empathy, so there's no point with you

Let's keep emotions out of these...let be logical
This is logical problem, creation of empathy and unnecessary emotional tantrum won't solve this.
This is a one sided story she never gave us the reason why her husband chased her out of the house she blamed her husband for her misfortune there is never a place in this article where her husband told her not to work...she has a degree she could go to the street and get a job. What this woman need is a JOB not a MAN this would even upgrade her SMV and even find a better husband. What I don't understand is should we give her a Grammy award for taking care of her own kids and husband...in what has she appreciated her husband who has been through thin and thick to ensure financial security in his home... Aunty it not easy to make money this woman could even keep a 4 month job yet complaining she is not appreciated for her role is Bullock and absolutely rubbish
Equal responsibility=Equal task
I can be bringing the whole money for the sustenance of the family and you're gonna tell me to assist you in home chores...then for fvck sake what you're gonna do.
This is a Lamentation of an irresponsible woman and if this is a story of most Africa woman including obembet mother then no apologetic feeling that most Africa women are irresponsible.

TuFab:
How dare you accuse her of lying?
It's either you're the woman's wicked husband or you're a yabaleft runaway, because you obviously have a mental problem to just invalidate someone's life story without knowing anything about them.

Stop all this emotional bullshits
How on hell will you validate someone's story without knowing the person...do you know the man?, The kind of jobs he does he might be a banker for fvck sake and do you think it is easy to make money legitly go and ask your dad he will explain better or perhaps when you start making you will understand.
This man did the primary duty of a REAL MAN and that is financial security and he was able to provide for a liability who couldn't keep 4 month job and for fvck sake even a maid you pay 25k a month will do a better job without grumbling...have this woman ever appreciated her husband... Do you think it easy to be a head of a family ( the smallest unit of the society) where I get blamed for the silliest sh!t or is it because men don't talk too...Go home and ask your dad he will explain better to you.

Mummiesgirls4:
Thank you God bless you

Don't let her decieve you...you are not a good woman...you don't even deserve a good man you're nothing but a decietful hoe
Nonsense!!

IamGreen1:
And destroying her own life indirectly. I can't help but anticipate many bad things that will befall her in years to come.

If the man later out...she might end up losing her life...men dey para this days, I can only imagine

Arabiandude:
3 actually made the list.
The list includes Iheancho also and I believe so well that comes the end of this season, players like Awoniyi and maybe Ejuke will be added to this list and next season, Maduka and Onyeka might join also

@ d bolded
Bro Ejuke no follow for this list at all ohh.
All those wingers are elite and have proven themselves over the years am tipping chuks for a spot though.

Bola146:
May we never meet agbako people in life Hummmmmm... People should be very careful with your type of human being, as friends oo 3years and you can't still tell her You don't want to offend her or you are done with her? Koburu The same way you rise her legs, use the same method to tell her intentionally you are really hurting her seriously by still wasting her time when you could said the truth to your people since, haba!!!! It's better you tell her the truth now! If you still continue making use of her to dump her later hummmm... if she curse you it will come to pass for sure but if you tell her now, she will shout and keep quiet. Some ladies don suffer in the name of bad and crazy relationship

No curse will come to past on this poor dude abegii, he has his own reason for the breakup,the fact the woman has been giving her sex for the past 3 years doesn't mean he should be marry her, the question is the woman really committed to this dude??,abi no be you girls ??the babe will surely have a second option/fiddle if he should breakup with her then the poor gal that will move on, I will only advice him to do it fast so he won't waste more of the babe's time. There is nothing bad in this, bad relationship is better than bad marriage. Don't make it sound like OP has just committed murder or anything
#insidelife

Shegzy8:
I prefer been challenged physically. It leaves scars of the event, it might show my weakness or strength, it’s visible to everyone. It’s saddening the society has turned a deaf ear to things affecting men. words are like missiles, they are very potent. Only that they do not live any visible scar. It’s like acid, it eats one within. It torments one, gives instability. Causes depression.

And you see and hear people give them pass.

“She’s a woman, they are wired that way”

“No matter what, just walk away” FOR HOW LONG WILL I WALK AWAY FROM MY HOME?

Not everyone is emotionally strong

A woman assaults you, you are asked to walk away

A woman verbally abuses you, you are asked not to talk back and also walk away.

Unknown to everyone that such mindset and thinking has made some women rise to godlike figure thinking no man will or should touch them no matter what they do.

They attack men careless and ask what do you want to do?

Beat me na?

Some go to any length to frame you up.

We all have heard this from most Nigerian women

I will show you I’m a woman

That’s the mindset of manipulation and the man is left in the middle of nowhere cause every one will believe her.

I had a gf who cheated and lied she was forced. I saw through all those and I did what she never expected. Turned out she lied.

Base on say I no like stress or anything wahala
If a woman start nagging...omooor nah to carry her loads and property to the streets where she belong...I hate nagging with passion.

andrewbaba44:
And you want people to use 2 epl game’s not up to 90 minutes to judge Saúl ?

Do you know the most successful foreigners in the epl are from Laliga ? Even better than many English players

People think Laliga is easy to score and succeed there ,Na cr7 and Messi incredible stats cause those thinking

You said hazard is no flop because of injuries,but the epl media are always quick to label players flop no matter the circumstance

Agreed though but let's take a look a Saul niguez from a whole different perspective, Niguez played three games struggled in the first...he played real well in the caraboa game am not insinuating he is not a PL standard if well indoctrinated he will come out good but
for Chelsea he is a Chelsea material.las Las nah average player. Thomas partey woes just came a little bit a surprise for me.

andrewbaba44:
If I hear say hazard no be flop

Go and watch Coutinho first 6 months at Barca and come and tell me that hazard Is not a flop

I can't use 6 month to judge a player who has been consistent for 7 years, hazard injury woea came the moment he joined real Madrid, he has not played 5 matches in a go for real Madrid since he joined.

andrewbaba44:
When I called hazard a Laliga flop you think I didn’t remember Coutinho name ?

Coutinho is not a Laliga flop I won’t lie

Hazard is not a flop yet...lets him play 7 games back to back before we can make any judgement he played well against real vallecano in their last game he could have scored sef if not for hin ogbanje teammates.

andrewbaba44:
Why didn’t you let us know that Coutinho is also a top player at the epl

Well countihno played well in Liverpool but his best moment in EPL was in jurgen klopp era. Liverpool actually to his strength,klopp's gengenpressing and horizontal compactness brought the best out of him, Bayern Munich's hansi flick played gengenpressing too and brought the best out of countihno but he will continue to strive in Barca due to their unnecessary possessive game, if top coach like tuchel and klopp handle countihno then he will return to his beast mode, despite all this sef countihno has not flop in Barcelona just yet I will just rate him 5/10 nah expectations and high transfer make most Barca fans dey reason like that.

andrewbaba44:
At least he didn’t get the chance at Chelsea

Can same be said of 100 million flop hazard at Laliga

Madrid should have invested in chukwueze instead .

Hazard issue is a whole different issue entirely, hazard flopped in la liga not because he is poor player, but injury played a vital role in his lost of form, dembele and countihno were top players in bundesliga but yet flopped in la liga. It is obvious Saul niguez even Thomas partey are not premier league standard.

12large1:
Nigerians single handedly destroyed uzoho career trajectory. A player that was fancied at a young age and playing regularly at la liga all of a sudden ended at a backwater league all because his country men assassinated his character by accusing him of age falsification

Read what you wrote again does it make sense?

Mercychen:
God bless you for doing justice to this matter with detailed points. I couldnt have said it any better. This here was exactly my point.

See the other 17 yr old girl who was abandoned at the hospital because the father of her twin babies ran away and her family could not pay the bills. Who will now bear the cost?

Has anyone of them showing empathy behind their keypads sent her a dime till now? Thats what I'm saying. Certain things can be avoided.

It's always better to be safe than sorry.

Well this will be a lessons to her and other homellyy...we are all accountable for our actions.

mariahAngel:
If it depended on her "personal sentiments" as you say, why then did she bring it here, asking for what to do?
Have you considered that there's the option of adoption if she's not ready to keep the babies?
Or you don't think the babies she carrying deserve the chance to live?


As for the canceled part, na for people wey no wan get sense! And them plenty for nairaland.

Aunty the babe knows what she wants if she wants the child then I see no reason for her creating a thread, it obvious she doesn't want the child, I see a mother seeking viable option of running away from her ultimate responsibility.

I believe the child deserves the right to live but the bone of contention is...is the mother ready to give this children the live they deserve, children are blessing and also can be a curse if they are not given the live they deserve, it not every child that will turn out to be Justin Bieber...now, not it not about the financially aspect now it more about the mental preparation is she ready to sacrifice or gives what it take for the children to have the life they deserves, personally I think she lacks this,it obvious she is not ready for a child I see a coward running away from her responsibility.

Now to the adoption...I have a lot of friends who grew in the orphanage their stories are not dope ohhh,most rich folks don't adopt thru ministry of women affairs or whatever they go straight to the orphanage...most of dudes in the orphanage are subjected to harsh and inhumane treatment, Is that what a reasonable mother will wish for her children...common this is real life with real consequences, life no be Hollywood. Las Las she go pay for her deed, there is no way she can escape.

N.B I like the fact you keep it civil and logical.God bless