₦airaland Forum

Easybela:
the reason u brought the issue here is for us to clap for you abi ,oga ,if u are jobless, start sweeping your street.


See as u dey make noise because of 11k,no be your mate buy iPhone 11 max for his babe

None sense and ingredients

Magnoliaa:
You know what? Don't even go into a relationship. You should make a public notice looking for slaves instead.

Officialgarri:
Well, I've read the story and just like the person above said, I have nothing to say. Let's see what the person below has to say.

chenzen:
Think about it, I m making deep sense here.

Magnoliaa:
You, you get something for head?? Mtcheeew.

I'm really looking forward to an intelligent, engaging and interesting post/comment from you on this forum. If you're not waiting for "elders" or "redpillers," you're mute, declaring things inconclusive, or whining about feminists and sexually active Nigerian women.

Hamachi:
Meaning you are never getting married

Nnemuka:
Op it seems you just finished Waec and waiting to gain admission in the university.
Your frustration is all over your thread

Fountainofyouth:
Go and sleep AstroG.

Fountainofyouth:
I have condoms and I don't see anything wrong with that, when its mainly for your protection, some ladies sef, better safe than sorry.

Michellekabod2:
I was talking to Martinez not you...

By the way,what I meant is why condemn People for the same things you do

Fountainofyouth:
Nairaland always make it seem as if there are competitions between wives and mothers in law, when in reality there isn't.

Martinez79:
I was banned. I had to open another account. The mods banned me for a red pill post and falsely accused me of bullying all because I made that post. I will be back to my usual moniker Martinez39 very soon.

JONNYSPUTE:
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Hahahahaha. My guy pity her small make she no go deactivate again.

udoekere:
To live a good life as a Man, you
must know how to balance
things between your Mum and
your Wife else you might land in
serious trouble.
Many people have gotten into
serious problems in their
marriage when they put their
Mother ahead of their wife.
Also, many people have also
landed in trouble when they put
their wife ahead of their mother.So Nairalanders, As A Man,Who Should You Take Care Of The Most Between Your Wife & Your Mum?

Lalasticlala

Seun

Mynd44

Crazyemberr:
About a week ago, I made the decision to deactivate my Blackivy account and I stayed true to my words. Recently, I was browsing through Nairaland and came upon a thread advising others going through depression against committing suicide. I was moved by the replies, after all, I had been there before. To kill time with something worth while, I registered a new account, Crazyemberr.
With my new persona, my sole aim was to create interactive threads, a voice for people who are going through hell and for those who have been through, offer whatever little solace they can.
But things don't always go as planned, the moment I introduced myself, people started associating my moniker with those of others who had previously deactivated. I still kept my identity a secret. Then today the worse happened. I will briefly narrate it.
I came across a thread relating to condoms, sex, HIV/AIDs and a ridiculous lady. I felt the need to type from a man's perspective. And I did. So rather than typing 'He', I wrote 'I'. Apart from my initial reason, I also saw it as a joke others would understand.
Within minutes, I was mentioned by pabloandreas, stating that I'm a gay and co.ck sucker. I explained that I was typing from a man's point of view. That infuriated him all the more. That was the spark that ignited a nasty fire. Below JonnySpute commented about how some gay men have low self-esteem, that they choose to hide behind female monikers.

JonnySpute; I consider you a mature individual and I can state that you are intelligent also. You were the first person to guess my true identity. And unlike the others, you didn't ask me to confirm. You typed it as one would do a fact. But you acted queer when I least expected it. You knew I was Blackivy, but when the time came to validate this point, you deliberately chose ignorance. You turned your back on the truth you were so sure of. Why??

I ignored the thread and logged out. Two hours later I came back online. Only to find another thread created just for me. The title; Crazyemberr is a guy hiding behind a females account. The ever so brilliant op being TrollKiller.
I have a temper and after going through the derogatory write up, I exploded (reasonably). The comments that followed fuelled it all the more. Especially that of LilMissFavvy.

LilMissFavvy; Once, you created a thread 'Why are nl men full of mischief?'
You did this because you were offended the just one moniker,AstroG1, had mentioned you in a family section. I had even advised you to ignore him. But when it came to me, rather than exhibit the same level of UNDERSTANDING that I had with you, you hastily accepted the lies, without any consideration. Typing that I was immature, to be furious. One man attacked you slightly and you opened a thread generalizing. Several men passionately did the same to me and you condemned my response. Seems hypocritical, doesn't it??

TrollKiller & PabloAndreas; As the first time I have ever come in contact with each other on this forum, you've both shown yourselves to be a two very myopic individuals. According to the both of you, because a (f) was beside my moniker and I typed like a male, in a guy having sex with another dude in reality?? Your ideology lacks common reasoning to me. I'm saposexual, meaning I get tired on by men with high measures of intelligence. The reason why our society lacks development is because of the individuals that it is made up of. People who hardly see the big picture, that are limited to the little boxes they confine themselves in. If a thing as little as changing the gender of my moniker can confuse you both so greatly...
I came back to this forum with the desire to do good for humanity. But a few days into my stay, I've been shown nothing but hypocricy by superficial humans, who prejudiced because they each thought I was gay.
Men and women twice my age, who I'm supposed to look up to for guidance and knowledge; who ought to inspire my fellow mates and I. The people who make us give up all hope in mankind and turn the young to misanthropes. And yet they as why?? Because good is repayed with pitiful malice, that's life. Even your Christ stated in the Bible, that the heart of man is desperately wicked. Little wonder why the monikers above acted the way they each did.

Michellekabod2:
But You,u.bunja,and AstroG are guilty of what you accise Chen.zen of doing

Martinez79:
Sweet talk? Why are you acting like ladies don't know what they are doing? It's common for guys to ask ladies out, so why call it sweet talk as though the guys were brainwashing and manipulating the ladies into a relationship? Do guys asks ladies out for the sake of love or to play "chess" with them? Face the facts, boys are the ones that are usually used, sucked dry, cheated on, and dumped cold despite the sacrifices and investment in the relationship. What was their undoing? Falling in love. If you can get all these for loving someone, what does that say about the person you love? Do you still think boys are the heartless manipulators?

It happens many times and we see that by the threads with stories and pleas by unfortunate boyfriends seeking the advice of nairalanders. Despite all these, you act like boys are the manipulators and girls are the victim? Are you serious? Mind you, I am not saying that there are no bad men in relationship.

It's not news anymore, except you want to pretend, that romantic relationship is called a scam for a reason. Do you know the gender of the usual victims of this scam? That's your assignment.

- Martinez39

Cc. CAPSLOCKED, astroG, healthserve, ubunja, lukui, JONNYSPUTE, emmaodet

Fountainofyouth:
We have pretty married ladies and not so pretty married ladies

We also have pretty unmarried ladies and not so pretty unmarried ladies.

You this male people, the earlier you all find a way to make money and marry, the better for you, we have so many unmarried men and women so don't be stupid.

FreeMejoor1:
Trust this hoes at your own peril..

Hamachi:
Getting what you want instead of what they think you want.


Life is all about standards. You will not be everybody's taste. That's a truth we all must accept.

The earlier we accept that not everybody will want us, and those who will want us won't need us, the better we will become at relationships. With ourselves, our lovers, friends and family.

There is nothing worse than a person who sees him or herself as indispensable and who grows entitled to everybody's time, efforts, money and emotions.

I have set my standards. No amount of insults will change that.

If you do not set your standards, nobody will set them for you. And as far as Nigeria goes, a woman's standards should be zero. Anything goes.

When it comes to dating, any man in Nigeria feels entitled to the love and devotion of any woman in Nigeria. It doesn't matter whether he is poor, uneducated, unattractive, unintelligent and/or of dubious character. A woman should take whatever she gets.

A poor woman who turns down the advances of a poor man is arrogant. Likewise a rich woman who turns down the advances of a poor man. Accepting to be with a poor man is the ultimate proof of humility. And humility is the most sought out virtue in a woman. Please.

A woman should be the standard that she seeks, but a woman can also aspire to a standard that she knows she can be and will be, with the right push. Do not choose a partner based on your present state, if you have concrete and realistic plans to improve that state in the next future. The importance of setting your standards cannot be undermined. It saves you time and it saves you stress that comes with disappointments and arguments.

Dele wants to come over to Chika's apartment, and he offers to bring a bottle of wine with him. Dele likez white wine. Chika likes red wine. Dele says "I'm coming with a bottle of white", and Chika does not mention that she doesn't like white, instead that she likes red. Dele arrives, opens the bottle of wine and serves Chika a glass. She's displeased, but still doesn't reveal that she doesn't like white wine. The conversation is stale, Chika is getting irritated and Dele starts getting a negative vibe. The visit ends and Dele never calls Chika again.

Imagine if Chika had just said "I don't like white wine. I like red wine."

In that moment she would have known if Dele is the kind of man who would:

- force her to drink white wine because that's what he likes;
- buy a bottle of red wine instead because that is what she likes; or
- buy an additional bottle of red wine so that they can each enjoy what they like.

Let me state it here "men's opinions are irrelevant to me". And I said it because I mean it.

I was introduced to this group by a friend, but I wasn't sure that I wanted to join. Because, like I also mentioned in that post, I'm not looking forward to dating right now. But eventually I did. .

I had to tell him "your opinion is irrelevant".

First of all, he was setting a standard for himself and was trying to force every woman out there to comply.

Secondly, he's entitled. He's the kind of man who believes that every woman out there need his approval to exist.

I don't need a man's approval, and certainly not his. I don't need people's approval. I have a group of selected friends whose approval matter to me. But before they came to occupy such an important position in my life, they proved to me that they possess values and ideals that align with mine and that are not detrimental to my person. They would never force me to do something that makes me miserable just because it makes them happy. And they would never try to stop me from doing something that would be extremely beneficial to me, just because it would make them sad.

I will dig in further into this sense of entitlement by Nigerian men in another post, but for now, let me just say this: "You don't get to set my standards for me just because you have a penis, or because you are rich".

Four years ago, I was seeing someone. He knew very well that I wasn't the kind of person who liked impromptu plans, especially the types that required me to make efforts in order to leave the house. Efforts like dressing up and making up. I need to plan my outfit days in advance. And doing my make up is a task. He knew this because I had told him. One evening, he showed up at my house tipsy and started demanding that I dressed up and went out with him. I said no. We had an argument and I asked him to leave. That's how we stopped seeing each other. He would later criticize my standards and principles and encourage me to bring them down a bit. Whatever. At least he never tried to force me to do anything that I didn't want to do again or show up tipsy in my house.

This is a simple example, just like the first example I made with the bottle of wine. But the point remains crucial.

If you state what you want, you are more likely to get it. If you do not state what you want, people will give you what they think you want, and it's going to be what they want.

If you are lucky, their desire will match your desire. But life is rarely about luck. So most of the time, you will get what you do not want, in the cheapest quality and in the harshest taste.

This is the third lesson from my introduction.

I wish you a lovely week

donaldtruman:
I have this pretty girlfriend I have been going out with and we ve been intimate.

She is a very nice person to be with as she has this sense of humor but from my observations, she is somehow in love of a flashy lifestyle.

But she has made two shocking suggestions to me which has kept me wondering if she is someone I shld keep in a serious relationship that I desire.

The suggestions she made are;

1)Three weeks ago,she suggested that if there is anything that I know we can do to make money or blow as she says,be it fraud, yahoo or money rituals,that she is willing to do it and if I can engage in any of it,she would give me her full support.

That she will even support human sacrifice as long as she is not the one that goes to get the human but can pay those that will do the job as long as it will make us rich.

2)Yesterday,she suggested that we should have 3some with one of her friends that she said I don't know,that I will enjoy it.

That,it is just for fun and nothing attached to it with her friend.That is is just for us to hire an hotel room,get high and for me to have sex with her friend and herself over a weekend.

She suggested that I shld start with her friend first,while she watches us and join us immediately.

She then said that her friend will get #50k for it and I will also give her same after I am done enjoying the fun of the 3some

I was shocked to hear her say these things and have been wondering if this specie of a girl can be a faithful girlfriend or wife in the long run.

I see these suggestions as highly indecent and awful.

I ve been avoiding her calls since last night as I still don't understand and know what to do.

Is she worth a dedicated relationship?

LilMissFavvy:
Birds of the same feathers flock together. If your lifestyle is different from her's then run for your life. Thinking you can change a lady that sees nothing wrong with money rituals is a big risk....... you can't change her, quit.

Pope22:
Am heart broken and its painful. A girl I have dated for good 3 years just walked away. I met her when she never enterd university. I stood by her, registered her in jupeb and got her a jamb form. She got admission and I have never left her side. I rent house for her, used to give her money before she asked, I made sure she never lacks. I got her gifts, phones, clothes, etc. I always take her out. She has the spare keys to my house and she can come anytime she wants. I never cheated on her. I took her siblings as mine and also do help some of her friends. She cheated on me many times in the past and i forgave have. I have been so nice and caring to her and I have been the best for her for good 3 years. Last month, she stared misbehaving. She started by refusing me access to her phone, said she doesn't want me to see things that will make feel bad even when they dont mean anything. She stopped having sex with me and said she needed break for sex. From there, she said she needed space and time to sort out personal things and from there, she broke up with me. I could not lay any hands on what I have done or where I have wronged her. I asked her many times to tell me what the problem is and she refused. When I persisted and disturbed many times, she opened up and told me that "Am the best she has ever had, that am the kindest and most generous guy she has ever known and that she will never find someone like me again.

She said that SHE NEVER LOVED" Am confused and in pain because it shocked me how could someone pretend to be in love for 3 years? Please, is it possible? I love her and its been hard for me to move on. How do I get over her? Please how do I fall in love with another girl with this kind of betrayal?

I need advice and help please. Anything that will make me get over her and out of this mess? 08070314305 for chats. Thanks

Martinez79:
When we spread our red pill messages, women, typically, and simps like the op will come down on us real hard calling us bitter, sexist, broke, frustrated, and misogynistic. Little did they know that we seek to liberate them with the hard truth.

Oracle55:
I and this girl has known for 2 years but just talk on phone and whatsap I visited her work place last year, she came to my house in lag on Thursday last week and till last night she didn't give me p**sy to f*ck, i hat to tell her to go back to delta state and I gave her 10k for transport she went back this morning please did I take the right decision? She is a pretty girl and I wanted to settle down with her, please I need a good woman to settle down with if I live in lagos and need a relationship that will lead to marriage please text on whatsap 08039175059 I am not getting any younger